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Understanding Core Values and The 7 Fears EP 74
Episode 742nd April 2021 • The Demartini Show • Dr John Demartini
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If you're like most people, you might think your values are things like; honesty, integrity, trust, or some code of morality. These are probably not really your own personal values. Gain a deeper understanding of the difference between social idealisms and how true values are as specific to you as your fingerprint as well as the 7 primary fears that can hold you back and immobilize you, keeping you from realizing the ways in which you are already expressing your highest values.

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You're epistemological yearning to learn is spontaneously in your highest value

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and your teleological meaning and purpose is derived from your highest value.

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So if you wonder why I spend so much time on that is because the very core drive

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of mastery and human behavior.

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Is that. Today I'm going to talk about.

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Your core values and also how they play a role in

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fear and how to breaking through those fears that we might associate

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and helping us empower the areas of our

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life, the primary areas, which I'll outline. So

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for many years, I've been studying human values.

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And when most people think of human values,

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many times they jump to the conclusion that that's all about morals and ethics.

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And there's no doubt that morals and ethics are derived from the study of

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values, which the formal study is called axiology.

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So if you want to go and play with that word with your friends, that's great,

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but it's a study of value and worth, human value and worth.

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What you evaluate and what you value and what it's worth to you.

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So it's an economic, as well as spiritual area of the study.

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And there.

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Has been a term called the core and the crusted values,

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the core and crusted values.

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But when I went and studied values and I think I've read over 400 books on this

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topic and the literature is quite spread and

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it's to be expected because there's different levels

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each of the writers have different levels of awareness.

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And the lowest level of awareness is highly polarized absolutest

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construct of values and the ones that are more broader in minded

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and more aware in my opinion anyway,

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is somebody who has a more universal

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relativistic construct of values. Montaigne,

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who was a French philosopher,

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traveled around the world and tried to find a universally ascended value system

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and was unable to find it,

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and studying values MacIntyre's work you'll see that

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it's basically something that a bunch of idealists that come up with an idea of

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how we're supposed to be, but nobody lives by.

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It's like you're supposed to be nice, never mean, kind, never cruel,

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but then that's not real. You have times when you're mean,

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and you're cruel at times.

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And so I'm not interested in moral hypocrisies to base my

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life on.

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And I don't want to teach you that because it's something you can obtain and it

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will be self depreciative. But I am interested in,

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in looking at how values work in the brain and elaborate on that.

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So if you've got a pencil and paper, you might want to write some notes.

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I have a feeling there'll be something worth here.

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When people think of core,

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they think of the primary things that they're really committed to.

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But when I actually go through and study core values in the literature,

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if you go online and just start looking up core values,

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you will discover absolutely social

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idealisms. Now Kohlberg,

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who was a psychologist and studied the moral

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development of human beings, outlined

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a little stages of awareness and so this, you may want to write:

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the first and lowest moral structure is avoiding pain and seeking pleasure.

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So if something pricks you, or hurts you, whatever, is pain, you'll avoid it.

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And if something is pleasureful or tasty, sweet or something, you'll seek it.

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So bitter and pain you avoid and sweet and pleasure, you seek.

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This is our survival animal nature.

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Literally single celled organisms will avoid toxins and seek tonins,

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avoid pain, seek pleasure, avoid bitter, seek sweet. In fact,

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our first differentiation of a food versus something you don't eat

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was alkaloids where things you avoided and sweets and sugars you ate.

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So mankind human beings out in original nature,

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learned to avoid pain and seek pleasure or avoid bitter,

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seek sweet this kind of thing.

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So our most primitive form of moral structures is avoiding pain and seeking

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pleasure. Then Kohlberg says, then we learn,

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and that by the way,

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that occurs in children from about zero to one years of age.

