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Hello, hello, and
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welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your host
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Aurora. And I'm very happy to be spending some time with you
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today. Today's episode is for you. When you don't know what to
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do with yourself. I feel COVID has brought that feeling upon
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us. And maybe even before COVID is sometimes felt like my
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parents are busy, my siblings are busy, my friends are busy,
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my partner is busy, my kids are busy. I have time to myself, but
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I don't really want to sit with myself. See, when you feel like
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you don't know what to do with yourself, it means that you
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don't really like to spend time with yourself. It's also a big
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clue showing us and showing yourself that you might be
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distracting yourself from yourself with socializing, video
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games, porn, movie watching, binge eating, whatever you
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choose to do. Some people are very sporty and healthy. But all
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they're really doing is running away from that loneliness. That
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is eating them up from the inside. And then once you've
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done your exercise, once you've eaten your healthy food and
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nobody has time for you. You watched all the movies, you read
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all the books, wait, you're not peaceful, calm enough to read
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books yet. But once you've done all the things that distract you
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from yourself, and you maybe even exhausted, you sit with
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yourself and it feels so uncomfortable. It doesn't feel
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good at all. You have thoughts creeping up, you have memories
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coming up. You have fears coming up when it comes to the future.
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And it just doesn't feel right to be sitting alone.
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Maybe it's a beautiful, sunny Saturday. Maybe it's a Monday
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afternoon. I don't know how your life looks like. But I sure know
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how it feels when you don't know what to do with yourself. Set
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out what I like to do when I feel that way. As just be in it.
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And you will see that what you running away from is not that
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scary anymore. And if it is, then you know that you can
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always reach out. You can always find a counselor you can always
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talk to your parents, your friends, acquaintances,
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Facebook, there's several groups that can support you with
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whatever it is. If you don't feel okay with yourself. If it's
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too intense, too uncomfortable, but if you think you can bear
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with it just a second, just a couple minutes with me here. So
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know that you're not alone. And feeling that way is perfectly
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fine. We've all done stuff that we regret. We've all made
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mistakes. We all feel like a failure at times. And really
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life is not about not feeling these things. Life is about
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feeling these things. And being step by step more okay with
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those feelings. If you're driving, keep your eyes open Of
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course or if you're operating machinery or your attention as
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needed. But if you're at home if you may be laying down on your
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couch or your bed. I invite you to close your eyes and that
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feeling of not being enough for yourself. That feeling Have, I
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need something from the outside? That makes me feel whole and
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Okay, something that distracts me from the thing that is eating
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me up from the inside is a very common feeling we all feel. So I
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think the first step is to know that you're not alone in this.
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And the second step is to find out what kind of feeling is it
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be excited to explore it? Is it anger? Is it grief? Is it
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resentment? Is it fear? What is the feeling that is so
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uncomfortable? When you spend time with yourself reserved Your
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thoughts? Or your thoughts? destructive? Negative, fear
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driven, ego driven? What is it that you reject so much about
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yourself? What is it that you still can't embrace about
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yourself? Do you constantly have to be in the doing? Can you
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never really be in the being? Are you constantly afraid
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something will happen? Some thought will creep up on you
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some memory.
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Take a deep breath. focus in on your breath. And know that what
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you experiences was part of human condition. It is part of
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life. And especially during COVID know that so many people
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are going through the same thing. We all don't know what's
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gonna happen. uncertainty for some is exciting. But for most
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of us, it's crippling and just scary. Know that you will be
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fine. Know that the most important thing is to get to
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know yourself. And what you're doing right now I'm so proud of
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you is to get to know yourself. What is your drive? to do
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things? Is it fear? Is it resentment? Is it distraction or
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as it compassion, empathy, wanting to support others. And
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you will very quickly find out in which stream you are
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swimming. And from there, you can go and evaluate. Am I
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swimming in the right direction right now? How can I get closer
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to my purpose to what I came here to do? You know, this life
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is so beautiful and rich and fulfilling. But the world we
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live in is so scary and fast paced, but also very diverse. So
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if you are a dreamer, you can dream up the perfect job for
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yourself. And I'm sure that you will either create that job or
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it is out there already. And you just got to find the right
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people. If you are a very skeptical, fear driven person,
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then I invite you to dream a little more. And to really
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explore what excites you what makes you feel good. What are
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you good at? And maybe if you don't find anything that you're
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really good at? You haven't found it yet, inside of
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yourself. You haven't explored yourself enough. Because we all
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have a purpose here. And most of us just live in autopilot and
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never really dig deeper and never really find what what
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brings them joy and what they're good at. But I really invite you
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here to do this. And trust me if it's a genuine interest in video
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games. Gosh, there's so much out there you can become a value
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game designer. He can be an advertiser, for video games,
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there's all sorts of things. If your parents don't agree with
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your hobby. That's okay. You Don't need their approval. If it
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is birdwatching, I'm just watching birds right now while I
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speak. And you're so passionately interested in those
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little creatures, then explore your interest there and find
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people to talk about that passion of yours. See, it
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doesn't really matter. What it is, it is how you approach it,
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to meet the right people, and then to excel, what really
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excites you, and to have in mind that you want to share with the
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world, you want to support other people. You want to maybe
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educate other people. You want to help people out, you want to
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inspire people. If you have that intention, you will never fail.
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Maybe you just had the wrong intentions.
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Maybe
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you did what you did, because of a fear of not feeling enough. If
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you didn't do what your parents wanted you to do.
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Maybe
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you're still sad about a breakup, and you're trying to
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run away and that job right now just distracts you enough to not
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think of that pain. So it is uncomfortable at times to sit
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with that feeling. But let me tell you, it's so incredibly
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valuable and worth it. To get to know yourself better. And to
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know what you might want to do in the future can put you in
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such a beautiful mindspace without any help from outside
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without any
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distraction.
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Just by being with yourself.
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Again,
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if you feel too uncomfortable, please reach out and find
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support. But it is normal to feel uncomfortable at times. To
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not being okay, sitting with yourself. And then I hope this
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episode here brought you peace and inspiration and made you
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feel less alone. Thank you so much for listening to the
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Borealis experience. I'm your host Aurora and I will be out
