In this episode, we tackle the ever-present mom guilt that affects our decision-making as mothers. Many of us struggle with this guilt, rooted in a lack of confidence and fear of judgment. But fear not, because I'm here to help you break free from it!

I'll introduce you to my four-part framework: reason, intention, alternative, and affirmation, which will empower you to make decisions confidently and overcome that nagging guilt. We'll also delve into setting goals and making intentional choices – understanding that joining programs, be it for physical or mental health, is a way to support ourselves for future success. I'll emphasize how the alternative can lead to different health outcomes down the road.

Lastly, we'll harness the power of affirmations to reframe decisions and silence guilt and doubt. If you're ready to shed the burden of mom guilt and embark on a journey of confident decision-making, join me!

What you'll hear in this episode:

[0:00] Mom guilt and its impact on decision-making.

[1:10] Overcoming mom guilt through decision-making confidence.

[3:40] Setting goals and making decisions with intention.

[5:50] Making confident decisions with affirmations.

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I believe that mom guilt is a lack of confidence in your decisions and a fear of judgment from others. Every mom guilt situation I've seen thus far with our community, friends myself, it comes back to a lack of confidence in your decision and having a fear of judgment from an outside party. So know that work, you die, enable to come back to what you're welcome to mama has goals, your weekly reminder that you shouldn't have to sacrifice your dreams to take on the role of mom. I'm Kelsey Smith, mom of two boys, wife, an entrepreneur who's passionate about helping other moms current and aspiring to reimagine mom life. I'm bringing you the resources, support and relatability to debunk that limiting belief that you may have about your ability to achieve your goals while raising a human. We're covering everything from mom guilt, marriage, relationships, careers, finances, mental health, physical health, you name it, your life doesn't have to fully shift once you become a mom, you can have it all. And we'll show you how.

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Mom guilt is one of the top conversations a moron ambitious moms or moms going after their goal. They are looking to justify or understand are they making the right choices? Are we doing the right thing? Should I feel guilty for going after my goals. And there's a couple of different methods that I run this through for myself in our community, so that you can feel confident in your decisions. And overall, I believe that mom guilt is a lack of confidence in your decisions and a fear of judgment from others. Every mom guilt situation I've seen thus far with our community friends, myself, it comes back to a lack of confidence in your decision, and having a fear of judgment from an outside party. So know that work through that and be able to come back to what feels right for you. And one of the ways that I'm going to give you today is what I call from guilt to glow. And the first thing I want you to think about is, is there anything currently in your life that you're holding monkeying around? Is it a decision that you've made is a decision that you're thinking about making is it just a general feeling of feeling guilty about who you are, who you want to be or what's coming. And once you have that specific thing, you can run it through this lens a little bit easier. But I want you to just know this four part framework of really breaking through that mom guilt and what I say is going into glow, but it's about having confidence in your decision. So anytime you're feeling guilt around something when it comes to mom guilt, and honestly, this applies to any skill if you're feeling guilt around, not showing up or another friend or family member work for your job or your business and what you should be prioritizing over what this is the same framework that you can follow for any of that. But it didn't resonate with our community at the beginning for mom guilt. And now it's expanded to so much more. And the first is really understanding your reason. So what is the reasoning behind the decision making? Whatever it is that you're working through? What's the reason? Why are you going to not event? Why are you going to mom's night out? Why are you making that investment? Why are you doing that time for just you? Why are you making the decision you're making? What is the reason behind what you're doing?

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Let's say it's taking time to join a program as a man or stepping into a new goal. It's whether it's a workout program, a self development program, something that you're taking time away from your family for yourself, he will the reason behind it is whatever your expectation is of what you're going to receive, right? So if it's a workout program, the reason is you want to care for your health. You need to care for yourself physically and mentally and that time away. So in order to do that, if it's a self development or a business strategy, program or mindset, the reason is what you're gaining from that program, that when you're stepping away, and you're making the choice to be in that program. Here's what you're gaining. Here's why you want to do it. Here's the reason you're saying Yeah. And then what is your intention behind it? Are you making this decision? Because you think it's the best solution for you and your family? Why are you making that decision? Why are you stepping into that decision? Why is it the best solution for you and your family? And what is the alternative? What is the opposite? If you don't do that? What if you did the opposite what happened? Okay, so let's take goes to buy, what is the intention that you're making of the decision? What is your intention behind that decision? So again, going back to the workout example, if your reasoning behind the decision is that you want to focus on your mental and physical health, your intention is that you're using this time to support yourself mentally and physically and that you come back as a better mom. Plus, you're setting yourself up for future success with your mental and physical health. And what is the alternative, the alternative is that if you don't work out, if you don't go to the gym, you're not going to fuel the same way, you're not gonna feel the same way. Now, you're not gonna feel the same way down the road, you're not gonna be caring for your body, mentally and physically the same way. You may have other health results because of it.

5:47

So now you've walked through the reason, the intention, and the alternative. And the last step is an affirmation because at this point, you know, you made a good decision, you know, your intention was in the right place, you know that you made the right choice because the alternative is not a good fit. And then the affirmation is speaking support into yourself. Here's an example of one that you can use. I am in charge of my life, I am making the best decision for myself and my family. I know what is right and I am confident in my choices.

6:19

You are the only one that knows what the right decision for you and your family in your current situation is there is no one else not even your partner, your kid anyone else no one else is fully in your body but you to know what the right decision. So as you think about a time that you're feeling guilty, or judge or you're not sure if you're making the right decision, you can run it through this lens. What is the reason behind this decision? Am I making this decision because they think it's the best solution for my family and I what is my intention? What is the alternative? If I did the opposite, where I did something different than what happened. And once you have understood your reason, your intention and your alternative, come back to the affirmation. Speak support into yourself confident knowing that you are in charge and you are making the best decisions that you are able to at the time that you are making this decision for you and your family. Mala you are in control, you can do the right thing. Go from guilt to glow work through this framework and be confident in the choices that you're making. You only know what you know now and what you know now is just enough. You don't need to know any more. Be confident in yourself. I'm sending you so much love and I'll see you next week. Mom in

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