Val is buzzing with energy as she reflects on the journey leading up to her birthday, sharing a mix of personal insights and moments of self-discovery. She talks about the rollercoaster of challenges and victories she's encountered over the last year, focusing on the vital lessons of growth and resilience. It's a heart-to-heart conversation about how every step, every stumble, has been a part of her evolving story.

She dives deeper into how our mindset can significantly influence our business success, stressing the importance of nurturing a positive outlook to foster business development. Val discusses the strength found in choices and how interpreting the universe's signals in alignment with our ambitions can pave the way for success. By opening up about her own experiences, she highlights the crucial influence of mindset in steering our professional paths. Moreover, Val warmly encourages her listeners to connect and propose ideas for future podcast episodes, offering a space for collaboration and shared growth. Her message is clear and compelling, inviting her audience to embrace a mindset-focused approach to navigate their own business journeys, inspiring them with her genuine and motivational narrative.

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Val:

Hey. This is Val Selby. And after over 20 years I can track where my mindset has blocked me. If procrastination, imposter syndrome, and a lack of focus have been blocking your biz, the the Vowel Full Volume is here to help you see choices you are making. Get ready to use your expertise to collaborate like a pro as you create the business of your dreams, now is the time to make changes and live your best life. Let's get to it. Welcome. Welcome.

Val:

Welcome. Hello. Oh, goodness gracious. Oh, yeah. If you've been here a while, you probably know that this is like, oh, lordy, lordy, lordy. How is she starting this out? She's so bad. Yep. You're right.

Val:

You're totally right. The squirrels in my brain. Let's see if we can corral even 1 or 2 of them To make a focused podcast. I'm trying to be a very good podcaster and get these things done ahead of time and get them to my team ahead of time so that they're not doing last minute because I don't like being that girl. And then I'm sitting here going, what do I wanna talk about? Okay. I wanna talk about this and this and this and this and this and this and this. And 4,000,000 things later, it's like, oh my gosh, it's been la 30 minutes and you haven't focused on one thing and wow. So I know Parts of why.

Val:

So a major part of why. For 1, happy fat Tuesday. This is going live on fat Tuesday. I Will a one day be in down there for Mardi Gras? It was technically supposed to be this year. But thanks to the NFL Screened up my entire birthday this year, they added those extra games into the season. And so the Super Bowl was not on my birthday this year, And then that meant it was not gonna be in New Orleans because it got moved to Vegas. And I had it planned years ago to go to New Orleans to the Super Bowl and have my friends meet me so that we could all be doing that and then stay for a long time and do the Mardi Gras I'm damn NFL fur fucking up my birthday. It's Fat Tuesday.

Val:

And you might be saying, why is some girl up there in Washington, give a crap about Mardi Gras. She's never been bad. She's never even experienced it. Because for 1, I love the colors. I love the parades. I love the idea. I love the idea of just freaking celebrating and celebrating for why not. Just freaking why not.

Val:

It's always close to my birthday, so let's add another celebration to my birthday month. That sad. That out of the way. Yes. As I've got my beads hanging from my pockets. Yeah. I actually had some friends that were down there that Sent me beads a long, long time ago, so they're authentic beads from Mardi Gras. See, I told you freaking squirrels.

Val:

But I know a big thing about the squirrels right now is the fact that it's my birthday. I'm recording this, and my birthday's in 2 days. Right? I don't know about you. The older I get, the more birthdays just end up being some kind of reflection. And the beautiful thing is it's not a reflection that's negative anymore. You know, previously, I'd be like, oh my god. This this this didn't happen, and this didn't happen, and you're never gonna amount to anything kinda thing. But now it's just like, I'm really working celebrating.

Val:

Val:

And granted, not everything just happened to me, but I'm just going to reflect on me. Okay? So Losing my mother-in-law and all that super fast, switching up so that I'm running the business all by myself, PayPal just totally dumping me for absolutely no reason without a conversation, Switching my LLC, all of this stuff has been so huge. And I'm looking at it going, Wow. 1 year ago today, I was in Vegas because we were celebrating my 50th birthday. We were going to the Pro Bowl. We were there for a week, and we don't usually go there for that long. But I wanted to be there for a week. I just wanted to do Everything and nothing all at once.

Val:

And my husband secretly planned it with the kids, And all of the kids flew down as well. So I'm looking back at last year's birthday and going, wow. I'm so glad I had that time with the family where we were just ridiculous and dumb the entire Hi. We're there. Alright? I mean, just well, we're usually that way when we're all together. That's why my family's amazing. I love them. But we just did anything we wanted, and it was perfect.

Val:

And it's crazy to look back and go, wow. That me didn't know what the fuck was happening in just 2 short months. 2 let's see. February, March, April, May, 3 months. She had an idea. Things were changing. Let me tell you. She had an idea.

Val:

There was some gut feeling already starting by March. By April, for sure, I had Gut feelings going on of some changes, and we were going through things with my mother-in-law already at that point. She just hadn't been Correctly diagnosed dead at that point. So all of that, and I'm looking at it going, how much can change and how much was thrown at me. Like, I mean, even today, I'm working on and I look forward to the point where we're gonna laugh about all this DKIM And DMARC and the SPF, I'm in hell right now trying to get things figured out with multiple programs for some reason because everybody seems with their own freaking codes put into my DNS that my host has to do for me. Yeah. Rant. Rant.

Val:

Rant. I look forward to the point where I can listen to this and just laugh Because it'll be passed. Right? And it'll be done. See? The squirrels. So I really am Sitting here and paying attention, and this is why the squirrels are going rampant because I've got 1 squirrel going over here. Holy shit. Your birthday. Can you remember when we did this and the other one's holy shit? You know, the 2 months you spent with your mother-in-law, as we knew, she was ill and holy shit, all of this that you did with the LLC and holy shit.

