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In the quantum physics world, there's a thing called entanglement.

Entanglement means that you have these pairs of opposites,

it doesn't matter how far away they are, they still function as a one unit,

a simultaneous pair of opposites. Well, the brain,

in the mind tend to have this sort of entangled relation.

Since I was 18 years old I've had a interest in

discovering the hidden order in life's apparent chaos

and been studying every aspect of psychology and physics and

you name it to assist in this pursuit.

And so I'd like to share with you something that I know will be very thought

provoking at least, and definitely meaningful if you apply it. So

if you're, let's say you meet somebody that you're very infatuated with

and you are conscious of their upsides and momentarily unconscious

of their downsides and are impulsively attracted to them

and have them so,

you're so enamored that they occupy space and time in your mind,

and kind of run you.

To the degree that you're infatuated with them and philic, or attracted to them,

you're

gonna be phobic on the idea of somebody taking them away.

In other words you might be jealous. You might fear their loss, in other words.

Anything you're infatuated with you fear their loss.

So at the exact moment that you have a philia, which is an attraction,

an impulse towards,

you also have the fear of the loss of that which you seek.

One of the greatest primary fears in life and distresses in life is the

perception of loss of that which you seek.

So if you're mildly attracted,

you'll have a mild fear of it being gone. If you're highly attracted,

you'll have a bigger fear. So the greater the infatuation,

the greater the phobia. And phobias are a byproduct of that.

On the other side of the equation,

you've also probably run into people that you just don't necessarily get along

with so well, you might even resent them or despise them.

And now you're conscious of the downside and unconscious of the upside,

and you have an instinct to avoid them.

But what's interesting is to the degree that you are resenting them or wanting

to avoid them,

you also create a disassociated fantasy about what it's gonna be like to get

away from them, to escape them, it'll be a relief.

It'll be a grief if they came near you,

there'd be a relief if you got away from them.

If the people you're infatuated with came near you, you have relief.

If it gets away from you, you have grief. Now all of a sudden,

you have a reciprocal fantasy to escape that which you are resenting.

So the phobia of being around the person that you resent is associated with the

philia, the fantasy of escaping. In other words,

the moment you are philic with something you're phobic,

and the moment you're phobic of something, you're philic.

They're simultaneous in the brain.

If you infatuate with somebody who's intelligent,

you'll resent somebody who's ignorant. If you resent somebody who's ignorant,

you'll infatuate with somebody who's intelligent.

The brain has a reciprocal contrast.

Wilhelm Wundt, an early psychologist over 125 years ago,

said there are simultaneous contrast in the mind,

but most people are subjectively biased in their interpretation of their reality

and they are sequentially seeing them. That means they're momentarily,

subjectively biased towards something and infatuated with it and see

all the upsides but don't see the downsides and don't

of the philia and the phobia.

And other times they're resentful to something and they're conscious of the

downsides, unconscious of the upsides,

and don't see the upsides and then label it something to avoid.

And our impulses and instincts are survival strategies to seek prey

and to avoid predator.

And anything that supports our value represents prey and anything that

challenges our value represents predator. But actually at any one moment,

they're both simultaneously going on.

It's been shown in ecobiology that maximum growth and

development of a human being occurs at the border of the support and the

challenge, the philia, the phobia, the prey and the predator.

Imagine if you were out in the world,

in a world of ecology and you have food that represents

prey and something that wants to eat you representing predator.

If you didn't have a predator,

all you had is prey and all you did is had something to eat and you didn't have

any concern about a predator, you might overeat.

Your ghrelin hormone in the brain will be accentuated and you'll probably

overeat. And if you do, you'll be gluttonous, you'll gain weight,

you'll get heavy and you will be sluggish and you won't be fit.

So the predator standing by makes sure you eat just the right amount of food

to maintain fitness, cuz you eat too much,

you'll be tired and you won't be able to run fast and you'll get eaten by the

predator.

So the predator's presence keeps the ghrelin and

leptin hormones in eating in balance.

And you need both that support and challenge.

And if you had nothing but a challenge, a predator standing by,

and you didn't have any food or any prey to eat,

you'd end up emaciated and starved and then not have the energy for fitness.

So nature has an ecosystem that has prey and predator, support and challenge,

philia and phobia,

cuz you're philic towards food and you're phobic towards predator eating you.

One is pleasure. One is pain.

So maximum growth and development occurs at the border of pleasure and pain,

support and challenge, prey and predator, positive and negative. You know,

all pairs of opposites. Heraclitus,

the earliest philosopher back in the fifth century BC talked about these pairs

of opposites. Anaxagoras,

another philosopher even before him talked about the pairs of opposites of

pleasure and pain and how they're inseparable.

Kipling said that we try to separate the inseparable's,

divide the indivisible's, label the unlableble's, name the ineffable's,

polarize the unpolarizable's and try to see them sequentially instead of

see them simultaneously. Well, many years ago,

I was trying to find a hidden order in the apparent chaos and I found out that

chaos or what was called disorder or is another name for entropy,

the tendency to go from order to disorder is according to Clause Shannon,

missing information. So missing information is the unconscious mind.

So in other words, when we're infatuated,

we're unconscious and missing information about the downside,

when we're resentful,

we're unconscious and missing information about the upside. As a result of that,

we're ignorant of what the whole is. We're not mindful. We're mindless.

We're ignorant of that.

And the missing information is called entropy, which is called disorder.

But when all of a sudden you see both of them simultaneously and you're fully

aware or mindful of both sides, simultaneous, both

the pain and the pleasure, et cetera.

You're not fooled by the ignorance and you're able to be present

and maximize your potential.

Maximum potential occurs at the border of these two things.

Maximum growth and development occurs or maximum fitness occurs there.

So wisdom is knowing how to wake up in our mind the

questions that make us aware of the part we normally ignore.

Now we have a very interesting thing. We have a lower subcortical,

amygdala portion of our telencephalon and that part of our brain is involved in

seeking and avoiding it's the survival center or in a sense desire center,

desire to seek that which you feed off of and desire to avoid that which is

feeding off you. We also have an executive center,

which is a medial prefrontal cortex and prefrontal cortex area,

and that is able to see both of them objectively, simultaneously.

So if we're are under survival mode, we tend to have a false perception,

we tend to have missing information, we tend to have a seeking or avoiding.

We tend to have impulse and instinct,

and we're basically in a survival mode.

This is not where we maximize our fitness. This is a distress zone.

Cuz anytime we fear the loss of something or fear the gain of something,

we have distress and we're living in a phobic environment.

But the moment we see both sides simultaneously and

hidden order because we see both sides simultaneously and nothing is missing

in our awareness, we're not ignorant, we're wisdom.

Wisdom is the instantaneous recognition that the blessing and the crisis come

together, the support and challenge. So if I came to you and I said,

you're always nice and never mean, always kind, never cruel,

there's a part of you that would intuitively know, eh, that's not true.

If I said you're always mean never nice, always cruel, never kind, you'd go. No,

that's not true. But if I said,

sometimes you're nice when you're being supported,

sometimes you're mean when you're being challenged, you would go, yep,

that's true. You have both sides.

And they're actually simultaneous. You can be nice to somebody,

mean to somebody else, give attention to somebody and ignore somebody else. Now,

if you're fully aware of this in others and in yourself and in life in general,

you're able to stay centered and maximize your potential.

I call that the Great Discovery. I discovered that in the mind,

there's not a one-sided environment.

What I found out is, let's say somebody comes up to you and they challenge you.

And they do a behavior, some trait,

action or inaction that you dislike or despise that you're perceiving them

demonstrating. So I ask the question, what specific trait,

action or inaction do

you perceive this individual displaying or demonstrating that you despise or

dislike or hate most? Boom. And you write down verbal criticism, let's say.

And then you stop right there at that moment. You go, okay. Verbal criticism.

That means you're not seeing praise. You're seeing criticism.

You're seeing rejection maybe, you're seeing a put down,

but you're not seeing the uplift.

And what's interesting in the quantum physics world,

there's a thing called entanglement.

Entanglement means that you have these pairs of opposites,

that doesn't matter how far away they are, they still function as a one unit,

a simultaneous pair of opposites. Well, the brain,

in the mind tend to have this sort of entangled relation.

The moment you're seeing something that's critical,

you're comparing it to its opposite that you're perceiving in your mind that

somebody praising you. And in your mind,

your mind brings up what is called an anti-memory at the same moment that you're

perceiving they're criticizing you,

and you're comparing it to somebody that's praising you.

And the pleasure of one accentuates the pain of the other.

So as long as you're addicted to the pleasure of somebody supporting you,

you're going to fear and not like the pain associated with the person that's

criticizing you. As long as you're addicted to praise,

As long as you're addicted to support, challenge is gonna be pain.

So as long as you're looking for one side, the other side's there.

And it's there entangled as a pair of opposites, they're simultaneous.

But we don't see it. We are ignoring it. And when we're in survival mode,

we see only one side and we have a skewed view, a subjective bias view,

a false positive, or a false negative.

A false positive is assuming something that's there, that's not.

And a false negative is assuming something's not there, that is.

And so we end up having these confirmation disconfirmation biases on our reality

and not see things as they are. We see things as we assume they are.

And this is our reality that causes us impulses and instincts and let the world

around us run us,

cuz anything we infatuate with occupies space and time in our mind and anything

we resent occupies space and time in our mind.

So we're now a victim of our environment, our misperceptions.

And so we disempower our life. We don't empower our life with that.

But the moment we ask a quality question;

go to a moment where and win you perceive this individual displaying or

demonstrating the specific trait, action, inaction you despise most.

Verbal criticism. Great. Go to that moment. You there? Great. Where are you?

When are you?

And this is activating an episodic memory in the brain to make sure you're

really present. What exactly are they doing that you're judging?

What's the context, why they doing it? Cuz it's not just random event,

there's something you're doing that's challenging their values enough for them

to wanna do it or it's something that you're being cocky down to them and you're

needing criticism to be brought into homeostasis and authenticity.

There's a reason for it. What's the context? And then

You in this case. And if you go and get present with those five variables;

where, when, content, context, and also who the vector is,

who they're doing it to, and you get present in that moment with that state,

your intuition will pop up the other side.

Just like if I told you you're always happy and never sad,

your intuition would go and think of times when you're sad and automatically

pull it up.

And the moment you actually get present with those five variables and look at

who they did it to and then at that moment, look at who

You'll find out that your mind will surface instantaneously an

individual in reality, or in virtual reality,

that is counterbalancing that at the moment.

And if you become aware of both them at the same time,

you see the hidden order in the apparent chaos.

The chaos or disorder is the missing information.

But if you're fully aware of both of them, you see the hidden order.

Now when I was 18 years old,

I remember reading Gottfried Wilhelm Leibniz Discourse of Metaphysics

and some of his textbooks, Théodicée and Monadology. And when I was reading it,

he was taking a group of students and he asked them to write down some random

dots on a piece of paper and to remember the sequence in which they wrote them

and to outline the sequences, 20 different numbers.

And then they would turn it in and he'd put a Cartesian grid on it.

And then he would basically ask them or he'd go through there and figure out the

mathematical formula,

the function of x vs y in order to show them that inside their apparent chaos,

there was a hidden order. And then I realized that

Boltzmann basically back when I was 18 said that, that there was a, that,

probability of chaos in universe is simply we just don't know all the different

variables there. If we did,

we would realize that there's still a hidden order in it.

So I always say that as Claude Shannon says,

that chaos is missing information. It's unconscious information.

If we ask the right questions and become conscious of what it is,

we can see the hidden order in our apparent chaos.

We can then become poised instead of poisoned.

We can see simultaneous contrast at that moment, cuz we're fully aware,

we're mindful, we're present.

And we liberate ourselves from the distractions that occupy space and time in

our mind and become really empowered and present and maximally fit.

So the quality of our life's based on the quality of the questions we ask,

if we ask questions that make us aware of the unconscious simultaneous with the

conscious we become fully conscious.

So I teach a program called the Breakthrough Experience.

The Breakthrough Experience I've done 1,140 times.

It's something that I share around the world.

And what I do in that program is I introduce a methodology,

a specific set of questions which makes up a method that allows you to see this

hidden order and take the baggage that's stored in the subconscious mind

from all those things that we are running away from and seeking.

Cuz anytime we see only one side and we're ignorant of the other side and we're

infatuated or resentful or, you know, we're unconscious of information,

it's stored in the subconscious mind as an impulse and instinct that makes us

like an automaton, react to our environment without

But if all of a sudden we ask both sides and see both sides,

we liberate ourselves and we act from within and we're independent.

And so in the Breakthrough Experience,

I teach a method called the Demartini Method,

and a subset of that is a particular set of questions called the Great

Discovery.

And the Great Discovery is a set of questions that make you fully conscious of

these pairs of opposites at the same time.

As Wilhelm Wundt said that you now have simultaneous contrast,

or as Heraclitus says,

you are able to see the pairs of opposites at the same time.

This is like the same thing that Zeno did,

the philosopher who tried to use the dialectic in philosophy to have a

proposition and the anti proposition and to eventually merge them in a synthesis

as Hegel would do and liberate ourselves from the baggage of these

opinions, these subjective bias opinions.

And the dialectic was used in philosophy to gain wisdom.

And so by doing this method that I teach in the Breakthrough Experience you

really gain appreciation and wisdom.

Cuz when you see the hidden order in things you become grateful,

your heart opens, you're actually inspired. You're now inwardly driven.

You return into your executive function in the brain where you're objective.

You set real goals in real time, not skewed goals.

Cuz when you're manic and elated looking down on somebody and puffing yourself

up with pride, you tend to set too big a goal in too short a timeframe.

When you're minimizing yourself, looking up to somebody that you're infatuated,

you tend to set too small a goal in too long a timeframe.

Both of those are feedback mechanisms to guide you back into authenticity.

But if you actually balance those,

you become authentic and everybody wants to be loved and appreciated for who

they are. When they are who they are, they get to feel that.

If they're not who they are,

when they're puffing themselves up with pride or minimizing themselves with

shame, because they're looking down or up at people,

then what happens is they don't get to be authentic,

you don't have fulfillment in life. So doing the method, the Demartini Method,

that particularly the column 6 and 13, the Great Discovery component,

which allows you to see simultaneous contrast,

which allows you to put the puzzle, the disorder back into order,

allows you to stand very strong inside,

not letting the external world run you and letting you run you.

And you basically then set your life and live by design, not default.

Because most of the time we're running our lives, trying to avoid and seek,

instead of actually pursue by design what is meaningful and inspiring to us.

Extracting meaning out of our existential existence on this planet is the

intuition trying to make you aware of what's been unconscious and bring you back

into the mean between the pairs of opposites.

Aristotle wrote about this in his times.

And he showed that the golden mean was the balance between the excess and

deficiency of perceptions.

So if we're excessively seeing the upsides and deficiently seeing the downsides,

the middle between those is the authentic state, and this is where the mean is,

and then we extract meaning out of it. So if you're infatuated,

you extract meaning by finding the downsides,

when you're resentful to something you extract meaning by finding the upsides.

If you see them simultaneously, you live with meaning.

And the distinction between us and the animals is the animal can be avoiding and

seeking and live with a prey and predator mentality and a subjective bias and in

survival.

But it's the human being that can extract meaning out of its existence,

transcend those pairs of opposites and put them into simultaneous contrast

and allow life to end up being present. Timeless mind, ageless body states,

cuz we found the hidden order. In the book What is Life? by Erwin Schrödinger,

Nobel prizewinner he talked about negentropy, the opposite of entropy.

Since entropy is missing information, negentropy is refining that information.

That's why in the Breakthrough Experience, in the Demartini Method,

which is a goldmine of knowing how to ask the right question and becoming

aware of the information that you perceived was missing

of it,

liberates you from a lot of subconsciously stored baggage and allows you to sail

free, liberated, doing what's inspiring to you, intrinsically.

We have a set of values in our life and whatever's highest on our value,

which I call the telos, is the one that we are spontaneously inspired to act.

And it's in that action in the pursuit of that,

that gives us the most objective activities. Objective activity means

ones that we embrace both sides simultaneous.

So when we're living and filling our day with the highest priority action

possible, we have the most objectivity, the most neutrality,

the most awareness and fullness, mindfulness.

That's why if you fill your day with high priority actions that inspire you,

it doesn't fill up with low priority distractions that don't.

Distractions are those things that impulse and instinct you,

because of subjective biases, all of your distractions in life,

which you call problems, are nothing more than incomplete awarenesses.

I've taken people and been consulting with people for decades and I assure you,

every problem you'll ever face in any of the seven areas of your life comes down

to missing information. That's what a problem is.

It's missing information that's keeping you from being objective and neutral and

present and you're basically, you're not having resilience.

When you're neutral you don't fear the loss of things,

you don't fear the gain of things. you're able to adapt.

When you're not neutral and you're highly polarized,

you're automatically fearing the loss or fearing the gain.

So if you wanna live beyond the fear zone and try to and have a transcended

awareness and see simultaneous opposites and realize that there is

pairs of opposites at all time, 24 hours a day,

our life is like a stream of consciousness as William James said,

and the stream of consciousness moment by moment, millisecond by millisecond,

picosecond by picosecond, perceptions.

And every perception has a pair of opposites.

And if you can actually go and be very present in that moment and follow this

Demartini Method moment by moment, the moment you see both sides,

you dissolve the subconsciously stored baggage that is like an animal inside you

and wake up a higher ordered state, which is like an angel in you,

and liberate your yourself from the subconscious baggage

that's running your life and end up living your life by an inspired mission.

