In this episode, I'm diving into a topic we all grapple with: work-life balance, or as I prefer to call it, work-life harmony.

Ever find yourself snapping at the kids over little things or feeling constantly drained? You might be struggling with poor work-life balance. I'll be sharing my personal experiences and pointing out three key signs that indicate it's time to reassess how you're juggling work and family.

Wondering how to achieve work life harmony? I'll offer practical solutions to help you find your balance and get your harmony back on track!

LINKS & MENTIONS

• Harmony Private Podcast
• Ep 27. Finding Harmony in Life & Business as a Work From Home Mompreneur
• Ep 74. 2 Under 2 Routine: Daily Rhythm for WFH Moms

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I recently posted about how I want it to be a present mom. We hear

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about being present with our children. Yes, I want to be present,

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but I also want to be pleasant. And it's hard to be pleasant.

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when you are lacking in self care

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you are now tuned in to the mom CEO suite podcast.

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I'm your host, Felicia, wife, mom, and

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entrepreneur. In this podcast, I'll be sharing my mompreneur

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journey along with strategies that will help you build your online

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business operations in a sustainable way. The goal is

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to help you build a business that fits into your lifestyle as a mom who

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values putting family first. We will also hear the

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experiences and expertise of other moms with service

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based businesses. You'll get a peek into our journeys, so you'll

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know that you aren't alone. Motherhood gets hard.

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Entrepreneurship gets hard. But together, we can

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do hard things. Welcome to the suite.

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Hey friend, welcome to another episode. Thank you for being here.

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So today we're talking about three signs of

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poor work-life balance. Now, if you've listened to the

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podcast, Have you followed the brand? You know, I

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am more of an advocate for work-life harmony. I will

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link some past episodes in the

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show description that kind of talks about why.

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I am an advocate for work-life harmony. Over

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work-life balance. But I do understand that sometimes.

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People are searching for answers for why they

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cannot obtain work-life balance. And I

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think one of the main reasons why. Is how we're even thinking

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about this whole concept of work-life balance. And so I'll link

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some episodes in the show description. So again, you

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can understand why I advocate for work-life harmony over balance.

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So go do that if you, if you have not, but.

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Today. I want to get into three signs of poor work-life

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balance or harmony. All right. So number one

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is that you respond to normal

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situations. In an abnormal way.

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Now all of these things I have experienced myself. And so I am

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not. You know, coming on here. Pointing the finger

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at you and saying, you need to do this. You need to do that. I

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really just sharing this from. Things that I have experienced. So

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number one, when you're responding to normal situations in an abnormal

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way, Many times this shows

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up as you being irritable or having mood swings.

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And let's say. For example, it's been a day with the kids, because

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for me best what it was, it was just a day with the kids, but

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them just being themselves. Was

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highly. Triggering to me in how it's a very

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irritable. And so this was assigned to me.

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That my work-life harmony was out of whack.

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Now I am, I'm sharing these three signs of poor work-life

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balance and harmony, but I'm also going to give you, some

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solutions to this as well. So make sure you stick around. And

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listen to the entire episode. So if you're responding to normal

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situations in an abnormal way, it could be a lack of arrest. It

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could be a lack of boundaries. It could be. Um,

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misaligned priorities. it. It could be. Be overworking. It could be a

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lot of reasons why you're responding in the way that you are. But

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this is an indication. Like all of these things that I'm going to share

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today, it's like red flags, red light flashing, something is

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off and you need to really address. The deeper

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issue. Okay. Now second. Sign of poor work-life balance or

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harmony. Number two is a.

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Decline and your general health and wellbeing. Now.

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I'm not talking about. You know, chronic illness or anything like that,

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but just in your general health. If you are not. Finding

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the time to. Tend to your health.

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Or to do things like eat properly

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or not eat poorly. Whore, you

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know, If you're not drinking your water, or if you're

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over consuming. Things that are not the

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best for you like sugars and, fatty

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foods or processed foods. Um, if you are

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not taking the time to move your body.

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Again, this could all be an indication that you might be

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stressed. You might be overworked. And that something

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is just out of alignment and not.

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Right. And again, red flag. Red

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light flashing. We need to figure out what the deeper issue

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is. So in a past episode, I talked about I'll link

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it in the show description. I talked about how I

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eliminated sugar from my diet. Because.

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Well for a few reasons, but I realized that I was over

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consuming it. Because of stress and I was not

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handling my stress properly. And so the way that I was

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handling it. Was to, you know, eat sugar. Sugar is like

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a comfort food. Instead of really addressing the deeper

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issue, which was the stress. And so

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that. Cost issues with my health. Like

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nothing crazy, but. You know, I felt more

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sluggish and it caused inflammation,

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sugar causes inflammation. And so I would have

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not terrible menstrual cycles, but once I

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eliminated sugar, My cycle.

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Improved dramatically. Right. And so. If

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you are seeing a decline in your general health, we really need to

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dig deeper and understand why. Why are we not

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eating properly? Why are we not, you know, drinking our water? Are

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we too busy? You know, are we too stressed?

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Um, my therapy, some depression going on.

