Don't ask for directions from someone who hasn't been where you're going!... today I'm talking about directions to destinations that are both physical and emotional, how often do we fall into the trap of asking people what they think when we don't really value their opinion and how often do we find ourselves taking advice we didn't ask for?
Hmmm.. today's podcast gives you some questions to ponder on!
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Hello darling heart, and welcome to the drink less, live better podcast.
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This is the podcast that helps you to see that drinking less doesn't need to be stressful, lonely, or boring.
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I'm your host, Sarah Williamson, and I decided to have a year alcohol free as a little life experiment and haven't looked back.
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I'm a best selling author, expert speaker, corporate workshop facilitator, and life coach.
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I'm here to support you with your alcohol free or drink less adventures.
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join the email club where I share resources, wisdom, insights, and glimmers of hope and joy. I hope you enjoy this episode. Let's get straight to it.
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Now it would be wise not to ask for directions from somebody who hasn't been where you're going.
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Perhaps you can see up ahead of you an opportunity to be somewhere new, somewhere exciting, for there to be a new way of being for you.
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And sometimes in online spaces people are all too quick and willing to tell you how to get there and yet they probably don't
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really know where your version of 'there' is.
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People are really quick to offer advice, guidance, information without knowing anything at all about you.
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So here are a couple of things I would say about that.
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If you are asking for something that you want or need from other people around you perhaps ask for a story about their experience,
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perhaps ask them to tell you about them and what went on for them and you can then make a decision about whether you think
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that might be useful or valuable for you.
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You could ask for the opportunity to be seen or heard whether that's online or in real life, whether you're typing something
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out, sending a message or perhaps speaking to somebody.
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If you are asking for directions, look at where that person is.
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Are they where you would really like to be at some point in the future?
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Beware of those lovely, I am sure, people who are evangelical about there being one particular way, one route to get to the
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place that they think you want to get to.
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Be delighted that they found their way but just be cautious in case it isn't yours and you end up following them down that
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route for a long way before you realise it wasn't your way and then you've got to go back and start again finding your way.
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Be really careful about adopting other people's navigational aids.
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For example, someone who is really comfortable with saying, I'm never drinking again, and good for them.
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That's great if that works for them.
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But for me, I am never drinking again doesn't work for two reasons.
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Number 1, I lied to myself about that, a squillion 1,000 hangovers that happened in my life before. Number 2, I drink every day.
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So if I say I'm never drinking again but obviously consuming bucketloads of tea, water and all the other lovely things I drink, it's just not true.
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So it's not a line that works for me. It's not a line I choose. Also, people give unsolicited directions.
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We'd never walk along a road and someone would stop us to say, hey. Come over here. Go this way.
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We think it's better than the route you were about to take'.
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Routes are just other people's opinions of a way to get to some place else.
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Some people prefer scenic views routes, other people prefer straight lines through.
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On social media, you can use mute, unfollow, and block as tools to stop seeing the routes that don't look helpful, useful
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or joyful to you and make sure you find those people who really are a little way down the road ahead of you who are providing
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something useful and valuable and tuck in close behind them. Find out what they did. Ask them.
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See what they've got to offer you.
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If it's useful and valuable, use it, enjoy it, and if it's not, look for a different route. Thank you for listening in today. Do come back again next week.
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