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And if you notice as a parent,

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you can allow your child to do just about anything the first year,

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until it walks, you know,

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it can pee and poo and you know,

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vomit and do everything and you just kind of deal with it and just giggle it and

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laugh it off sometimes, a little embarrassing and stuff and aggravating,

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but you don't really have a judgment on the child that first year.

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And during that time,

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it learns to avoid and seek according to pain and pleasure and sweet and bitter.

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But when you hit around one year of age and the child starts to stand up,

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all of a sudden, mommy usually comes in and says, 'No. No. Yes. No.'

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It starts putting in these rules to make her have sanity.

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And for the sake of socialization, that's least, that's what it's told,

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but it's really based on the projection of the values of the parent onto the

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child, on what supports and challenges the parents.

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But Kohlberg says that there's a second stage after pain and pleasure,

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and that is the,

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you might say the subordination to individual authority.

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The subordination individual authority, it starts with mothers, then fathers,

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then preachers,

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then teachers and preachers could be any form of spiritual instructor.

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And as we go through that stage,

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that goes on to probably around 12, age 12,

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all the way through elementary primary school, that evolves from mother first,

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because father doesn't really interact a lot at first, then father,

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as it gets three or four years old,

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and then it starts to get to out of the breastfeeding and

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diaper phase, it goes to father and mother.

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And then it goes to preacher when they take them to some sort of religious

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instruction and then teacher at school. And this becomes now,

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they start to inculcate and inject some of the values of people they depend on.

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So they depend on mommy, for sure, without that, there's not much survival.

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They depend on daddy cause he can, you know,

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make a right and wrong for the family in his rules. And what it is,

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is you're now subordinating to a mother's value system that's been developed or

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the father's value system, which developed.

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And then you eventually go onto a preacher,

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because then all of a sudden the mother and father is sitting there listening to

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a preacher and thinking, 'Well,

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that's the values you're doing.' And it's an introduction to socialization.

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And then eventually teacher. And of course, when the teacher starts doing it,

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when you hit up until about 12, you still depend completely on your parents,

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you haven't had your puberty yet,

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you haven't had your yearning for independence exactly yet,

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and so you subordinate in that, and Kohlberg calls that the second phase.

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He actually breaks it up into seven or four phases depending on how you look at

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it. But then the next phase was the subordination to collective authority.

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And this is when peer pressure hits, around age 13,

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you get puberty and you start having your friends becoming more important

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than your parents and you start lying to them and you start sneaking out and you

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start doing stuff that teenagers do. Well, not all teenagers,

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but many teenagers do. And they try to,

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they're trying to find out where their independence is.

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They're not quite able to stand on their own two feet economically so they got

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to go back and forth between fitting into society,

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the peer pressure and also the family.

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And so they're kind of a transition there.

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And then it goes from the local community to, you know, the city,

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then the state, then the nation, and then the world.

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And they move up the dynamics until you're in your forties.

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And then usually about the age that you reach,

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when the people that you had subordinated to you're now the age of it,

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you finally have an identity crisis, a midlife identity crisis,

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because you're now at the age when your parents were and you start to think,

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'Hmm, what's really important to me? What's really priority?

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And what's really my values?' And it's a soul searching introspective stage.

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And then Kohlberg says the fourth stage, so you had pain and pleasure,

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you know, subordination to individual authority,

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subordination to collective authority, and then eventually transcendence.

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And transcendence is when you actually have the courage to be yourself,

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to question authority,

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to question conforming to whatever people are saying and expecting,

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and it's not easy. Most people don't make it ever into transcendence.

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They're stuck in the third phase, sometimes stuck in

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Very few people make it, less than 1%, make it into the transcendental stage,

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where they actually autonomous. Why?

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Because we're frightened instinctfully of being abandoned, abolished,

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removed from the group, and so we have to conform,

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so we have to dress a certain way,

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live a certain way and fit into a certain thing. And we're afraid of not being,

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afraid of being rejected. Fear of rejection is huge.

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we inculcate and inject the values of whoever we depend

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on, whoever we look up to, whoever we admire,

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whoever we subordinate to.

