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Hello listeners.
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Welcome back to The Science of Self.
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Thanks for joining us today.
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I'm happy to introduce to you
our guest, Debbie Dobbins,
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author of Your Inner Billionaire.
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Debbie Dobbins: I'm calling
myself the barefoot thought leader
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because I love being barefoot.
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Like I've spent a lot of time in Dale,
Carmen, Mexico, on the Caribbean.
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Which is where I wrote my
book, your Inner Billionaire.
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And I've had people say to me
quite often that actually I don't
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really wanna be a billionaire.
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And I realize that I don't wanna
be a billionaire either in my bank
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account, but I wanna be a billionaire
inside so that I enjoy life from the
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same perspective that billionaires
do, which is the sense of freedom.
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So my primary, clients are women,
and I help women awaken their inner
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billionaire because it isn't a journey
of finding and discovering yourself.
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It's about revealing yourself.
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So my mission in life, is to have everyone
reveal their inner billionaire, it's
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just about uncovering who you truly are.
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Russell Newton: A real billionaire,
if we're talking in terms of dollars,
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obviously has none of those worries that
the rest of us have about day-to-day
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paying bills and keeping food on
the table or paying for the house
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keeping the roof fixed and so forth.
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the inner billionaire.
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If the roof is leaking, what do they do?
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Debbie Dobbins: Well, first of all,
I approached this from a holistic,
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place because when I wrote the
book, I was telling my story.
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I wrote this as a love letter to myself,
that I've been an abundance teacher for
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probably 30 years, and I did approach
it of how to make money and how to have
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a mindset, which is really fantastic.
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We need all of that.
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And yet, I was diagnosed with cancer
about six years ago, and what I
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found was I didn't have medical
insurance, even though that seems to
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be a popular thing to get these days.
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I didn't have it and I ended up being.
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Flat broke, so it was flat
on my back and flat broke.
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And I often say in this book, it's
about those moments when you have these
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critical problems show up in your life.
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Literally, I was on food stamps,
I know what that feeling is like.
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It's not as if I really understand
being an inner billionaire from the
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perspective that I've had all these
opportunities in my life, I actually
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have been where that person would be
without the ability to pay for the roof.
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And the fact is, is that you can focus
on the poverty of not being able to fix
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the roof, because the more you focus
on that, the more the roof won't be
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fixed, or you can begin to adopt some
of the principles I share in the book.
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Which begins with gratitude, which I
have two chapters on gratitude, because
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gratitude is the gateway to everything.
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I can't say that enough.
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So even if the roof is falling down and
you don't have the money, the first thing
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you have to do, and this is probably
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gonna, everybody's gonna go,
oh, that's impossible, is
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You have to be grateful.
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This is the situation that I'm in.
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What do I do next?
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here's the thing is that
we can always build a story
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however we wanna build a story.
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That's the thing about our brains, and
that's why I do love neuroplasticity
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so much, is because you can shift
and morph that you can create new
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grooves in your brain anytime you want.
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And yet you still have to start with
this body by feeling that emotionally
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because it's the frequency of our
emotions in our body that actually
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project what we're seeing on the outside.
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So just to use the roof example.
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If I'm sitting in the middle of my
living room and I have a leaky roof,
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and I see that I have no money,
and if I start to focus on all the
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negative, I'm gonna see more of that.
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So it really is so important for us
as a human species to stop blaming
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and pointing fingers and complaining,
and start really operating at a very
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high vibration, which is gratitude and
giving, and loving and communication and
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connection, and all these good, happy
qualities, but they truly do build a life
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around you that is absolutely sensational.
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Russell Newton: So to
cultivate the gratitude, do you
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recommend a gratitude journal?
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As you might read a lot of places,
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Debbie Dobbins: any type of
gratitude is good more you can
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resonate in your body with it.
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So everyone is.
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Well, a lot of people, I
wouldn't say everybody.
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I have a family member that
doesn't understand how to,
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tap into their feelings.
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But we do have these emotions and the
emotions are the things that cause
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the chemical reactions in our body
that then charge up the frequency.
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I call our brains our little now because
the AI is connected to the nervous system.
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So it really is about
slowing down, number one.
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So whether you're gonna do a
journal, you're gonna do it through
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meditation or you're gonna do it
just by being out in the world.
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I'll drive in my car and I
can bring myself to tears.
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Literally because I am so grateful.
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I've always appreciated my body
and I think I really began to
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appreciate it even more when
you're staring death in the face.
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You just have a different appreciation.
