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The Dip” That Feels Like A Hole Before Things Get Better
Episode 2528th November 2022 • The Grief Code • Ian Hawkins
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Episode Summary

In this episode, Ian discusses the challenge that you will face if you decide to let go of an outdated belief, practice, or whatever else in your life is no longer contributing to your growth in a positive way.

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  • Learn how to get through the situation of letting go and move forward to your better self. 
  • Understand that no one will be able to help you get through it if you don’t start within yourself. 
  • If you are going through the motions of grieving, one of the most important things you can do is train yourself not to cling to your sadness. The longer you cling to the idea that you just can't let go, the more time you'll need to finally get over it.
  • Subconsciously focusing on the behaviours you've decided to alter and finally letting go of the old ones will lead to the formation of new, positive routines.

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Ian Hawkins is the Founder and Host of The Grief Code. Dealing with grief firsthand with the passing of his father back in 2005 planted the seed in Ian to discover what personal freedom and legacy truly is. This experience was the start of his journey to heal the unresolved and unknown grief that were negatively impacting every area of his life. Leaning into his own intuition led him to leave corporate and follow his purpose of creating connection for himself and others. 

The Grief Code is a divinely guided process that enables every living person to uncover their unresolved and unknown grief and dramatically change their life and the lives of those they love. Thousands of people have now moved from loss to light following this exact process. 

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Are you ready, ready to release internal pain to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfillment and contribution to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it and what to do next. Before we start by one request, if any new insights or awareness land with you during this episode, please send me an email at info at the end Hawkins And let me know what you found. I know the power of this word, I love to hear the impact these conversations have. Okay, let's get into it.

Whenever you level up, and that leveling up might be you releasing old belief might be letting go of an old pattern. Maybe it's we've broken through something that's been blocking you for a long time, maybe you've had assistance in letting go of, of a habit that is no longer serving you. When you go to that next level. Before you level up, there's a dip. You may feel like you've done all this work, you've come out the other side or something. And it feels like you're in a worse place. This is a pivotal moment. Because if you allow yourself to be drawn into that old story that, like I've done the work I know I just had a breakthrough. Why do I feel like I've actually gone backwards. If you buy into that, you will allow yourself to be dragged in to that dip. And it may well become a bigger hole, or you stay in that dip for much longer than you need to, instead of recognizing that after you have a big breakthrough. It's like a mini death, a mini moment of grief. Because part of you that you've been with you from such a young age is now gone. It's like part of you died. A part of you that's not serving you anymore. But nonetheless, it's a mini death. I've heard people describe it as an ego death. Part of what has driven you, not from a place of heart, but from a place of ego has died, you've let go of it. And so there's a mini grieving process. So allow yourself to go through the rage, acceptance, denial, all those other different things that might show up guilt, anything, recognize it, be aware of it and then get excited, because it means you're about to level up, it means you're about to go to another level. And it's necessary. Now as you get better at this, and you recognize the dip, you'll find it actually turns into more of a plateau, you'll actually find it's more like a little tiny little ripple, tiny little bump. But it's being able to identify that when that happens when you make that breakthrough. When you are able to move past something that sometimes you can feel like a setback. That's not even there. If you're the sort of person that relies on having a trigger to remind you of this, pull it somewhere you'll see it. So for me my office have a whiteboard in front of me here where I have all the key things I need to the need to remember. And if there's something that I want to really install the moment then I put it up there until it becomes second nature. It's subliminally going into my mind every day because it's up there and I'm seeing it whether I consciously making an intention to read it or not. You're the sort of person that you're on the go a bit. Maybe you could put it in your phone. Set a reminder to check it with with some other things. You might want to check everyday low goals and other sorts of daily habits and routines and so on. But just get it somewhere where you can see it somewhere you can read it somewhere where it's front of mind until you're able to create that habit. Enjoy the dip, because you can now get excited about where we're heading next.

I hope you enjoyed this episode of The Grief Code podcast. Thank you so much for listening. Please share it with a friend or family member that you know would benefit from hearing it too. If you are truly ready to heal your unresolved or unknown grief. Let's chat. Email me at info at Ian Hawkins. You can also stay connected with me by joining the Grief Code community at Ian Hawkins forward slash The Grief Code and remember, so that I can help even more people to heal. Please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform