So many women reach a point where they have been everything for everyone, and then quietly wonder: who am I now? It's hard to love yourself when you have spent years losing sight of who you are. But what if loving yourself begins with noticing where you’ve disappeared?

In this episode of Life, Love & Legacy, I’m joined by Kate Hoyle, award-winning clinical hypnotherapist and advanced Rapid Transformational Therapist, for a conversation about the deeper stories our minds hold onto, the beliefs that shape us beneath the surface, and the gentle but powerful work of coming back to ourselves.

Kate’s journey into hypnotherapy began after witnessing the profound difference it made to her daughter’s anxiety and depression. After years of trying different approaches, Kate saw the power of going back to the root cause of a problem, rather than only managing the symptoms. That experience changed her daughter’s life, and ultimately changed Kate’s too.

In our conversation, Kate speaks honestly about the life experiences that have shaped her, including her son’s stroke as a young child, her daughter’s mental health challenges, her own breast cancer diagnosis, and caring through family illness.

We talk about the internal dialogue we may not even realise we are living with, and the importance of noticing our thoughts rather than automatically believing them. We also explore what happens when helping others becomes a virtue that costs us too much, and why Kate would love to ban the phrase “I don’t mind”.

Because somewhere in the work of noticing our thoughts, naming our needs and admitting our preferences, we begin to remember that we are allowed to matter too.

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Website: https://www.katehoylehypnotherapy.com

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