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What's the real reason. Okay. And then the third

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side. Is that you are constantly feeling

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overwhelmed. Now, I'm not saying you're never going to feel

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overwhelmed because as number one, a mom. And then as a

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business owner as well. There will be moments.

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And situations where you will feel overwhelmed.

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But if this is a constant thing where

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you are feeling overwhelmed and say today,

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Then this is an indication that again, something is off

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red flag for like flashing. Why am I feeling

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overwhelmed every day? Something is wrong. Something

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needs to change. I might need to, let me

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start getting into the solutions for you for you now. So, if you

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are experiencing any of the signs. How can you

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fix it? Now? I talk deeply about this

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in the harmony private podcast, which is an audio course.

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That walks you through. It guides you in how

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to create and achieve work-life harmony.

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And so it was a six module audio course. And I talk

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about these things that I'm going to mention now.

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Can I talk about them in a deeper way in the private podcasts. All right.

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So would you want to consider our first-year priorities? Have you

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identified what your priorities are? And are

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you. Adhering to the priorities that you

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said. Okay, because there's one thing to know what your

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priorities are, but are you keeping the priorities, the priority?

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So for me, I have identified that in my

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life in general and on a day-to-day basis, my priorities look like

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this. God. Self. Family

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business. So. My relationship with

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God has to be the number one priority. Right? So I have

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identified that, but if there's a day where my

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actions don't line up with that priority,

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then things are out of whack. I'm going to be a little bit more

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irritable or I might. Operate in my

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flesh more than in the spirit. Right. And so number one priority

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is guy. And number two priority is self.

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And this is number two because I need to

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be. In a good frame of mind. I need to be in a good

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state in order to be able to function as.

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A wife, a mom and a business owner. If I am.

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Not healthy. If I am not in a good frame of mind.

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That affects how the family, they are. That affects how the

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business. Operates. And so I need to take

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care of myself. Right. And so again, this looks

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like. nutritional things and physical activity

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and, whatever. Self care looks like for you.

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Do that. Because we can't pour from empty cups. And then when

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I don't. keep self care a priority. Again,

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I'm more irritable with my children. I don't respond

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to them the way. That I w

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like to all the time. I recently posted about how I

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want it to be a present mom. We hear about being present with our

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children. Yes, I want to be present, but

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I also want to be pleasant. And it's hard to be pleasant. when

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you are lacking in self care.

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Okay. So identify what your priorities are

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and, and stick to the priorities, whatever that looks like for

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you. Okay. So I just share what mine are. To give you an

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idea. And, and what that looks like. Then

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also, once you identify your priorities, you want to set your boundaries and you

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want to have boundaries for. Yourself. You want to have

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boundaries for your business. you want to have boundaries for. your

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family. Okay. And the boundaries really just give people

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guidelines for how to interact. And engage with

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you. It informs people of what you.

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will and will not accept. And so sometimes when we

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don't have boundaries in place, that's when we tend

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to overwork. That's when we say yes to more than we should say

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yes to best when we have more on our plate than we need

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to. That's when in the business they're scope creep and we're doing

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more than what the contract actually says. And so we want to. make sure

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that we have these boundaries in place. So that we can keep

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our work-life balance in our harmony intact.

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And then another thing that you want to think about is really

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understanding what your daily rhythm is and creating

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something that works for you and your family. I

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have talked about creating a rhythm in past episodes. So again,

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I'll link that in the show description. But when you're thinking

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about a daily rhythm, This is not a routine, right. A

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routine is more rigid. A routine is time-based. As a mom and

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business, you need something that's a little bit more flexible. You need

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something that follows a little bit more, something that you can fall in

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and out of, but you still have a framework so that you can get things

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done. And in the harmony private podcast, I

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walk you through how to actually create that rhythm for you and your

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family. And how you can do it in a way that's going to,

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um, alleviate and relieve yourself a frustration.

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And relieve you of that overwhelm that you are feeling.

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Um, I also talked about in a past episode.

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How I was feeling very frustrated. Through the

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day when, I would try to get work done with my

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kids home with me. And I talked about how I just

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stopped. Trying to do work through the day. And I

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shifted my work blocks to the nighttime. And

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that was really a part of creating the rhythm. That was a part of observing

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and understanding. The habits of my children and just

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knowing that okay. Uh, working at night is what works best.

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This is the rhythm that works for us. So again, if you want to dive

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deeper into these things into priorities, into

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boundaries, how to create and communicate your boundaries, how to

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create a rhythm plus three other modules, make sure you check out the

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harmony private podcast, but. Again,

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Three signs that your or your work-life balance. Or

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your work-life harmony is not intact.

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Is number one, you are responding to normal situations in an

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abnormal way. Number two, there's a decline in your

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general health and wellbeing. And then number three, you are

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constantly feeling overwhelmed. And if you are feeling any of these things,

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We need to look to the deeper reason as to

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why. And how you can kind of restore your work-life

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harmony is to start looking at your priorities,

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looking at your boundaries and looking at what your daily rhythm is. All

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right. So I would love to hear from you. What love to know.

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If you are feeling any of the signs or if you

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are just having more questions about how to achieve work life

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harmony would love to answer any of your questions. Feel free to shoot me a

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DM on Instagram and. I will see you in the next

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