In this solo episode, I explore a conversation that has been rising again and again in my work and my life: the remembering of the Sacred Feminine and the reclamation of the Divine Masculine — not as genders, but as energies that live within all of us.

I share why this feels like a pivotal moment, personally and collectively, as I deepen into my priestess path and continue weaving sexual healing, desire, and pleasure into spiritual remembrance. I talk about how patriarchy didn’t just distort the masculine — it violently erased the feminine, forcing all of us into hyper-masculine survival modes that were never meant to sustain us.

In this episode, I unpack:

1. What the Sacred Feminine and Divine Masculine actually are as energetic archetypes
2. How patriarchy fractured both, leading to domination, hyper-vigilance, burnout, and disconnection
3. Why reclaiming the Sacred Feminine is the first step toward true balance and healing
4. How pleasure, rest, intuition, and embodiment are foundational to feminine remembrance
5. What it would mean for the masculine to hold safety, integrity, and sacred containment rather than control

I reflect on how women have been forced to lead from trauma and over-functioning, and how healing the feminine allows us to soften, receive, and create from truth rather than survival. I also speak to the grief, anger, and rage many women carry — and why those emotions must be honored rather than bypassed as part of this reclamation.

This episode is also deeply connected to the current energetic moment. I speak about the new moon in Sagittarius, the winter solstice, and the womb-space of the dark — a zero point where death and rebirth meet. This is a time of reflection, rest, and conscious birthing, not pushing or proving.

I share my long-term vision for this work: beginning with healing the Sacred Feminine through sexuality, desire, and pleasure, and eventually moving toward Sacred Union work — where both partners are supported in embodying healed feminine and masculine energies together, free from patriarchal scripts.

I also talk about why community and sisterhood are essential in this process, and why healing the feminine must happen collectively, not in isolation. This is why my work continues to center women gathering together — witnessing, resourcing, and remembering side by side.

At the end of the episode, I share an update about the upcoming beta launch of my newly renamed course Sacred Desire (formerly Not Broken). This foundational container is a death-rebirth journey designed to help women shed shame, reconnect to their bodies, reclaim pleasure, and remember who they are beneath conditioning. I explain how joining the waitlist includes:

1. My Sacred Body Workbook
2. A free call with me to explore your personal barriers to desire
3. A gentle, no-pressure entry into the circle

This work feels essential to birthing a new world — one rooted in embodiment, pleasure, reverence, and truth. I believe this remembering is not optional anymore. It’s the foundation of what comes next.

I’ll see you in the new year, beloveds.

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Welcome, beloveds, to the Connected Pleasure Podcast. I am your host, Kayla Moore, certified sex therapist turned pleasure priestess and feminine liberation coach.

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Welcome back to the Connected Pleasure Podcast, my loves. I am Kayla, your host. I go by she, her, hers, pronouns, and today I am coming to you with a solo episode.

I had a interview all queued up with the amazing Cheryl Stelt who came back and talked to me all about receiving and somehow I think Mercury Retrograde played a fun trick on me and like half of the conversation was only me talking and did not record Cheryl's voice at all. So I don't know what happened there.

I hope to have her back on my podcast and try to rectify that situation because our conversation was great and I was so excited to bring it to you and unfortunately I can't. So I am going to talk a little bit today. I'm going to try to do a short episode today around the Sacred Feminine and the Sacred masculine.

As I had talked about previously in a lot of my episodes, are energies. So we are all created with both a sperm and an egg. And we all have the divine masculine and divine feminine energies within us.

So we can view these energies as archetypes that we can lean more into one way or the other. Absolutely. As in like the binary of men and women.

I think we as womb owners lean more towards a feminine energy, maybe like a little bit more than, than our counterparts do. But again, we all have it within us.

And the erasure of the sacred feminine through the rise of patriarchy has made all of us lean more towards the masculine than I think any of us want to. Regardless of what gender you are.

We all have gone way too far into the masculine where it has become distorted and become extremely harm, harmful and oppressive.

And with the restoration and reclamation and remembering of the divine feminine, we are starting to rebalance those energies and bring them back into their purest form that they were supposed to be.

