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Which Lie Is Holding You Hostage
Episode 35127th March 2023 • The Grief Code • Ian Hawkins
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Episode Summary

In this episode, Ian is perplexed as to which lie you keep telling yourself and why it has such a strong hold on you.

  • Learn why you keep yourself stuck because you keep telling yourself a lie. 
  • Understand the sequence and narrative in which you find yourself trapped.
  • Acknowledge that knowing the truth is the only way to break free of the deception you've been telling yourself.

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Ian Hawkins is the Founder and Host of The Grief Code. Dealing with grief firsthand with the passing of his father back in 2005 planted the seed in Ian to discover what personal freedom and legacy truly are. This experience was the start of his journey to healing the unresolved and unknown grief that was negatively impacting every area of his life. Leaning into his own intuition led him to leave corporate and follow his purpose of creating connections for himself and others. 

The Grief Code is a divinely guided process that enables every living person to uncover their unresolved and unknown grief and dramatically change their lives and the lives of those they love. Thousands of people have now moved from loss to light following this exact process. 

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Ian Hawkins 0:02

Are you ready, ready to release internal pain to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfillment and contribution to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it and what to do next. Before we start by one request. If any new insights or awareness land with you during this episode, please send me an email at info at the Ian Hawkins And let me know what you found. I know the power of this word, I love to hear the impact these conversations have. Okay, let's get into it.

the truth can see you're free. You need to recognize which lie is holding you hostage. What a great quote. Great quote. And it's well worth pondering that question what lies holding your cost holding you hostage holding you captive? We keep telling yourself this is not true. Where are you keeping yourself stuck. Because you keep telling yourself something to convince yourself that everything's okay. That you'll be fine. That you've got plenty of time that you'll get to it when you get to. This is going to keep you stuck. And when you feel stuck we got that repeating pattern that feels all too familiar. Important thing to remember is trying to push yourself or force yourself past that is not gonna work. You might experience some short term relief from the pushing but you just can't unravel, unravel this pattern. And you know that's true. Because you've tried before. It's time to flip the script to rewrite the story and create an all new pattern, a pattern that moves you forward to the future that you want. And quickly, because when you rewrite and rewrite the story, everything accelerates. This is what we do at every single session of the security training group program that I do. And my clients love the shift because they feel in control of it. They get through wrote the story, or anyone else themselves. Whether the truth you're searching for is a physical or a mental or emotional or financial security, you can absolutely rewrite the script of your life. Now I know this pain and frustration because my growth started with a quest for financial security. But it turns out what I actually wanted and needed was security in all of those areas. And that's where the journey took me first starting with wealth. And then realizing what I actually needed was the physical, mental emotional security. to back yourself, like I've been doing a lot lately. Want to remind you, you can do it. I know you can do it. And I'm gonna share some steps. So first step, recognize the pattern and the story

that's keeping you stuck

except that, except that is a lie. You're telling yourself rewrite the story. And then take action that's aligned to your new story. To recognize the pattern pattern that's keeping you stuck. Come to a level of acceptance that you're telling yourself a lie. Somewhere there you're not being completely honest with yourself. Have a look at the story that you're telling yourself in your head and rewrite it and put pen to paper journal another key writing that story. This is how it's now going to be and then when you get that nudge to take that inspired action You just know there's action you need to take, then take it. Take it towards your new story and watch your new story become a reality. I hope you enjoyed this episode of The Grief Code podcast. Thank you so much for listening. Please share it with a friend or family member that you know would benefit from hearing it too. If you are truly ready to heal your unresolved or unknown grief, let's chat. Email me at info at Ian Hawkins You can also stay connected with me by joining the Grief Code community at Ian Hawkins forward slash The Grief Code and remember, so that I can help even more people to heal. Please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform