Today's episode is a celebration of gentleness, healing, and the extraordinary
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:bond between humans and animals.
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:We're joined by Ellie Laks, the founder
of The Gentle Barn, a sanctuary known
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:worldwide for its rescued animals, cow hug
therapy, and the life-changing experiences
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:it offers to visitors of all ages.
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:Ellie's new Macmillan picture
book, Gentle, gorgeously
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:illustrated by Jennifer A.
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:Bell, tells the true story of John
Lewis, a sick baby calf she rescued
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:and raised inside her home, who grew
into a strong, loving cow that now
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:comforts guests with his calm presence.
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:Ellie reminds us that gentleness isn't
a weakness, it's a strength, and today
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:she's here to show us how rescued animals
can help children and adults navigate big
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:feelings, fear, loneliness, and change
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:Hi, Ellie.
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:Welcome to the show.
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:Ellie: Hi.
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:Thank you for having me.
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:DIxie: Sure.
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:I'm excited to learn
about The Gentle Barn.
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:I'm hoping that we can discuss the idea of
being gentle, of course 'cause you do have
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:your new book that just came out Gentle.
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:And so- Yeah … I would like
to start at the beginning.
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:The Gentle Barn is beloved across
the country, and your work has
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:been featured everywhere, NBC,
local LA news, national outlets.
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:But before all of that,
it started with you.
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:Can you take us back to that moment
you knew that you needed to create
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:a place like The Gentle Barn?
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:What was the spark?
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:Ellie: So the spark happened very early
in childhood when I was seven years old.
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:And I spent my early years playing
in the lakes and woods by my house,
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:playing with the bunny rabbits, the
turtles, the ducks, the butterflies.
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:They were my friends, and I felt
very safe in nature with animals.
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:I felt like they truly saw who I was.
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:And what I noticed was that the
people around me didn't love
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:animals the way that I did.
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:Sure, yeah, it's nice to pet a puppy
dog, but it's-- they didn't really
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:hear them and see them quite the
way that I did, and it confused me.
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:And so I remember saying when I was very
young that when I grew up, I was gonna
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:have a big place full of animals and
show the world how beautiful they are.
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:And I thought that if I could grow up
and just bring all the broken, hurting,
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:lonely, tired animals home to me,
restore them to health, and then we would
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:work together to help hurting humans.
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:And that was my little dream at seven.
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:And life took me through its
twists and turns, and I went
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:through a lot since seven to when
I finally started The Gentle Barn.
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:But the idea of The
Gentle Barn never left me.
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:It was something that I dreamed
of as I drifted off to sleep.
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:It was something that I doodled on
pads of paper while I was working.
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:And I didn't know exactly how
to do it, so it, it's remained a
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:dream until twenty-seven years ago.
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:I was doing an errand in the San
Fernando Valley, and I discovered a
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:petting zoo I had never seen before.
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:And very morbidly curious,
why did it smell funny?
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:Why were there so many people there?
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:Why did it feel dark?
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:So I found myself pulling over
and going into that petting
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:zoo, and what I discovered
there absolutely broke my heart.
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:Not only was it full of animals that were
suffering deeply, but it was also full
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:of humans that literally could not see
the suffering right in front of them.
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:They completely ignored
it, and it blew me away.
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:So I ended up running for the door,
and blocking the exit was a very old
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:goat that looked like she was gonna
die any second, and she asked me for
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:help, and I said that I would help her.
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:So I found the owner and said,
"Hey, can I have that goat?"
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:And she said, "No."
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:And I said can I n-- can I buy her?"
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:And she said, "No."
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:And I said I'm just gonna
stay here till you say yes."
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:And I stayed there for twelve days.
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:And finally, on the 13th day,
she let me have the goat.
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:I brought her home.
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:I got a mobile vet to come and remove
her tumors, trim her overgrown toenails,
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:and teach me how to massage her
deformed legs so she could walk again.
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:And in a few months, this goat was
running and bouncing happily all over
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:my backyard, and it was the single
greatest feeling I've ever had in my life.
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:I knew it was what I was born
to do, and I had to do it more.
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:So I went back to the petting zoo
and brought a whole bunch more of
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:dying animals home, and shortly
realized I had started my dream.
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:So that was 27 years ago.
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:DIxie: Wow, that's a beautiful story, too.
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:I can tell that you're quite empathetic.
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:Do you feel that you sense what the
animals are feeling or intuitively
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:know how these animals feel?
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:Ellie: Yeah, ever since I was…
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:ever since I can remember.
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:I don't remember a time in my
life that I wasn't this way.
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:./ I'm very intuitively connected to animals.
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:When I was a very small child, I would
hear orphaned or injured animals literally
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:call me from the woods, and I would go
out and find them and bring them home.
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:I could always…
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:When I was at friends' houses
their dog would be like,
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:"Hey, my water bowl's empty.
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:Can you help me out?"
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:Or, "Hey, I really gotta pee.
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:Can you let me out?"
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:And it just…
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:I always felt very intuitively
connected to what animals were
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:saying, what they needed and wanted.
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:DIxie: Yeah, I definitely understand that.
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:I do believe there truly are
some of us that can pick up on
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:that, and we know what they need.
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:They come to us.
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:Just like if you ever see, I
know with me it's like the cats
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:will find us when they need help.
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:And it's like they know.
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:They know who to go to
when they need help.
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:Ellie: Absolutely.
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:Absolutely, and they send their friends.
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:They're like, "Hey, go to that house.
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:She'll help you."
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:It gets around, for sure.
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:DIxie: Yeah.
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:That's absolutely 100% true.
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:It's like you get- … a big sign
above your house, "Go to that place."
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:Let's talk about John Lewis.
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:His story is the heart of
your new picture book, Gentle.
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:How did you first meet him, and
what made you realize that he needed
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:more than traditional rescue care?
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:Ellie: So I wanna say that The Gentle
Barn has existed for the last 27 years,
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:that we have two locations, one in Los
Angeles and one in Nashville, Tennessee.
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:We've rescued thousands of animals
over the years, and rescuing John
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:Lewis, I think, was one of the
most extraordinary and remarkable
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:rescues that we've ever done.
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:We found him inside a slaughterhouse.
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:One of the remarkable things that my
partner Jay does, he's also the CEO
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:and co-founder of The Gentle Barn,
he establishes amazing relationships
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:with owners of stockyards, auction
houses, and slaughterhouses so that
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:when someone is born there or too sick
to stand, the relationship will warrant
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:him to be able to go and get that
animal instead of them being destroyed.
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:And so we were told about a calf that
was born inside a slaughterhouse, and
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:we were able to save his life and bring
him home to The Gentle Barn, but he
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:was so incredibly sick with pneumonia
that we weren't able to lower his
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:temperature in the 106-degree LA weather.
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:And so Jay and I looked at each
other and we're like we have
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:to move him into our house."
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:And so just like that, we scooped
him up, moved him into our house.
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:I moved downstairs to become
his mom, to be with him 24/7.
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:My dog Sky came with me, and the three
of us spent literally every day and
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:every night for nine months together.
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:And because of the love and the
gentleness and the friendship, he
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:recovered and of course, great vet care.
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:He recovered, and he made it.
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:But he lived in the house for nine months.
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:I bottle-fed him for
three and a half years.
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:He's best friends with my dog Sky.
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:He comes when I call him.
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:We walk him on a leash.
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:He sleeps on a dog bed.
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:It was like having a cow-looking dog
in our house, and it was amazing to
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:really see, like, when raised like
a dog, they really are like dogs.
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:DIxie: Yeah, , that is a very
powerful image, a baby calf living
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:indoors being nurtured like a child.
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:When you said you were up 24/7
with him were you having to do
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:intensive feeding sessions with
him to make sure that he was okay?
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:Ellie: Yeah, so we worked very closely
with the veterinarian who had me checking
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:his temperature three times a day.
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:We did nebulizer treatments on him
three times a day to try to break
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:up all the phlegm in his lungs.
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:M- Jay built a homemade oxygen tent for
him that we sat in together twice a day
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:so that oxygen could help heal his lungs.
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:He got Sun Chlorella algae superfood
to boost his immune system.
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:He got anti-inflammatories
and medications from the vet.
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:I did energy healing sessions on him.
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:And it was like with anybody you take
two steps forward, one step back.
