In this episode, Ian clarifies that addiction day typically occurs on a Friday and that he spends his weekdays working and his weekends drinking, gambling, or doing anything else to forget that he dislikes his work. The hype makes you feel alive, as if you want to do it again and look forward to doing it in the coming week.
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Ian discusses how addiction is caused by a variety of factors. These include a chemical imbalance in your brain and a variety of other factors you may not have considered.
The ways that truly provide you with additional energy and the will to achieve more.
Ian talks about patterns that have entered your life. You had no choice but to respond in the manner you did because you lacked the ability to do otherwise.
Ian emphasises being capable of attracting more of what you desire and beginning to live life on your terms.
About the Host:
Ian Hawkins is the Founder and Host of The Grief Code. Dealing with grief firsthand with the passing of his father back in 2005 planted the seed in Ian to discover what personal freedom and legacy truly are. This experience was the start of his journey to healing the unresolved and unknown grief that was negatively impacting every area of his life. Leaning into his own intuition led him to leave corporate and follow his purpose of creating connections for himself and others.
The Grief Code is a divinely guided process that enables every living person to uncover their unresolved and unknown grief and dramatically change their lives and the lives of those they love. Thousands of people have now moved from loss to light following this exact process.
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If you are truly ready to heal your unresolved or unknown grief, let's chat. Email me at info@ianhawkinscoaching.com.
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Transcripts
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Are you ready, ready to release internal pain to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfilment and contribution to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it, and what to do next. Before we start by one request, if any new insights or awareness land with you during this episode, please send me an email at info at the and Hawkins coaching.com. And let me know what you found. I know the power of this work, I love to hear the impact these conversations have. Okay, let's get into it.
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And for me is yeah, like so unhappy in so many other areas of my life, I didn't have places to find joy, I didn't really know what I wanted to be when I grew up. Unfortunately, that lasted for well into my adult years. Remember, having a BEAT WIN on one time on one of those machines, and then gambling the whole thing down to zero. And that's even worse than just losing straight out, because then you actually did win, but then you gave it all back. Again, embarrassment, and shame and then telling people and particularly my girlfriend, or whoever else, where, you know, maybe I was saying like, the different times I didn't have money, and yet I was just wasting money, wasting so much money. Now, some of you may be identifying this specifically others of you may be identify with the rash or the different addiction. And I ask you just to take a moment to pause and and ask yourself, what what is it covering up for? What does he really want? Now, you might not be able to answer these questions at this point. But the very act of asking the questions on as your subconscious mind to start trying to find answers. And we have to take that moment to pause. And when we do, you'll find that those rushes are available in ways that don't leave you feeling guilty, shameful, regretful and embarrassed. But ways that are actually fuel you onto more to give you more energy and a desire to do more. And desire to feel better in a way that perpetuates into more good feeling space, it doesn't mean you always feel good, you still go through the whole range of emotions, but you're able to use that emotional intelligence to stay balanced. Now, one of the things that I want to share about addiction is something you may not recognise, there's a whole lot of different things around what might, what might it be, it might be a chemical imbalance in your brain, all these different things. But ultimately, it all comes down to grief. Moments from our life, going back to de dot, the moment we were conceived, that then play out these patterns that have a searching for having our needs met in all the wrong places. And some of you may not even know what your highest needs are. What are most natural to you.
So my request from you today is that if you are done with this, you're sick of having those feelings, you're sick of waking up with those regrets.
It's time to take stock, do a personal inventory of your life and look where your things need to change. And the fastest way to change to build new habits and get heading in the right direction is to find support. And when you are clear on what you want to change and where you want to head, even if that clarity is only at a minor level, then you'll be able to find the right sort of support, you'll be able to find the right sort of support for you. And it's so I can't emphasise this enough. This is not about necessarily taking a recommendation from someone who says oh, this worked for me. Listen to the recommendation. But then think about it and go does that seem like that's a good fit for me. And if it is great, and if it's not have the courage to say I'm going to look at something else because it just doesn't feel right for me. Doesn't seem to look right, whatever it is. And then you can start shifting away from those different feelings that you know, just a loop. Go chasing, chasing, chasing to try and find something that you just never find in the place that you've been working. And be kind to yourself through this. Because these patterns that have come into your life. were formed at a young age from different moments, different things you heard, witnessed, experienced before the age of five, that couldn't possibly have been your fault because you didn't have the capacity to deal with it any other way than you did at that age.
You're ready for that support and know that you will be able to change your life and you will be able to bring in more of what you want and start living life on your terms.
I hope you enjoyed this episode of The Grief Code podcast. Thank you so much for listening. Please share it with a friend or a family member that you know would benefit from hearing it too. If you are truly ready to heal your unresolved or unknown grief, let's chat. Email me at info at Ian Hawkins coaching.com You can also stay connected with me by joining the Grief Code community at Ian Hawkins coaching.com forward slash The Grief Code and remember, so that I can help even more people to heal. Please subscribe and leave a review on your favourite podcast platform
