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Raven:Navigating empathic resilience.
Raven:Can you be happy living with a narcissist?
Raven:This is the question I'm going to try and answer today, and if you're
Raven:stuck and you just can't leave yet, for whatever reason, I'm gonna help
Raven:you with some tools on how to live content, maybe happy with a narcissist.
Raven:Because we all know life with a narcissist can be an emotional roller coaster maybe
Raven:on the daily, especially for empaths who you I know inherently absorb and
Raven:feel the emotions of others deeply.
Raven:While the challenges are undeniable, there are ways for empaths to
Raven:maintain your wellbeing and even find moments of happiness within the
Raven:complexities of such relationships.
Raven:So in this episode, we're going to delve deeper into the three main strategies
Raven:that I personally feel would be the way to go , for you empath to thrive.
Raven:Well be content at least while living with a narcissist.
Raven:These can apply to a relationship that may be toxic or needs work, and you're
Raven:just struggling and in a rough patch.
Raven:So I feel like these apply to everything.
Raven:I've applied these personally to my own life.
Raven:In my current marriage when it was really a rough patch.
Raven:And honestly, , I didn't apply them with my relationship with my
Raven:narcissist because I was just so young, naive, not mindful at all.
Raven:, but I think these will really help you with wherever you're at in your life.
Raven:So number one is don't take it personally.
Raven:Easier said than done.
Raven:Right?
Raven:As.
Raven:My husband now would say, relating to being really stressed out by the
Raven:narcissist is like, don't give a fuck.
Raven:I'm like, how do I not do that?
Raven:How do I, I don't understand.
Raven:I don't know how to not care, but this is the key, key steps of helping
Raven:me move forward and out of my slump.
Raven:So it is one of the most important steps to maintain your emotional
Raven:balance when dealing with a narcissist.
Raven:And it's to remember that their behavior, Is more about them than it is about you.
Raven:And so when you're not taking it personally, therefore you're not receiving
Raven:their deflection because their behavior and their gas lighting, it's all about
Raven:smoke and mirrors and how they feel.
Raven:It's not about you.
Raven:It's more than likely you did nothing wrong.
Raven:But they make you feel that because they're feeling insecure or they're
Raven:triggered or they did something wrong that you're trying to call them out on.
Raven:So that narcissistic tendencies often stem from deep seated
Raven:insecurities and a need for control.
Raven:They might use manipulation.
Raven:I know they will.
Raven:Definitely not a might, but you know, we'll put a might in there just in case
Raven:manipulation, criticism, or gaslighting to maintain their sense of superiority.
Raven:As an empath, it's crucial to detach your emotional body from their words.
Raven:Actions and even body language recognize that their behavior is a reflection,
Raven:their own internal struggles, and it's not a reflection of your worth.
Raven:This doesn't mean that you should accept mistreatment, but misunders, but edit.
Raven:But understanding the root of their actions can help you avoid
Raven:internalizing their negativity.
Raven:Number two is to bounce off their guilt from your energy body, bounce it off.
Raven:There's a cute little child's phrase where it's like, I'm rubber your glue.
Raven:Whatever you say, bounce it off me and sticks onto you.
Raven:That's really what should energetically be happening when a narcissist
Raven:is saying things to you because they are trying to get their toxic
Raven:grossness out stuck onto you.
Raven:But you need to become rubber narcissists are known for their adeptness, adeptness,
Raven:edit adeptness at using guilt as a weapon.
Raven:That is their main way of getting at us.
Raven:Guilt.
Raven:Guilt through silence, guilt through lecturing, guilt through yelling,
Raven:guilt through all their toxic words.
Raven:They might twist situations to make you feel responsible for their
Raven:feelings or actions, but it's not your responsibility for how they feel.
Raven:That's their body.
Raven:That's them.
Raven:That's their head and their brain.
Raven:You're not in there, so it's not your responsibility.
Raven:Dear Empaths.
Raven:Being naturally empathic and compassionate, I know that we can easily
Raven:fall into this trap, but to maintain your emotional wellbeing is vital to
Raven:recognize and counter this tactic.
Raven:Setting healthy boundaries is key.
Raven:Learning to differentiate between genuine guilt and manipulative
Raven:guilt tripping is crucial.
Raven:Practice assertiveness by calmly expressing your feelings and needs without
Raven:letting their guilt tactics sway you.
Raven:I go, it's easier said than done, but if you can practice, practice, practice,
Raven:you will find that you are testing their love for you, that you are testing
Raven:their willingness to grow and change.
Raven:And if they can't grow like you are and change, then they will be soon.
Raven:Or in the near future in a chapter in your life that you're gonna close the book on.
Raven:But remember for now, your feelings are always valid and you have the
Raven:right to stand up for yourself without feeling guilty about it.
Raven:And the last and the third one that's really crucial is to relax
Raven:your fight or flight instincts.
Raven:Living with a narcissist can trigger the fight or flight response.
Raven:So much so that you start to develop these autoimmune diseases, which can
Raven:lead to heightened stress and anxiety.
Raven:Now, I read an really interesting book by Anthony, Dr.
Raven:Anthony Williams.
Raven:Oh, he's not a doctor by Anthony Williams.
Raven:He's a medical medium, and that's what his book's called Medical Medium.
Raven:If you haven't read it, I would highly recommend checking, checking it
Raven:out, reading it, because we all have these things, viruses in our bodies
Raven:that we've picked up as children, which is good to boost our immune
Raven:system, but some are really bad.
Raven:And it's the E B V virus and it actually lays dormant in our
Raven:body, in our nervous system.
Raven:It loves our nervous system.
Raven:It burrows deep into our nervous system, and then it lies dormant.
Raven:So when we get, we get a flare up is when we get stressed,
Raven:fight or flight or triggered.
Raven:And when you're living with a narcissist every single day, you are triggered and
Raven:in fight or flight every single day.
Raven:And so that virus awakens, it becomes alive, it, and it transpires
Raven:into a whole bunch of different illnesses such as, , celiac disease.
Raven:, Lyme disease and
Raven:the other one that affects your nervous system.
Raven:Ms.
Raven:Multiple sclerosis.
Raven:All of these are triggered from stress and toxins in our environment
Raven:and in our food we're eating.
Raven:But also in our bodies.
Raven:So all of us will say these quote unquote mystery illnesses or autoimmune diseases,
Raven:is the fight or flight activating the virus, the E B V virus in your body.
Raven:Just a thought.
Raven:I'm not gonna say it's conclusive, but it's really makes a lot of sense to me.
Raven:And so I, I did the cleanse that was in that book, and so yeah, I would
Raven:highly recommend you explore it.
Raven:I'm now taking the herbal supplements and teas because as you may have
Raven:known or may not last year, I had two skin cancer diagnoses in the same
Raven:year and I'm like, what is going on?
Raven:Right?
Raven:What's happening?
Raven:So, and I have been involved a lot in.
Raven:This kind of stressful process of like interacting with a few narcissists
Raven:in my life, taking it all in and then sharing it with you on the podcast.
Raven:, I feel like I haven't had a lot of that stress fight or flight, but I think the
Raven:stress of, you know, trying to control and make life perfect for my children
Raven:last year might have been a trigger.
Raven:So anyways, I digress with that.
Raven:That that's triggering living with a narcissist.
Raven:This is maybe the why, right?
Raven:You're like, why?
Raven:Why do I have this autoimmune disease all of a sudden
Raven:because I'm with a narcissist?
Raven:That doesn't make any sense.
Raven:That's not scientific.
Raven:Well, I just gave you the science behind it.
Raven:So you don't, you don't like, oh, well the narcissist is causing my illness.
Raven:It's not really exactly that simple.
Raven:So empaths with your heightened sensitivity.
Raven:You might find it challenging to remain calm in the face of a
Raven:narcissist, aggressive behavior or emotional manipulation.
Raven:And I understand.
Raven:That's fine.
Raven:I get it.
Raven:And we explode because we don't wanna keep tolerating and putting up with
Raven:their bss, and then we explode and then they call us out as the abuser
Raven:because we've all hasn't exploded.
Raven:And now we're internalizing the guilt and the frustration and the shame of it all.
Raven:And all of that's also negative, triggering emotions, triggering
Raven:all of these toxins in our body.
Raven:So practicing mindfulness and grounding techniques can
Raven:really help you stay centered.
Raven:Deep breathing, meditation.
Raven:My personal favorite is yoga, because you're kind of doing both.
Raven:You're moving and you're, you're squeezing out all the toxins in your body.
Raven:While breathing and moving the, your body and your mind, it's
Raven:like a moving, moving meditation.
Raven:It's perfect.
Raven:I love it.
Raven:And my Akashic record reading shared with me that that's the best for me
Raven:personally to help heal self-care activities, maybe such as eating
Raven:properly, doing a cleanse, um, watching what you put in your body or on your
Raven:body, taking baths with an Epsom salt.
Raven:Getting outside, walking, doing an activity, getting together with
Raven:groups, maybe a, a book club or a garden club or something of the
Raven:sort to help you fill your cup up.
Raven:It can reduce the impact of your fight or flight instincts, and if you start to
Raven:kind of feel like your fight or fight is welling up or starting to trigger because
Raven:you're in the house with a narcissist.
Raven:Put on some headphones, put on this podcast or some calming music that
Raven:helps you relax and take a walk.
Raven:So instead of reacting impulsively, these, all of these techniques I
Raven:just mentioned allow you to respond thoughtfully and maintaining your
Raven:emotional equilibrium and protecting your overall wellbeing, which is so crucial
Raven:when you're living with a narcissist.
Raven:Thriving as an empath in a relationship with a narcissist.
Raven:I think thriving in is, is an ideal word, however, thriving as an empath,
Raven:doing your thing, letting your light shine still with a narcissist.
Raven:It's undoubtedly a complex journey, and I think a high aspiration.
Raven:I think you can achieve contentment.
Raven:Maybe, and still when you feel contentment, you're gonna feel like
Raven:you're settling, but that's okay.
Raven:When you're ready, the time will come, or that chapter
Raven:will be done of being content.
Raven:However, by implementing these three strategies we just talked about, by
Raven:not taking their behavior personally, asserting your boundaries against
Raven:the guilt trips, and managing your fight or flight responses through
Raven:mindfulness and self-care practices.
Raven:You can create a healthier emotional space for yourself while you plan,
Raven:save money and figure out your next chapter in life to transition out
Raven:away from living with a narcissist.
Raven:I personally don't think that you could ever truly be happy under the fog and
Raven:the darkness of narcissism because it's.
Raven:Beyond the person, right?
Raven:It's deeper, it's bigger, it's heavier, but maybe content just for a time.
Raven:I'm gonna say not your whole life, but remember, your
Raven:empathic nature is your strength.
Raven:You have the power to find happiness and resilience even in the most
Raven:challenging of circumstances.
Raven:Remember that.
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