Hi everyone!  Welcome to the A to Z of Sex. I’m Dr Lori Beth and I am your host.  We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time.  Just a reminder this podcast deals with adult content, so if you don’t have total privacy, you might want to put on your headphones. Today the letter d and d is for dating and sex.

Lorna Poole is dating coach who helps smart, savvy successful women who are single find love with a great guy by showing you how to master the dating phase from getting asked out to I do.

She is the Founder & CEO of Lorna Poole, Magnet For Love Coaching after her own love disaster; she decided it was time to get it right. She realized she kept attracting the wrong guys and knew if she never took her love life seriously, she would never meet her Mr. Right. Luckily for Lorna, she is now in a loving relationship with her “great guy”.

We all know dating can be a minefield but not if you know what you are doing. Today on the show Lorna is going to share with you some really crucial tips that will change how you date forever, so that you can win that guy over for good.

Lorna spoke about how important knowing yourself and your own boundaries is to finding the relationship you desire. She shared that often people stick to old patterns without realising that this is what they are doing. We spoke about how patterns come from our childhoods and that people gravitate to what feels familiar.  

She talked about how important it is to let men know that you are interested in them, to allow them to step up into the masculine role.  Lorna reminds women that the right guy will step up and the wrong guy will drift away. She said that women are too quick to chase after someone who doesn’t respond to them or treats them poorly and pointed out that if a woman is clear about what she wants that a man will either, accept this and act accordingly or not.

We both agreed how important it is to set your own boundaries about sexual behaviour as it relates to dating and to do what feels right for you. We highlighted pressure to have sex early on in the relationship and that for some women this doesn’t feel good.  If you violate your own boundary, you are likely to feel bad about this so Lorna reminds women to forgive themselves. She points out that you have to let go of any negative and positive emotional charge from the past in order to make space to create the new pattern.

We spoke about handling the safe sex conversation and Lorna stated that the woman should be clear that she is excited about having sex with the man and that she only has sex with a man when he wears and condom and then to finish by telling the man how much she is looking forward to sleeping with him.  Keeping the positive up front instead of presenting safe sex as a problem. 

Lorna advises women to create desire and interest and be confident of their needs and desires.  We agree that there is nothing like a woman who knows what she wants and states it clearly. 

Thanks for joining me this week for the A to Z of Sex. Write in with your questions to drloribeth@atozofsex.com and visit both websites www.atozofsex.com and www.the-intimacy-coach.com to learn about alternative sexual choices, types of sexual relationships and to learn to sizzle and create that ideal lasting intimate relationship. For a free 30 minute session with me, head over to www.atozofsex.com and click on the button that says ‘book now’.  Please join me next week when the letter will be E.