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170: Why Occupational Therapy Is Built for Quantum Biology The Missing Link: Why You Know What to Do (But Don’t Do It)
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“Music is absolutely like my lifeblood... I don't know where I would be without music,” says Kristen Gilbert, occupational therapist turned quantum biology practitioner, who joins the Quantum Biology Collective Podcast for a deeply personal—and profoundly practical—exploration of self-belonging, nervous system regulation, and the healing power of rhythm.

With ten years in mental health, Kristen shares how occupational therapy, with its individualized goal-setting and routine design, becomes a platform for championing quantum biology and circadian health. She reveals how simple interventions like light hygiene and mindful rhythms can catalyze radical change in clients—sometimes in just one week. Through stories of heartbreak, self-reclamation, and musical transformation, Kristen maps the journey from self-sabotage to joy, showing how belonging—to nature, to community, and to oneself—is foundational to healing and expansion.

Tune in to hear how Kristen integrates tools like the Enneagram, somatic therapies, and musical entrainment—whether performing electronic music or classical piano—to restore coherence within and without. Discover why regulating your nervous system isn’t just therapeutic: it’s an act of revolution, and why cultivating true self-belonging is the ultimate gift you can offer yourself—and your community.

5 Key Takeaways

  1. Belong to yourself first—cultivate inner coherence with nature, light, and darkness for true stability and joy.
  2. Slow down and get curious; mindfulness, breathwork, and body awareness help you break through self-sabotage and expand your capacity for joy.
  3. Give your nervous system what it needs—choose rest, connection with nature, and regulate before pushing forward, even if it feels boring.
  4. Embrace all parts of your experience, especially difficult emotions; meet anger and discomfort with curiosity and presence for personal transformation.
  5. Expand your joy and success ceiling by integrating quantum biology and circadian health—commit to practical routines like sunrise exposure, light hygiene, and nervous system regulation.

Memorable Quotes

"I went through quite a devastating heartbreak almost two years ago, and I just felt like I was completely in pieces for a long time. I leaned on my people, but there was a part of that journey I really had to walk alone. I had to meet the darkest, most scared, most in pain parts of myself from my highest self and steward those parts, truly being with all the parts of myself to put myself back together."
"A healthy nervous system is a flexible nervous system. When we can settle and drop into rest and digest, then we can go out into the world, feel the stimulation, and be grateful to return to that settled quality. For me, it's about connecting to nature everywhere I go."
"Our bodies need us to slow down in order to feel what's actually happening. When I'm tired, I rest. When I'm hungry, I eat. When I have to go pee, I go pee. I don't override my body and wait. To truly slow down in order to catch up with myself has been one of the greatest gifts of self-belonging for me."

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Kristen Gilbert, welcome to the Quantum Biology Collective podcast.

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It is a pleasure to have you here. Thanks, Meredith. I'm

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really grateful to be here with you. Okay. So you have 10

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years under your belt as an occupational therapist, and

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you have such a, a unique take on it cuz you say that

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occupational therapy is perfectly suited to champion

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quantum biology. I love that. So tell us a little bit about

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what kind of work you did and how you see those two things coming together.

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Yeah, so I was originally drawn to occupational

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therapy because of the breadth of this

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profession. Like, what you actually do in OT can be

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so broad, it can look like almost anything.

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And as someone who has a really

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diverse set of interests, this is super appealing for me

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and I think if we were called functional therapists, that would

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make so much more sense because I'm happy to

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advocate for defining what OT is. Most people don't know what

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it is, and it is such a valuable profession because what we

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do is we meet people where they're at and we

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assess how they're functioning in the world, and then

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we get to work with them on— in the mental health

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sector, what I've been doing for 10 years is so supporting people with

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individualized goal setting, setting up healthy

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routines. So with quantum biology and

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circadian health, I have found this to be

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absolutely foundational with my clients in public

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practice, especially when we can start with

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light hygiene. Because when I give people a pair of blue

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blockers— and I have a loaner pair, you know— when I set them up with

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that and when they can take it on to actually get outside in the morning

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Sometimes with people who are struggling, we have to start whenever

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you get up and slowly work it back to actual sunrise.

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But when people take this on, inevitably they come back a

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week later and they like, I feel like a different person.

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Wow. Yeah. And that's just after one week of—

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Yes. Light hygiene. Yes. And

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circadian rhythm optimization. It's so powerful. I,

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I I just continue to be amazed whenever I hear these stories.

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We just, it's, we dismiss it, we ignore it, we don't really think about it,

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but it's so, so powerful. It's incredible.

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And so what I started to see over time in clinical

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practice was like, I'd be helping people out, we'd set up

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routine, incorporating their goals, it's individualized,

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everything's going well, and then all of a sudden everything falls apart.

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They're like, I, I don't know why, I just stopped doing all the

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things. And so then I got really curious because that's

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as far as the traditional OT skill set

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extends. And I was like, what if there's this self-sabotage?

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What if there are these deeply seated illusory

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beliefs of lack of self-worthiness

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that's really what's causing people to

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sabotage their progress again and again. And so I

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did Gabor Maté's Compassionate Inquiry

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program. I studied that for a year and work with people

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with addictions. And then I also took

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somatic relational therapy, which is a, a branch

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of somatic experiencing. And that has

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been invaluable in terms of being able to work

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with people through the nervous system and to

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help them expand their capacity to hold

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joy. Because we all have this upper limit

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problem, right? It's a subconscious upper limit where we only allow

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ourselves to feel so good. And usually this gets

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dictated very early on in life. And as soon as we

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bump up against that upper limit, there will be— the

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sabotage comes in. Everything falls apart. We're not really

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sure what happens. And I mean, I don't think anyone is immune

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to this because so many people say, oh, I know I should

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be doing X, Y, and Z. I know I should be going outside

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at sunrise or eating a certain way, but

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I tried that and I had a New Year's resolution and then it just

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fell apart. Not sure why. Back to baseline,

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which isn't really where people want to be, but it's where they end up.

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And so this is really the work that I do with people,

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is like, how can we create self-care

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that facilitates coherence, right? And how

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can we expand the nervous system to hold

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this new rhythm of being as we integrate

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with the rhythms of nature and our own rhythms,

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you You know, how can we create this routine that supports

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that structure that then allows people to truly

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expand into the life that they

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fully desire? I love that. And Kristin, it's

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such an important piece. And I remember

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years ago, someone, you know, one of my mentors using the

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metaphor that it's like we've set like an internal thermostat to a

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certain temperature. And no matter what we do, you know,

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if we're trying to cool the house down and no matter how many windows we

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open, our being is going to try and find a way to go

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back to that. Cause that's where the thermostat, that's where the

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thermostat is set. So the thermostat is set to

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like, you can have like 33% joy, but no more.

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It's like, no matter what, when we start to go back

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past that, it's like, there's some kind of internal trigger that's like, no, no, no,

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no, no, no. Yeah. And then mentally, intellectually, we're like, we would—

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I would like to continue. I'd like to get to 40 or 50,

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but it just feels like we can't. There's like an invisible wall.

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Yes. And you bring up the head piece of

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like, we know in, in our head where we want to go, but unless

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we get our subtle body, unless we get all three

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centers of intelligence online with this idea,

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it's not going to happen. And we do that— I do that

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work with people through the nervous system. And I know you've talked a lot

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about the nervous system on this podcast, but

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for me personally and with my

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clients that I work with, so much of it is about slowing

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down and getting current with what's actually

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happening inside of us. And

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So that's why we work on— I work with mindfulness

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and breathwork practices to start to get to know, like,

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what's going on in my body, because so many people

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don't feel anything below the neck. And

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when we can start to feel the body, you know, there might be a lot

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of good reasons why the body is also— why we're cut off from

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the body. But when we can start to drop into

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the wisdom of the body, and when we can connect

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to proper light cycles, when we can connect to nature,

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when we go outside and we experience

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entrainment with the Schumann resonance, when we

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find this rhythmicity of being— this

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is like the foundation for the nervous system to start

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to settle. And the settling is required first

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for us to then be able to expand our capacity

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for joy. Beautifully explained. So the first

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step, and this is really important, especially for people who work with

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clients. I know so many like brilliant coaches and doctors

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and they're like, I'm giving, you know, I have all of this

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guidance for people that, but they're not doing it. So this

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is really helpful. And, or I have guidance for myself and I'm not doing

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it as you were saying. So we're talking about settling

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and that's where— I was on a, on a clarity call the other

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day with the doctor and talking about circadian rhythm. And she's like, well, will it

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help with mental health? And I was like, yes,

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yes, it will. Absolutely. Because what you're

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saying is that first step is to slow and

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settle into the rhythm of our bodies, which

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is connected to the rhythms of nature and light. And

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darkness. And like living in cities and our

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hustle culture, like that promotes

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dissonance. And then when we choose to go to

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nature, when we choose to be in nature,

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simply walking and breathing is such a tremendous

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therapy because it's one of the ways that we can start

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settling and slowing down. And this is

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revolutionary, right? When we are programmed for hustle

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culture and go, go, go, and You know, that's like a survival

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strategy. But when we can come into coherence

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with nature and with ourselves, this is an

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evolutionary strategy. And for me,

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learning how to belong to myself has been

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absolutely integral in my own evolutionary

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process. And I also— it's central to the work

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that I do with people is this idea of belonging.

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Beautiful. Yes, because that is also something I think

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that holds us back. If we're going to change or grow, there's a

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subconscious belief that will be

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rejected on some level, or not— you know, if we are different from

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the people who are around us, we won't belong there anymore. And also,

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like, yeah, just on that note of hustle culture, you know, I have different

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points in my life, you know, I really participate in

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like what I call like the, the regular world, you know, where people are out

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and they're networking and doing things and going to conferences and doing all

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the stuff. And in my experience, it's like, it's not that you need to not

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do that. People are like, oh, well, I don't want to move to a cabin

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in the woods and never talk to anybody, so I'm not going to do this.

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What— in my experience, if I can participate in what

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you're talking about of the slowing down and building

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that as the foundation of my life, then I can go out and

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participate in the the more hustly-bustly type stuff

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without being thrown into decoherence. It's when I— but if

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that's my source, then the burnout comes.