Val:

And It's like every squirrel is just running all over the place, like, going my hands are just flying in the air right now of them. I'm saying that. And I just I really want them to all come together, and let's just have a little campfire moment, and let's just pay attention and look at the things I survived and thrived. Right? Like, these are the things that happened and these were the things that I could have so easily sat here Over the 9 months and said, okay. Now what? What the hell now, universe? I so could have easily gone into the huge pity party. I mean, just so many things. When I look at How much did happen in my life in the last year? It's like, holy hell, woman. And the The beautiful thing that I'm looking back on and exactly what I just said, I just want that campfire moment with the squirrels.

Val:

I'm not gonna roast them. I just want them to all come and chill out and have s'mores with me or something. I just want them to chill out for a minute. I can look at it and go, k, because it wasn't all bad. It was just a damn roller coaster. There was never a moment where the roller coaster was just on an even keel. It was always extreme low and extreme high. And I'm not feeling like I'm quite off roller coaster yet, and I really want off the roller coaster.

Val:

And I know I have that power. I understand that, but I am still human. So I'm working on How to get off the roller coaster without just unbuckling my seat belt and jumping because I wanna thrive. So that leads me to really paying attention to the good things that had happened. You know? Like I mentioned, I had so much going on that at any given time, I absolutely could have stopped. I just could have stopped. I Had plenty of legit reasons why I didn't need to do anything on any given day. And instead of taking it like I have in the past as this, okay.

Val:

You know what? We're just gonna go do nothing. We we it's okay. We deserve this. Yeah. Sure. I do deserve this. But you know what? I decided I deserved more. It was a thriving business that I love.

Val:

I decided that my I loved my business more. So it's been really tough at times to push through. And I share this because, I mean, I've got chronic health issues as well. There's just a never ending damn list. Like, if I wrote the whole list down, I'm like, line And you still did stuff this year? Woman, you have, like, given up how many years, and you only had, like, a quarter of that shit going on in your life. So, again, that's why I wanna sit and I wanna pay attention and I want to celebrate the fact that all of this stuff was happening, All of this stuff was coming at me, and for once, I made a choice. I made a choice for me because this is what I want. I know.

Val:

I don't care what all of this shit is coming at me. I don't care. I am not gonna look at it as the sign. Let me I've been talking to clients about this because I could've taken this as the sign of, Oh my god. One more thing in the business. Obviously, I'm not supposed to be doing this. I so could have taken that. And I've been working with clients on that because they're getting signs, and I'm like, you get to interpret the sign as you want.

Val:

If you're looking for the way out, then absolutely. You take that and you're like, okay, well, you know what? I want it out anyways, so I'm out. Or you take a look at it and you're like, you're being tested. You are being tested on how much do you want this. Line What are you going to do to get out of where you're at? Whatever is hitting you upside the head. What are you going to choose? Because it's all about the choices. The universe is throwing signs at us all the time, and it's How we interpret them. It's totally how we interpret them.

Val:

Like I said, if you are already looking for the way out, you will see the signs to get out. Instead for me, I wasn't looking for a way out. Instead for me, I was looking at it. Oh, my gosh. Really? Because no. I am a hell no. I want this and you can shut up and you can go away. Get out of my face.

Val:

You're not gonna work. That's fine. I'll find something else that will work. Total mindset change. So that's what I wanna make sure that I'm sitting and celebrating and and paying attention to how much I mean, I get to celebrate the fact that I have gone through hell and back in so many different ways, and I grew from it. Yes. As you could tell. I mean, it's birthdays.

Val:

Val:

Right? But there have been days already because of yuck going on and me working on getting more healthy that I will sit there and I'm like, okay. You have this goal for the end of the year. Who do you have to be today to get something done towards that goal? And often, it's just that question that I have to ask myself because it's a day where I'm feeling like crap, and I don't wanna do anything. Right? And then I'm sitting there going, uh-uh. No. Because I'm never gonna hit that goal. And then at the end of the year, I'm gonna be like, oh my god. How come I didn't get any of this the Crap done and then beat myself up.

Val:

I don't wanna beat myself up this year. I refuse to beat myself up this year. I will be celebrating again line At the end of next year, my next birthday, I will be celebrating how much I've gone through and how much I grew line And what I've created. So it's yet again why I wanna be sitting there and and corral those scrolls just a little bit. And, honestly, I think what's gonna end up me needing to happen is I will chill out with my husband, and we'll talk about how different to Today is then a year ago and just kinda hatched through it. Then I'm gonna watch a bunch of chick flicks and make him watch chick flicks. He loves that. He absolutely loves that.

Val:

No. I'm sure he'll be on his YouTube, but he'll sit in the room with me. Anyways okay. Hopefully, I did an okay job of getting those squirrels corralled just a little bit. Yeah. It's technically not biz, but it really, really is because I know mindset owns our business. It totally owns our business. And however we decide that we're gonna have our mindset flow and what direction it's gonna go and how we're going to make it improve is how your business is going to improve.

Val:

I know this because I've had to do this. I had to watch it so many times. So, Alright. Let's let that go with that. Next week, I have a guest on, Emily, and she is great, of course, Because every time I bring a guest in, it's just like the person that I need to be hearing from right now. So I'm excited to have a a new person to be collaborating on. And if you wanna be on the podcast, I would love for you to hit me up. Let me know what you wanna chat about.

Val:

And I look forward to collaborating with all of you, so see you later.