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And so just now moving through science,
and I've really loved understanding
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neuroscience and just put it in context
with this physical body that has all of
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these stored emotions and chemicals, and
then it's connected with a vagus nerve and
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it's just a big, beautiful, had a friend
that went to, Scientology years ago, and
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he calls, and I find myself saying this
every once in a while, this meat stick
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that we walk around in, I mean, it's
just a, it's an amazing vessel, right?
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It's got all these different looks
to it, but in the reality, we're a
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meat stick with an AI on top of it,
and we're just navigating the world.
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Everything is not matter, it's energy.
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So this has a frequency, this
piece of paper has a frequency.
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This book has a frequency.
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We have a frequency, and our frequency
is predicated on a couple of those
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factors that you just shared.
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And it is the brainwave
frequencies, the theta, the delta.
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And so I became a hypnotherapist.
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Oh gosh, I was telling this to
somebody else the other day.
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can't believe it's over 30 years
ago, like 1995 or something.
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And that's when I really began to
learn about the brain frequency.
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So like everything is now, you
can have an E, K, G, and they
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can measure those frequencies.
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And so the slower the frequency in
your brain, we'll just use that one for
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the first part of this conversation.
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Beta is where we're in beta,
most of our, waking life, beta
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is like very, it's like staccato.
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the higher your stress
level is, the more beta is.
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we wanna do is get into the
alpha, which is a slower brainwave
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pattern, if you've ever seen it.
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It's, you know, it's just
like looking at a sound graph.
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Once you get down to alpha and
then beta and theta, those are the
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receptivity brainwave patterns.
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So that's why hypnosis or meditation
allows you to begin to implant things
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that bypass your unconscious gateway,
because that's really what keeps us stuck.
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We're in beta, we're just repetitive.
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We're doing what the AI tells
us and we keep going forward.
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But the fact is, is that between
age one and seven, our brains
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are in that alpha pattern.
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Which is the receptive pattern.
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This is when we're taking all the,
imagine, I always call this our ai.
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So if we program AI and we give
it the right information, it's
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always gonna be able to share
back what questions we're asking.
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That's why I love AI so much and it's
just moving us in a different direction.
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But the fact is when we're one to eight,
we're downloading information we're
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making our judgements then and building
our stories about what life looks like.
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Then once you hit past day eight-ish,
you close the window, right?
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Then we go into that beta.
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So now what we do is we take all
the information and we begin to
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project, these are my beliefs.
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This is how the world operates.
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Now I'm going to create it
because we are the great creators.
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Easiest way to describe a binaural
beat is a frequency going in one ear.
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You have two headphones with it.
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One ear say it's at four, beats per
second, and this one's at three.
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What happens is your brain has to
reconcile it, and while it's doing that,
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it takes you, and the first time I ever
heard about binaural beats, it said
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it takes you immediately to that same
state of mind that Tibetan monks get in.
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And I went, well, I'm all on that program.
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Please sign me up.
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And what I discovered is that
it works and it is absolutely
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phenomenal how deeply you can get
into meditation if you use bin beats.
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But there's so much of it on the YouTube
and the internet now that sometimes
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I question whether or not they're
really truly, I've created my own.
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But it is so fascinating how we can
just allow the brain to more or less
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just center and link into what is
that true, receptive energy, which
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is Alpha Theta and Delta waves.
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I'll just say religion is dogmatic.
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spirituality is consciousness
the way I perceive spirituality.
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we're all conscious, my version of
spirituality is that we're all one.
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the end of the story.
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So if we're all one, then we're
all, you know, seeing each other as
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godliness, walking around the planet.
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And religion is very much, and I have some
amazing friends and I've studied religion,
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that there are some beautiful essences of,
most religions, probably all I should say.
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And they all have this common
golden thread that run through
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them, which is spirituality.
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It's the dogma that sandwiches
them together that sometimes
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can be off putting to people.
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But I know people in every religion
That are as spiritual as all get out.
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Because when you begin to
really dive into the essence of
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spirituality, it is consciousness.
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And that's what I believe
we're all headed for.
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Ultimately, wherever consciousness is,
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I believe that there needs
to be an owner's manual for
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how we as humans operate.
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That's given to us in the delivery room.
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Like we don't have any idea, we're
just trying to figure it out.
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And so now there's a lot of
information, but those stories,
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whether they're cognitive, the way
you describe them, or I call 'em a
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money story, they're just stories.
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That's all they are.
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And I use this example, there was a
gentleman on a documentary I was watching
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not too long ago, and it was about
people having traumatic experiences.
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Literally a lady was completely
burned from head to toe.
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And you know, we can all come
through these horrific experiences.