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Yes, yes, because a healthy nervous system is a

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flexible nervous system, right? So when we can

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settle and drop into rest and digest,

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parasympathetic, then, you know, we can go—

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and I feel it when I go to the city because I live in like

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a small somewhat urban area, but when I go to like a big city,

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I drive off the ferry and I'm like, whoa, and I

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feel this stimulation of that. And I'm so grateful that I can go

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back to the settled quality. And it

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is about just connecting to nature everywhere

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I go, for me. Yeah, I know what you're talking about. I was on the

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subway in New York City recently, which I

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hadn't done something like that in a long time, and it was like really busy

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time and the subway car was like packed with people and I was like,

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oh yeah, this is— forgot about this.

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But it was kind of fun because I, you know, sort of, I was grounded

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and I was like, you know, in coherence and in my body and it was

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like a fun adventure. So it's not that I can't, we can't

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do those things, but it's, I guess, this awareness

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that there's more. Yeah. And we all

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long to belong. And when we go to nature, we belong

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in nature inherently. And that's what

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creates this coherence, right? It's like allowing

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our physiological rhythms to

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entrain to nature. And, you know, you spoke

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to this external quality of belonging, and I think

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belonging in nature This is why it's therapeutic. One of the many

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reasons why is because we can entrain these

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rhythms, but also when we do the inner work,

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and this is one thing I've investigated a lot in myself,

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is like learning how to truly belong to ourself

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is an essential evolutionary

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strategy for being a successful human in the

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world. And that comes from

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being able to steward ourselves through difficult

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experiences. I went through quite a

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devastating heartbreak almost 2 years ago now,

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and I just felt like I was completely in pieces

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for a long time. And I really leaned on my people.

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I'm so grateful. I have so many wonderful friends that

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supported me through— that, and there

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was a part of that journey I really had to walk alone.

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And I had to meet the

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darkest, most scared, most in pain parts of

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myself from my highest self and steward those

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parts to really truly be with all the parts

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of myself in order to put myself back

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together. And this was an initiation. It was

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a really important initiation because I did collude

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in my own victim mentality with that for a long time, but

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there's dissonance with that, right? And it's

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like when I could truly meet myself with

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care and compassion for the oldest

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exiled parts of myself that were in so much pain

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This was essentially just a

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completely transformative experience in my life because

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I really truly developed this

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quality of self-belonging. And once you

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have that, that cannot be taken from you. Once

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you understand how to meet all the different

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parts of yourselves, it's a skill, and it's

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skill that I can now support others in

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discovering in themselves. And that

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was such a dark night of my soul, but I can say

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I am so much better for it now, and I

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have alchemized that experience

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into my soul offering and my inspired

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work. Yeah, you know, Kelly Ritter made the point to me that

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often finding the right practitioner, it can be about

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that person's specialized knowledge, but it's

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often about finding somebody who

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embodies where you need to go. Yes, because

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a stronger biofield will

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uplevel other weaker, weaker biofields around them,

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right? And this is also, like, in terms of

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quantum biology, we understand, like, we attract the

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people that are meant to work with us, and that

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is usually because we have these gems that

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alter our biofield. It's all out there to

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be perceived, you know, whether we're conscious of

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that or not. But it really is

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like— so much of the therapeutic relationship is about that

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quantum resonance. And it's such

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a beautiful experience when you click into that with someone

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as well. It's like, for me, it's

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nourishing, like doing this work with people. It doesn't take from

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me. It doesn't— I don't take on other

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people's stuff. I am able to— it

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nourishes me in a way that maybe wasn't

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possible before I understood things from the quantum

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biology perspective, from the subtle body perspective,

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from the perspective of the biofield

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and how we carry trauma in our bodies. All

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of these things— say more about that, because that's something that I

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find so empowering about studying

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quantum biology. I talk to a lot of

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scientists and doctors who approach it from a very

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almost materialist perspective, even though we're talking about things on

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the quantum scale. But I feel like quantum biology

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has the potential to be the bridge to give

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that scientific foundation to the types of things that you're talking about, such

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as the subtle bodies. Yes, absolutely.

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Well, Eileen McKusick talks— about how we store

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our trauma in our biofield. And so

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this is one way of looking at it. There's so many different ways to look

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at trauma and how we carry trauma and how we can

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release it, which is amazing. There's just such a myriad of

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ways. So we also store trauma in

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our metabolic water, in our exclusion zone

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water, and we don't have studies right now

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to prove this. But we also know that we store it in

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our fascia, which is likely in the metabolic water.

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And as body workers— body workers will tell you, you can

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press on a certain point and this flood of emotions come

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back. And these things bubble up in order to

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dissipate. But again, the nervous system has to be ready for

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trauma release, because if things come flooding back,

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then we end up— we can end up getting ensnared in them

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again. And so we need to feel regulated and often

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co-regulated for that to happen. But quantum biology gives us

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so much information about the layers of our subtle

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body as well. And I work with the

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Enneagram with my clients, whether they know it or not. Usually

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they know it. I like to introduce the idea. And

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on a subtle body, body level, the Enneagram talks about

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the three centers of intelligence. And we can

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store trauma in the belly or the body center. We can store

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trauma in the heart center where our emotional intelligence

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resides. We can store it in our heads. And when we can get

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all three of these centers communicating with each

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other, first we need to bring them online, and then when they get to talk

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talking to each other, then that is really when we

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can release what isn't serving us and come back to

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a regulated state and then move

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forward in a new way, in a more whole way. And this work

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happens in the subtle body. So when you're working with someone

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to move through that, you know, we started out by talking

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about raising the ceiling on our joy

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capacity or our success capacity or our

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financial stability capacity, or whatever it is. Those are probably the

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big three, or health capacity. So you talked about that first

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piece being to slow down

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and integrate into our rhythm, which is connected to the

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rhythm of nature, grounding, light and dark

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cycles. So then this— the next phase is moving up through

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these subtle bodies. Yeah. I think so.

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And so I have a 6-week course that I've

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designed, and in each week we learn— we get a different

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lesson about quantum biology and circadian health, and then we

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also get a different nervous system regulation

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technique. And in week 2, we learn the

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3 centers of intelligence meditation,

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and initially We're simply tuning into these parts of

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our body and becoming aware of what they

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represent. And when I first started working with one of my teachers, whose name

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is Carly Forrest, she was cueing us to

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feel our belly. And this was an entire

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retreat where I was like, what do you mean? I don't

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feel anything. Like, I don't feel anything

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in my belly. And then At the first retreat, I was kind of like,

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yeah, belly, whatever, cool, see ya. And then I came back a year

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later and she's still talking about the belly, and I was like,

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okay, why can't I feel this part of my body? And I find

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that curiosity is such a key

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way in of like, okay, obviously I have a

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belly, why am I cut off from my belly?

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And from there opened up like so many

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layers of social conditioning, you know, of like our

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bellies, how they're supposed to look, you know, as women, all

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this self-scrutiny. So these are like the

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layers of trauma as they're peeling back that show

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up when we start to steward these parts of

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ourselves. So learning how to meet what was in the belly was

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actually a process for me that took years.

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And it's an incredibly valuable process because

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our belly, it's like our gut instinct,

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right? It's like when we just know something in our

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bones, when we get that sacred no, I call it— the belly is

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like the home to the sacred no. When we just get that zing

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of like, nope, that's not okay. So it's home to our sense

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of boundaries and it's also home to anger.

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And so when we have a healthy belly, we

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can really develop— we can be in

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right relationship with anger, because anger gets

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set aside in a lot of spiritual communities.

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And it's a frequency, like, we need to have access to the

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full range of frequencies. And one of

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my Enneagram teachers was talking about being able

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to feel and hold the totality of anger when it

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shows up, to be able to contain that in the body, to not need

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to put it on anybody else, but to feel

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the powerful mobilizing heat of anger

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in its totality. And, you know, the reality

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is that emotions have a 90-second trajectory. So

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if we develop the awareness to

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meet ourselves in the experience that we're having, and we can

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hold on— hold it for 90 seconds, we can trust

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that zing of intensity will then move through

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us in a very short period of time. And then we can be in

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right relationship with anger, because anger shows up when boundaries

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have been crossed. Like, it's a healthy emotion. It's

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not healthy to get programmed into that frequency and run

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that frequency. Right. It's not healthy

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to get programmed in, to run on it, to use it as fuel,

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and it's not healthy either to just ignore it, pretend

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it's not there, but it is a powerful messenger. And I

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love this so much because I think a lot of the time we hold

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ourselves in a state of dysregulation or a state of

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dissonance by unconsciously trying to avoid certain types

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of feelings, right? Like our mind just like, oh, not gonna think that, or just—

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and so we're in this continuous state of like avoidance

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and duck and cover and like, because we can't just be with

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the totality of it because it's like, I don't know how to have that feeling.

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And so when we feel that little spark, it's like,

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nope. So this practice you're describing, it

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like opens us to feel the feeling, move through it and be like,

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oh, I'm still here. It didn't kill me. I also didn't kill

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anyone else. Like, I just sat here and felt it. And then

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like our— that expansion process is opened up.

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And I'm going to tell a quick story because I think this is like

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so key on the anger piece. This was years ago, but I

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got a piece of information about somebody who is

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relatively close to me. And it turned out that there had been information that had

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been withheld from me for a long time. And I— was told

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it, and I was just like filled with

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rage. And so at first— and there was a part of me that was

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like, okay, like, this doesn't actually directly affect

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you. Like, why do I feel so angry? And then it

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was like, oh, because I have been doing things

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I don't want to do to make this other person comfortable. I have been, you

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know, and I had— all of a sudden I could see the whole, like, the

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full dynamics of the relationship laid out and all of the ways that I played

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into it. So as opposed to this being like, oh, that was

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a dumb decision. Why'd she— like, it was like so

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much more because— but it was mine,

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not hers. Well, and way to

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be curious first and foremost, and

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then also take responsibility for your role in

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it. Because when we have— when we avoid

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these uncomfortable feelings, Often then we need

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some numbing, we reach for numbing strategies in order

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to cover them up. And even, you know, Gabor Maté

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talks about depression being repression, is like

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this pushing down of our human

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experience. But when we have a regulated nervous

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system, then we can come from a settled place,

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get activated, and in these, like,

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waves of resonance and resilience, come back to that

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place and be able to get curious. Wow, that was a

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strong reaction. What's underneath that for me? Because

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that is an evolutionary strategy, you know. This is

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how we learn, and this is how we become more whole

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humans, is to be able to experience the

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totality of what it means to be on this planet right

