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🎉 New Episode Alert: "Art, Abs, and Baby Babs!" 🍼 Episode 11 is here, and we're diving into the unique and often amusing world of parenting, postpartum fitness, and a touch of artistry! Join us in another candid and lively episode of Blabbering. In this episode, we're sharing:

1️⃣ Resolution Adjacent & Postpartum Fitness: Explore our journey into postpartum fitness and nutrition. Tilly's experiences with a personal trainer and her plan for postpartum body recovery are both inspiring and hilariously real. Get insights into the balancing act of fitness, feeding, and motherhood. 🏋️‍♀️🍼

2️⃣ Relationship Realness & Parenting: Dive into our honest discussions about maintaining relationships and intimacy amidst the whirlwind of parenting. We delve into the nuances of emotional and physical intimacy, and how they evolve when a little one enters the scene. 💑👶

3️⃣ Life Modelling & Body Image: Join us as Tilly bravely steps into the world of life modelling with baby in tow, confronting post-pregnancy body image changes head-on. It's a story of empowerment, laughter, and the occasional milk mishap! 🎨🤱

4️⃣ Highs, Lows, and Funnies: We're sharing the highs and lows of recent parenting adventures, from joyful moments to the less glamorous sides of baby care. Expect chuckles, nods of understanding, and a hearty dose of reality! 😂👣

This episode is a blend of humor, heart, and the everyday heroics of parenting. Whether you're navigating the postpartum world or just enjoy a good laugh with some heartfelt stories, this episode offers a relatable and entertaining experience.

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Hello and welcome back to Blabbering.

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This is now episode 11.

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My God, 11 already.

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This week you can expect to hear all

things from resolution adjacent, farting

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through loose fanny flaps, a bit of nudie

modeling, and of course, keeping the

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spark alive, so settle down and enjoy.

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Dan 1: Alrighty, so, week eleven?

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Twelve.

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It's twelve weeks now.

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Oh yeah, it's week twelve.

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Tilly: Well, we're on to months.

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Dan 1: On to months, we're

finally on to three months.

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Baby girls like to watch the money.

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Quarter of a year?

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So it was about a year ago

that you were conceived.

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Tilly: Oh yeah, it was.

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That was January.

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I don't know what we did in January.

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Well, we had sex in January, but

Keeps us warm in a cold, cold house.

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Dan 1: Yeah.

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Got a whining dog downstairs, because

he opened the door, and let all

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the cold air into the living room.

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Now he's not enjoyed it.

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Yeah, no actually, but that's him.

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We've got an incredibly bright eyed girl.

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Tilly: And a currently blurry eyed wife.

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That's how I'm feeling.

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I'm very tired today.

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Yes, I am.

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Mumma's tired.

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Yeah, I remember like when we're

going for, we found out we're pregnant

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and obviously you go It's a doctor

and, you know, they do all the

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tests and confirm you are pregnant.

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Lovely you are.

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Happy days.

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And they always say, oh,

you know, what was the last,

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first day of your last period?

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Mine was New Year's Eve.

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And so like, okay, so that's what

we'll date the pregnancy from.

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And I'm always like, yeah, but that's

not what I conceived her, is it?

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Let's be honest.

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I wasn't having steps on the

first day of my last period.

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And mine is so regular.

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It didn't really make much sense to me.

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So that always, that always irritated

me about the Dating process, until

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you actually get the dating scan.

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Dan 1: Why was yours so regular?

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Do you know?

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No.

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No?

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Tilly: Like, so many things in

women's female health, they go,

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that's just the way it is, and

you go, that's really helpful.

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They go, it can be from this range to

this range, and they go, cool, any reason?

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We don't know.

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Excellent.

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Oh, Suzanne.

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It's like when we're like, oh, why is

it taking us a long time to conceive?

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They're like, we don't know,

you're both perfectly healthy.

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And I was like, excellent.

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They're like, wait another two

years, or three most carriages,

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and then we'll look into it.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Dan 1: That's a bit of a joke.

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So what do we have for dinner today?

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Tilly: Today we've got one of

our pre baby freezer meals.

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Dan 1: Yeah, so this was

a good thing that you did.

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Speak through that.

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Tilly: So before Bubba was born, I was

fully aware that after she was born I

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wasn't going to be Fancy and cooking or at

least cooking like, you know, long meals

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when they say like the most nutritious

meals But I also wanted to make sure we

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had good food in so I did a little sort

of cooking Frenzy in the week before

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she was born and filled up the freezer.

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We had Spag bowls, that's what we've

got tonight We also had a creamy coconut

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lentil dal Stoked some of chilli some

cottage pie filling I did some, at

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the time I did some energy balls and

some cookies, but those are all gone

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I added a massive load of granola.

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Again, that absolutely got obliterated.

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Dan 1: The freezer food lasted a while,

because we actually, you know, we managed

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to do a bit of cooking during that period.

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Tilly: Yeah, it wasn't as

thought it was going to be.

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Dan 1: No, so it's quite handy to have

days like today, where you're suddenly

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like, I'm just tired and I need food.

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Tilly: Yeah, I mean that's good

for us, like, I stuck loads of

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vegetables into this bolognese.

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I love a processor.

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If I'm doing a big batch, I don't chop

anything up, I just use a food processor.

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So onions, and carrots, and celery,

and leeks, and garlic, and courgettes,

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and peppers, and mushrooms, and

tomatoes, so, lots of vegetables.

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And then I do a mixture of both

beef mince and lentils, so it's

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not all, it's not all beefy.

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It's not all meaty.

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It's not all beefy.

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It all helps the old milk supply, that's

also why I made sure that all the meals

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I made were good for the milk supply.

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Dan 1: So it's important milk supply.

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Tilly: Yeah, baby

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Especially now we've had I've had my

program come through for my trainer

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Dan 1: Yeah, let's talk

about that briefly then

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Tilly: Yeah, so I signed on to this program with a trainer, basically she's

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going to be doing my postpartum training

program and nutrition to go with that

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because although I've got a lot of

experience in the gym, I don't experience

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training a postpartum body and I just

wasn't sure where I should push myself to

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get better and where if I push myself too

hard I'm just going to fuck myself over.

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Dan 1: Well especially

considering milk supply.

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Tilly: Or, yeah, that as well, but

I mean more just my body, like, my

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core's not there and stuff, so I

don't want to actually injure myself.

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Dan 1: Yeah, so for example, you

used to want to check if you've got

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Tilly: Diastasis recti?

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Dan 1: Yeah, just your abs

being split like the red suit.

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Tilly: Yeah because they've been

getting lower, like, lower back pain

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and things and that adrenaline which

can be quite a good common sign a bit.

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And so yeah, she did that and

then it also, sort of, a rough

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nutrition guidance around that.

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So I have enough, you know, protein, etc.

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to build muscle but also I've got enough

calories that my milk supply is not

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going to drop while hopefully still

building muscle and losing some fat.

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But I'm not really going to

be focusing on losing the fat

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as much until after I finish.

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feeding her really.

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Well once she's started weaning

it's different because she

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won't be so, you know, all her

nutrition won't come from my boobs.

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Yeah.

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But until that point I can't risk my

milk supply dropping because my milk

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supply tends to drop quite easily.

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I just can't, I'm gonna have to

just be a bit chubbier for a while.

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That means baby gets fed.

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That's the most important thing.

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Dan 1: Chubby wifey

gets you a chubby baby.

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Tilly: Yeah.

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So yeah, just doing that.

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I need to do my body measurements today.

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And then yeah, fill up my

tummy for the separation.

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But you're about to get back to work.

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Dan 1: Yeah, so I've actually been off.

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For Christmas still, so today is actually,

because we record this four weeks behind,

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so we're what is it, today is the 7th

of January so I'm still about to go back

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post Christmas today and managed to lock

myself out of my laptop, which is good

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fun, so it means that before my first

day back, I'll have to log in and try and

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ring IT a bit early and unlock myself but.

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Yeah, I don't know what I'll be

getting back to, what it'll be like.

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It's always a bit weird when you, so

basically I forgot my password because

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I haven't been working for two weeks

and that is always how it kind of feels,

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you just haven't been working for a

while and you're like, oh, what's this?

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What's that?

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It just all feels a

bit, so weird, isn't it?

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How it's just like a little

bit, you forget how to work.

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Yeah, you forget how to work.

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Fuck knows what it's gonna be

like for you after six months off.

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I know,

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Tilly: I had it confirmed

that I'm getting my 10th.

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Kit days.

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Oh good.

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So we've set our dates for that.

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So yeah, so end of January I'll be doing

sort of one day of work a week and then

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going back fully at the end of March.

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So it's quite nice that I get that

sort of like slight ease into it.

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Yeah.

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Although my boss was saying I'm

gonna regret asking for the 10,

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I'm gonna wish I only had five.

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So we'll see how it goes.

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Dan 1: Financially we won't.

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Tilly: Yeah financially

we definitely won't.

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And I think mentally I won't

stimulate, like I need the stimulation.

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As lovely as you are, darling daughter,

you're not much conversation right now.

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Well you are starting to

churn tobacco, doesn't it?

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Which is nice.

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I'm quite looking forward to

that, but I do think I'm going

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to have forgotten how to work.

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And I'm also not looking

forward to the massive amount

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of emails I'm going to have.

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Dan 1: I'll definitely just, like, delete

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Tilly: them.

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I mean, I probably will just

speak to my boss and be like,

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What do I actually need to know?

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I'm going to look

through for those emails.

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Also, I just think there's anything that

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Dan 1: I'll do I'll probably

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Tilly: not delete

everything Mark has read.

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Dan 1: If anything's like three months,

like older than three, four months, just

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bang that in a folder and just be like

We've only been off for three months.

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Yeah, I know, but when you go

back, you'll have been off for six.

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Not when I first get back.

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So

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Tilly: I'm gonna go back one

day a week, I don't know.

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Dan 1: Maybe older than a month.

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Tilly: Not important.

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Last year, who cares?

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Dan 1: Yeah.

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Oh.

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Okay baby girl, let's check

if she's got dirty nappies.

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We've got

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Tilly: a bit of a grizzly bubba.

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We didn't capitalise on her good time.

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Dan 1: Well it's always a real,

like, it's a juggling act to try

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and We can't schedule babies.

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Oh fuck, it's a nappy.

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Yeah, it's trying to fucking get Food

hot, baby happy, do all the set up.

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Because if anyone's thinking of

sending up a podcast, by the way, it

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takes a while to set up all the gear.

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Unless you just buy the

expensive stuff, if it does that.

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Even then, I'm not sure.

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Oh, it's a change complete.

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There you go.

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Back to trying to build a pot.

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Tilly: Yes.

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So, New Year resolutions.

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What are you thinking?

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I know we don't really do resolutions.

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That's probably

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Dan 1: what you're thinking.

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Yes, we do resolutions.

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You know, we're built for planning.

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I do think you need to find

what it is like, ins and outs.

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Yeah, I've seen

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Tilly: that all over Instagram.

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Yeah, okay, so what's on

your ins and outs then?

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Dan 1: Well, I guess he's

just outside to the ball.

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Out with sugar in it for you?

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Out with sugar, a lot of

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Tilly: sugar, a lot of, I

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Dan 1: don't, I hadn't.

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Tilly: I'm gonna bring in cigarettes.

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But alcohol, I'm thinking.

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Yeah,

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Dan 1: we don't, I don't really have

loads of things that, No, I already

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feel like this is just such a.

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It'd be like, I don't know, shit, you

know, because if someone does that, I'll

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just change it, irrespective of the date.

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Oh,

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Tilly: I agree with you.

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That's what we're supposed to think about.

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Dan 1: Resolutions.

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I think that's special.

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Like, it's just, you know, it's

just their own stuff, you know.

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There's always something new happening.

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It's still the thing.

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Oh, yeah.

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Because remember, a resolution

never touches chocolate.

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Or some bullshit like that, like,

just don't have, don't have, you know,

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don't have a mental bother with having

to deal with bullshit resolutions.

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I'd rather take more

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Tilly: photos.

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Dan 1: That's the end.

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At least we're sure.

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I don't want to set a resolution

on Earth you won't see.

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No,

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Tilly: but I guess we do set our

goals, which are, we do actions,

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which, you know, aren't resolutions,

they are resolution adjacent,

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Dan 1: I would say.

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Yeah, so we do something else,

which is resolution adjacent.

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Do you like that?

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I do like it.

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Tilly: Ha ha ha ha ha.

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Oh, this is a massive fart.

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Sorry if you heard that one.

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That bubbled up through my fanny.

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I

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do that a lot more since

having a baby, don't I?

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Because maybe I've got looser flaps.

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My farts bubble up a lot

more through my fanny.

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I'm an old director.

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Well,

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Dan 1: even that old fart snuck

up, but the old You don't Ha

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Tilly: ha ha ha ha.

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People are going to be like,

Wow, I can really understand

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why I'm married to that woman.

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What a sexy lady.

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My wife

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Dan 1: is very sexy lady.

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You should spell married

floppy flaps right now.

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Tilly: Floppy flaps.

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Floppy, floppy flaps.

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Why does it still look

like Homer Simpson's mouth?

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That's the throwback, because that's what

Dan's mouth, my Brad's used to look like.

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Dan 1: I won't spoon to the sarcasm.

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Smile for us.

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Nostalgius.

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Yeah.

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You wanted to know?

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Yeah.

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I mean you all No, no, I don't care.

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Alright, so

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Tilly: we talk about, we'll

talk about resolution adjacent.

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Dan 1: Okay.

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And instead is you work out, I

think life now been complaining.

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But there's just so much

to do and stuff like that.

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I think that there's more

options than there are.

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People get caught up trying to do more

things than they can do more things.

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And so what we try and do is determine

What are the roles, as it were, that we'd

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like to further by the end of the year?

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Like, by the end of the year, what do you

think it would matter to us to improve?

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Yeah.

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And then, you'd set goals for

the roles, wouldn't you set that?

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Goals for roles.

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The actual goals.

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We do.

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Tilly: So, like, our roles, what we do,

might be things like, you know, parents.

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Spouses,

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family members, whatever,

friends, that sort of thing.

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Then from that we

determine how we want that.

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to be improved or maintained and

in actions so that we know we want

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to at least maintain our level of

relationship, hopefully improve it.

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Dan 1: Yes, I was actually listening

to quite interesting it's actually

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that there would be the Raising

Good Human podcast by It's a

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something, though it is a something.

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But very good podcast.

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He's class.

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I think French Jewish American

sex therapist, I think

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her name's Esther Perel.

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Huh.

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What's very fascinating is that

like all sex therapists, she's

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like fifty sixth in class.

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Less threatening.

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But also, years of experience, and like

grandma's sort of like show off style.

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Tilly: You don't really give a shit

about ADHD, do you know what I mean?

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You're like, far less embarrassed.

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Dan 1: But she's then also able to talk

about things, tell a lot of stories, and

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relate it to it, and stuff like that.

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And, live on with her in,

oh yeah, relationships.

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While we do say like, maintain

sounds really rubbish, just try

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and maintain your relationship.

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It is more of the biggest

stressor on the relationship.

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It's this phase.

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Yeah.

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And actually I didn't realize

it's, but it's your, yeah.

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I don't know if this

is just a women minute.

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I'll clarify the moment.

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It's food where your brain grows.

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The third, it's the third world's

rapid state of brain growth.

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You have like.

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But the birth period.

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Yeah.

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The teenage period.

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I remember when you first become a

parent now I say I don't know if it's

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Jeff's mother because as you discussed

you're Supposedly the brain shrinks.

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Apparently, yeah.

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But I believe it's the both, both genders.

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The brain will start through the the

most rapid growth and learning phase.

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I imagine so.

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Again, yeah, because it's the most

stressful, it's the most stressful period.

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And so, there's a lot of stuff in terms

with this, this, as well, thoughts

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about the fact that, you know, what

you need to, you need to have somebody,

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well, I guess the, the issue is that.

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What makes a good parent is actually

the opposite of often what makes

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for a very good interrelationship.

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She says that the the energy we need

for being a parent in terms of being

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organized, being consistent, being

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you know, deliberate and all those

sorts of like, sort of, father fourth

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parents are probably the traits.

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Yeah.

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Are the opposite from the sort of fun,

spontaneous, erotic kind of traits.

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It's true.

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And so you need, you're, you

always need to have somebody

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that come hell or high water.

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Make sure that you do those things so

that you keep the, do, sorry, so that

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you fulfill that kind of paranormal,

spontaneous or, or those things that

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kind of meant more erotic energy that

were like, I don't know, going on date

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nights or like doing things that you

know, you enjoy it and finding time

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that even whether The other place

won't bother you, even if that's the

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only place that doesn't bother you.

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You gotta do those things, be it coffee,

pipes, light lights, whatever it is.

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And, it's, it's said that like, from

all, like, clinical time, that's one

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of the most important things, is that

you always have to have somebody that,

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irrespective of whatever's going on,

needs to be the person who, and it was

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quite interesting, sorry, needs to be the

person who makes sure those things happen.

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And it was quite interesting because

she was talking about the fact that,

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What can often happen is, there's one

partner that ends up resenting the other

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partner, because They feel that they do

the majority of the household and parental

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chores, and the other partner doesn't.

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And, and then, and, and because of

the difference in the way the genders,

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like, enjoy intimacy, in terms of for

women, it's Emotional intimacy first, in

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order to get in the physical intimacy.

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For men, those who think they're

more tuned in the vulnerability, it's

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generally vulnerability is that for

a man, the physical intimacy is being

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vulnerable, whereas for women it's

must be emotional intimacy first.

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And so, again, it's all

about the fact that.

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What can happen is that often the

woman in the relationship finds that

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he's doing the vast majority of the

household, and Parental chores, well,

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responsibilities, and she then feels

it's all stated in his own thought and

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then when he kind of comes back and wants

kind of the intimate, she just thinks

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he just wants sex, whereas to him, that

is how he's intimate, but to her, she's

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intimate for emotion, and so it's kind

of trying to achieve the same thing.

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Tilly: It's not great

evolution, is it, really?

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Dan 1: No.

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And therefore you need that one person

that's irrespective of the fact that

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somebody might be like I'm fucked off

with you because all I've done is clean

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up clothes and take kids to school and

your proxy girl goes fine, whatever,

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we're going out for a date night

tonight, don't care what you think.

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That's

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Tilly: what you're thinking right now.

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Dan 1: Try and keep that kind of, keep

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that

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Tilly: going.

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I think that's true.

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I think

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you need to make sure you're

both putting in those times.

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Because you're right, there's going to be

points where both parties resent the other

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person for different reasons, isn't there?

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I think.

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And they might be, they might be

longer lasting, it might be fleeting,

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but it's bound to happen at times.

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Resentment always sounds really extreme.

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Like resentment doesn't have to be

like some like, awful massive thing.

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I mean,

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Dan 1: like, you look at the

amount of content there is now.

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One part of it being alongside the other.

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That is all, that is based on resentment,

and you, you, you resent the fact

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that your partner is complaining

about something when you believe they

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should be less tired than you are.

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Yeah.

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It doesn't need to be like a

long term resentment, it can just

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be a sort of flash in the park.

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Yeah.

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I'll dare you to say that

you're tired, given that I

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did this or that or that work.

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And, you know, I think it's

just the fact that you can

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both be tired parents as well.

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And one thing to just say, while I'm

tired, and just completely generally,

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it's another thing to use it as an excuse.

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And Both parents should be allowed

to say I'm tired, irrespective of

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who got the most sleep or whatever.

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But neither parent should necessarily

be able to use it as an excuse,

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unless it's really fucking bad.

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God, I've always Especially this stage.

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Yeah.

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Sorry, I cut you off while you

were talking about resentment.

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No, I was just saying, I

think resentment is natural.

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It's gonna happen.

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But I think it's, you don't

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Tilly: wanna let it brew.

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Don't let it feed.

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I think you have to sort of like,

let yourself in and let it go.

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But like, I think you just have

to, I think you have to give a

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lot of grace, have a lot of grace

during this period, don't you?

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Some of the time

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Dan 1: we're unknown for.

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Tilly: Yes, but I think it's really

important at this stage to sort of

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go, Yeah, that's not ideal, that

might piss me off, but you know what?

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Neither of us is functioning

at our best right now.

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We're both learning, because

everything's new all the time.

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And, you know, neither

party's done this before.

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And even when it's not your first

child, that'll be the same, because

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You know, apparently you might have

never parented multiple children

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before, and that's, that'll be a

whole other challenge when it comes.

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So I think parenting in general

involves a lot of grace when it

448

comes, if you want to maintain that

449

Dan 1: relationship.

450

Dan Ep11 clear: I mean, it,

it it you a lot about yourself

451

as well because, you know, you

452

people do this.

453

Like people have been fasting.

454

Tilly Ep11 clear: fasting

455

Dan Ep11 clear: for spiritual

enlightenment for years,

456

because they find that,

457

I guess, from when I fasted, I've

become not necessarily for spiritual

458

reasons or whatever, but people

have done it for spiritual reasons

459

or for spiritual enlightenment.

460

People do it because they find that

it brings them more in line with that,

461

guess love

462

version of themselves because you're

more cranky, you're more irritable.

463

You feel a bit more like pity me or

I'm, you know, something's been done

464

wrong against me or this is so unjust,

this is so unfair kind of stuff.

465

Tilly Ep11 clear: Yeah.

466

Dan Ep11 clear: And reality is, and,

and, and that, and during those periods,

467

because, because you turn up the,

your sensitivity up, the periods where

468

you're then in a more reflective mode.

469

You can now see those elements

of character traits that

470

you don't like as much.

471

I it's,

472

the same is true with sleep, and that

basically you're going through a period

473

of almost like involuntary sleep fasting.

474

When you first have a baby,

you, you know, you end

475

Tilly Ep11 clear: up,

476

Dan Ep11 clear: you end up getting

less one, less total sleep,

477

less quality sleep and less

478

Tilly Ep11 clear: for a nap.

479

Dan Ep11 clear: sleep times as it

were, you might end up sleeping a lot

480

during the day if you're napping or you

might, you know, these sorts of things.

481

And so I just think that,

you know, the fact is it's.

482

It is a great teacher in that

regard, because if you are

483

willing to be reflective,

484

that

485

you've turned your sensitivity

right up because of the fact that

486

you've got so much less sleep.

487

Tilly Ep11 clear: You are

488

Dan Ep11 clear: up being a lot more, I

489

Tilly Ep11 clear: doesn't

matter, not so much.

490

You

491

just end up, I guess, sensitive

492

to people.

493

has been massive, I know that,

494

you know,

495

obviously you physically

feel better as well.

496

but that's

497

just magnified since

498

becoming a parent.

499

Like,

500

the Days where I go, to the gym or,

501

you know,

502

and go for good walks and stuff

versus the days where I don't,

503

huge difference, whereas before that was,

504

Dan Ep11 clear: I

505

Tilly Ep11 clear: I guess,

506

Dan Ep11 clear: more mellow

507

Tilly Ep11 clear: I think it

508

definitely does, it magnifies things.

509

Dan Ep11 clear: Yeah, I

think, yeah, definitely.

510

Sensitivity effectively goes

up, so it magnifies it, I agree.

511

And so in that regard, it teaches

you a lot about yourself, but if

512

Tilly Ep11 clear: sometimes, if

513

Dan Ep11 clear: willing to admit

514

Tilly Ep11 clear: willing,

you know, that can be

515

Dan Ep11 clear: if you're not

willing to admit that you're not,

516

Tilly Ep11 clear: it can

517

Dan Ep11 clear: You know that you're

wrong sometimes, that can be quite,

518

or you can end up with a bit of a

519

Tilly Ep11 clear: a bit of time.