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:There would be days where we
felt so hopeful "Oh my God,
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:he's really gonna make it."
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:And then the next day he would come
crashing down with an even higher
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:fever, and we would be deathly afraid
that he was not going to make it.
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:But slowly he recovered.
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:And the sweetest thing about having
John Lewis in my house is I would give
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:him a bottle, and then he would go to
the bathroom, and I'd clean it up, and
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:then he'd play a little bit, and then
he'd settle back down, and I would
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:spoon him, and Sky would lay with us,
and all three of us would fall asleep.
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:And then two hours later, I would wake
up with John Lewis' face in my face with
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:his sweet, warm baby breath in my nose,
basically saying, "Mom, I'm hungry again."
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:And we would wake up and
do it all over again.
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:DIxie: Wow, that's amazing.
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:That's such dedication.
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:I understand that too.
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:I know a lot of people might think
that you're crazy for doing that,
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:but, sometimes that's what you
have to do for these little things.
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:Ellie: Absolutely.
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:And if you're in cat rescue,
I know you've been up many
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:nights bottle-feeding kittens.
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:And that's no small task 'cause they
also have to be fed every two hours.
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:So it looks like we're
made from the same cloth.
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:DIxie: Yeah definitely.
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:I definitely understand what
you're saying 100% because I've
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:been there, just not with a cow.
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:Now,, that sounds- … amazing, though.
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:Ellie: Much bigger poops.
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:DIxie: He's a gentle adult cow
who gives hugs to visitors.
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:What does it feel to see
him comforting people after
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:everything that he went through?
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:Ellie: It was extraordinary 'cause
we rescued him during the pandemic,
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:and when we finally got to reopen
our doors watching him heal people
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:was the most incredible thing.
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:We had teenagers in foster care that
were isolated, lonely, suicidal.
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:The only thing that made them
wanna live was John Lewis and the
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:other animals at the Gentle Barn.
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:We had people that lost children.
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:We had people that lost parents.
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:We had people that had been
through unspeakable trauma.
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:We had people that had suffered really
bad illnesses like cancer and heart
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:disease during the pandemic and were
completely alone in the hospital and
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:promised themselves that when they
recovered, if they recovered, that they
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:would come and meet John Lewis because
while at the hospital, they followed his
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:journey through our social media channels.
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:And so they got to know him and see his
resilience, and they promised themselves
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:that if they made it, they would reward
themselves with a trip to the Gentle
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:Barn to meet John Lewis in person.
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:And he wrapped his neck around them.
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:He held them.
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:They cried onto his shoulder.
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:It was just so beautiful to see
this guy who almost died just be
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:so loving and nurturing to people
that were suffering themselves.
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:DIxie: Yeah, that's truly beautiful.
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:What other animals do you
have at the Gentle Barn?
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:Ellie: We are home to horses, donkeys,
cows, pigs, sheep, goats, chickens,
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:turkeys, peacocks, llamas, alpacas,
a guinea fowl, a parrot, and dogs.
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:And we rescue all of our animals from
having nowhere else to go, who will
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:otherwise be euthanized and slaughtered.
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:And we bring them in, and they're
all compromised physically and
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:emotionally, and we work tirelessly
until they're healed and happy and
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:integrated with their flocks and herds.
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:And then if they wanna stay to
themselves, they're welcome to.
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:And if they ever want to partner
with us to heal people hurting, then
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:they can participate in our programs.
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:It's up to them.
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:DIxie: I'd like to talk a little
bit now about your book, Gentle.
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:So your book is beautifully
illustrated by Jennifer A.
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:Bell, and when you saw the artwork for
the first time, what was your reaction?
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:Ellie: It was exciting 'cause I
had never written a picture book
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:before, and the publisher sent me
dozens of artists to choose from,
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:and they were all very talented and
very beautiful in their own right.
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:But, I'd see one and say that's nice.
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:Let's see the next one.
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:Eh, let's see the next one."
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:I landed on Jennifer A.
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:Bell's work, and I immediately
said, "That's the one."
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:She-- There's something, ah, so
soft and whimsical and gentle
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:about the way she illustrates.
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:The colors are vivid.
