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Welcome to the coaching clinic.
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Now, it's just me by myself today.
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Angie's gone and left me, but don't
worry, she will be back real soon.
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She just had to take a little break
from the show, but Angie will be
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returning for our next episode.
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I wanted to make sure that we
still connected with you this week
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and shared something important.
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So we're going to have a
really short episode today.
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Just going to talk very
quickly about state leadership.
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And if you're not sure what I
mean by that, then stay tuned.
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You won't want to miss it.
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Well, welcome to the show.
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It's so unusual for me to be
recording an episode of the
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coaching clinic without Angie.
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And we do have some great interviews that
we're lining up at the moment as well.
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So we're going to be changing
the format a little bit.
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Okay.
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To bring you some guests and
some different aspects and
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approaches in coaching as well,
beyond just myself and Angie.
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But this week, I thought I'd
take just a few minutes to
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talk about state leadership.
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Now we have on the show talked about state
management before, and these are related.
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State management is about
controlling your own emotional
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state or emotional regulation.
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If you like, might want to
put it in those terms for some
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people that will make more sense.
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And.
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Very often the state leadership is really
about deciding what states you need
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to be in and this may be more relevant
for you in group coaching and training
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Situations rather than one to one, but
I do think it still matters there as
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well In fact, I think it matters really
throughout the whole day one of the things
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I nearly always find is if I don't get
intentional about my Emotional state and
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how I'm feeling I tend to end up with
What I could call, resting, well, maybe
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we'll call it resting bothered face
rather than what I actually call it.
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But, just this look on my face where
I don't look particularly happy.
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I may not look sad, but I might, some
people think I even look angry and
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I'm not, I'm just not really anything.
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And that's usually because I haven't
really done any state management work.
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I'm just kind of letting myself
be me and go through my day.
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Whereas when I take control and
responsibility for that and how I'm
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showing up energetically and decide
how best I want to be now, how I would
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want to be showing up, how I want to be
experiencing my day that has a much bigger
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impact and influence on how I feel and
how I interact with other people as well.
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So I think this is something that.
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doesn't just come up for coaching
sessions, especially more like group work
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and live work, but also really in our
whole day to day life, that we can be far
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more intentional about our own emotional
states, our emotional regulation, and
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to make sure that we are looking after
that, that we're intentional about it,
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that we are not just going through our
lives In, in effect of what's going on
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around us, that we are deciding how we
want to be showing up, who we want to be
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today and each day to be achieving the
outcomes we want, because it's so much
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easier to get good stuff happening, to
have good reactions, good relationships,
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and good interactions and coaching calls
if we are in a good emotional place.
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Now, you would have heard Angie say
before on the show about how if you're
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really not there, if Stuff is going
on in your life and that's going to
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take you out of things and you just
can't pull things together for that.
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Then you are better to be honest about
that and cancel your coaching sessions,
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cancel your events, because it's You
don't, because you're just putting
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on an act and you're going to keep
finding yourself taken away by that.
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Like I want, I'm sure I mentioned this
in a show before about one time when I
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had, um, a notification that I should
never have even looked at when I was
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in the middle of a group coaching call
that my grandfather had died, um, I know
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it was not the best time for me to get
that news and it obviously distracted
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me for the rest of that call that was
all I was thinking about that we're
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gonna have to go to the funeral all the
stuff that starts coming up in in your
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head memories of my granddad and all
that not great when you're trying to
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be present with with an audience trying
to be present with your clients and
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so Yeah, that completely messed up my
own emotional regulation on that day.
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It's so easy to do.
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And if we're not aware of it, if we're not
being conscious and if we're not being,
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if we're not doing this with intention,
then we're leaving it all to chance.
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And so much of life is like that.
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What we don't do with
intention, we leave to chance.
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So I'm encouraging you to take
responsibility for your own state
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management and your state leadership.
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Because how we show up.
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The energy that we appear in in our lives
does have an impact and an influence
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on the people who we interact with and
engage with professional situations and
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even in non professional situations.
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So that's what I want
to leave you with today.
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We'll be back next week talking about
some interesting aspects of coaching
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and maybe how some people perhaps
accidentally end up getting into coaching.
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Coaching.
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You won't want to miss that.
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Angie will be back.
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We'll be in full flow and normal service
will resume at the coaching clinic.
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But for now this week, the doors to
the coaching clinic are closed and
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we'll hope to see you again very soon.
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Take care.
