Talking about your sexual needs can help bring you and your partner closer together and promote sexual fulfilment says sex positivity advocate Chérie Adendorff. She joins this episode of the Health For Mzansi podcast to help us understand desire, and why effective communication is best in bed.

The birds and the bees get it on, and men do it at any time. But for women to have sex, there needs to be scented candles and, of course, your lover needs to do the dishes first, right?

Wrong, says Adendorff. A woman’s sex drive and desire is just as normal as that of a man. No matter how “shameful” in some people’s eyes, a woman is allowed to explore her sexual desire without the judgement