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now. Yeah, and being on this planet right now is

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like no joke. It's no joke. And if you're here listening to

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a conversation like this, like, you are most

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likely dialed right into it. It's advanced

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practice being on this planet right now, right? And all the

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more reason that we absolutely need

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healthy self-care. We need circadian strategies. We

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need to cultivate our own inner coherence to

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be able to navigate what's out there. Like, the

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world needs this work right now more than

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ever. Yeah. And I think it was Julie Shauna was talking

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about, like, stabilizers. She's like, I feel the call

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for stabilizers. And when I hear you describe your work,

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I'm like, okay, Kristen, is planting her flag as

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a stabilizer. Yes. And you know, if you're listening

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to this and you're like, oh, maybe I should, you know, work with someone like

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that. Yes. And I think you're sharing your story of the heartbreak

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was important because as you know, an author I

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used to read a lot of a long time ago used to say like spiritual

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growth isn't a pleasure cruise. But that word that you

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used, initiation. I think is so

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powerful because it gives it meaning. Yes. And for me, it

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was an initiation into healthy attachment

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with myself, which is another way of saying

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self-belonging, because I had to own in myself that I had an

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unhealthy attachment to this person, and that was what

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was creating the suffering for me. And

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the reality is, like, we are so good at creating our own

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suffering And when we can get out from under the

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victim mentality and see it, then we can

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really empower ourselves to liberate

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ourselves. And yes, most often we do need

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professional support for that too. And it can be such a

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beautiful process of co-regulation to be

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stewarded through that by someone else. Yes. 'Cause

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it's— once you enter that space where— and you put it so beautifully,

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right? Like, all the parts of myself are okay, and

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I'm not in disconnection from the

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darkness, from, you know, the worst things I've ever done and

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the worst I've ever felt and the worst I've ever been treated. Like,

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I can meet them and make peace with them,

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which then allows me to be of service to others.

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Yeah, well, it's a way of— I think of it as filling in my own

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holes. You know, if I have this like hole, this energetic leak where I'm

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like asking somebody else to fulfill

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something for me, then I'm like leaking them my

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power. And so as we learn how to more fully

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belong to ourselves, it's like we're sealing in these holes. We're like,

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I can take care of me. I don't need somebody

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else to do something for me in order for me to feel okay.

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Like I can do that for me and I can tend to my

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most exiled parts in a way that, you know, I have

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a regular relationship with my inner child now. Like

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we hang out, like we talk and I take her for ice

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cream

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sometimes. Which she loves, by the way. Yes. Yeah, they love that. Yeah. And

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all— that's a beautiful part of ourselves as well that we've often

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exiled. So you also have a strong background in music.

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Yes. Let's talk about how music and

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rhythm play into the rhythm of nature and the rhythm

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of everything we've been talking about. Yes. I love this. Thank

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you for bringing this forward, Meredith. Music

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is absolutely like my lifeblood. Like,

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I don't know where I would be without music. I actually have

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an undergrad in classical music,

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and there's an interesting story of

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self-belonging with music, because when I was in music school,

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by the time I was done classical music school, I felt like

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it had just ground the love out of it for me. Like, I was— I

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could produce on command, I could learn songs written by dead guys,

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I could complete all my assignments and get honors and all

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that, but it just became dry for me.

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And then I left classical music, and

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then 10 years— were you, were you the singer or a musician, or did you

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play an instrument, or what was your— I'm a piano

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player. Okay. And I did education and composition

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majors at U of T, so it's a very competitive music

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school. Wow. Okay, for the non-Canadians out there, Kristen and I

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are Canadian. Yes. The music program at University

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of Toronto is top tier. That is no joke. All right.

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Yeah. Rigor. A lot of rigor, but not a lot of soul is what I'm

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meaning. Yeah, absolutely. And then about 10

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years later, I just felt this call to learn how to DJ

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because I'd been going to festivals and enjoying electronic music. And

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I was like, I really want to express myself in this

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way. And having had all the classical

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background, it was just like, it began this process

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of belonging to myself by doing something completely

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different. Didn't really have anything to do with classical music. I was like, this is

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just for me. This is for me. And this feels so good

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and I love it. And I love performing. I

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love facilitating an experience. And on the

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surface, yes, DJing might seem like, seem like it is not so

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quantum because you're up late, you're

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in environments where there's blue light, you know,

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there— you're pushing your body. But what's

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magical about it is like kind of being

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the driver of the spaceship and facilitating an

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experience of oneness through rhythmic entrainment for

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people. Oh, what a great description of

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DJing! It has been a minute since I— actually, no, that's not true. I was

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going to say I haven't done that in a long time, but that's not true.

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I went to a music festival last spring and did that. Yes,

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it's amazing. And I just— a quick note, like, it's not quantum in

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the sense that we are, you know, it's out of alignment

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with circadian rhythm, but I do think participating in really

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high vibe activities is worth it and balances it all

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out. So. Absolutely. And, you know, talk about

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belonging, like the festival community. There's so

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much belonging there. There's so much communion. And

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what's happening with rhythmic entrainment is like all of

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our nervous systems are getting entrained to the

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same rhythm. And this is a very real phenomena. It's

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like similar to if you take a whole bunch of grandfather clocks and you put

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them in a room together and all the pendulums are

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swinging in different directions, an hour later, you'll go back to the room,

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and all the pendulums will be

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entrained. And that is a quantum phenomena. And

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that's what happens to our bodies when we're on a dance floor.

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And then we can also look at things from

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the perspective of our metabolic water.

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And I've been delving into Cymatics lately,

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which is so cool. It's such an amazing science to

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have a visual representation of the

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frequency of sound. And knowing that

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we're 75% water by mass,

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but 99% water by molecule,

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knowing that our internal waters are

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literally responding to frequency in a psychedelic way.

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And that we're all experiencing that, no

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wonder it's so powerful. It's so, so cool. That's

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so cool. Yeah. And so there's another piece

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to the music story that I'd like to tell, which

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is a reclamation that's happened this year

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that is also a part of more fully belonging

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to myself. So I got a free piano, a a

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few years back, and I started toiling around after

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20 years of not playing piano. I was like, I'm just gonna

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lift pop songs, I'm just gonna keep it fun, I don't want to play songs

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written by dead guys, I just want to do this for

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me. And— but then I was realizing I was not super inspired to

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play on that instrument because it wasn't really a quality instrument. And then

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a friend of mine bought a grand piano

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this spring or earlier this year, and I went over to his house

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and I played his grand piano, and I was

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like, oh my God, I was like, oh,

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actually, I think I need a grand piano. And I had told myself

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all these stories about how I couldn't have

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a grand piano. Like, I've always wanted a grand piano as a

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piano player, and I just told myself all these— I had all

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these reasons why I couldn't have one, and then I just realized that it was

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all BS, and I was like, I'm gonna buy myself a

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grand piano. Good for you, Kristen! I love to hear

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it. Okay, yeah. And so I went, I found my— I drove

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all over the island trying to find the piano, and I went to the

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mainland ultimately and bought an incredible

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piano. And I bawled my eyes out as I was

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driving home. I was like, I can't believe I actually did

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that. And it has been such a reclamation to have

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an exquisite instrument to play. It's

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been like— like full body chills with this. It's so good.

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Yeah, it's just been so incredible to sit and

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play and reclaim these old parts of myself, with my young self

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that just loved to play music and then just got really

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separated from that and Now I just— I play

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my piano every day and I'm so in love with it

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and it's just for me. It's so beautiful. I

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just am ecstatic and it has turned out to be a

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gift to my community as well because I've already had

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one piano concert and everyone was so excited to

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come. Like, they were like, piano concert, sign me

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up! Yeah, so I had 30 people come over and we all

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just cozied up and people were just like smiling and

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their eyes closed and listening. And, you know, DJing is

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about the body, it's about the booty. Piano is about the

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heart. And I really saw it received in like such a

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beautiful way. And so it's been

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amazing. I have a grand piano now. What a gift

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to yourself. Like, and that's You know, I mean, we started

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out talking about increasing our capacity

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for joy, and this is just the most perfect

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story to illustrate that, is to give yourself this gift

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of this exquisite instrument and to play it

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just for fun. Mm-hmm. To

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experience the beauty of music. And so I actually— I got

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the Symascope app. Oh, great. After

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I listen to your episode with Jon Stewart Reid, and then I'll put that

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on my piano while I play, and then I kind

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of like, what? And I look at it, so I just— oh my

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God, that's so good. And I think it would be so fun

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to like next piano concert actually like put that

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up on a big screen for people

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to witness as like, this is what's happening inside

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you. When you are in training to this specific

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resonance. Yes. Yeah. Oh, Kristen, you might

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have just invented something

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here. Cymatic— cymatic piano

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concert. It's gonna happen, I can feel it. Yes.

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Yeah. And, you know, I just also want to say, like, how beautiful it is,

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like, to have— to have your community gathered

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around the piano, like, that's— I mean, that's what we

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used to do. Yes, I saw, I saw, like, of

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course, you know, on, on

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Twitter/X, on my screen, but somebody had put a little cartoon from when the radio

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was first invented, and there was a, an illustration

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on the left of all of these people standing around the piano. Someone played

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and someone was singing, and then The illustration on the right, they were all

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just sitting on the couch listening to the radio, and it was like, technology

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is destroying

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community. Yes, I mean, this is what we've done for thousands of years,

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is gather, especially in, you know, it's the dark season

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right now. We get together and we

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gather by the fire. I actually have a wood stove in my space as

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well. And— Oh, nice. And there's infrared

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light. You've got it all covered. Infrared. I've got all these like

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red strip lights decorating my space, and so it's

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all totally circadian. And for people to come

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and again let their bodies entrain to

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that magical resonance, it's like such a

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beautiful gift to offer people. And it feels like a

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midlife transition, you know, because I have been

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DJing and festivaling and dance partying for so

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long. And I was really pleased with

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people's enthusiasm about the more

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quiet, contemplative, heartfelt piano

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experience. Yes. And do you play all kinds of music,

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like classical, pop, all of it? I do. Yeah.

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Now I play whatever I want. I love

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it. Yeah. No more rules.

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Yeah. So I wanna just reflect back, you know, talking to

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you, I'm really seeing something that I don't see all

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that often, which is like— which

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is the expansive,

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creative, woo-oriented, um,

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approach, but combined with like quite a lot of rigor and

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structure and discipline.