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Now in the process of doing it,

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we found out that the second you subordinate to somebody and inject their

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values, you take those values and then you project those onto other people.

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And you're attempting to live in those values of other people,

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which you can't really do, but you think you're going to do.

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And then you tend to judge people when they remind you of when you're not.

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And so you're now judging people down below when they're not living up to the

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idealism that you're hypocritically attempting to live by.

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And so you hear from your grandma, you know, 'Be nice. Don't be mean. Be kind,

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don't be cruel. Be positive, don't be negative. Be generous,

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don't be stingy.' And one sided idealisms about how you're supposed to be.

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And then grandma actually beats the hell out of grandpa and gives him hell all

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the time and starts yelling and screaming at him sometimes.

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And you see these hypocrisies, these incongruencies,

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and it's confusing because this is what you think you're 'supposed to' do.

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Anytime you hear yourself saying,

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'I should.' 'I ought to.' 'I'm supposed to.' 'I got to.' 'I have to.' 'I must.'

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'I need to.' That's an imperative language of an injected value of some

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authority. And that's an idealism that not everybody lives by,

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in fact, no one lives by it, but you're supposed to live by it.

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And it's just assumed.

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It's like going into a corporation and assuming the corporation has a set of

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values, it's put on a piece of paper,

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but then there's new CEO's and new executives and they

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values.

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And each individual has their own set of priorities and values in their own

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life.

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But they're supposed to fit into this little structure that says on this piece

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of paper, but rarely does that occur.

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I've gone into corporations I've never seen anybody really follow that exactly.

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So that leads me to the first principle here,

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that what people are calling core values in most of the

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literature, and I'm going to say 90 plus percent,

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95% of the core values I see in all the literature,

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you'll look up on the internet and you go start reading books on it and stuff,

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95% of it is not your core values.

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It's the injected social idealisms and the collective

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assumptions and moral hypocrisies that people think you're supposed to live by.

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And so people say, 'Well,

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my core values are peace and honesty and integrity and this and that.' But then

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they're lying to themselves half the time.

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They're not living congruently with their own values. They're living by duty,

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fitting in and fearing rejection and they're all over the place.

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And so I just want to make sure that when you read about core values,

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keep that in mind,

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because there's a lot of social idealisms and you'll subordinate to that and

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you'll pick one out of the blue that's an arbitrary thing that you think, 'Oh,

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that's the ideal I want to live by',

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but that has nothing to do with what's real for you.

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And I'm going to make sure I put that across there because I've been studying

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values for 43 plus years now,

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and doing valuations and value determinations and things

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for many, many years. And I can tell you right now with absolute certainty,

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I mean certainty, that the majority of people,

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when you ask them what their values are or what their core values are,

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it's not what they're living. And so I'm not interested in that.

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If you want to master your life and transcend,

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you have to be honest with yourself. Not that honesty is the value,

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but you have to be honest with yourself in the assessment of what's really

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priority to you. What's really important to you. If I look at it,

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I look at what you fill your space with, what do you spend your time with,

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Spontaneously. Not because of duty, not because what you should do,

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not as something that needs external motivation.

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Anything that needs external motivation is not important to you.

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If you need to be reminded or motivated extrinsically to do what you think is

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important, it ain't important.

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I don't need to be reminded to do research and teaching.

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I do it every single day. But I would need to be reminded to cook and drive.

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But if I thought I 'should be' doing that and I'm not doing it,

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I then beat myself up, because I'm going 'I'm not being what I should be'.

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And I find that this is what most people do.

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They write down a bunch of idealisms about how they think they should be,

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they write them down and call them core values, they don't live by them,

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they beat themselves up, they think they're not perfect yet,

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so nobody's perfect. So this kind of thinking is not what I'm going to promote.

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I don't teach that. It's not the truth about human behavior.

