Unk the Hunk is here to drop some serious truth bombs on the Dr. Stance Podcast, and trust me, this episode is nothing short of a rollercoaster ride through the raw and real world of addiction. Unk opens up about his own battle with drug addiction, sharing the unfiltered reality of hitting rock bottom, facing accountability, and the monumental mindset shifts that helped him rise from the ashes. It’s a conversation that digs deep—no sugarcoating here! We’re talking about the nitty-gritty of what recovery really looks like, the daily grind it takes to stay clean, and how turning pain into purpose can transform lives. This episode is not just for those who’ve fought addiction themselves; it’s for anyone who’s loved someone through it or believes that our past doesn’t define us. Healing is possible, and change is real—let’s dive into this powerful journey together!
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Speaker B:I'm Unc the Hunk, and I'm on turning your hustle into a legacy with Dr. Stans.
Speaker A:What's up?
Speaker A:What's up?
Speaker A:Thank y' all for tuning in to turning your hustle into a legacy with Dr. Stance.
Speaker A:I got my guy.
Speaker A:It's only one in the entire world.
Speaker A:Very special man, Unc the Hunk.
Speaker B:How y' all doing?
Speaker B:Thank you for having me.
Speaker A:Yes, yes, yes.
Speaker B:I'm shocked.
Speaker B:You got a show.
Speaker A:Shut up.
Speaker A:This all new.
Speaker A:I'm sure you seen it last time I think we see each other.
Speaker A:I was at D's with you at Fab.
Speaker A:Just chilling.
Speaker A:Give me a couple shots.
Speaker A:You know, I kind of slowed down on the drinking.
Speaker A:But anyway, you know me.
Speaker A:And we did the tea time.
Speaker A:Remember?
Speaker A:You invited me to that.
Speaker A:What's up with that?
Speaker A:Let's talk about when I'm doing.
Speaker A:When am I coming back?
Speaker B:I don't know.
Speaker B:I think I.
Speaker B:Sometime this year, I'm kind of getting back going.
Speaker B:We got our own space to be able to.
Speaker B:To host them at now.
Speaker B:It's just like, I think last year, but this year, I just got so deeply involved with so many different avenues of being, watching from my community that some things is, like.
Speaker B:That's old, kind of like.
Speaker B:It's not that they're not relevant at the time.
Speaker B:It's just like the new things taking up so much of my time.
Speaker B:The energy to try to figure out and learn that.
Speaker B:But I want to get back to the core basics of what this look like for me.
Speaker B:Cause some people only know this version of it, so they don't really understand.
Speaker B:I've been doing this for a long time, period.
Speaker A:I've been seeing you a lot with these Y N's, right?
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Which they say.
Speaker A:Young niggas, you know, that's what they call them.
Speaker A:But I've been seeing you work with a lot of youth.
Speaker A:That's why I was like, I need you on the show, because, you know, that's what I do.
Speaker A:So I'm just really proud, impressed.
Speaker A:I think the last thing I seen you do where you had a few young men, you was teaching them to.
Speaker B:Give way, to give back.
Speaker A:There you go.
Speaker A:And that's what we need.
Speaker A:Like, how did you get into that?
Speaker B:Well, you know, it's the mixture of me always kind of, like, feeding the homeless with adults, and then now I have all these programs that I kind of, like, participate in with the youth.
Speaker B:So it's like I be wanting them to understand, like, you know what I'm saying?
Speaker B:About what caring looks like or what it feels like.
Speaker B:Because a lot of the things that they out there doing is based on them not having no care for nothing.
Speaker B:You feel what I'm saying?
Speaker B:So it's like nobody really cared for them and they not being taught how to care for other people.
Speaker B:So they don't value lives.
Speaker B:They don't value their life and they don't value another life that they may harm or take because nobody teaching them what care feels like.
Speaker A:Like, how do you even know?
Speaker A:If you never live in the atmosphere, how do you even know?
Speaker A:Like, literally, I'm asking you, how would you talk to.
Speaker A:What do you say to them?
Speaker A:Like, what is your to go to?
Speaker A:Like, what lived experiences can you relate to?
Speaker B:When I think I think.
Speaker B:I don't think I really.
Speaker B:I say a little bit, but.
Speaker B:But I think I just show up and I just keep them in situations where some care is either being given or shared with them.
Speaker B:You feel me?
Speaker B:I keep them in situations where I can say, hey, this how you supposed to care about somebody?
Speaker B:Or this what you're supposed to do for somebody else, you know?
Speaker B:And then just let that sink in and let them enjoy what that feel like.
Speaker B:Because when we give out the clothes or the foods or whatever, they.
Speaker B:At the end, they be like, man, I feel good.
Speaker B:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker B:Look out for them, you know what I'm saying?
Speaker B:Because you have.
Speaker B:And then it gives them.
