Episode Summary

This confession opens with one of the most striking lines in the entire book: "Caffeine is a gorgeous demon." What follows is a deeply personal account of how caffeine became less of a habit and more of a relationship — one that pulled her away from real love, real life, and nearly everything that mattered. This episode is for anyone who has ever felt emotionally attached to their caffeine ritual.

What You'll Hear in This Episode

• How caffeine tablets replaced emotional support during an unstable home life
• The way addiction spread from one person to another in a relationship
• What it felt like to choose caffeine over a partner — and the devastating consequences
• Why Narcotics Anonymous became a turning point, even when the room didn't take caffeine seriously
• The quiet, steady nature of real recovery and what made it stick

Key Takeaways

• Caffeine addiction can take on an emotional and psychological dimension beyond the physical
• Unstable home environments can accelerate caffeine dependency as a coping mechanism
• Addiction shared between partners creates a compounding cycle that's harder to break alone
• Recovery communities offer accountability even when the specific addiction isn't fully understood
• Healing often looks less like a dramatic moment and more like consistent, quiet choices

Who Should Listen

• Anyone who feels emotionally connected to their caffeine ritual
• People using caffeine to cope with stress, trauma, or difficult home situations
• Partners or friends of someone struggling with caffeine dependency
• Anyone in recovery from any substance who wants to examine their caffeine use

Resources & Links

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• 📖 Confessions of a Caffeine Addict by Marina Kushner
• 📩 Share your own caffeine confession: https://linktr.ee/UnwiredLife
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Her name was Caffeine. Caffeine is a gorgeous demon with vibrant hair, warm skin and wide eyes burning with ambition.

I was snagged by those fish hook lips and knew pulling away would be painful. I would leave pieces of me behind. I would be incomplete afterwards. The separation might not even be worth the pain.

The relationship I had with Caffeine was symbiotic in nature because I let it become that way. Enough time has passed that it is hard to remember that at one point I was the host.

I gave up my academic life, social life, love life and body to that vile seductress. At first it was harmonious. Then the relationship progressed into a routine in which I had to rely on her. I needed her, and soon I became dependent.

High school was the most difficult time of my life. For a nocturnal person like myself, staying conscious through calculus at 8am was quite a feat. I was struggling. My grades were slipping.

Staying awake was the most exhausting, stressful and arduous task I had ever experienced. The teachers were under qualified and soulless. The school was originally built to be a prison and had no windows. I was dry. I was empty.

I needed something. Then one day, a big, beautiful blue beverage truck pulled up to my school. It belonged to a soda company.

It unloaded several humming, glowing beverage machines and I was captivated. The next day, about an hour before calculus, I decided to purchase a 20 ounce bottle of a drink named after a certain Alpine condensation.

It was highly caffeinated. I emptied the bottle in 15 minutes. By the time Calculus rolled around, something was different. Something was new and beautiful. I was awake.

I maintained consciousness. I could focus, converse and not feel completely dreadful.

My transformation was so noticeable that it prompted a friend to remark on my joviality, asking, did you meet a girl or something? You're more alive than usual, especially for calc class. In fact, I had. Her name was Caffeine.

Every day before calculus, she was waiting for me with arms wide open. Yeah, sweet. Smiling and renewing. We played, laughed and danced in the sun. It was good. My grades began to ascend and my social life began to improve.

And then one day, after a particularly late night, I forgot my $25. When I got to school, she wasn't there.

An hour later in calc, not only was I battling a severe Sandman onslaught, but I had one of the most skull grating headaches I have ever experienced. The utter drowsiness, incoherence and headaches continued throughout that terrible day.

I vowed that I wouldn't go another day without my dose it didn't even occur to me that our relationship had become a vice and dependence. I just knew I needed it. I went home and bought a pack of 24 Alpine condensations. That night I had a friend over and by morning the box was empty.

12 Cans apiece. 144 Ounces each. That's too much. I didn't sleep for the rest of the weekend. My friend, on the contrary, did.

Amid his moaning and sleep rambling, we attempted to wake him up, but his body refused. We learned later that my friend experienced what is medically described as a diabetic coma.

He awoke, luckily, on Monday night with a severe headache from malnourishment and and the heavy dose of caffeine. It took him a week or so to finally recover. That was the only warning sign. He needed to find help and stop. But not me.

My reunion with my beloved was just too sweet. The following month, spring break came with new ambitions and new dangers.

After I told the tale of my sleepless weekend, a few friends and I wanted to see just how far we could persuade our bodies to go. We were going to stay up for as long as we could, by any means possible. Keeping in mind that the average person could die after 10 days without rest.

We were, in retrospect, searching for a near death experience. During the first night, we mixed potent cocktails of every local and imported energy drink known to man.

We would slam the mixtures, wait until they were absorbed into the bloodstream, then eat and eat and eat. One friend received a concussion after a solid head injury on a trampoline. But he never complained of any pain.

I got a nosebleed after landing face first on a friend's knee attempting a somersault. I remember laughing and bleeding, but no pain. Day 2. A dolphin brain effect kicked in.