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You have a set of priorities, a set of values,

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there's a culmination of all the judgments and misperceptions you've had in your

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life that are leaving you empty that you're striving to fulfill,

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to reintegrate. I always say that whatever's stored

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that are judgments that have been there for days, weeks, months, years,

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or decades,

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are creating impulses and instincts and epigenetic effects on physiology to

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create habits and character and behavior and where you're headed in life.

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And your hierarchy of values is really a reflection of those voids and the

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values are trying to fulfill those voids, those emptinesses.

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See when you look down on somebody and you're too proud to admit what you see in

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them is inside you, that is a disowned part.

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And when you're looking up to somebody and you're minimizing yourself and you're

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too humble to admit what you see in them is inside you, that's a disowned part.

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And those disowned parts are in a sense deflections and non

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ownership of what you see in the world around you.

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Instead of calling them heroes and villains,

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they're really parts of you that you've disowned and this disownment,

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those emptinesses, those voids of honoring those within yourself,

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is what makes you go and live out, trying to fulfill that.

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That's why you'll automatically go in the direction that will fulfill those

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voids. Now,

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so I'm not interested in what a social idealism is,

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I'm interested in what your life demonstrates.

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Your life demonstrates your core values, your real core values,

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not what people talk about as core values. Cause I see a list,

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I saw a little thing online the other day where 'Pick Your Core Values'.

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Well that's crap. Excuse my expression, but that's just actually crap.

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You don't just artificially just decide, 'Okay,

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I'm now going to do that.' You won't do it.

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That's like artificially doing a new year's resolution when it's not really

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congruent with your real values.

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And it's like picking something because it sounds cool because you're beating

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yourself up.

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Most people are beating themselves up because they're not living congruently and

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then expecting to set up an idealism to feel better about themselves because

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they're feeling self shame.

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I'm interested in what your life demonstrates. That's why on my website,

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drdemartini.com, there's

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a Determine Your Value exercise on there. It's free. It's complimentary.

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If you haven't done it, please do it. It's private.

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Answer it with integrity as best you can, the best you can. I mean,

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you're going to probably do it again.

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I tell people to do it again a week from now, a month from now,

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a quarter from now and every quarter and keep records of it,

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which the computer will do for you. It'll be private, you can look at it,

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but take the time to do it. Look at how you fill your space.

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Look at what you really spend your time on. Look at what really energizes you.

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Look at where you're really going with your money.

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Where's your money being spent? Look at where you're organized.

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Look at where you're really disciplined. Look at what you think about,

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visualize,

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and affirm inside yourself about how you really want your life that shows the

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evidence of coming true, evidence that's coming true, not fantasies. Evidence.

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Look at what you want to converse with other people about and talk about most,

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spontaneously.

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Look at what inspires you and brings tears to your eyes and people that do

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extraordinary things and when you're doing something amazing,

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your tears of inspiration are guides,

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look at what the key goals that you've had,

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the persistent goals you've had long-term that are coming true.

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And look exactly what it is that you can't wait to study and learn.

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And those will indicate what your values are more than a

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social idealism that you think you're going to do, that you don't live by.

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I'm not interested in what you say you want to do.

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I'm interested in what you're doing.

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Because if you set goals and you set priorities and you set objectives and

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intentions and attentions in the direction of what's truly highest on your

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value, you will excel. You will awaken up your power.

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You awaken up your leadership. You wake up your genius,

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you'll expand your space and time horizons.

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You'll give yourself permission to do more.

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You'll have more certainty and belief in yourself and confidence and you'll

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automatically live with eustress and adaptability and resiliency instead of

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distress and phobias.

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See when you're living by your highest values, you, you wake up the forebrain,

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the executive center, and you end up becoming a master of your destiny.

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And that's the real core values, the real true core values,

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not the stuff that I see on the literature out there.

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It's like Paul Dirac the Nobel prize winner says,

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'It's not that we don't know so much,

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we know so much that isn't so.' It's about unlearning half the stuff that we've

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been taught out there.