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And I, I think sometimes we make those

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things a little mutually exclusive or compartmentalized, right?

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And if it's like, if I'm the person who needs all— a study

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to prove every single thing all the time, then

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I can't go— I can't go into any of the spheres, you know, that we've

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been discussing here. Or on the other end, sometimes it's

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like, well, if I live in this creative,

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intuitive, energetic space, like, I can't I can't go over there

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and like put any structure or rigor around it, 'cause it'll wreck it or

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something. And, uh, you're just like a really nice example of how

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that's not true. Yeah. You know, my best friend, she

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likes to make collages and she made me this collage card

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for Christmas, which has like colorful zebra

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print in the back and then like half

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monk face to here. And then like party

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girl. I was like, wow, you see

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me. And you know, it's like, this is a— I love

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paradox. I love uniting opposing ideas.

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And like, you can be disciplined and

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wild at the same time. You know, we can embody

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these opposites because then we can also

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occupy anywhere along that continuum, and we

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don't do ourselves any favors when we put ourselves in

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boxes, you know, and we compartmentalize things of like, oh, I'm like

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this, so I should do X, Y, and Z.

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And really it comes back again and again to like

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touching into what is it I re— what is it I need right

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now? I need an early bedtime for the most part.

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And then every once in a while I can push myself. And go out

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and have fun and get fed in a totally different

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way. Because I find being in the boxes is like

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a way where things get dry, like they did in classical music

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school. And I've always just

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really followed my interests. And when I get interested in something,

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I go— like, I go for it, and I go down that

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rabbit hole, and I go down the whole way. And

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my curiosity feeds a lot of different parts of

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me. I have a little saying, nothing like a little obsession to get the job

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done. Absolutely. Yes. And it's

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like sometimes we are a little obsessed and mono-focused

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on something, you know,

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like it's, you know, in get— starting a new habit or getting through a tough

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time or whatever it is. Oh, we don't— yeah, but it's a

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little obsession. I love that. Yeah, it's like, it's okay. And then we go back

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to, you know, being a little more balanced. Yeah, but we have to be open

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to all the different ways of being because they all have their

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role at any given moment. Yes. And

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working with the Enneagram has also really taught

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me how to be a more well-rounded human

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because that little obsession could— can

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burn, burn us out, as you know, right? If it gets out

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of control. And so through working with the Enneagram,

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I've really developed like such a

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deeper understanding of how to slow down and

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what was driving the obsession, what

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was driving the busyness, the

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constant distraction. The constant productivity. Like,

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we cannot be constantly productive. You know,

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we look to nature and we look at the ocean and the wave, it

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crests and it builds and then it falls.

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And when we can— we can't just push and push and push and

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push and expect our lovely bodies to keep performing

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in that way. They're just at a certain point, they're going to be like, uh,

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excuse me. So

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again, coming back to the rhythms of nature,

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coming back to like, what am I feeling

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right now? I feel tired. I'm just gonna go lay on

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my daybed and close my eyes for 5 minutes, and

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I'm just gonna honor my hard-working body's

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need for rest right now. And like, just

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that practice has been so revolutionary for

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me of like, when I'm tired, I

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rest. When I'm hungry, I eat. When I have to

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go pee, I go pee. I don't like override my

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body and wait, you know,

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and to, to be able

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to truly slow down in order to catch up with myself because our

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bodies need us to slow down in order to feel what's

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actually happening, that's been one

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of the greatest gifts of self-belonging for

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me. Yes. Yeah, and back to that

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slowness piece, which is so, so key

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and challenging for some of us who are always— have a lot of

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things we want to be doing. But yeah, you reminded me too, like, irene lyons

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is like, regulating your nervous system is kind of boring.

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Like, like, you got to be like— it's, it's

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just be sitting still. And like what you're saying, it's like, you

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know, you're— I feel like always wanting to

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be stimulated and productive. It's like, take those things away

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and it's like, ah, but then move through that and you

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get to a new place. Yeah, we're so addicted to our

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phones, you know, and they're designed to be addictive. It's like as soon as we

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sit down and we don't have anything to do to do. There's such a strong

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compulsion to just like pull out the phone and scroll and doom

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scroll. And when we can just go, okay, just leave that just

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for a minute— like, the phones are

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constantly programming our nervous system. We know that blue light

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stimulates cortisol. We know that we get a dopamine

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dump when we're scrolling, when we're on our phone too much, like

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We need to keep that dopamine. And so it really is

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a revolutionary act to choose to go,

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I'm just gonna sit here and be a

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person. I'm just gonna like human it up for a minute.

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Yeah, be a human being, not a human

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doing, right? Yeah, so good. Um, okay,

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before we wrap, if you could just give a quick overview of the,

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of the Enneagram, because I realize people might not know what that

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is, and you seem to have a very, uh, interesting approach to it.

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So yes, I love the Enneagram. It

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is at first glance a personality typing system, and maybe you

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did a test at one point and be like, I'm a 2, or

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I'm a 7, or whatever. I think I was a 9. I

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I think. Yeah, I could

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see that. So, tracking? Yeah. Uh, but to me,

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the Enneagram is a psycho-spiritual map designed

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for personal transformation. Okay. And it was created

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by mystic psychiatrists, which is not

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an oxymoron, in the '60s and '70s in

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South America and brought to

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Berkeley Bartó Eszilén by Claudio Naranjo.

