In this episode, I’m speaking to one of the most common hesitations I hear when women are considering deep, embodied healing work:

“I just don’t have time for this."

We live in a world that glorifies busyness — that rewards production and punishes rest. But here’s the truth: your healing requires space.

This journey isn’t about adding another thing to your overflowing to-do list. It’s about creating room to breathe, to feel, to reconnect with your body and your pleasure.

In this episode, I explore:

✨ Why slowing down is the medicine your nervous system has been craving

✨ How time scarcity often masks feelings of unworthiness

✨ What it looks like to make space for your pleasure, even in a full life

✨ The ripple effect of one woman choosing to rest, receive, and remember

If you’ve been telling yourself, “I just can’t make time for this right now,” I want you to hear this:

You deserve to take the time.

You deserve the slowness.

You deserve to come home to your body.

About the 1:1 Coaching Container

Doors are now open for my private coaching container, Connected Pleasure, where I guide you to:

🌹 Reclaim your pleasure

🌹 Remember your power

🌹 Come home to your body

What’s Included in My 1:1 Coaching Container

There are two ways to work with me during open cart week:

🌸 Core Coaching Package — $2,999

• 8 total sessions over 3 months (6 teaching + 2 integration)
• Deep guided support through sexual healing, embodiment, and pleasure reclamation
• Personalized practices and between-session support tools
• Payment plan: 4 monthly payments of $750
• BONUS: Your choice of either an extra integration session or a personalized closing ritual session to anchor your transformation (either individually or potentially as a group)

🔥 VIP Coaching Package — $4,999

• Everything in the Core Package plus:
• Text and voice note support via Telegram between sessions for continued guidance
• Payment plan: 4 monthly payments of $1,250
• BONUS: Your choice of either an extra integration session or a personalized closing ritual session to anchor your transformation (either individually or potentially as a group)

🌕 Bonuses + Early Bird Special

✨ Early Bird Discount:

If one of the two early bird spots is still available, you’ll receive $500 off either package when you pay in full.

✨ Included for All Participants:

• Your choice of either an extra integration session or a personalized closing ritual session to anchor your transformation
• Optional group closing circle if this cohort desires to come together in sacred space at the end

✨ Pay-in-Full Bonuses:

• A personalized sacred feminine playlist, curated by me to help you embody sensuality and self-love in your daily life
• 15% off add-ons, including:
• The Ongoing Support Package (2 sessions per month, $750)
• The Partner Support Container (4 sessions, $1,499)

💫 If You’re Feeling the Fear...

This work might feel scary — but if something inside you is whispering “I’m ready,” even through the fear, that’s your invitation. You don’t have to have it all figured out. You just have to be willing to show up and take the first step.

If you’re ready to be witnessed, to normalize your desires, and to finally feel safe in your body — I would be honored to hold this space with you.

🌸 Click below to purchase your package or schedule your free 45-minute consultation call:

👉 Core Coaching Package Early Bird Special

👉 VIP Coaching Package Early Bird Special

👉 Core Coaching Package 4 Month Payment Plan Option

👉 VIP Coaching Package 4 Month Payment Plan Option

If you’re craving personalized support before saying yes, I’m also offering free 45-minute consultations this week — Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday only — so you can feel into whether this container is right for you.

🌕 Schedule Your Optional FREE 45 min Consultation Call Here (Available Oct. 7-9th)

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Welcome back to the connective pleasure podcast, My Loves. I'm Kayla, your host and I go by she, her hers, pronouns. And this is another episode in my open cart week, day two.

I am gonna dive in and talk about another thing that may be a question or objection of yours and that is time.

You may be thinking this is a lot of commitment for like eight or more weeks with the bonuses I am giving an extra integration session and or a ritual kind of closing ending session either by yourself or in a collective group with the other six people that want to do this, depending on if people would want to do that. So it may be more like in nine weeks depending. But I know it could feel like this is a lot of time that I am putting into this.