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I've been involved in the personal development industry and there's a lot of

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stuff out there that's just fluffy stuff. I'm not interested in it,

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I almost have to debunk it because it's distracting to real mastery in life.

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But finding out what you really are demonstrating as a real commitment in life

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and structuring your life according to that makes a huge difference in your

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life, because then you'll walk your talk. You won't limp your life.

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Then you'll do what you say.

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And integrity is living congruently with what you really value.

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It's not an artificial thing you say, 'Okay, I'm going to live by integrity.

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I'm going to live with honesty.' I've never met an honest person.

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Diogenes at the time of Socrates and Plato, he never found,

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he went all over Europe trying to find an honest person,

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living honest all the time.

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And all of our opinions and all of our perceptions are mostly skewed and not

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really always honest. So we can say, we want to be honest,

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but really the most important place to be honest is with yourself about what's

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really important to you. And then instead of having, because if you don't,

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if you're not living by your highest values,

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if you're not fulfilling what's most meaningful,

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if you're not prioritizing your life and living with what's really important to

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you, you're going to have unfulfillment. And as you go into unfulfillment,

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your blood glucose and oxygen goes into the amygdala,

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the subcortical area of the brain,

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which is the animal survival mode and it takes you back,

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Kohlberg's idea of avoid pain and seek pleasure.

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You literally regress if you're not living by priority,

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according to what you really value,

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you regress down Kohlberg's ideas back to avoid pain, seek pleasure,

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and back to primitive survival mechanisms of pleasing parents and fitting into

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society. And that's where conformists,

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Ernest Becker in his 'Denial of Death' had a beautiful text on this,

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it's worth reading if you get a chance, 'The Denial of Death',

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or go online and look at the video on conformity concerning this because

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it'll shock you,

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because most people subordinate and fit in like that and create a collective

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heroism and thinking they're going to be good little citizen fitting in,

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and then they're going to have Bronnie Ware's regrets at the end of their life.

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'Gee, by now I thought I'd be', and 'Oh, I could have done this'.

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But if you're actually an unborrowed visionary going after what's truly

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important to you and prioritizing your life and doing it in a way that serves

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people that you're remunerated and compensated,

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so you can delegate lower priority things you can enhance and empower your life.

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Now when you're not living by your highest values and you're subordinating to

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everybody else and trying to fit in,

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which I think everybody here has had a moment when you've been infatuated with

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somebody and sacrificed what was important to you to be with them.

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Well imagine that collectively and all the people around you and you're

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sacrificing your life away. That's called a lost soul in theology.

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But when you're doing that,

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you activate the amygdala and the amygdala is wanting to avoid pain and seek

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pleasure.

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And it creates a subjective bias mechanism as a survival mechanism

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to try to accentuate, to capture prey and avoid predator.

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So it literally skews and distorts and causes broad generalizations,

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like all good, all bad and absolute belief systems.

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And this is where absolute morality comes in, which nobody can live by,

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but everybody hypocritically thinks they're going to,

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and they point their finger and they got three fingers patched back at them.

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When you do that,

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if you're seeking this pleasure and you're trying to avoid pain,

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you're living in fear.

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And if you're trying to avoid this pain and seek pleasure,

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you're living in fear.

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The fear of loss of that what you seek and the fear of gain of that what you

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avoid is where all the phobias come from.

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So anytime you're not living by your highest values,

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you're going to be trapped in phobias, and in the phobias themselves,

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that's where you have the fear of not being smart enough,

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fear of not being succeeding, the fear of failure,

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the fear of not making enough money, or fear you're going to lose money,

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the fear of losing the respect of loved ones or the people you respect that

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you're intimate with, the fear of rejection by people in society,

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the fear of ill health, death, or disease, or not being attractive enough,

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or procreation and the fear of breaking the morals and ethics of some spiritual

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authority you've given power to.

