Jennifer Shaffer Plays Spirit Speed Round

What if you could ask an intuitive medium all the questions you've secretly wondered about... and get the very first answer that comes to mind?

In this special game episode of The Iconic Midlife, intuitive Jennifer Shaffer takes on Spirit Speed Round—a rapid-fire challenge where she finishes thought-provoking sentences about intuition, signs from loved ones, grief, the afterlife, and the messages she believes we're all meant to hear.

From the biggest misconception about mediums to the one message she wishes everyone could receive, Jennifer's answers are heartfelt, surprising, and guaranteed to leave you thinking long after the game is over.

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The sign from a loved one people miss most often is blank pennies, pennies.

Everyone's afraid to pick up a penny now. People don't want to pick up pennies,.

So we should be picking those things.

Up because it also signals to the universe that you want money too. But if you say no, then you're saying no to money. A lot of dogs I've seen were horses before. They're sentient beings.

They mimic our troubles, our pain. They absorb. People don't even know that cats occurring kills your bones.

The one thing people should stop being afraid of is dying.

Wake up in the morning and tell yourself, I'm awesome. And I'm telling you, that's like liquid medicine.

Welcome to the iconic midlife. Jennifer, how are you today?

I am fabulous. Thank you for inviting me.

Oh, I'm so excited you're here. And happy belated birthday. Thank you. You mentioned a game and we always like to play a game with our guests if you are up for. All right.

All right, let's do it. So this is called the Spirit Speed Round. We always have to have a catchy name.

So I'm going to say a sentence and you just finish with whatever comes to mind, which I'm sure for you will. It'll be amazing. The biggest misconception about intuitives is blank,.

That they're not normal.

That's a good point. That's a good point. The sign from a loved one people miss most often is blank pennies, pennies. So pennies on the ground. So that is truly a sign.

But everyone's afraid to pick up a penny now, like, people don't want to pick up pennies, but that's just pennies and feathers. It's true.

So we should be picking those things.

Up because it also signals to the universe that you want money too. But if you say no, then you're saying no to money. It doesn't matter what size of, you.

Know, right denomination of money it is and everything. Pick up that penny and that feather.

Well, the butterfly is more. It's known. Right. But the penny, people don't talk about that. There's pennies from heaven.

Make a mental note to pick up those pennies. The first thing I tell someone who's grieving is blank.

Give yourself some grace. Allow it to come and go. Some days you'll be better prepared for it and other days you won't. And just it. Grief has no appointments, it just comes in.

And you're going to go through stages and phases, but allow yourself give, but give yourself grace. Don't ever try to get over it. And that's the biggest thing. Trying to get over it is just going to make it worse. What you.

No one's ever going to get over the loss of a child, ever. But you'll learn to coexist with it.

Yeah. What is. I mean, just let it come. Let it go and let it come and let it pass and honor it.

Honor it. Because if you have grief over someone, that's because you loved well and honor that, you know?

And the other thing is nobody from the other side is mad at you because you weren't there at their death or you weren't there. They get to go when they arrive, when they take their first breath in a different place.

They get to feel all the love you've ever given them your whole life all at once. They don't care about the last day or the last two weeks. It's about who you were all along that they get to feel and what they get.

What a. What an amazing thing that they go through when they reach, you know, that place. Yeah. Wow. What about dogs?

They're the best.

What about our dogs? Do they go right? Do they all. Do they. Are we going to be reunited?

They come in the forms of whatever we can handle. A lot of dogs I've seen were horses before. Like, they just. They're our companions. They're sentient beings. They mimic our troubles, our pain.

They absorb. Like, people don't even know that cats purring heals your bones. They've done the frequency. They've tested cats with frequencies. And they.

They really are these little magicians.

As much as I want to, okay, so they do. And they will be waiting for us.

When we come through with feelings and thoughts and everything. They come through like, because they don't talk like this. They project their feelings and thoughts. But why they're with you talk to them.

Like, they give you answers. You just can't judge it. If you judge it or if you, like, don't believe that you could talk to them, then you can't.

And then do they send us all.

The time as well?

Like, are they. Do they. What's. What's like.

Aside from our dog, probably another dog.

It's like a revolving door at our house. Another dog.

Or it's. It's another noise or it's some food. Like you'll hear pitter patter. Like you'll hear that. Their energy.

That's that little clicks of the nails,.

The breathing that puts you to sleep, you know, with dogs, you'll Hear that and you'll wake up. That's them.

Wow. Okay. That's so good to hear. Because just for some reason, with animals passing. Yeah.

And know that they know that. They know their purpose. They know when they. When they're supposed to leave. They know they know their purpose. We don't.

Right.

They do. They do.

And that can be the hardest decision to have to make that decision, you know?

But they.

It's.

They're. They usually are. Like, they've made it a month prior. It's usually. We try to keep them more, like, stay longer.

Okay. So they're okay with that when you have to make that decision. And it's so painful.