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And it is a living map that

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really shows us how we go to sleep. It's

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shadow work, and, and your type is very much based in what happened to you

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in your early holding environment as a very young person

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and how that shapes you. And the idea is that

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our personality is how we go to

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sleep. So our personality is made up of these strategies that

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we developed in order to hopefully

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get our needs met in that early holding

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environment. And as a parent, you know, like, there's no possible way that

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you can attune to all of your children's needs. And this is the

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human condition, is that we get separated from our

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essence as the personality construct forms as

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a survival strategy. And

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if as adults we're still defaulting to the

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survival strategy that we developed when we were 3, you could see

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that that can cause problems, especially if

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we're just going to sleep and doing the same things over and over again. And

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so the Enneagram shows us how to wake up.

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And whenever you're studying the Enneagram

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you are doing presence practices every day, like the

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three centers of intelligence, because the Enneagram

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says, if you're a Type 7, then

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you may be numbing through busyness and being go, go,

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go. And the Enneagram will show you how

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to recognize those cues in yourself and how to do

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it differently. So the example I just gave

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of choosing to notice when my body is tired, instead

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of pushing, pushing, pushing, and being able to

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rest. That's a simple example.

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And for me personally, I think the Enneagram

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has supported me more than anything else

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in my personal growth, and in becoming a more

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well-rounded human, because the idea is that we want to return to our

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essence, As adults, we want to return to embodying this essence

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that is our birthright, and

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that when we can be present and

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respond in situation, whatever it is,

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with presence rather than defaulting to

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the sleeping automatic way of doing

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things, then we can expand our capacity for

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joy. We can expand our capacity to be here. We

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can come from a regulated place. And

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so there's so much nuance with the Enneagram, and I love talking to

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people about it. And when people do a Rise

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and Shine course, we do get into it. We get into three centers

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meditation. We start to talk about the ways

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that— the patterns of like, oh well, That's a 9 pattern, what

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you're experiencing, and this is how we can recognize it

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when it shows up and have the freedom to choose

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something different. Yeah,

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the freedom to choose, and

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yeah, the— to have a template that supports

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us towards that freedom is so invaluable. So thanks

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for sharing about how that works. Uh, I'm gonna go

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back now and see. It's been— it was a long time. And it's funny, when

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I was doing my executive coaching training, I remember I picked

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like a really— somebody who was like very different from me so I

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could cultivate like different— a different, you

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know, just capacity and parts of myself. And he was like a very kind

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of blunt, gruff, you know, and he'd be like, all right, so this is

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executive coaching. We're here, though, we're talking to business people. He's like, if you're here

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with like some Enneagram shit or something like that, this is not good. This is

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not This is not the place for you. And I remember being like,

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okay, well, I love the Enneagram, but I will keep that to myself for

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this training. Oh, great.

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And he was, he was great. I learned so much from him and he made,

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he made me a much better coach, but that was just reminding

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me of that moment. He's like,

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oh, funny. Uh, um, okay. So

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you. You know, you spent 10 years in occupational therapy

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working in public services, and you have now shifted

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over to become a private practitioner. Yeah. So

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tell us how we can find you. You are certified by the

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Institute of Applied Quantum Biology as, as one of the pieces of

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the many pieces that you bring to your work. Um,

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so lead us there. Help— help the people find

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you. Thank you. Yeah, my website is my

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name, kristengilbert.ca,

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and I also have a YouTube channel

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called Sunhunter_CV. That's short for

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Comox Valley, where I live. I have a bunch of free

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meditations on there, and, um,

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also doing a free sunrise challenge starting

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March 7th and guiding people with that, just encouraging people to get

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out for sunrise, taking a little photo, posting it in the

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WhatsApp group. So nice and sweet and simple.

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I have a course that I've taken 5

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years to design, and it's gone through many iterations,

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and it's solidified more in the last 6 months. So I call it

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Rise and Shine. Nice. And Over the course

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of 6 weeks, people learn all the basics

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of circadian health and quantum biology, and they also

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learn 6 different nervous system regulation

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strategies. And that's like the foundation of

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what I want to establish with people. And then beyond

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that 6 weeks, the work that we do together is the

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more individualized work of What's holding us

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back? What's limiting the amount of joy that we

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can experience? How do we slowly

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expand our nervous system in an integrated way to be able

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to hold these bigger experiences and really

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give ourselves permission to live the life

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that our heart truly desires? So I'll be

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doing that as an online group. Starting at the end of March.

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So if you want to get on my email list, and you'll— I'll be letting

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people know when these things are starting, and I'd love to have

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you. Gorgeous. So that's

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kristengilbert.ca, and it's Kristen, K-R-I-S-T-E-N, Kris-ten Gilbert, dot

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ca. Uh,

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Kristen, thank you so much for being here. This has just This has been

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a really beautiful, expansive

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conversation, and I know that just listening to it is

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gonna be helpful for so many people. And thank you all for listening

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and tuning into this. Sometimes I'm having these chats

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and I'm like, oh yeah, other people are going to listen to this.

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Thank you so much for having me, Meredith. It was really beautiful to connect

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with you. Okay, well, we will do it

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again. Wonderful.

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