Speaker B:It gives the people that they help an opportunity to have a conversation with the people, with the kids, kind of more so because the kids just see them and they judge them based on their situation.
Speaker B:They don't really have an idea who that person is or what that person got going on.
Speaker B:They just see the situation they in.
Speaker B:So sometimes just allowing them to be comfortable, to be like, I can speak to one if I see him on the street, I don't have to be mean.
Speaker B:I don't have to be like.
Speaker B:Like, these your people, regardless of the situation they in.
Speaker B:So once they kind of like get that, it gives us an opportunity to really understand what care look like.
Speaker B:Because without.
Speaker B:Without them caring for nothing, they don't care about nothing.
Speaker B:So they don't care to harm nothing.
Speaker B:They don't even care about themselves.
Speaker B:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker B:So that's scary.
Speaker B:So, you know, you'd be like, man, they don't care.
Speaker B:Like, yeah, you're right.
Speaker B:They haven't even been taught how to care about themselves.
Speaker B:It's not that they don't want to.
Speaker B:It's not like that.
Speaker B:They don't know that they supposed to.
Speaker A:They don't know how.
Speaker B:They don't know how.
Speaker B:No one has showed them what that looks like.
Speaker B:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker B:Personally, you know what I'm saying?
Speaker A:You know, I'm a piggyback.
Speaker A:Like, you know, I just.
Speaker A:I don't know if you've seen.
Speaker A:I had DTV on the show.
Speaker A:And she was actually, like, tapping into that, saying that, you know, she went from a stripper to now owning her shit.
Speaker A:CEO, you know, that's what my title is.
Speaker A:And I think that with her, you know, she was saying she wished she had people like us to teach her, and that probably would have gave her a different life.
Speaker A:You know what I mean?
Speaker A:But I want to know about your ass, because you just had a birthday, young man.
Speaker A:Okay, how was that?
Speaker A:I seen that.
Speaker A:Seen your ass.
Speaker A:Shaking your ass, doing too much.
Speaker A:How was it?
Speaker A:Did you have fun at your party?
Speaker A:I know, you know, you and Fab, always locked in.
Speaker A:Y' all was in Atlanta.
Speaker A:How was that?
Speaker A:What's up?
Speaker B:I mean, it was a hard to go.
Speaker B:You know me, I'd just be living.
Speaker B:Living.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:Like, I just be showing up the places that I was supposed to be at, like, here.
Speaker B:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:You know, I just showed the place that I was supposed to be at.
Speaker B:And it was that time of the year, me and Lil Pine, our birthdays on the same actual day on December 2nd.
Speaker A:Oh, okay.
Speaker B:So, yeah, so we was having a party.
Speaker B:You know, usually we kind of, like, party together in some fashion.
Speaker B:So, you know, it was going to the a.
Speaker B:And it was my birthday.
Speaker B:Birthday.
Speaker B:I hadn't been nowhere in a while, so I said, let's do it.
Speaker B:Let's do it.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:So I just.
Speaker B:Life for me.
Speaker B:Birthdays for me ain't about me.
Speaker B:It's about giving back and, like.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:And about my.
Speaker B:The people.
Speaker B:Yeah, about my people.
Speaker B:Who's taking this journey with me, who connected to me in whatever.
Speaker B:Any energy way or whatever.
Speaker B:Loving, caring, supportive way that my network of people that rock with me.
Speaker B:For real.
Speaker B:Do I just try to bring us all together and, like, celebrate life, what we've been through in the last 12 months, just still being able to be here and smile.
Speaker B:My birthday is more so about being able to see.
Speaker B:Bring people together.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:And like, hey, man, we got reasons to be happy regardless of what we're going through, because we gonna.
Speaker B:We here, we making it.
Speaker B:Whatever it is we going through, we making it.
Speaker A:Do you feel like you found your Purpose in life.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:I think I found my purpose.
Speaker A:What is that?
Speaker A:I know for sure.
Speaker A:Helping these Y N's.
Speaker A:That's.
Speaker A:That's awesome.
Speaker B:It's just loving on my community, like, whatever way, you know, like.
Speaker B:Like things that affected me and I learned from and I was able to overcome.
Speaker B:Those are kind of like the things that I attack.
Speaker B:You get what I'm saying?
Speaker B:Those are the things that I'm like, all right, yeah.
Speaker B:I'm fighting back against what once beat me up.
Speaker B:Like, you feel me?
Speaker B:Like, I ain't gonna just let you beat me up and then me not go back and spread the word about how you move and how you get down and.
Speaker A:Wow, that's crazy you said that.
Speaker A:I think I just did a YouTube.
Speaker A:Make sure you, like, share.
Speaker A:Subscribe a YouTube on being the chosen one.
Speaker A:Like with me, you know, me, ho from CEO, shout out to me, but I wanna thank me.
Speaker A:I'm just playing.
Speaker A:But no, shout out to me.
Speaker A:I literally felt like I was the chosen one because same with you.
Speaker A:You're giving back to those who struggle with the same trauma or whatnot that you may have.
Speaker A:Like me being a hoe.
Speaker B:All the kids in my program down there are hoes.
Speaker A:I didn't know that that would be.
Speaker A:But that's how, you know, I feel like when God chose you to do certain things in life.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker B:Not even.
Speaker B:And when the guy, more so chose to allow you to make it through for a reason.
Speaker B:For a reason.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:Not.
Speaker B:Not more so like that, you know, like.
Speaker B:No, no.
Speaker B:Like, he made sure that you made it through for a reason.
Speaker A:And it may seem in that movie too, like, oh, God, I ain't gonna make it.
Speaker B:And no, but once you get out of it, you.
Speaker B:You look back and you be like.
Speaker A:I want to help.
Speaker B:It was.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:And it really wasn't that bad.
Speaker B:It was just something that I didn't want to go through at the moment that I was forced to go through it because I didn't know how to deal with it based on I had the information to be able to process how to get out of it.
Speaker B:So, you know, you.
Speaker B:You.
Speaker B:You just be in it.
Speaker B:And.
Speaker B:And then, you know, you'd be like.
Speaker B:You get out.
Speaker B:You'd be like, dang.
Speaker B:At first, you be like, dang.
Speaker B:That was a tough fight.
Speaker B:It was a tough fight.
Speaker B:But looking back, right when you look back, it really wasn't that bad.
Speaker B:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker B:It wasn't that bad because now you on the side.
Speaker B:You on.
Speaker B:Not only are you on the Other side of what that looked like you on top of it as well.
Speaker B:Because now you back in the Valley and then the places that you once, that once had you confined, you feel, I'm saying, that's like, you know, most of the people nowadays, that's in encampments and stuff like that.
Speaker B:Someone was the cats that I used to get high with, you know what I'm saying?
Speaker B:So they like my partner still like, you feel me?
Speaker B:Like.
Speaker B:And so I go back and then it's a reminder, you know, of where I.
Speaker B:If I would have continued down my path, I probably wouldn't be in the same situation.
Speaker B:The only reason I can say, damn, that's new now, because I've been out long enough to not have to be affected by it.
Speaker B:But if I was still messing up, I'm sure I'd have been somewhere in parts of some places that I wouldn't see myself being at now.
Speaker B:Because I'm on this side.
Speaker B:You hear me?
Speaker B:Drugs take you.
Speaker B:Drugs take you places that inside of you and outside of you.
Speaker A:What was your choice?
Speaker B:My drug of choice is heroin.
Speaker B:Shut the fuck up.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:For real?
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:27 years.
Speaker A:Nah, I never knew that.
Speaker A:I would never.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:And let me tell you something about you then, because that's, I think, the hardest drug in the world to kick, literally.
Speaker A:And you could never tell me nothing like that.
Speaker A:And speaking of that, I see you in fab relationship.
Speaker A:Y', all.
Speaker A:Like, this one thing I noticed about both of y', all, family is everything, right?
Speaker A:And I love, love, love, love y' all dynamic.
Speaker A:Do you feel like he brought you out of that with his networking and his team, like, his limelight?
Speaker B:Like, I, I, I was like, when we, you know, we ain't really blood.
Speaker B:We.
Speaker B:I'm just uncle that's just nephew.
Speaker B:We just, I'm saying we blood.
Speaker B:Like, we not blood, but we thinking in blood.
Speaker B:Like we what each other, need for each other.
Speaker A:That's it.
Speaker B:You get what I'm saying?
Speaker B:That's why people see our relationship.
Speaker B:They be like, oh, no, y' all relationships are authentic.
Speaker B:Like, really what you see on camera is really what you see when you see us.
Speaker B:Like, you know, we know different.
Speaker B:Like, that's not just for the gram.
Speaker B:That's our relationship.
Speaker B:That's how we, you know what I'm saying?
Speaker A:I remember back way, I'm talking about way back when I worked at Kaiser.
Speaker A:This, this you.
Speaker A:In fact, y' all used to do the little online.
Speaker B:Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker B:During the pandemic.
Speaker B:Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker A:He used to Call me out all the time.
Speaker B:I said, ball head.
Speaker A:I used to be capping on me.
Speaker A:But listen, I used to.
Speaker A:Couldn't wait to get home and watch y'.
Speaker B:All.
Speaker A:Y' all are a dynamic that is just unbreakable.
Speaker A:Funny as hell.
Speaker A:And I'm just.
Speaker A:I mean, honestly, I'm glad that.
Speaker A:Damn.
Speaker A:I never knew that.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:So.
Speaker A:Never knew that.
Speaker B:But.
Speaker B:But for I.
Speaker B:So I'll say that having.
