There’s a kind of holiday stress that never makes it into the cute Christmas photos. On the outside it looks like full tables, busy calendars and everyone “making an effort”. Inside, it can feel like you’re bracing for certain comments, carrying the mental load, or wondering how you’ll hold it together all day.

You might already know which relative will push your buttons, or which topic will set things off. Maybe you leave family gatherings wired, flat, or annoyed at yourself for snapping, overexplaining or going quiet. If your body feels tense before you have even walked through the door, you’re not imagining it.

In this episode, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, talks through what is actually happening in your nervous system during the holiday season. She unpacks how old roles, enmeshment and different communication styles stir things up, then shares simple, body-based tools and language you can lean on in real family moments.

This is a honest chat about protecting your peace, staying connected where it feels safe, and letting your nervous system guide you instead of old survival patterns.

You’ll hear about:

• Why your body can mix up anxiety and excitement around Christmas and holidays
• Simple nervous system tools to use when you feel flooded, restless or on edge
• How enmeshment can show up in everyday family moments and old roles
• How Lauren’s Connected Boundaries Bible can guide your choices
• How educate, redirect and release can support you when conversations get tense

Connected Boundaries Bible: quick reference

Three layers of connection:

• Communication: how you want to speak and be spoken to, tone, timing, space to pause and repair
• Lifestyle: how you want day to day life and holidays to feel, time, routines, drinking, parenting load, where and how you spend events
• Core values: your non negotiables, safety, how you raise your kids, what you are and are not willing to live with long term

Three doorways for boundaries:

• Educate: name what happened, share how it lands in your body, and gently say what you need instead
• Redirect: change the topic, timing or setting so the conversation is shorter, safer or more workable
• Release: step away or opt out, with a simple bridge like, “I am not available for this right now, let’s talk about it another time.”

Resources & Links:

🛜 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage

📲 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

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Big love,

Lauren X