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:The pictures are real enough to
really engage but whimsical enough to
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:immerse you in that fairy tale, and
I knew she was the one immediately.
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:DIxie: The book's message is
that gentleness is a strength.
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:It feels so timely.
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:Why was that the theme that you
wanted children to take away?
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:Ellie: I look at John
Lewis' story as a metaphor.
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:He was born inside a slaughterhouse,
one of the darkest places on Earth.
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:He came to the gentle barn and surrounded
by gentle vet care, gentle best friends,
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:gentle other animals, gentle nurturing.
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:He made it.
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:And if you look out into the world
today, there's a lot of darkness.
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:There's a lot of suffering,
a lot of depression, anxiety.
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:We're not in good shape.
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:And that same gentleness that
resuscitated Lewis can breathe love
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:and life back into our beautiful planet
and into our beautiful world if we
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:surround it with the same gentleness.
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:And so
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:gentleness is John Lewis' story, but
it's also a call to action, if you
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:will, to start the conversation inside
families with children in communities
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:to talk about what being gentle means
so that we can have more gentleness to
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:heal the darkness of our world today.
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:DIxie: Yeah, definitely, 'cause I do think
that a lot of people look at gentleness
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:as more so of a weakness when it's not.
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:I look at it as a strength as well, as
it's developing compassion and empathy
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:Ellie: I think it's our greatest strength.
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:I think it's a matter of life or death.
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:I, we continue going with this violence
and destruction and apathy, it just
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:keeps getting worse and worse, but
when we turn it around with gentleness.
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:And little acts.
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:I'm not talking about huge heroic acts.
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:I'm talking about watering a wilted plant,
calling for help when there's s- human or
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:animal that's hungry, or calling a rescue
group when there's an animal in trouble
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:being someone's first friend or giving
a stranger a smile when they look sad.
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:There's so many heroic, tiny little
acts that we all can do right where we
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:are that can create more gentleness for
everyone around us, and if we all practice
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:that, it will be our biggest strength
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:DIxie: Picture books often become a
part of bedtime routines, classroom
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:libraries therapy sessions.
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:Where do you imagine "Gentle" being read?
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:Ellie: Honestly, I imagine
it being read everywhere.
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:Unlike the typical picture
book, I really think that this
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:is amazing for kids, right?
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:Classrooms, libraries, teachers, parents
reading to their kids, early readers
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:practicing reading with "Gentle" because
it's so repetitive and so sing-songy.
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:It's really easy to get into
a rhythm and practice reading.
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:But I also have experienced many
adults that buy the book for themselves
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:to either read to the animals
in their home or just read it to
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:themselves, almost like a meditation.
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:It's-- Every sentence starts with the
word gentle, and after a rough day
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:at work or just having a tough time
or feeling lonely, when we read the
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:book "Gentle" with those beautiful
illustrations, we are flooded with the
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:belief that gentleness exists, and it
makes us feel gentle inside ourselves.
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:And so it's a lovely thing for anyone
of any age to read before going to bed
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:or when they wake up in the morning or
just when they need a little pick-me-up.
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:It's beautifully illustrated.
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:Jennifer Atheyld did such a good job.
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:DIxie: Since we're heading into
back-to-school season, which can be very
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:overwhelming for kids new classrooms,
new friends, new expectations, why
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:is this the perfect moment to teach
children what it means to be gentle?
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:Ellie: This is the perfect moment
to teach children about being gentle
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:because they, exactly like you said,
they're going into new classrooms.
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:And reminding children to be gentle
to other classmates is so important.
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:Y- sh- I picture a child going maybe
to kindergarten or first grade for the
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:very first time to a new school and not
knowing many people, and bringing Gentle
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:with them, and sharing it with their
classmates, sharing it with their teacher,
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:everybody gathering around and reading it.
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:It's a way to make friends, it's a way
to start conversations, it's a way to
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:contribute, and it's a way to remind
everyone to be gentle because everyone
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:struggles with one thing or another.
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:And when we practice
gentleness, it connects us.
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:DIxie: And since you mentioned people
struggling, so we have kids who struggle
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:often with big feelings, anxiety,
frustration, sensory overload, and
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:of course, this goes for adults too.
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:Why do animals often help them open up
in ways that humans sometimes can't?
