Artwork for podcast The Modern Mommy Doc Podcast
"It Takes a Village" Looks a Lot Different These Days—with Gabby Slome
Episode 15014th December 2023 • The Modern Mommy Doc Podcast • Whitney Casares, MD, MPH, FAAP
00:00:00 00:31:57

Share Episode

Shownotes

About the Episode

Gabby Slome, CEO and Co-Founder of Cooper, and Dr. Whitney talk about the pressure moms feel to do parenting “right” and how unrealistic (and ultimately damaging) that is for parents and for kids. If you want to be an effective parent, it’s all about paying attention to who your individual child is and to the five major parenting “must dos:”

1. Be sensitive and responsive.

2. Model self-regulation.

3. Set limits for yourself and your kids.

4. Allow space for unrestrained skill development.

5. Support internal motivation and resilience over external motivation.

6. Develop healthy routines.

About Our Guest

Gabby is the Co-founder and CEO of Cooper, a parenting mecca offering parents (and parents to be) with the tools and resources to build their parenting muscle and become the parents they want to be. Cooper offers on demand access to leading experts in child development and likeminded parents, 24/7. Group sessions, live events/workshops and “always on” one-on-one support are spearheaded by top tier experts including PhD’s, educators and licensed clinical social workers with decades of experience. Cooper’s mission is to equip parents with more effective ways of seeing and solving parenting challenges at home.

Doing it All — Available Soon!

Pre-Order My New Book: Doing it All: STOP OVER-FUNCTIONING and Become the Mom and Person You're Meant to Be

Discover how to stop doing it all and start doing what matters with this step-by-step guide to reclaiming your life as a working mom, written by an expert in maternal and child health.

Today’s working moms are burnt out, overwhelmed, and just plain stuck. Caught amid the endless, conflicting demands of caring for their families, hustling at work, managing their households, and a million-and-one other tasks, chores, and responsibilities, it’s no wonder mom rage and mom guilt are at an all-time high. Working moms feel like they’re responsible for everything, but nothing they do matters. They are doing it all—but getting nowhere.

This is a feeling I know well. A practicing pediatrician and mother of two daughters—including one with special needs—I tried to do it all for years…until one particularly bad week brought me to her knees, and then to a revelation: I couldn’t wait years for the systems of inequality and cultural pressures women face to change, I needed a plan to fix my life now. A plan that would help me stop over-functioning, stop blaming myself, and start creating a life that was centered on me. My values, my priorities, my vision of a purposeful, aligned life. Years later, I'm living my centered life and now I want to help you do the same.

In Doing It All, I share my blueprint for achieving a centered life as a real working mom with real working mom problems. This is not about achieving a dazzling fantasy life of ease, wealth, and perfection, but a realistic life that is purposeful, organized, and aligned with your personal values. A life where you’re able to prioritize what really matters and where everything—even laundry—has its place. Work calls? Yep. Time with your kids? Absolutely. Time for yourself? A top priority (yes, you read that right!).

This has nothing to do with manifesting positive vibes. You won’t find a single affirmation here. Instead, you’ll discover a practical framework, step-by-step plan, and over forty targeted exercises, prompts, and activities to help you:

  • Create a vision of your life that is centered on your values and goals and then break that vision into actionable priorities so you can start making it a reality. 
  • Implement systems to deal with the annoying-but-necessary “have-tos” in your life quickly and efficiently. 
  • De-clutter your home, your calendar, and your mind of meaningless, burdensome junk 
  • Develop equity in your relationship with your parenting partner 
  • Create and maintain boundaries around emotionally laden calls on your attention. 
  • Give your kids what they need to be healthy, happy, and successful—without giving away too much of yourself. 
  • Prioritize your own mental health and emotional well-being with intentional scheduling and rest 
  • And more! 

Featuring powerful personal stories from real working moms, as well as quotes and interview excerpts from parenting experts, medical professionals, and mental health advocates, Doing It All meets working moms where they are, recognizes the personal and systemic challenges they face, and offers solutions that really work. It’s time to stop merely “surviving” motherhood. Join me and thousands of other working moms across the country and discover the tools, systems, and support you need to parent, work, and thrive in your daily life.

Follow

Chapters