This episode is a powerful and important conversation exposing the increasingly devastating impact of the conflation between gender identity theory and the experience of living with gender dysphoria.
In this episode, Sasha & Stella speak with Rose who wishes to remain anonymous. Rose is the mother of two young sons and lives in the United States. In August of 2022, she published the piece “True Believer” on the Parents with Inconvenient Truths around Trans (PITT) Substack. She wrote “True Believer” to share her story and help other parents and concerned adults who are struggling to understand the dynamics underneath the current phenomenon of transgender children. Rose’s first-hand perspective is unique in that she and her partner were "affirming parents" — they thought their four-year-old son could be transgender and chose to socially transition him, only to realize they were wrong.
Rose’s story is incredibly important because, at its core, it’s a simple case of the best of intentions garnering devastating impact. This is a humanized account of the pain, distress, confusion, fear, and regret that so many families are facing in the wake of doing what (“experts” told them) was best for their child.
Rose’s original piece published on Parents with Inconvenient Truths around Trans (PITT) Substack:
“True Believer” — https://pitt.substack.com/p/true-believer
Rose’s appearance episode of Triggernometry podcast —
Rose’s follow-up piece on PITT provides further reflections on the Triggernometry interview:
“A Return to Reality” — https://pitt.substack.com/p/a-return-to-reality
Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers
by Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Maté, MD https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Your-Kids-Parents-Matter/dp/0375760288/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1680628544&sr=8-1
Neufeld Institute — https://neufeldinstitute.org/resources/free/
A Map of Detransition Island — https://genspect.org/infographics/#island
“Dear Theodosia”, from Hamilton (the Musical by Lin-Manuel Miranda)
“The Way Forward Is with a Broken Heart” — Quote/Book by Alice Walker
“Everyone here is doing the best with the information they have. We need to make room for all of these stories.” — Sasha [2:56]
“We wanted to create a world where people can be who they are so they can express their gender identity but we still had that grounding in male and female.” — Rose [21:43]
“So much of this debate and the culture war and this information war and these dynamics that is this zeitgeist that we're living in, I think if I could boil it down to one thing, it is this unwillingness of people to accept what they cannot change this inability to really feel that futility.” — Rose [49:18]
“I think there's a vulnerability for these four-year-old boys in our current culture with the parents and institutions. I think there's something developmental there that we don’t totally understand.” — Rose [58:30]