Your opinion means nothing.

Your opinion means everything. 

Your opinion can build relationships. 

Your opinion can destroy relationships.

Have you ever noticed how attached you can become to an opinion?

Is it benefitting you and the people around you?

Are people who don’t have an opinion spineless?

Are people who have an opinion strong and valuable?

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Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

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your host Aurora, life coach and companion on this beautiful

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journey called life. And I'm very happy to be spending some

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time with you today. It is Thursday, Thursday, January 20.

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In the year 2022. Sorry, I had to think for a moment here, then

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2022. All ready. I hope you're doing well. I hope you feel

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safe. I hope you can appreciate the things that you have in

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life. And I hope your mind is open your heart is warm. Thank

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you so much for being here with me. I totally appreciate every

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moment I'm spending with you. When I connect on Facebook with

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you, when I have you here commenting or giving me feedback

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or sending me a review or sending me a coffee or donation,

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you are endlessly precious. And I know you are precious to many

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important people out there as well. Today, I want to talk

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about your opinion. We all have opinions, right? And if not

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during COVID, then maybe before already, but latest, with all

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the COVID stuff going on. We realize how constructive and

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relationship building opinions can be. But we can also see how

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destructive it can be to have a strong belief or opinion. The

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more fanatic we become with an opinion, the more radical our

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life gets. Because we reject people who don't think the same

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way and we embrace celebrate praise people that think exactly

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the same. But as you can hear maybe already in my voice and

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the tone of my voice, it is very black and white. Whenever we

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have an opinion, we reject some and embrace others. Of course it

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all has nuances. Yeah shades of Gray's with every opinion we

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have with every judgment we have, it depends who we are

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talking to. When we're standing in front of a person who's

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really radical we tend to be radical to when it's a person

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that is a little bit more open minded, we tend to be a little

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bit open minded to that's a little bit how it works. But if

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we tend to get too attached to our opinions, I feel we pull

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suffering into our lives. No matter what it is. No matter

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what you have a strong opinion about. You will create division,

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separation, and that only can lead to pain. See, what I've

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learned in life is that there is not one way to get to a

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destinations. There's always 22 million ways to get to a

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destination. And this is what we have to learn on this journey

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called life we have to learn. First of all, that every person

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has a different experience, person perception of life. And

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second of all that, yes, we can have an opinion we can have a

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belief, an unshakable opinion. But there's always an opposite

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side there's always another side to the coin. There's always is

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at least two sides. And when it comes to look at parties,

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like a husband and a wife, fighting, and when you look when

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you watch them. And when you hear them out separately, they

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will talk the truth, their truth from their perspective.

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And they might be both truthful and honest with you. But if you

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put them back into one room, the one will be pointing out to the

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other that he or she is lying. Because they have a different

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perspective on things. And this is so incredibly fascinating to

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me. When you look at people who observe an accident or something

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that happens on the street, and how they would describe it.

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Sometimes people describe a situation in such a different

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way. And you've been there with them standing maybe even next to

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them. And you are like, thinking to yourself, What? What is that

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person talking about?

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This is not at all what happened. Next time you watch a

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movie with somebody, I want you to ask them questions about how

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they perceive that movie? What was your favorite character was?

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What was your favorite scene?

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What touched you the most? What scared you? What made you feel

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really uncomfortable? Did you notice these couple of details

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here? Oh, you discovered something else in a movie that I

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was watching with you next to me. And I didn't even pay

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attention to that detail. I love watching movies. Yes, by myself,

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but even more with other people and discussing it. Because I

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learned so much about the same movie. Then if I had watched it

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by myself, and you know, when it comes to relationships, when it

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comes to friendships, we often forget that yes, the person

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loves you, the person is with you. The person is choosing you,

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the person is choosing to spend time with you. But they have

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their totally different internal experience and world and map of

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the world you can say. And as a coach, this is so incredibly

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fascinating. Because yes, every person is different. Every

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situation is perceived differently. Every pain is