Once the divine feminine really comes in to focus and into her own and is integrated into our culture, the masculine gets to kind of heal a little bit.

It kind of pulls back and is not in this distorted space anymore where again it is, I am taking power over something, somebody, in order to make myself feel good and whole because I don't feel connected to myself, connected to the divine anymore. So to talk a little bit more about these archetypes, the feminine archetype again is, I think of the feminine archetype.

The divine feminine as wild as. It's just like all this energy potential that is wanting to be free. It's wanting to run in the woods.

That's kind of my fantasies, running free in the woods, barefoot, just wanting to like twirl and swirl and live out her fall. Just potential energy everywhere she possibly can.

And it really comes to a place of like intuition, of leading from intuition, of leading from softness, of leading from our hearts. It is not linear. Again, if we go back to like the cycles of the earth, it is cyclical, it is communal based.

It is again like a circle, like people coming together side by side and making decisions together as a community. Instead of a top down structure. The feminine really is part of the creative space. That is where creation comes from.

Of course, you know, wombs are the place of creation, of where we all stem from. And it is just like wild and free and full of love and mystery and magic and all the like sacred wisdom that we have lost.

Now the divine masculine is still part of that ancient wisdom. We have also lost the divine masculine as well. And how I am learning more about the Divine masculine is something that actually really feels like.

Like you can take, like a full, full body exhale when you think about this.

So I encourage you to close your eyes and I want you to think again about that feminine energy, that free flow, that water space that just, like, can't control the energy, but it's flowy and full of potential. The only way that it is able to be focused and create meaning and shape is through the divine masculine.

So the divine masculine comes in and creates a sacred container for that energy. Now, I know that using the word container can feel harsh.

It can feel like, again, the way that we know patriarchy or what it means to be a man feels oppressive and feels like a container is confining and constraining. And that is not what it is. It's the sacred container where it holds safety. Can you imagine if the sacred masculine was about holding safety?

We have not experienced the sacred masculine as holding safety, or we have not experienced the sacred masculine at all. We have not experienced masculinity around holding safety. And this comes from a deep knowing of who you are.

So I'm gonna lean it more into, like, men as a gender, but holding that sacred masculine. Divine masculine frequency. If women that are.

Again, if you are leaning more into the sacred feminine or divine feminine frequency, what would it feel like for your partner? Again, if you have a male partner or even if you don't even depending, it doesn't really matter what gender you are.

But if your partner was leaning into their divine masculine energy and they just held safety for you, held a space where it was like, I know fully who I am. I am fully in my integrity. And therefore I don't need to impose my needs and desires onto you. I don't need to, like, try to control you.

I don't need to take power over you. I am here to hold the safety so that the feminine can be the feminine.

The feminine no longer has to be hypervigilant, no longer has to be looking all over for anything that could be unsafe. That is what the feminine has become because we have gone more into the masculine side and it has been corrupted.

That life for women in general is very unsafe. And so we have to lead from our masculine side. And the feminine is either not there or is very hyper vigilant and is in a state of trauma.

So if the masculine is holding the container of safety, then the feminine gets to be free. The feminine gets to fly. The feminine gets to do all the creativity and be the full embodiment of who she wants to be.

But can then harness that energy and bring it into focus and make it into something that is tangible in our 3D world. That is also the masculine. Masculine is a little bit more logical. The masculine is about direction.

And again, like bringing that creation into something that is tangible and that we can, like, hold and touch and do something with. So I love the idea of the masculine holding the safety, the masculine being the space, the container. It's kind of like the empty space.

It's making sure that everyone in that space knows that, like, they are there to hold, hold the container, to be the space holder, to be the sacred space holder and to have it come from pure love and pure. I know who I am. I can be here in my full integrity and my full sovereignty in order to hold that space. It's just beautiful.

Like, it gives me chills every time. Because I know, you know, I know, I know the women that I am speaking to.

I know that, you know, what a radical shift that would be in how we perceive the masculine. And again, that's also within us too. It's not just our partners that need to heal that.

It's also within us that we stop overdoing, that we stop people pleasing, that we stop just doing way more than we need to.