And one maybe where do I get the time? Or also do I deserve to spend this time on myself? And the answer to that I would say is absolutely yes.

You deserve all the time in the world to spend on yourself and your healing.

I will say the one good thing about one on one coaching that is different than if you did like a course that had specific dates that you were doing like live calls on is that you get to work this into your schedule.

I just have my calendar that once you get enrolled for your coaching package, then you can access my calendar and kind of schedule when it fits in your schedule for you again, there's 75 minute sessions. So you have a little bit more autonomy over when and yeah, when in your schedule you can fit it in.

So that is helpful the overcoming the like barrier of can I, can I fit this in?

Or how do I make time for this or do I serve deserve to make time for this is really a mindset shift of do I deserve to like really take this step in this leap? And again, only you know that for yourself. And I will say again that this is really important work.

Again, we have to really think about like, what are our values in life? And we have a lot of scarcity around time in our culture.

I am actually currently working on my own, like embodiment of time and feeling of scarcity around time. I've been constantly rushed my whole life and my body naturally wants to just be slow and sloth like and very like curl up on the couch like.

And our lives and society just are not built for that right now. That's one of the main things that I want to change in this world is being able to be slow. Because guess what? Where does pleasure live?

It lives in the slowness. It lives in the present moment.

It lives in oh, like so many of the guests that I've had on this podcast have said, like in the moments, like in the sunspot in your house, on the rug so you can lay in it with your shirt up and, and get all the rays of sunshine on your skin.

It lives in, like, for me, the moments with my son where he just does something so silly and I'm not thinking about anything else but that one moment with him. It's the long walks that we take. It's the. My son is also very into all the Halloween decorations right now. He loves Halloween decorations.

And thankfully we live in a neighborhood where a lot of people do a lot of great decorations on their lawns and around their house. And so we are taking lots of long walks right now to look at the decorations.

And like, that's where pleasure lives, is in the moments that we have with each other, with the people that we love. And so you get to live in this space.

You get to say, I'm going to put a pause on my crazy life and give myself some time to really do some important healing work that would benefit you and your whole family. This is work that ripples out. It helps you, it helps your relationship. It also helps your children.

You are able to talk more freely and openly about sex with your children. And that is huge. Huge.

That is like a generational shift in how we are able to really help a new generation define what sex and intimacy looks like and how they can feel so much safer and with ease around it, instead of it being this crazy taboo topic that we can't hardly even touch.

So spending this time on yourself has so many ripple effects and could really, you know, not just change your life, but change a whole generation of people's lives.

So know that this is really important work and especially in this time right now, again, like being in a space where we can dive into the depths, but then get to a place where we are cultivating safety in our bodies. And that is creating a frequency of love and safety in the world. And that is also what we need to be holding.

We can't necessarily look away from the horrors that are happening in our world, but we can limit the amount of like fear and scarcity mindset that we have around what could happen. That, you know, that's really where a lot of the trauma is happening right now. That. And it's like intentionally inflicted trauma.

Again, I'm in the US So I'm focusing on like our current government, but I know there's a lot of authoritarian governments trying to rise right now all over the world.

And the biggest tactic that they use is trying to just like throw so much at you that we become numb and we become so afraid that we think that there's nothing that we can do.

And I've seen it a lot where people are again, like this anticipatory thing of like, oh no, like we think this thing could be happening and then that mean that this could happen and this could happen and then all these bad things are going to happen.

And if we keep going down those rabbit holes, we're sending out this really fearful and scarce, like there's not enough for anybody and we're all gonna kind of die type energy. And the more we put that out there, the more that's probably going to be the path that is taken.

And in the same vein, if we go the other direction and hold the frequency of like, this is not gonna last.

We are going to end this and we are going to create a world of love, we are going to create a world of peace, we are going to create a world of community and abundance where everybody has their basic needs met and more. And we get rest and creativity and all these things that we have been deprived of for so long. This is what the future looks like.

And so if we really do this work and start to get into an alignment with ourselves and with the other people that are doing this work, we get to hold the frequency for a better world. And that is going to shape how things turn out.

If more of us hold that frequency than the frequency of fear, it is more likely that positive and good things are going to happen and could actually like mitigate some of the bad things that are happening right now too. So that is my personal belief. So I think that this is really important work. You absolutely deserve this time for yourself.

And I know, I know it's a commitment. And I will also be flexible enough with your schedule.

That's also why, you know, it's supposed to be like an eight week container, but I also put it over the course of three months. So we have a lot of wiggle room. We have some room for you to skip a week too.

Sometimes it's helpful to have a little bit of extra time for homework as well. So we have some room, we have some time. This is not something that, you know, we have to like, move through really quickly.

So know that, know that there's room, know that there's room to breathe. And I want you to feel like this is supportive of where you're at right now and not something that you have to just like cram into your schedule.

So think about that for yourself. All right, I'm gonna do a quick recap of the offers. I feel like I went pretty in depth in the last episode, so I'll do a quick recap.

And the core coaching container is the eight week container of six teaching sessions and then two integration sessions. The VIP upgrade is all of that plus ongoing text and voice support from me. In between those sessions you get to have me in your pocket.

The bonuses, if you pay in full, you get the personalized playlist from me of sacred music, sacred feminine music that I think is really helpful on your journey.

And everybody, regardless of whether you pay in full or pay with a payment plan, have the option of adding on a extra integration session or some type of closing ritual session. It could be individual if you just want to do it individually.

Or we could collectively survey all six people and see if we want to do a closing circle together. So it will kind of be co created as we go.

But you can either opt for an extra integration session so we would be going more in depth on how you are integrating everything, or we could do more of like a closing ritual to commemorate the end of your container. So those are the bonuses. If you pay in full. Again you get a discount on the ongoing support packages.

Otherwise they'll be full price after you go through your container. So the ongoing support package is 750amonth for two 75 minute sessions within that month.

Again, it's just for people that feel like they really need some more support after the container, that maybe eight weeks or nine weeks was just not enough and they need a little extra. That's totally fine. So that's there to give you that extra time that you need.

And it's designed to really talk about what needs to be healed on both the feminine and potentially masculine Side, if it's a heterosexual couple or just in general, what needs to be healed in that relationship. And then what are tools that the two of you can use to start working on the dynamic within your sexual experiences and how that could be different.

So those are available for you at checkout for 15% off if you purchase in full.

Unfortunately, I would like to give them at checkout to the payment plans, but my payment processing thing that I'm using does not allow it for the payment plans. So instead of making it complicated, I'm just gonna go with that and hopefully down the road that can be available. So 15% off at checkout.

But anybody can purchase them after their coaching container, regardless of what payment plan you have. So it's available to everyone. It's just the people that purchase in full upfront that can get the 15% discount at checkout.

So I hope all that makes sense. Again, I will put as much information as I can down in the show notes.

Sign up for my newsletter if you would like to see this all written out in an email as well. And I will talk to you all tomorrow for day three. Oh, I should also mention, forgot to mention this in the last one actually, that we.

I'm still offering any consultations that people want to do. So today is actually day one of consultations and I have them available tomorrow, Wednesday and Thursday.

So if you want to do a consultation first, you would rather like have a quick chat. Well, they're 45 minutes, so it's not quite quick.

But if you want to have a chat with me about where you're at, specifically how I can personally like curate for you how we would move through this container with what you are going through in mind and really give you assurance that this container is a good fit for you. Then go schedule that 45 minute consultation completely free. There's no obligation.

If you sign up for it and decide that this isn't the right fit for you, that's totally fine. That's absolutely fine. There's no like, because you signed up, you have to then go with a coaching container at the end of it.

It's really just to help you make this decision. So if you want that, it's totally optional, but they're available today, Tuesday, tomorrow, Wednesday and Thursday of this week and that's it.

So if you want to get one of those, go book it right now. Okay. All right. Well, with that, I will see you all tomorrow. Take care.