Dolphins have the ability to put one half of their brain to sleep, which is what our brains tried to do. The frontal lobe controlling inhibitions, selective focus, basically the brain's filter went to sleep. Our senses became vivid.

We were seeing and hearing everything at the same time. Our subconscious wasn't filtered either, so that affected us as well. We began saying things that we didn't know we were saying.

We were drooling and shivering. Our body heat fled like a shadow. We were always cold. Day 3. The perspective of time vanished.

This made it difficult for us to determine how long day three lasted. We stopped being goofy. We couldn't form a cohesive thought. We weren't sure why we couldn't just go to sleep, but we just couldn't.

We decided not to drive anywhere. And although no major accidents had occurred, we didn't want to risk it. Our bodies did not have the natural energy necessary to remedy any injuries.

Day 4 I experienced sleep deafness. I would nod off in such a way that I wasn't truly asleep. My body had forgotten how to develop an effective circadian rhythm.

I don't remember being able to recover from this. If I happened to doze off for a couple minutes, or if I slipped into a 14 hour mini coma, I still did not get enough sleep.

Another phenomenon is memories. People can only remember so much.

Many people have difficulty remembering basic everyday events, meals they ate, what they left on at home, and so forth. When you sleep, your memory gets a chance to refresh itself. Especially if one really reviews the day before sleeping.

Your mind gets to reset and restore itself for the next day. Our memories are overloaded and worthless. For me, this is what high school was like. Day by day, caffeine was sucking my mind and body dry.

It consumed every aspect of my life. I even wrote lyrics to a song that demonstrated this all night.

1 Mocha and I fell in love 2 French Vanilla Turtle doves cinnamon and hazelnut Cappuccino frappuccino, Irish creme I tell you what Red bull in a double shot My veins are charged, my head is hot Amped monster jeweled full throttle Concoctions of cranial catastrophes Caffeine capsules by the bottle Jumping screamin, burnin, spinning kamikaze curse beginning Grizzly slammin, bucktooth bashing shovel Swingin sternum twistin artillery in my arteries Thrashin's Awake are we Scabs in our hair Awake are we and if we dare we'll never let our unrest break Awake are we Awake are we Awake are we awake? People forget that caffeine is indeed a drug. It's a mind altering chemical substance. It plays by its own rules. It's uncontrollable.

And if you don't stop it, it will never be stopped. The first year of college was very similar to my high school years.

Time passed harmoniously with caffeine brightly buzzing along in the background, but not interfering. So it seemed. I met a beautiful girl. The love between us grew so immensely that it was too big for just the two of us, and we wished to have children.

So we tried but failed. Eventually we agreed to explore this issue. Medically, my sperm count had plummeted significantly and my sex drive was reduced.

Caffeine provides energy, but grinds at the heart, lungs and arteries, making my task an epic undertaking. You have all this energy, but you have no conduit through which to expend it.

Imagine lying down to sleep at night and finding that your eyelids had fallen off sometime during the day. This was only the catalyst to the demise of my love for caffeine. I could no longer focus in class.

I could no longer play more than five minutes of any sport. Sleep was out of the question. I couldn't love whom I wanted to love. My heart couldn't take it.

By the time I decided to pull the caffeine hooks out, I was consuming 100 ounces or more of caffeinated beverages per day. When you are trying to pull a hook out, there are no painless ways of doing it short of getting a lobotomy. But there are smart ways of doing it.

And one way is to pace yourself. Acting too quickly would be too painful and you would leave too much behind. Acting too slowly would be ineffective.

You'd realize how much pain you were causing yourself and you'd stop. Therefore, pace yourself. Week by week. I dropped 10 ounces, then 10 more. By the third month, I had debilitating headaches.

My body and mind had adapted to their own miserable crutch. And we were paying for its diminishing absence.

I couldn't have completed my repentance without some help, which included the support of others and substitutes for caffeine. I needed friends to tell me that I could succeed, to tell me that they missed who I was, to keep me accountable and to rebuild me.

Also, there are plenty of herbal, organic, less detrimental ways to get energy. Dr. Pinkus Pills, Bumble bars, and even natural sunlight helped me tremendously. At least I was energized.

During my rehabilitation, I had to rebuild my heart, my metabolism, my sleep cycle, my academic status, my social life, and my life in general. The most important ingredients in my recipe for recovery was self discipline and prayer. Caffeine was a subtle enemy.

I surmise that's what made her so lethal. I wasn't aware that I was under attack. And by the time I noticed, I convinced myself I was gaining more than I was losing.

This lie, I told myself, only aided my self destruction. She seemed to be so much help. She only wanted a little from me, then a little more every time after that. Until she had everything.

Until there was nothing else for me to lose. And until my heart, body and self worth were broken. I had a secret weapon, however. A weapon I never told my mistress about.

A weapon of unlimited power. I had hope. And that is exactly what it took to turn me around. Success was sweet.

Currently, my sources of energy are the food I eat, the people I'm around, music and sunlight. I dance my heart out at every concert I go to, my metabolism isn't quite the same and my sleep cycles are disrupted.

But I am going to be a father this June. Right now, the lady caffeine has her hooks only on my past. My future is bright, beautiful and thank God, caffeine free.