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:Ellie: I think animals obviously
are unconditionally loving, so we
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:can be ourselves, and we can show
up the way that we show up and
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:know that they are not judging us.
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:They are accepting us exactly as we are.
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:And it makes us feel like the
best versions of ourselves
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:when we're near animals.
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:We feel kind, we feel gentle,
we feel wanted and needed.
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:We feel valuable.
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:I know that I feel like the best
version of myself when I'm next
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:to an animal, and I think it does
the same thing for other people.
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:And so learning about a calf that lived in
a house that was best friends with a dog,
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:that drank from a bottle for three and a
half years, that lived in a barnyard with
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:pigs and chickens and goats and sheep, who
doesn't wanna gather around to do that?
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:DIxie: Yeah.
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:I'm gonna say it
definitely makes you smile.
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:As soon as you hear that,
You can just imagine it.
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:You could picture it.
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:Without even- Yeah … seeing
anything, you can just picture that.
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:The Gentle Barn has been featured in
some incredible stories lately: cow
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:therapy helping people find peace,
turkeys offering comfort, rescues
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:helping humans heal from trauma.
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:When you see these stories resonate so
widely, what does that tell you about
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:what people are craving right now?
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:Ellie: Yeah, it go back, goes
back to my previous statement.
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:I think that people are
really having a hard time.
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:I don't think that we've even
scratched the surface of how
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:the pandemic affected all of us.
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:And then there's wildfires and
hurricanes and floods and war.
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:There's a lot going on.
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:I don't think the country has ever
been this divided politically,
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:economically, socially.
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:There are so many things to worry about.
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:We are all stressed out of our
minds for one reason or another.
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:So I think we need comfort.
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:We need animal angels around us to comfort
us, to make us feel wanted and needed to
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:soften the edges of our harsh lives and
bring some love and nurturing, and I think
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:people are seeking that now more than ever
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:So for listeners- And we
see that- Oh, I'm sorry.
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:Go ahead.
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:And we see that at the Gentle Barn when
people come when we're open to the public
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:on Sundays, or people come for private
tours or cow hug therapy sessions.
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:We see those numbers increase, and
we see people really turning to
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:these animals for not just love and
nurturing, but for actual healing.
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:DIxie: For listeners who want to
experience this firsthand, what can
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:families expect when they visit,
and how do they find out about you?
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:Ellie: So people can go to gentlebarn.org
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:and either click Visit or Programs, and
they can come on an open to the public
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:Sunday for a tour, a field trip, or enroll
in one of our therapeutic pro- programs.
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:And they can hug cows, cuddle turkeys,
give pigs tummy rubs, hold chickens,
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:pet goats and sheep, hear their stories
of resilience, and leave feeling more
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:hopeful, more open and stronger, more
connected to what really matters.
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:These animals do extraordinary work,
reaching in and just making us feel
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:better without the need to explain
or talk or go into our trauma.
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:It's something that people feel.
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:It's not something they have
to work towards or talk about.
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:The hu-- the cows will literally wrap
their necks around people, and people can
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:meditate with these cows and rest their
faces on them and close their eyes or
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:hold a little chicken and feel empathy.
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:It's just beautiful.
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:W- we have hundreds and hundreds of guests
that come to see us on our open to the
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:public Sundays at both our locations, and
a large majority of them call the Gentle
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:Barn their, quote-unquote, "church,"
where they come for that dose of hope and
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:healing that they can't get anywhere else.
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:DIxie: Yeah, that's beautiful.
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:It sounds like an amazing
experience for sure.
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:Ellie- Yeah … thank you for
sharing your heart and your work.
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:Gentle, the book, just came out on
August 11th, and it's truly a beautiful
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:reminder that compassion is a strength.
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:Where can listeners
find out about the book?
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:Ellie: People can get a copy of
Gentle anywhere books are sold.
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:It's on Amazon.
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:It's at Barnes & Noble.
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:They can get a signed
copy at gentlebarn.org.
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:And I would be thrilled to share
John Lewis's story with everyone.
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:DIxie: I'm gonna link
everything in the show notes.
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:And Ellie, thank you so
much for being here today.
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:Ellie: Thank you so much for having me.
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:It was really lovely being with you.