And again, being hyper vigilant and always feeling unsafe, that if we were able to heal the masculine, then we still get to lead from a feminine space, but then use the masculine to then again bring it into a creative or a concrete vision and funnel it and channel it into something that we can then bring into the world. A lot of us are still in hyper masculine spaces where then we have to feel like we need to match that.

You know, so many women in the workplace, through the waves of feminism that we have had, felt like they had to just work like men in order to play in that space. And I do think that those were the stepping stones that we had to take to get to this point.

I'm not saying that that was a wrong step to do because I think that was the first step that we had to take. But now, in this moment, in this today is our new moon in Sagittarius.

It is also the closest that Three Eye Atlas is to our Earth in its journey in our solar system. It is a big deal today.

And then on the 21st on Sunday, in a couple days, it will be the winter solstice in the northern hemisphere, the summer solstice in the southern hemisphere. It is a zero point. It is the real actual new year in the Earth cycle in the Celestial cycles as well. And this is our moment.

This is our moment to say, no more. No more are we leading from a space of trauma.

No more are we leading from a space of patriarchy where only the people at the top are the ones that are being served and everyone else is suffering.

No more are men and women only going to be leading from a place of toxic masculinity, because we all need to be able to remember and reclaim the feminine.

And I do think that reclaiming the feminine is the first step because she has been underground and literally, like, brutally ripped from the fabric of our community and of our consciousness.

When patriarchy was founded, she literally was ripped away from us and brutally taken away by killing millions of millions of women and trying to destroy any trace of what it means to be in the sacred feminine, to cultivate the sacred feminine in our lives. But she has been resurfacing. She has been resurfacing. And so many more people are remembering. And I have been on that journey of remembering.

And that is what my work is about now, is remembering the sacred feminine through healing around sexuality and around our desire and our pleasure. Because that is inherently part of this. It is inherently part of the feminine to be in pleasure.

Pleasure takes place in rest, and so does the feminine.

The feminine is about rest, is about slowness, is about again, leading from softness, leading from a place of receiving instead of always outwardly doing. It's leading from a place of intuition, of knowing, and not always looking for validation in others outside of ourselves.

It's about truly understanding and knowing who we are and knowing that we have a connection to the divine. We don't need any outside entity to help us develop our relationship to Source and to the divine, whatever that means for you.

We have direct access to that in ourselves because we are inherently divine, just as human beings. We came from magic. We came from a womb that is magic.

As a mother, myself, creating a human being in your body and birthing a human being into this world is just the most insane, crazy process. And we are in this darkness. We are in the womb space again in the northern hemisphere.

We are at the culmination of the darkest part of the year, and that is the womb space. That is the void in which we really go inward. We really take rest and tune into what are we going to do next. It doesn't have to be about doing more.

It's just really tuning into, especially at this time of the year, like reflection on how the year was for you. What are we grateful for? What wins did we have and then really tuning into what do I want to birth through this portal.

This is just as much a death as a rebirth. They both kind of come hand in hand that there is this zero point of death on one side and rebirth on the other.

Just as a mother gives birth, there's a death to her maidenhood and her life before being a mother. But there's also this rebirth into being a mother and getting to be on this whole new journey with a new human.

So there's really potent energy here, and I just really wanted to make it known about the divine feminine and the divine masculine. I will share with you a vision of mine just to, like, put it out there. I'm really thinking maybe we'll see.

We'll see where this goes because it's a little ways off and we'll see where. Where the universe takes me.

But this is my vision as of right now that eventually I really want to get to a place where I'm healing through my course Sacred Desire. I'm giving a sacred space for women to heal and reclaim themselves and the divine feminine through the healing around desire and pleasure.

And then either I will develop this one day, or I would partner with somebody who is very skilled in healing the masculine in men and giving them a sacred container where they could work on that for themselves. And then I have this big vision of having a big retreat, hopefully on my land one day, where we could bring that work together.

So either having separate containers and then coming together and doing a full couple container in the retreat or the retreat having some space for women to do their own work, for men to do their own work, and then coming together and really doing sacred union work.

I have done so much work with couples, and right now, as a pleasure coach, as a priestess coming online, I am wanting to just focus on women and healing the divine feminine in women so that they then have the ability to heal the divine masculine. But eventually I want to get to a place where I can really add that couple work in.

And I do have the availability to work with me as a couple once you go through one of these containers.

But I. I really want to start to create a bigger space, like a retreat to do sacred union work and really feel in your body what it looks like or what it feels like. I should say to embody the sacred or the divine feminine and the divine masculine in each partner and play around with both.

That both people could play around with that archetype and those energies and see what it feels like trying on one or the other without all the baggage and all the stuff that patriarchy has brought to us that we have to unlearn. So that's kind of my future goal.

But I think starting with these containers for healing the sacred feminine is so important, because just like I said, without the sacred feminine, we have been in toxic masculinity for a long time. And I think we're all ready to be done with that. Some people are not, but most of us are.

And I really see, because the current, like, archetype of the masculine has been so harmful for women, myself included, I think it really takes, like, bringing yourself into this powerful space and being able to, like, resource very deeply within yourself and within community. That's why this course is going to be a cohort course.

And even as I hope to grow this course, I want to still keep it as a way for women to still be with each other in community, because I think that is so important, to feel like we have sisterhood, to feel like we have each other to really lean on through this healing process. I really do think that this is the foundation of healing the sacred feminine first, because it has been gone in all of us for so long.

And then being able to work on seeing the masculine as something that is other than what we have known it to be for so long. So many women, again rightfully so, in this work, are very angry, and again, rightfully so. I get it. I have been there. I still have moments like that.

It's really hard to uncouple the masculinity that we have known with the divine masculine. And so I think there needs to be space to hold those feelings, too. We don't need to just bypass them.

There needs to be space to hold those feelings and to feel the anger, to feel the grief, to feel the trauma that we have gone through, and to feel the grief of the ripping away of the divine feminine and then bringing that into coherence with the healing of the divine feminine.

And I think once we really are in a place of healed selves in terms of the divine feminine and feeling like we are whole on that side, then I think that is the only way we can get to seeing the divine masculine as something other than the toxic masculinity that we have had and being able to embrace that and find a way to not only feel it in our bodies, but also to accept it and receive it from our partners and not trying to turn our partners into something that they are not either. So I think that's kind of where I'm headed on the opposite side too.

I do think that men, again, I'm talking binaries, but all the genders definitely can benefit from all of this.

That those that are typically in the more masculine energy, I think they also need to heal the divine feminine first in order to be able to accept what divine masculinity is.

That I think we also need to, like, learn about the divine feminine, understand what that is as a man, understand that it was actually taken away from us, that patriarchy is not just the only thing that humans have ever experienced on this earth. We actually have experienced matriarchy, matrilineal ways of living for way, way longer, like 200 plus thousand years.

And we've only been in patriarchy for about 10,000 years.

So we had this system of living way before patriarchy came online and it was again, brutally taken away from us because they, they being Constantine, the powers that be, the Roman Empire, the people that were like trying to take over the world at that time, felt like this was the way that they were going to be able to control people, to get them to submit and to do the things that they wanted them to do, was to take away the divine feminine because they knew it was too powerful. And it was a way to feel whole and connected to everything.

And they needed people to feel broken and not connected to each other so that they were easier to control.

So men have to be able to feel that and understand that and understand the wounding that has happened, the hurt that has happened in this world, and feel that, but without the gravity of it necessarily being their fault. It needs to be a responsibility. It needs to be something that they take ownership of in terms of changing it and moving towards something new.

But it doesn't need to be something that they personally have to be feeling like guilty and shameful of because it's not necessarily their fault, but they have taken part in it. Just like we have all taken part in racism and, you know, being in harmful systems. We weren't the ones that created it, but we also take part in it.

And so we have to own the places that, or own the role that we play and know that it is our responsibility to move it forward and to change it.

And so I think men really have to understand that first and understand what it means to be in the divine feminine first and to like, reclaim that within themselves in order to then again also see the divine masculine as something that they can fully hold within themselves.