Speaker B:Having the ability to be around some different than what I was used to run through it before because I wouldn't have going.
Speaker B:So I ended up getting in trouble.
Speaker B:The judge was like, you want to go to prison or you want to go.
Speaker B:You want to go back to prison or you want to go to a program?
Speaker B:Usually I'd be like that program because I don't want.
Speaker B:If I mess up, I still got to end up going back to jail.
Speaker B:Let me just.
Speaker B:I go get this time over with and just be out.
Speaker B:You feel me?
Speaker B:But this time I was like.
Speaker B:I had been wanting to change, and I just couldn't figure it out.
Speaker A:So when did you quit?
Speaker A:How long?
Speaker B: Since: Speaker A:Damn.
Speaker B:So.
Speaker B:So I ended up going to.
Speaker B:So I ended up going to Salvation army program.
Speaker B:I went there for, like, I had a year to do.
Speaker B:I ended up messing up a couple times, so it took me like 18 months to graduate.
Speaker B:I end up graduating, and now I end up working there in a program part.
Speaker B:And then I end up being like the DOC supervisor and transportation supervisor that's in the trucks out to go pick up people for people's houses.
Speaker B:So I used to be doing that at first, when we first started being together, you know what I'm saying?
Speaker B:Then we had opened up the other store on 45th together, kind of like.
Speaker B:But then I just didn't.
Speaker B:After a while, I just said, here, you just take it because it's more so what you trying to do instead of what I'm trying to do.
Speaker B:You know what I mean?
Speaker A:Wow.
Speaker B:But I've been there every step of the store ways.
Speaker B:Like every store we had, I'm like, there.
Speaker B:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker B:And.
Speaker B:But over time.
Speaker B:So, yeah, if I was to say, did he play some type of powerful.
Speaker B:Like some type of.
Speaker B:Did he play a positive, positive role and me coming up, for sure.
Speaker B:Most definitely.
Speaker B:My nephew played the most efficient role, period.
Speaker B:And allowing me to even be in.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:To be in.
Speaker B:Even in circles and in places to where I could build up my confidence into being a. I'm always it.
Speaker B:No matter who I've been, what I've been where I've been.
Speaker B:I always been a.
Speaker B:You feel.
Speaker B:Definitely could tell I always been a.
Speaker A:That.
Speaker B:Not that that.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:So the ones that you see and that's not to say.
Speaker B:Oh, I think you're all say that the people like, I just feel like I've been in any situation, I've always been a.
Speaker B:You feel me?
Speaker B:Like, you feel me.
Speaker B:So it.
Speaker B:It was easy.
Speaker B:It was easy for me to.
Speaker B:Once I was.
Speaker B:Once I got secure.
Speaker B:Secure and confident in my like, okay, I'm cool now.
Speaker B:Oh yeah.
Speaker B:Then I just stay quiet for a while.
Speaker B:Stay quiet for a little while.
Speaker B:That way I can figure out who I am.
Speaker B:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker B:My.
Speaker B:And oh yeah.
Speaker B:I took off like yeah.
Speaker B:But I came out the gate doing for my community.
Speaker B:I came out the gate taking kids on field trips, taking kids here doing this, doing that.
Speaker B:That's kind of like two different avenues of why we was cool because we both was doing.
Speaker B:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker A:That's what I knew.
Speaker B:I used to do the kid talent shows.
Speaker B:I. I like when it come to the kids.
Speaker B:I used to just try to give up every opportunity that that was available for them that they might be in position and needing because as a kid I.
Speaker B:Nobody put me in position for nothing.
Speaker A:Same.
Speaker B:You get what I'm saying?
Speaker A:Believed in us.
Speaker A:Probably back.
Speaker B:Even right now.
Speaker B:Like, even right now a person be like man, goals.
Speaker B:What's your goals?
Speaker B:What's your dream like?
Speaker B:Huh?
Speaker B:Like what's that like?
Speaker B:I just go with life.
Speaker B:You feel me?
Speaker B:Like, I like I wasn't taught that as a kid.
Speaker B:You feel what I'm saying?
Speaker B:And.
Speaker B:And sometimes we get so caught up in survival that we don't even anything in any way we address or deal with life being a survival type mode of thinking.
Speaker B:No matter if that.
Speaker B:No matter if that situation calls for that type of thinking or not.
Speaker B:That's what we use to use and is our survival.
Speaker B:So it's like to tell somebody that they start looking a week from now, two weeks from now, I'd be like, what I'm stuck in.
Speaker A:Let me figure out tomorrow.
Speaker B:I'm stuck in the women gonna be all tomorrow.
Speaker B:And I ain't in a situation secure enough financially to not think like that.
Speaker B:You feel what I'm saying?
Speaker B:Be like.
Speaker B:And then in the process of that I'm still figuring me out.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Are you single?
Speaker B:No.
Speaker A:Do you need that part?
Speaker A:Edit the out.
Speaker B:I'm just playing.
Speaker A:I'm proud of you.
Speaker A:See, I. I mean, let's talk about.
Speaker A:I Seen your little cute little something, something they did on the social media.
Speaker A:You posted, you know what I'm saying?
Speaker A:But let's put on some real for you to come on here and even tell your history on, you know, your drug addiction.
Speaker A:I wouldn't have never knew that.
Speaker A:And I think this another reason why I created this platform.
Speaker A:Cuz my ain't like that.
Speaker A:Want to talk about hood.
Speaker A:I don't give a about none of that.
Speaker A:My shit's real life.
Speaker A:Like you need to like us seeing you on the Instagram and you know, don't know that about you.
Speaker B:And I put no, they know.
Speaker B:Like yeah, yeah.
Speaker B:Like if you, if you pay enough attention to it, I, I, I address it.
Speaker B:I go sometime I show a picture from then to now.
Speaker A:I never would have.
Speaker B:It's like one of my, it's like one of my avenues where my fans come from.
Speaker B:My supporters, like, not fans, my supporters.
Speaker B:Like I have like the, the people that, that made it out.
Speaker B:That life that I speak up for, I speak out about.
Speaker B:That's our circle.
Speaker B:Then my kids, then like my giving back.
Speaker B:You feel what I'm saying?
Speaker B:And then like un.
Speaker B:I got my people that like un.
Speaker B:You feel me?
Speaker B:And it's kind of like hard to be un now with all this other stuff going on because people going, they going to just come for you all the, you feel me?
Speaker B:So I just, I just sprinkle it in every now and then because this was this, this what I tell our kids, right?
Speaker B:I tell our kids when everybody preaching change to them, right?
Speaker B:They thinking that somebody is telling them that they who they are ain't good enough and they need to change into somebody else to be able to be good enough.
Speaker A:I like that.
Speaker B:Huh?
Speaker B:That's what, that's what, that's what changed me to a kid, that I ain't good enough, right?
Speaker A:Why you want me to change?
Speaker A:Why you can't take me even if I am a up, right?
Speaker B:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker B:So that's how they feel, right?
Speaker B:So when you, when you, when you talk to him about it in a different way, it's like.
Speaker B:But I'm just saying you need to change the way you make choices and decisions for yourself because you're making them out of a place that you're not really caring about yourself.
Speaker B:Because if you care about yourself, some of the things that you do, you wouldn't put your, put yourself in their positions and situations to be able to get the negative outcomes from those choices.
Speaker B:You feel me?
Speaker B:That don't mean you don't lose your sauce, your flare, your glare.
Speaker B:Nothing will make you the guy you.
Speaker B:You hold on to all that.
Speaker A:That actually makes that pop out even more.
Speaker B:You just how to make it work for you and not against you.
Speaker B:So changing only means changing the way you see you so that you can treat you better.
Speaker B:But if you don't tell a kid that, and they so used to people barking at him and saying this and that in negative ways, it's in and out.
Speaker B:It's like you like, I ain't good change.
Speaker B:Seems like I'm saying that I ain't good enough.
Speaker B:Know what I'm saying?
Speaker B:You're more than good enough.
Speaker B:That's why I want you to be able to know how to use you to your best ability for you.
Speaker A:Well, we want to be the best version of ourselves no matter what.
Speaker A:And like, you know, me personally, I try my best not to preach to these girls.
Speaker A:That's why I wrote the book.
Speaker A:So they can see everything that I've been through.
Speaker A:I'm just like y', all, you know?
Speaker A:But you, my.
Speaker A:My message is you can make it though.
Speaker A:You know, I.
Speaker A:This, I save what house over 40 foster youth, right?
Speaker A:I got 50 locations, you know what I mean?
Speaker A:And I built it myself.
Speaker A:A multi million dollar company by myself, you know what I mean?
Speaker A:And I need the world to see that.
Speaker A:You coming from the streets, being on fucking Heron.
Speaker A:And look at you now.
Speaker A:Every time I look and see, what I see is unk helping them Y N's.
Speaker A:That's all I see.
Speaker A:But I will say we need to go.
Speaker A:We need to focus on our girls too, though.
Speaker B:I focused on both.
Speaker B:You know, I used to do the tee times.
Speaker B:That's where the tee times was for all girls.
Speaker A:That's why I asked about it.
Speaker A:Where is it?
Speaker B:But what I'm trying to get you to understand, right, Is this right for men, right?
Speaker A:And you guys do have it.
Speaker B:It's hard.
Speaker B:It's hard for men to work with girls.
Speaker B:Do you get what I'm saying?
Speaker B:Because you don't.
Speaker B:Because what's I'm saying?
Speaker B:Because all it takes is one saying, one negative saying, and it's going to tamper your brand no matter what it got going on.
