00:00:17Welcome to the third pedal, podcast recorded at the Vandal Lounge. In beautiful Southeast Portland, Oregon, why the third pedal? Because even the most badass entrepreneurs, get stuck up and Business Management. Consultant, Jennifer McFarland is your third paddle, helping you get unstuck.

00:01:19Get what's yours? I'm not here to disagree with that. But I am here to tell you that there's a time and a place for surrender for grace for granting yourself. The kindness to rest, to be present to surrender your mind and body to the universe and ask what's next.

00:02:39Surrendering is what allows us to receive Grace and gratitude, and I'm not here to tell you. I've always been open to that. I remember times when I've held onto things. So, tight weather was a job. I just like your boyfriend, except around for too long. This resistance to change, kept me from receiving something better. It kept me from seeing the realities of my situation. This episode is all about gratitude. But how many times we find ourselves pushing away gratitude pushing away the good because we consider surrendering a weakness.

00:03:49Let's just start with a basic. What is gratitude is the quality of being thankful.

00:04:54When we reflect in the morning on what we appreciate all of the crap that tends to weigh us down, becomes a little later. I'm grateful to wake up next to the sweetest. Most caring, man I've ever met each and every day. Take a minute. What do you appreciate? Did you smile? When you thought about what you preciate, I bet you did. You see your gratitude, improve your attitude towards yourself and others. Gratitude is not a deeply to abundance. If you're thankful for what has happened in the past. You're more likely to think the future will be good and then you'll begin to see more opportunities Henry. Ford once said, whether you believe you can or whether you believe you can't, you're right.

00:06:31I recommend doing this in the morning because thinking about positive things. First thing, tends to set the tone for the rest of the day. Oh and each day needs to be something different. You can't just say you're grateful for the same three things every day. This is an accumulative process each day. Builds on the last overtime. You'll begin to see not only the big things like having a roof over your head, but you'll also begin to appreciate the small things like Dew on the grass, or the faint hint of purple as the leaves change. Each Autumn another strategies that you can employ is creating a gratitude jar. So what do you need for gratitude jar? Well in an empty jar box, ribbon paper for notes, creativity, and gratitude.

00:08:20Find a Facebook. You could do something similar in your company's intranet or with your friends via slack. The truth is gratitude, is everywhere. If you know where to look for it. All you need to do is set up some sort of system that will help you focus on what you appreciate. See it all starts with you before, you can even think about incorporating, listen to your leadership. You need to start by focusing on yourself and developing some self-awareness around how much gratitude you share, how much grace you have for yourself and others?

00:09:09The first two segments for, really a printer for how you can apply gratitude and surrender to your own life mostly so that you can set the stage for, how do you coorporate that into your leadership style? When you interact with others in the office in your life, or even as a business owner, you see, expressing gratitude can be a game-changer at the office and in your life in general showing gratitude with a simple. Thank you, is something most people learn as children, but now that you're an adult, how often do you take the time to really show gratitude to your significant other to your friends? What about professional contacts and colleagues? There's a growing body of research to indicate that gratitude is more than a positive emotion, and improve your health and possibly the health of others. Some leaders choose to treat others as appliances or plug-and-play widgets easily replaced at the drop of a hat.

00:10:28People leave organizations. Sometimes at the worst possible time gratitude is the antithesis of the appliance mindset gratitude gets you out of your own head. So you can see all the good surrounding you. Not only that but research shows that it can result in a pay-it-forward attitude as Mark Goldston. Rights study. After study has shown that no one is immune from the motivating effects of acknowledgement. And thanks, in fact, research by Adam Grant. And Francesca. Gino has shown that saying, thank you. Not only results in a reciprocal generosity where the same person is more likely to help the Thinker that stimulates prosocial behavior in general. And other words saying, thanks increases the likelihood. Your employee will not only help you but help somebody else. In other words, gratitude makes us all better how we treat, people matters and trust me. I've had my own transformer.

00:12:25If you want to attract people like a moth to a light show, gratitude for others, people love being around someone with a positive vision for life's possibilities.

00:13:29If you're looking for a way to view, failure, from A New Perspective, I recommend that you watched on YouTube, the the clip from Jocko willink called good. You see, choco doesn't mention gratitude. But what he's talking about is when life hands you a disappointment. It's also handing you an opportunity when you can see the good and be grateful for something even on your worst day. Then you've already opened a new door. Want to stay bog down. Focus on the failure. Rehash, it fire people. Burn Bridges. Blame everyone around. You. Just remember those four fingers pointed back at you when you play the blame game as a leader, the buck stops with you. If you and your organization want to move on from failure, focus on the opportunities that grew out of the experience focus on what went right and how to readjust your thinking and approach. Thank people for working hard. Even though the outcome wasn't what you

00:14:57Let's face it, if you have a better electricity water and internet connection.

00:15:18Blaming wallowing laying in bed all day rehashing. The past. These actions are the opposite of resilience leaders. Look for the nuggets of wisdom and move forward. Being a Sad Sack about the pass isn't very resilient and five gratitude increases trust showing gratitude in good times and bad increases trust. Have you ever worked for volatile L. How much is a great until things? Don't go his or her way. If you want to build trust and reap the Pay It Forward benefits discussed earlier show gratitude As Leaders. We need to avoid the zero-sum game and black and white thinking the world isn't all or nothing. We live in a maddening subtlety of Grey by showing others appreciation and support by helping them. See what's great. You're encouraging, others to be hopeful and more successful, when you show consistent appreciation for the people around you, you are more likely to have people stand behind you when you have to make