I don't think that men can fully feel like they are attached to their core and fully integrated and know who they are without really integrating that Divine Feminine and then learning about the Divine Masculine and being able to, like, integrate the two. So I don't fully have that all fleshed out. And that's why I feel like I may need someone along the way to, like, help me integrate all of that.

But I know that that's. I know collectively that's where we're going, and I know that. I think that that is my path of what I'm supposed to help heal in this world.

It could change, totally change.

I also have lots of other things that I want to do in my work, especially as a priestess and, like, honoring transitions and big moments in life and being, like, a spiritual center of the community. But I think my big overarching goal with my work with people and couples is this work. So we'll see how it goes.

But I do think this is a conversation that has been coming up again and again and again the last few weeks. And I really think that this is. This is the crux. This is the basis for what we need in order to birth a new world.

I think this is part of the new human that is coming online, is finally again remembering this, the Divine Feminine, and trying to integrate it with the Divine Masculine, remembering what the Divine Masculine is, too, and trying to integrate the two again in all of us. And so I just. I really feel like this is. This is the time, and this is where we're going.

Before you go, beloveds, I wanted to share a few things with you. First, I wanted to mention that I will be taking a break for the holiday season.

I'm taking the next two weeks off, so please feel free to enjoy all the rest of my episodes that I have in my catalog. There are a lot of them. There have been various iterations of this podcast, but all the content there is still relatable and in line with what I do.

So if you haven't listened to all my episodes, I encourage you to go back and listen to the ones that are calling to you. Lastly, I do want to let you know that I am launching the beta version of my course, Sacred Desire. It used to be called Not Broken.

I renamed it, I revamped it. It has new energy. It is in the frequency that I want it to be in.

When it comes to stepping into our power, when it comes to receiving pleasure and opening ourselves up to to that space for ourselves, you're going to be held in this womb space and given so many different experiences and tools to reclaim your desire.

And then collectively as a group with these other women that are coming alongside each other to support each other and grow together, you are going to rise together out of the underworld and into a new rebirth and life for yourself where you feel more fully integrated, where you feel like you have more embodiment in yourself, where you feel like desire is something that you can actually access again and pleasure is something that is for you and that you have the knowledge and understanding of how do I cultivate this in my life and the love around what pleasure can bring to us in our lives.

So this is a very foundational course that I believe is so integral to healing the feminine, the divine feminine within us and eventually is a very important stepping stone to also healing the divine masculine. I really think that this is foundational and if you are interested, please go down in the show notes and click the link to join the wait list.

With joining the wait list you will get my Sacred Body Workbook, which is a workbook all about deconstructing body image and helping you to embrace pleasure. Body image and feeling disconnected and unsafe in our bodies is one of the main barriers that women typically have to pleasure and desire.

So this is a great first step in your journey.

Before the course even starts, you will also get a free call with me to talk a little bit more about your specific situation, what your specific barriers to desire are, and how we can really tailor make this course to fit your needs and for you to get the most out of it. So joining the wait list is a soft commitment.

It's just really telling me that you are very interested and are seeking some of these resources and you will not actually be committed until after we have our free call. And I will invite you to put a deposit down at the end if that's what you want to do, to join the circle.

So I really encourage you to join the wait list. You will also be able to opt into my newsletter community that you will learn all about at the official end of this podcast.

It's a beautiful way to stay in my orbit and to get the little bits of knowledge that I am accruing as I go.

I really do put a lot of thought and energy into these newsletters each time that I write them and they're always current to what I'm thinking about and feeling in that energy portal, so it's a great thing to sign up for. So again, if you are interested in joining the wait list for Sacred Desire, please go down in the show notes and click the link and sign in.

If you're on your phone, you're gonna have to scroll all the way down to the bottom, but I promise you all the content on there is important and really gonna help you learn more about the course. So read through it if you have time. But if you're on your phone, scroll all the way down and the waitlist entry will be at the bottom.

I hope all of you have a wonderful holiday season and I will be in your feet again in the new year. Take care everyone. Thank you for joining me for this episode of the Connected Pleasure Podcast.

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