Speaker A:That's definitely true.
Speaker B:So.
Speaker B:But it's easy for a woman to work with a boy because it's like that mothering.
Speaker B:You get what I'm saying?
Speaker B:Like there's so many foul men out here.
Speaker B:That's actually true that I tell parents all the time, thank you for allowing me and trusting me.
Speaker B:With your child to even be able to be whatever type of role model or have it.
Speaker B:Any whatever type of impact I can have in their lives by even allowing me to be in position to even try to do that.
Speaker B:Because men has let our women down a lot.
Speaker B:Like, he probably don't got a father present.
Speaker B:She might not have had a father when she was she.
Speaker B:Feel me now here comes some stranger talking about, let me help your kid.
Speaker B:So now I'm addressing abandonment issues for each child.
Speaker B:Because the way my job.
Speaker B:Yeah, and by the way.
Speaker B:And.
Speaker B:And the re.
Speaker B:The way my job work is that I only supposed to work with this kid for like 12 months.
Speaker B:You feel what I'm saying?
Speaker B:And then so I.
Speaker B:So it's difficult for me.
Speaker B:I'm like, man, I don't never lay down on my kids once.
Speaker A:You.
Speaker B:You feel me?
Speaker B:You might not have these resources that I had available for you for that year, but after that, our relationship is still the same.
Speaker B:We still tap in and check in.
Speaker B:You know what I mean?
Speaker A:How many kids you got?
Speaker B:I got four.
Speaker A:Really?
Speaker A:Okay, how old are.
Speaker A:What's the oldest?
Speaker A:What's the youngest?
Speaker B:My oldest is.
Speaker B:He's about to be 7 and my daughter about to be 20.
Speaker A:Shut the up.
Speaker B:Yeah, my daughter and my.
Speaker B:Yeah, my daughter's pregnant right now, so I'm about to be.
Speaker B:Oh, I.
Speaker B:This ain't my first grandchild.
Speaker A:P. Get that.
Speaker B:This ain't.
Speaker B:This ain't my first grand child, but it's like my baby having a baby.
Speaker B:So it's kind of different.
Speaker A:It is, definitely.
Speaker A:And what makes that different?
Speaker A:I'm curious.
Speaker A:Cuz I hope.
Speaker B:I pray to God because all my.
Speaker B:Because all my boy, all my older kids, boys.
Speaker A:The baby's a girl, so.
Speaker B:Baby's a girl.
Speaker B:That's my baby.
Speaker B:That's like the main reason I ever changed my life.
Speaker B:Like, she the purpose.
Speaker B:She the reason that I made different choices and wanted to do something different.
Speaker B:So that's my baby.
Speaker B:That's my road dog.
Speaker B:Like my boys probably feel like, and they probably should, that I treat them different than I treat her.
Speaker B:Because that's just how it is.
Speaker B:You feel me?
Speaker A:We need you.
Speaker B:But.
Speaker B:But.
Speaker B:So now she's having a baby, you feel?
Speaker B:I'm saying?
Speaker B:So it's like my what.
Speaker A:And how old is she again?
Speaker B:She about to be 20, so get it.
Speaker A:Yeah, get that.
Speaker B:But I ain't even.
Speaker B:I was just like, you know, maybe this is like.
Speaker A:You excited?
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:Life's been giving me blessings, opportunities to do certain things that I didn't do.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker B:The first time.
Speaker B:It's been giving me opportunity to do something different in that way.
Speaker A:To me, that mean that God working with you, he worked on you because, you know, he's seen something in you to give.
Speaker A:Because everybody don't bounce back from that.
Speaker B:Huh?
Speaker A:I'll probably say 82% do not bounce back from.
Speaker A:From what you've been through.
Speaker A:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker A:And so to see you here now with your kids, being a good father, good glam pop, okay, Working with these Y N's, working with Fab, you know, having this network and, you know, your presence is more powerful than what, you know.
Speaker A:A lot of people actually admire it.
Speaker A:They really do.
Speaker A:And like I said, this is exactly why I created this platform.
Speaker A:Cause n. I wouldn't have never knew that.
Speaker A:I'm not in the, you know, streets I left open five years ago.
Speaker A:So I don't pay attention to a lot, but I wouldn't have never thought that.
Speaker B:And a lot of people, like, people look at it, they'd be like, huh?
Speaker B:I'd be like, yeah, I just, like.
Speaker A:I'm like, shocked.
Speaker B:But I'm like, at a. I'm like at a crossword right now.
Speaker B:So it's.
Speaker B:I'm like, at the.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker A:Why?
Speaker A:What you mean?
Speaker B:I'm just like, at a crossroad, like, with life right now.
Speaker B:I was like, it's somewhere else I'm trying to get.
Speaker B:And it's like two roads.
Speaker B:And I'm just like, what road do I take?
Speaker B:It's going to get me to the same destination.