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But this one gentleman was hit by
a semi-truck, I think he might've
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been on a bike he was devastated.
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he almost did die.
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And he resented the person
that hit him for years.
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we get to the point in the story
where he's talking to a therapist
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and he says, got hit by a truck.
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and I almost died.
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And the therapist said,
you got hit by a truck.
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And he says, and I almost died.
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And he said, but you're
sitting right here.
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to say that cancer saved my life
sounds really incongruent on so
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many levels yet that really is
truly, I've never been happier.
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I've never been healthier, I've never
been wealthier than since that time.
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And it truly began with the
incubation of just being me.
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Like there wasn't any, I lived by myself.
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California when this was going on,
and I also was able to see how amazing
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manifestation, if that's the word
that we wanna use, so that people can
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understand it, is available to all of us.
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I had the best doctors,
I had the best surgeons.
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I had the best medical treatment
that just came out of nowhere.
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Literally, when I was diagnosed, I went.
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Okay, I don't have insurance.
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What am I gonna do?
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they just started coming.
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People were showing up to give me food.
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People were showing up to take
care of my, cat when I had to go
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into the hospital for surgeries.
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I had the most amazing nurses.
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And so it was just this blend of really
being, once again, going back to the
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whole gratitude thing, that I could be
so grateful for a time in my life that
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so many people would've said, wow, I
don't want to be in this experience.
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And yet I just blessed
it every step of the way.
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I've got a time vendor process that
helps you create more time for yourself.
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Because what we do is we live in this
world of stress and overwhelm and all
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of that is keeping us from our good.
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So now with all this AI help, we should
be having these lives that are much
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more expansive and I still, people still
see people working harder and longer.
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So to find out more about anything,
you can put the debbie dobbins.com,
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that's my website, and it'll
lead you to some of the programs.
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But I would say the best thing
you can do right now is opt in
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for the divine wealth activator.
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Just type in divine wealth activator.com.
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It'll and it's a great jumpstart
to begin to start building that
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consciousness for wealth building.
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Yeah, so one of the things I start
out in the course with the Ignite, I
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call it Ignite your Inner Billionaire.
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So we take the book and do it in
a course, and anybody can do this
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just by this simple instruction.
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I call it future journaling, but
there's not a journal involved.
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Imagine that you're talking
to a friend about your future.
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So I woke up today and you can't
believe the deal that I got.
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Oh my gosh, everybody is so
excited to be working with me.
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So future journaling is just about
being in the present moment as if it's
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happening right now, but letting that
energetic, feeling come up into your body.
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You can do it anywhere, anytime, and
even if people are listening to you,
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they don't know who you're talking to.
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So that's one little wonderful
trick and tip that I can share.
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Gratitude is the gateway.
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100%.
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We talked about that enough, but
gratitude just begin right now.
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Practicing gratitude and then giving.
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Giving is really an important
ingredient to building.
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Abundance, whatever you're giving.
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So when I talk about abundance,
it's a holistic approach.
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So it's abundance of relationships, it's
abundance of wealth, it's abundance of
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health, it's abundance of spirituality.
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So we do a wheel and we talk
about all areas of your life.
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If you want more of whatever you
say you want more of, give it away.
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So let's say you want more
love, give more love away.
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You want more money.
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And I'm not talking about it from
the perspective of obligation.
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'cause I have a lot of times people
share with me, oh, I give 20% and
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they're doing it out of obligation
because they've learned it.
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That's part of their money story.
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I like to give a new technique
of giving from the perspective
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of your right hand does not know
what your left hand is doing.
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Because when you give, you have to give
freely and without anybody knowing it.
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Stephen Covey, says, seek first to
understand, then to be understood.
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I think in the world that we live in
today, if we could just practice that
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then that would make a better world.
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And then one of the other things
that I often share with people And
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ask myself when I'm in a challenging
situation or somebody's pushing
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my buttons, is what would love do?
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And if you ask yourself when
you're in the middle of customer
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service, people are always the ones
that get me a little triggered.
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I have to stop and go, what would love do?
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Love wouldn't yell at them.
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So I think those two things seek first
to understand and then to be understood.
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And then what would love
do in this circumstance?
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And if you haven't read Stephen Covey's
book, then go read the story where
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he talks about that with the it makes
me cry every time I think about it.
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The guy on the train with the kids, right?
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We never know.
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We never know what someone else is going
through and we judge it as if we do.
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And so if we seek to understand,
if we just begin to practice that
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one thing, life will become better.
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And my book is available on Amazon if you
want to go check it out there as well.