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perceived differently. A person could tell me oh my god, I'm in

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so much pain. And I'm I'm going through this right now. And you

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know, in an instant my brain would go into Oh yeah, I've

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experienced that too. And this is probably how the person is

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feeling right now how I felt back then in a similar

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situation. But this is so wrong to do this is what a coach a

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therapist, I'm a physiotherapist as well. Can cannot allow him or

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herself to do. If I compare past situations to a present

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situation and involved with other people involved. Sorry, my

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English sucks today. This can be painfully dangerous. I can miss

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out on additional information. Yet our brain is programmed to

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generalize, to distort and to delete information in the moment

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to make things easier to get to a conclusion faster to get to an

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opinion, faster to get to a solution faster. Our brain our

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wonderful little computer up there is doing that on a

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constant to make our life easier. But sometimes it's

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deleting sensitive information that we need To account in that

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we need to count in Yeah. So it is really, really important.

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When it comes to your opinion that you realize, the person

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who's standing in front of you is breathing, the same air is

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standing in the same space. But they have way, way different

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experience in life than you have. And it is perfectly fine

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for them to have a different opinion. And you will see, the

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less you are attached to an opinion because it's really your

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ego, your sense of self, your false sense of self, your, you

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know, ego, trying to make up an identity and trying to find out

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who are you that is clinging to an opinion so desperately. And

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if we would all let go a little bit more of a harsh opinions,

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and know that connecting with a stranger who is of a different

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faith who is of a different opinion, whatever it is, is so

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incredibly precious, to learn to understand, to expand, to grow,

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to step into another person's shoes, is such a sweet and deep

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way to connect with humanity. Not only one person, but the

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whole of humanity. And it will give you such a rich feeling in

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your heart. Such an abundance of love. Because if the person

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who's standing in front of you knows that you really don't want

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to understand them, you really want to know, what is it that's

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going on in your brain? Why are you making these conclusions?

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Why are you making this out of that situation? People will open

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up to you, people will want to connect with you help you be

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there for you. You know, so many times I hear people complaining

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that they feel lonely, that they feel isolated and that human

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beings are assholes and reckless. Yes, they are. I

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totally agree. But we all are as adults and reckless, in some

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situations are we not. But most of the time some of us are just

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trying to survive, to get by. So Allah says just stuck in their

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pain. And I distributing more pain on planet Earth. And I want

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you I want my listeners here to be aware of how precious it is

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to let go a little bit more of your opinion. And to embrace and

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encourage deference. To make it okay, again, to be different to

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think differently. To know that if your brother doesn't agree

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with you, you're not going to make this one little argument

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about him about how he is you're going to see this as a little

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piece of a puzzle. But you will look at him as a whole and see

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that he's genuinely good. He has good intentions. He just wants

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the best for himself and his family just like you. I think

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this is very important. And I'm very, you know, I feel very

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blessed that within my family we have we're very strong

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characters we're very radical. When it comes to our values,

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opinions, our lifestyles and was very, very different. When it

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comes to approaching life, when it comes to approaching problems

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and solutions. Yet we respect each other and we love each

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other more than we are attached to our opinions. And that is so,

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so precious. I thank I thank every day For people,

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understanding other people have other faith, other opinion,

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other lifetime lifestyles. It is really, really important. All

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right, I'm going to let you with this message. Please let me know

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how it goes. Let me know. Yeah, what situations you are

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encountering when it comes to wanting to understand people and

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experiencing strong connections, or maybe even rejection. Some

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people are not there yet. And don't want to connect with you

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don't want to be that open hearted. They still want to be

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mind driven. And that's okay, too. You are on this path. You

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are living a life that you want to be proud of one day, or maybe

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already. And not everybody has to dance along. Be with you on

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that path. People come and go and some people, yeah, have to

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go if they're not in alignment with your values anymore. All

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right. Thank you so much for spending time with me. I value

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your feedback. I value your presence. take really good care

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of yourself. And I will be out there very soon again. Bye bye.