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All of these fears are by-product of not living by highest values because you

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subordinated to the collective authority,

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injected the values of somebody you don't even know where they come from half

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the time, these ideals.

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I have an exercise in one of my programs where I actually identify when people

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say 'I should', 'I ought to', 'I suppose to', 'I got to',

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and we trace where that originates and what individual that originates or what

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group that originates from. And then they realize,

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'Oh.' Because when people come up to you and say, 'Well,

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you should do this.' I go, 'I should?

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According to who?' I love it when people try to project their idea

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about how I should, and they're not knowing how to respect my values,

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they just project onto me what I should do. You've seen salespeople do that;

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'You should be buying this product, it will help you.' And I go,

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'Well I should? According to who, according to when,

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where?' And people then go, 'Oh.

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I don't even know.' They're not even aware where they get it themselves.

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They're just passing down and parroting a collective authority that has

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maybe no basis in any personal reality for the individual.

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But giving yourself permission to stand strong and identify what's really

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valuable to you.

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And then master the skill of communicating whatever that is in terms of other

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people's values. I've not seen two values that can't be linked,

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even complementary opposite values can be linked and you can still respect and

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communicate what's important to you in terms of what's important to other

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people. That doesn't mean you have to sacrifice and live by duty.

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It just means you want to inspire and inspire and communicate effectively in the

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art of communication with others.

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I love teaching people how to do that because when they do, they go, 'Whoa,

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my relationship just shifted.

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And my relationship with my kid has just changed.' Instead of autocratically

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projecting a value on them and thinking what they should be doing,

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or you trying to live in their values and what you should be doing,

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you're now respecting each other for their own individual values because no two

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people have the same set of values.

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If you're looking for somebody with exactly your set of values,

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you'll be living in the Twilight zone and you might want to look that up if

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you're young.

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But the Twilight zone was a show that was kind of a spoof on some of the

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delusions that people live by in their life.

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But what happens is we automatically,

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we are more fulfilled if we can live congruently and aligned with what we value

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most, and we're more fulfilled when we can articulate that in a way that's also

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helping others fulfill what's their values are, their highest values.

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That way people can be loved and appreciated for who they are.

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We all want to be loved and appreciated for who we are,

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but who we are is our highest value.

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If you take a young woman who's 35 years old and has three kids under the age of

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five, and her highest value is raising that beautiful family and being a mother,

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and you asked her,

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'Who are you?' She'll ontologically give the essence of her being as a mother.

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If you asked me that, I'd say I'm teacher. Whatever your highest value,

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your life and identity revolves around.

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I've gone through that with a well over a hundred thousand people.

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And that's what you'll find. Go prove it to yourself,

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go determine your values online and be honest with the answers.

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Do it a few times, see the pattern to it. And if there's not a pattern there,

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you're lying. If there's a pattern in it and it repeats itself,

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you know you're on track. But if it's scattered all over the place,

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that means you're subordinating to a whole bunch of opinions.

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But if you actually go in there and identify it,

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you will see very clearly that your ontological identity,

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the essence of your being is an expression of what you value most.

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And your epistemological yearning to learn is spontaneously in your highest

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value and your teleological meaning and purpose is derived from your highest

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value.

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So if you wonder why I spend so much time on that is because the very core drive

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of mastery and human behavior, is that. That's why I,

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wherever I go, almost every talk I do, you're going to hear me talk about it.

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I've been studying it 48 years and that distilled it down to that essence.

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And if you don't find out what that is,

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and you keep trying to be somebody you're not,

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you're going to bang your head against the wall, be back in your amygdala,

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live in the seven fears. The fears I've said that I mentioned, and believe it,

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the moment you're in your amygdala and you're living in your fear,

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you're going to be distracted by impulses and instincts.

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The desire for that which is unattainable and the desire to avoid that which is

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unavoidable, which is the source of the passionate suffering that people have,

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instead of an inspired mission.