There's a passion down below, which is avoiding and seeking.

And there's a mission from within which is an intrinsic calling towards

something that's a contribution that's sustainable and a fair exchange with you

and the world around you.

And you can't have fair exchange as long as you're looking up or looking down at

people or minimizing or exaggerating yourself.

Anytime you have a state of equanimity and a poised state,

which the Demarini Method helps you develop,

then you are labeled to have a greater equanimity within and an equity without

which allows you to have sustainable relationship dynamics.

So you get the benefit of less noise in the brain,

you get a business development because you're not negating your customers,

negating your staff.

You're allowing yourself to have equality and you end up having the same thing i

n finances, cuz emotions are what undermine financial growth.

You're able to do it. As buffet says, until you can manage emotions,

don't expect to manage money. And in relationships itself,

if you are too cocky or too humble,

you're going to be neutralized by your partner. In social settings, again.

Every area of life, your physical health and wellbeing,

you're not gonna expect to have physiological wellbeing

and equilibrium of opposites.

Resilience and adaptability and physiology occur when you have a balanced mind,

you can't have a balanced physiology without a balanced mind.

And also in spirituality,

very essence of equanimity is our spiritual path. It's a state of grace.

It's a state of gratitude.

The executive center in the forebrain is called the gratitude center.

And when you have things in neutral balance and objective,

you end up waking up your appreciation and love for life.

So my message today is on the significance

of seeing the Great Discovery, the hidden order in the apparent chaos,

by learning to ask questions that allow you to be conscious of the unconscious

information that allows you to be fully aware.

And that's why the Demartini Method in the Breakthrough Experience is so crucial

for a mastered life and why I wanna share that with many people as I can.

I've worked on that literally since I was 18 on how that developed and how to

ask those questions and do it.

And I take you methodically through that process in order to master your life

with it.

Because every time you transcend the subconscious storage and put it into a

super conscious storage, you end up living your life by an inspiration,

not quiet life of desperation.

A quiet life of desperation's when your impulses and instincts are running you

like the animal instead of your angelic missionary message of the world.

You wanna get your message out in the world, you need that angelic part of you,

the more enlightened part of you.

The more enlightened part of you is the one that's fully conscious.

So I just wanted to go off on a few moments on that and to elaborate on these

pairs of opposites, the simultaneous contrast.

You can look at up Wilhelm Wundt W U N D T,

and his work on simultaneous contrast and his laws of contrast.

You'll see he mentioned that. William James talked about the pairs of opposites.

If you look carefully, it's called by Jung,

the conscious and the unconscious being balanced, Leibniz said the same thing,

you'll see throughout the ages that this knowledge has been there,

but so few people tend to follow it. Most of the time,

we're trapped trying to avoid pain, seeking pleasure,

living in a passionate situation that is basically

a futility instead of having a utility.

So I just wanted to share with you about this important principle of this

simultaneous contrast, the hidden order, I call it the Great Discovery.

Please take advantage of the Great Discovery in the Breakthrough Experience.

Come and join me for that. Let me teach you that. It's mind blowing.

It's absolutely inspiring.

It'll bring tears to your eyes when you realize that no matter what you've done

or not done, you're actually participating in a balancing act.

Many times the moral hypocrisies that we've injected into our lives because of

our outside authorities we've given power to,

has confused us and in a sense created a false ideal of a

one-sided world. Instead of embracing the pairs of opposites in life.

I wanna make sure that you liberate yourself from that.

So you can love all parts of yourself and start to love the people in the world

around you, because the magnificence of the world and you, as it is,

is far greater than the fantasies we keep imposing on ourselves.

So to help you on that, I just wanna, a special gift,

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It'll be a mind bender and it'll make you think.

And if you need to listen to this more than once, that's fine.

I know I speak a bit fast, but this is so important to me,

I've been working on this for 49 years,

studying the neurology and the physiology and the physics of this and the

psychology and the philosophy of this, it's profound. One of the greatest,

it's the greatest discovery I've made in all of my creativity and work in 49

years is how this works. And this is a powerful way,

if you wanna love yourself and be yourself and really end up being more

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please take advantage of learning these pairs of opposite simultaneities, they

are absolutely mind blowing when you see it,

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please go and watch this if you need to more than once to do it,

take some notes. If you need a little dictionary, that's fine,

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I get inspired about sharing this information with

and I look forward to seeing you next week for our next little webinar.

Please take advantage of this opportunity and I'll see you next week,

enjoy this week. And just contemplate these pairs of opposites.