Speaker A:Elaborate.
Speaker A:What we talking about?
Speaker A:Like, what.
Speaker A:What is the crossroad?
Speaker A:Which one is this one?
Speaker A:Which one is this?
Speaker B:I don't know.
Speaker B:They just in front of me because I never been to this place in life before to even know what's down those roads.
Speaker B:You get what I'm saying?
Speaker B:It's like, so I know I'm like, tapped out right here, though.
Speaker B:I'm tapped out right here.
Speaker B:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker B:So it's like, I'm like, I'm tapped out right here.
Speaker B:I'm tapped out.
Speaker A:Well, you still need it.
Speaker A:I don't know.
Speaker B:No, that's not.
Speaker B:That's not.
Speaker B:I'm not.
Speaker B:What I'm saying is tapped out is that I'm tapped out as far as where I'm able to go based on what's present in my life right now.
Speaker B:I need to add something to my life to be able to get me to get to the next version of what life looked like for me.
Speaker A:Wow.
Speaker B:And because if what, everything that's in my life right now has got me to where I'm tapped out.
Speaker B:You get what I'm saying?
Speaker A:Absolutely.
Speaker B:Like, my ceiling is right there.
Speaker B:Like, boom.
Speaker B:I'm like, at your.
Speaker B:With this information that I have with my network that I have that.
Speaker B:With the positions and situations that I'm in right now, I'm like, at the ceiling you have to see.
Speaker A:So now it's time to.
Speaker B:So it's like, now it's like, I like it, but it's scary because you've.
Speaker A:Never been in this position before.
Speaker B:In this position before.
Speaker B:So you don't even know what's on the other side of them, what's inside of them roads.
Speaker B:You have to believe in yourself.
Speaker B:And as far as I ain't never been able to not get it together once I was involved in whatever it was I was.
Speaker B:You feel me?
Speaker B:I'm gonna learn the system, I'm gonna learn.
Speaker B:But.
Speaker B:But even finding the time to.
Speaker A:Focus.
Speaker B:On your purpose, to focus on my purpose without forgetting about everything else that's already in place, I struggle with that too.
Speaker B:You get what I'm saying?
Speaker B:So it's like, it's like, it's like.
Speaker B:It's like even.
Speaker B:It's like being selfish for the right reason, but being unhappy for the wrong reason.
Speaker A:And that may affect people and it's okay.
Speaker B:You get what I'm saying?
Speaker B:It's like me being unhappy because I know I ain't tending to the people that I supposed to be pretending to my all.
Speaker B:Because I'm trying to figure out how to get to the next level so I can be better for everything and everybody body.
Speaker B:You get what I'm saying?
Speaker A:They'll understand that later.
Speaker B:So.
Speaker B:So it's like, I'm just like, at, like at a point where, like, man, I need to get, like, I probably need to get a personal mentor for myself.
Speaker A:I'm.
Speaker A:I'm just playing.
Speaker A:I'm totally not there.
Speaker A:I'm not there.
Speaker B:You get what I'm saying?
Speaker B:Like, for sure.
Speaker B:Like, just someone who I can, you know, bounce ideas off of.
Speaker B:I can share.
Speaker B:I can piece my vision together.
Speaker B:But they can be like, okay, you might not be understanding completely what you stating to me, but this is the picture that you're painting based on the vision that you're giving me about what you're trying to accomplish.
Speaker B:You get what I'm saying?
Speaker A:Well, maybe we can talk because I know you deal with the Y N's.
Speaker A:I deal with a lot of foster youth and you, you know, Maybe we can't after off camera and talk about what we can do to at least because I want to put a dent in the world like you know, by doing something right by our kids.
Speaker A:I definitely love we focus on the men and the adults.
Speaker A:But our kid, this is our next generation is these kids our presidents and our, you know, politics and all.
Speaker A:All is politicians.
Speaker A:We.
Speaker A:So I think, you know, I would love to collab us talking about some later in regards to how we can help these kids.
Speaker A:We gonna talk about continual tea time for the young ladies thug therapy with you and Fab.
Speaker A:I mean I think that when it comes to mental health.
Speaker A:But I will say this, I'm of course proud of you.
Speaker A:So glad you came to see me.
Speaker A:I'm actually this last question like I asked everybody else.
Speaker A:How did you turn your hustle into a legacy?
Speaker A:Cause to me you did.
Speaker A:Beyond that.
Speaker A:You did.
Speaker B:Beyond that, how did I turn my.
Speaker A:Hustle into a legacy?
Speaker A:Because now to me you created a legacy.
Speaker A:Even whether it's, you know, helping these Y N's you know, walking away from your addiction.
Speaker A:I think that was probably the hardest thing you probably could have done in your life.
Speaker B:That based on how you're saying it, I would say, you know, my hustle was just.
Speaker B:I had to.