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I'm interested in helping people inspire their mission and the Breakthrough

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Experience, which I've been teaching 32 years,

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I'm interested in helping people get past their amygdala's,

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out of their animal nature and get into their angelic and real human nature,

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where they're inspired. Where they're really having a vision,

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where they really have a desire to make a difference as a unique individual

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expressing it without having to fit in, to be able to be yourself.

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You want to be loved for who you are, but if you can't fit in,

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and every time you're proud looking down on people, that's not who you are.

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Every time you're humiliated and looking up at people and minimizing yourself,

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that's not who you are.

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It's when you are yourself and you're communicating effectively with somebody

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else who's themselves,

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that both individuals have create a sustainable transactional fair exchange.

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And that's what allows perpetuity of the relationship and in your own life

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fulfillment.

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So unless you have equanimity within yourself and equity between yourself and

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others, living congruently by what you value most,

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don't expect a fulfilled life. Fulfillment is fulfilling the highest values.

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That's what fulfillment means, filling full the mind.

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And that's what we want to import into our mind and awareness the most.

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That's why the young lady who has the three children goes to the mall and she

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spots children's items in the mall. She'll filter it out in the mall,

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she'll then make a decision and she'll buy it and take action on it.

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Whatever's highest on our value is where we are disciplined, reliable,

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and focused and inspired. And whatever's low in our values, we procrastinate,

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hesitate and frustrate. You tell me, what do you want? A disciplined, reliable,

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and focused life that's inspired and leads,

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and basically blazes a new trail and goes after what inspired?

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Kinda like an Elon Musk going off to Mars, if you will.

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Or do you want to be sitting in mediocrity and trying to fit in and waiting to

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see what you 'should be' like and fitting in and being punished

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if you don't fit that and rewarded if you do.

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And the reward is a little carrot thinking in some afterlife construct, no,

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that's not an empowered life.

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So living by your highest values and making sure that you're actually

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concentrating and focusing on that,

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is what the Breakthrough Experience is about, all my programs are about,

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with this message here today is about, your core value,

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the true core values is your highest values,

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top three values of what I call them.

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But they're not truth and honesty and integrity and stuff.

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What is true is when you're true to the answers and look at what it actually is.

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You may find out that your highest value is becoming a gym, a great gymnast,

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and then get an Olympic medal in gym.

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You may find your highest value like me is teaching and researching and

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traveling the world.

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You may find somebody else is raising a family and somebody else is running a

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major business, and somebody else is about building wealth,

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and somebody else is into social causes.

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There's no right or wrong value system. There's none you're supposed to have.

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It's what's true to you.

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And what is really inspiring to you that serves other people.

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And that's the thing.

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And finding out what's really meaningful to you so you can't wait to get up in

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the morning and be, and do, and have that,

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and then doing it in a way that actually serves people.

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So there's a fulfillment,

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because there's no fulfillment if you're just receiving without giving.

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You know, you have a sensory cortex and a motor cortex.

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And motor cortex is for service.

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And the sensory cortex is for the receiving of rewards.

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And so you want both, you want to be able to receive the rewards,

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helping other people get what they want to get in life by you getting what you

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want to get in life. That's not by conforming and subordinating,

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cause you're not going to make a contribution to them.

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The contribution comes from uniqueness.

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I'd rather be number one at being me than number two at being somebody else.

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So if you follow you at what's really high on your values,

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come to the Breakthrough Experience and let me help show you how to do that or

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come online, go online and do the Value Determination or do both.

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But making sure that you are prioritizing your life and filling your day with

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truly high priority things is going to increase the probability of you

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activating your true core values and transcending the major fears that

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hold people back. Again,

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the fear of breaking the morals and ethics of some spiritual authority,

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the fear of failure, the fear of not knowing enough,

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the fear of not making enough money or losing money, the fear of rejection,

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the fear of loss of loved ones, the fear of somehow physical ailments.

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But all of those,

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all of the symptoms of our body and all seven of those areas of her life are

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offering us feedback to let us know whenever we get symptoms in any of those

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areas, and are not having fulfillment in those areas,

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because we're not living authentically congruently with what our core highest

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values are. So when you go read about the core values in the literature,

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beware of the social idealisms.

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Go watch the Ernest Becker's work on conformity online.

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You'll find a little YouTube conformity.

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And please come to the Breakthrough Experience because I can

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actually show you exactly what to do,

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the actual steps on how to transform that and give yourself permission to be an

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authentic unborrowed visionary individual who's a leader being who they really

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want to be. You know,

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I'm a firm believer that if you want to sit there and conform, that's fine.

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But if you want to enorm yourself and expand yourself and give yourself

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permission to do something amazing in the world,

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be extraordinary versus ordinary.

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Then you want to make sure you know what the real core values are,

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not the social idealisms. You won't live in fear. You'll live in inspiration.

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Fear is a feedback to let you know that you're pursuing fantasies,

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that aren't you. And they're going to,

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it's going to do what it can to get you back to being the authentic you,

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and the magnificence of who you are as far greater than all those fantasies you

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might impose on yourself.

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So I just wanted to take some time today to go over that,

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idea of what a core value is versus social idealism, real core value,

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instead of what's being taught out there.

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And then also understand that that's the source.

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Not living congruently with what's really important to you is the very source of

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all the phobias and fears that you end up in your life on.

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So please let me help you get from living by somebody else's world and by

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duty into design. That's why I help people in Master Planning live by design,

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not by duty. And to help you do that. And to help you expand your game.

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I want to take a moment to give you a gift. Each time I do this this week,

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I usually give a gift. And this is one of the most commonly appreciated gifts.

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This is Awakening Your Astronomical Vision.

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This is a live presentation I did in Johannesburg in a planetarium based on

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topic, astronomical vision.

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And I basically showed people how to get past small thinking and allow

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themselves to do something globally. You know,

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if you want to make a difference in yourself,

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you need a vision as big as your community or family, at least.

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If you want to make a difference in your family,

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you need a vision as big as your community.

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If you want to make a difference in your community,

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you need a vision as big as your city.

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If you want to make a difference in the city and be number one in the city,

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a leader in the city, you need a vision as big as your state or province.

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If you want to be number one in the state,

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you need a vision as big as your nation.

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If you want to be number one in the nation,

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you need a vision as big as the globe. And if you want to have a global impact,

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need an astronomical vision. And so this CD,

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this live hour and a half to two hour CD, I am absolutely certain

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if you listen to it, which most people do four or five or six times even,

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is going to help you expand the game. Now with today with the internet,

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all of us have access to the whole world. I always said,

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the universe is my playground, the world is my home,

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every country is a room in the house,

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every city is a platform to share my heart and soul.

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And I'm a believer that deep inside you, you're more of a celestial being,

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having a terrestrial experience than a terrestrial being,

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looking out at the celestial experience.

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I'm going to show you how to have a bigger vision,

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a broader vision so instead of seeing things black and white and you know,

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either good or evil and either black or white where you're trapped and living in

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fears, to neither,

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so you're actually unconditionally loving your life and being inspired by your

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life.

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That's what this CD will help you do and help you have an advantage in business

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and finances and leadership in your life. So just wanted to pass that on,

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take advantage. It's normally $50. It's a gift to you.

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Listen to it and listen to it. Listen to it. I promise you,

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it'll be some gems in there. And thank you again for listening today.

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I look forward to seeing you next week.

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Until then have a fantastic weekend and live by priority. Go online,

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do the Value Determination process,

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take advantage of that and start living by priority.

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If you fill your day with high priority actions that inspire you,

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your day won't fill up with low priority distractions that don't.

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Thank you for joining me for this presentation today.

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