I've never had any dog say no. Like, they're just like. I'm like, really? You have to take me. You have to lift me up. Take me to the bathroom. Like, come on, dude.

Yeah, let me be free. Free of the thing.

Right.

Okay.

The.

Okay. The one question every client asks me. Me is blank.

That's interesting. They don't say this, but they want to know. It's usually because they want to know their own mortality. As if I'm going to say something.

Right.

So what if by them not wanting to know it, I can feel it, but they want to know it? Like, I would never say anything unless I. I've had three people tell me they've thought about death a lot. And.

And I did feel something, but then again, I don't know when. Like, it's not something that.

It's not like a calendar date. You can say.

Okay. No. And I do tell if somebody's in hospice and, like, do I get on that flight to New York? I'm like, I can tell them, yes, get on that flight. Okay.

You need to see. And sure enough, their parent, you know, might have passed away as soon as I got there.

Okay.

Kind of thing. But no, I don't.

Yeah, you can't.

Yeah.

It's not like, okay, this is going to happen on this date or what have you.

Dies. And so that's the other thing.

Oh, interesting. Because their energy lives on. Is that okay?

Yeah. People that have dementia, like, they're already over there. They're having the time of their life, really having so much fun.

I only feel bad for the caregivers. They're having so much fun.

So their mind, their spirit people, they have a blast.

They're with their first boyfriends while they're still married here. Like, I've seen everything. They're having so much fun. People that have dementia and Alzheimer's It's. We're the ones that have taken care of them.

Have you ever noticed that they usually live longer?

Right. Right.

They're not telling their bodies, oh, I'm fat, I have cancer, I have this, I have that. So they live longer.

Right.

I'm like, we need to do that while we have our cognitive brains.

That's such a good point. That's. It just shows you how powerful the mind is. You know, it's everything. God. Okay. That I'm, like, taking notes.

I'm, like, doing everything different now. I know I'm receiving a message. When blank.

When you feel good.

Okay.

When your heart gets lifted before your mind comes to and says, oh, no, that's not a message, or, oh, no, they wouldn't. Your heart feels it. You might have the chills. The chills are a huge, huge, huge. That's the energy.

So when they come into your energy field, your heart rate will go up and. And so instead of panicking, a lot of that has to do with people that are your loved ones that are around you.

Wow. And that's the energy you're feeling.

That's the energy. And when they give you the chills, those are chill hugs. I call it glitter now.

Oh, I like it.

Glitter hugs. Because I think that's more fun.

Yeah. It's more visual, too. I'm like, I like the glitter. Yeah.

Glitter chills. Yes.

Okay. This is so good to know. The one thing people should stop being afraid of is blank dying. I mean, obviously I also have that fear.

So be afraid of not living.

Okay.

I think that when we get to the other part of one of the things that we get asked, probably the only thing is, did you love. Well, did you love yourself well enough to do that thing?

Or did you live your life because you thought you should because of somebody telling you to a certain way? Like, be worried about not living. Okay, but not death.

Not death. What about the process of dying? Like, is that something that we should fear? Like the actual. When your body shuts down and. No, no, no, no.

It's a peaceful. Usually passing. Okay.

It's the body itself might look more abrupt, but they're usually okay. They're always out of their body, like two days prior. They're just waiting for everybody to come let them go. Their body is still going, so.

So it sounds that death rattle that people hear for can't. They're not feeling it. They're already out. They're on the. They're tied to their body, but they're out. So they're watching all of us.

That just, like, gives me an Alzheimer to think about.

That's why the room's cold. That's why they're looking at their relatives and saying things. Yeah, everyone's there.

Oh. That's why they have that look and they can see. Okay. That's. Wow. Wow. If everyone trusted their intuition a little more, they would.

They clinder people would be more compassionate. They would realize how connected they are to everything and how their feelings affect others.

Such a good lesson. The one thing I hope everyone listening remembers after today's conversation how fabulous they are.

Be fabulous. Ruminate over being wonderful. Like, wake up in the morning and tell yourself, I'm fucking awesome. And I'm telling you, that's like liquid medicine.

And it just before your mind comes to, just say every day. I'm like, I can handle everything. I can handle everything. You're fucking awesome. Whatever, xyz. You don't have to say the F word. It just totally.

We love the F bomb, though. Totally.

And what can I do that's going to be better? What can I do? Just be better. Just be better.

Love harder. Love more.

Love harder. Love your. If you want love, Love yourself. Like, take yourself out. What would you do? Okay, I'm gonna go take myself to the beach.

I'm gonna take myself to the movie. I'm gonna read that fabulous book. I'm gonna write that book. I'm gonna.

I'm gonna reach out to the friend that I've been thinking about but haven't done that yet. I'm gonna let that other friend go. You know, we're on a train. Some. I heard this. Some people get off the train, let them go. Their stop was there.

It's okay.

And maybe they stay for two extra stops. And you're like.

You're like, go to the back.

You lost your place. You've lost it.