Speaker B:I had to put a lot of work in for me to get back to be like even grounded with myself to be.
Speaker B:I wasn't in that hole that I dug for myself.
Speaker B:So that's my hustle.
Speaker B:And then I turned with everything that I went through inside of the moments of hustling to get back.
Speaker B:I turned that knowledge into be what I share with the world.
Speaker B:You know, everything I talk about is mainly what I've been through, what I know because I play some part in it.
Speaker B:Either victim, order, predator.
Speaker B:You know, I just, I just, I just get.
Speaker B:I just authentically give me to the world.
Speaker B:Like I don't.
Speaker B:I don't hold nothing back.
Speaker B:I don't like.
Speaker B:And, and my motto for it is if I.
Speaker B:If I gotta accept me.
Speaker B:Oh, if I gotta wake up every day and know who this guy is, I like that.
Speaker B:Even the good things, the bad things, the whatever things.
Speaker B:If I gotta get up and look in the mirror and smile and be happy about him and be thankful that he is still who he is based on whatever the situation is that he's.
Speaker B:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker B:Yeah, I'm.
Speaker B:Hey, I'm still.
Speaker B:Look, look, look.
Speaker A:You made it.
Speaker B:I share exactly that same person with the world because I think it's amazing That I was able to do what I done and to be able to be who I am, why it feels so good to be with that for me.
Speaker B:Why not give it to everybody else?
Speaker B:Like that's what it's for.
Speaker A:And I takes it all in.
Speaker A:I, like, you inspire me.
Speaker B:Like I don't understand people.
Speaker B:Like that's what it's for for me.
Speaker B:Like, I don't.
Speaker B:Like I'm not living life for me.
Speaker B:I don't even want life for me.
Speaker B:I. I just want to be able to be in position to be able to love on my community and.
Speaker B:And.
Speaker B:And continue to allow them to accept me for that.
Speaker B:I don't want to do nothing else.
Speaker B:I don't want to be the guy.
Speaker B:I don't want to be popping.
Speaker B:I don't want to be you feel me?
Speaker B:I want to be popular in the eyes of the people that I help, not in just the people that's out there in the world.
Speaker B:I don't care about nobody else version of what they think about me.
Speaker B:I'm only concerned about what my circle, my community, the people that's allowing me to be a part of their lives in whatever way possible in a given form.
Speaker B:That's the only people that I care about how they feel about me.
Speaker B:So that trying to be the guy and trying to be popping and trying to be seen doesn't matter to me.
Speaker B:I'm trying to be able to be seen by people that are allowing me to be some type of path, positive impact in their life.
Speaker A:Well, listen, you definitely influenced me, and I want to.
Speaker A:You know, I'm always giving, right?
Speaker A:So I want you to reach under your chair because I got something special for you.
Speaker A:Okay?
Speaker A:I like it.
Speaker A:I get.
Speaker A:Can you feel it?
Speaker A:Oh, there you go.
Speaker A:You got the good bus down from Dr. St. And I gave you from a hoe to a CEO.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Feel me?
Speaker A:You got your book too, with your version.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:That's how we roll.
Speaker A:That's how we roll.
Speaker A:That's how we roll.
Speaker B:I appreciate this.
Speaker B:Of course.
Speaker A:Of course.
Speaker A:So listen, one thing.
Speaker A:Always give a boss what a boss deserves.
Speaker A:And to me, that is luxury.
Speaker A:And that's what my.
Speaker A:What I stand on is be with luxurious fostering.
Speaker A:So I just.
Speaker A:I just thank you.
Speaker A:I'm grateful you came.
Speaker A:You told your story on turning your hustle into a legacy, y'.
Speaker A:All.
Speaker A:We gonna end that with unk.
Speaker A:You wanna say one last thing to the camera?
Speaker A:And we out, man.
Speaker B:I want to tell you that I understand that battery's going down, but I also want to tell you that just being able to use your platform for the purpose and reasons that we use it for today is a blessing.
Speaker B:But for you to go out your way and do something as amazing as this, for me, is heartfelt.
Speaker B:I don't want to crack on camera, but.
Speaker B:No crack on camera.
Speaker B:When you the giver, you don't never expect to receive, man.
Speaker B:You feel me?
Speaker B:So, so when you receive, you be.
Speaker A:Like, like, damn, somebody give a damn.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:Or, or, or just now you get to feel what you give to everybody else.
Speaker A:I like that.
Speaker B:Without being expecting to somebody to give.
Speaker A:It to you or nothing.
Speaker B:Like, I appreciate that.
Speaker A:Of course.
Speaker A:We love you.
Speaker A:Thank you, y', all for tuning in.
Speaker A:Be with podcast, shout out your girl.
Speaker A:Turning hustle into a legacy.
Speaker A:We'll holla.
Speaker A:Love you, aunt.
Speaker B:Thank you.