520

No.

521

Jealous.

522

Dan Ep11 clear: From one

boob to the other now.

523

I don't, I don't.

524

No?

525

No.

526

That's good, I don't, I

don't despise you yet either.

527

I need a flash.

528

Yeah.

529

I'm not a very long laughter.

530

Jealousy.

531

Tilly Ep11 clear: Yeah, probably

what I do, yeah, Jealousy

532

and Resentment, I don't know.

533

I guess they're kind of

sisters, aren't they?

534

Dan Ep11 clear: Yeah.

535

Tilly Ep11 clear: This all stemmed from

our Resolution of Jason talk, didn't it?

536

Dan Ep11 clear: Yeah, I did.

537

This is how, this is, this is why

we can talk for so long, because we

538

just go down trains of association.

539

Yeah.

540

Where were we with the

resolution of Jason?

541

Why was this relevant?

542

Tilly Ep11 clear: just

saying, I just brought a

543

Dan Ep11 clear: Oh yeah.

544

Tilly Ep11 clear: We do

like, year planning, don't

545

we?

546

Dan Ep11 clear: we went on.

547

The aim is to try and keep the

relationship at least the same.

548

At

549

Tilly Ep11 clear: to at least

maintain it, hopefully improve

550

it.

551

And so I was saying, you know, one

of the goals I would set for us is

552

that once we're both back in work, so

both back, or not so both back, both

553

earning, so when you're on parental,

you've still got a good amount of

554

money coming in, and I'm back at work,

555

Dan Ep11 clear: got a

556

Tilly Ep11 clear: We'd like to

start couples therapy, not because

557

anything is particularly wrong,

558

Dan Ep11 clear: is such a

559

Tilly Ep11 clear: but we've

always, we've wanted to do

560

couples therapy for a long time.

561

Not going all shit together about

it, but I think now is the time where

562

it's really worth that investment

because like we've just spoken about,

563

this is such a massive change in our

relationship and strain at times.

564

I mean, absolutely glorious

part of our relationship, but

565

tough and our relationship is a bit

different, our relationship now.

566

You know, previously,

you were my priority.

567

Dan Ep11 clear: like, isn't it, isn't it?

568

Tilly Ep11 clear: you're still,

you're still a priority, but

569

you're not my top priority.

570

Dan Ep11 clear: Well, yeah, so this

is, again, something that I've spoken

571

to about, like, with my friends.

572

It's a very weird change in your period

of life, because, previously, You

573

were neurotic because the thing that

you cared most about was the other

574

person and the thing they likely,

hopefully, cared most about was you.

575

So between the two of you, you would

either write or you would forgive.

576

You know, so you'd either, if somebody

was to do something, they would either

577

be trying to do something nice for you

or they would unthinkingly something that

578

annoyed you, but you being, realizing

that they're doing it for your best

579

intentions can forgive as it were.

580

Whereas now, your greatest

581

Tilly Ep11 clear: priority

582

Dan Ep11 clear: is

583

Tilly Ep11 clear: A little parasite.

584

Dan Ep11 clear: a little parasite

and you both have a load of

585

learned behaviors and because

586

Tilly Ep11 clear: it's

587

not like

588

Dan Ep11 clear: happening to you.

589

Tilly Ep11 clear: not as likely

to if that makes sense, Yeah.

590

because like, you know,

591

Dan Ep11 clear: you know, if

someone wronged me, but I,

592

Tilly Ep11 clear: like,

593

Dan Ep11 clear: I know they, you know,

we're trying to do something right or

594

Tilly Ep11 clear: year.

595

Yeah.

596

You

597

know, I'm very

598

Dan Ep11 clear: and I'm very, if, because

it's probably not been that damaging.

599

Whereas, you know, let's say

600

Tilly Ep11 clear: baby, one.

601

So it

602

Dan Ep11 clear: was to happen or whatever.

603

Tilly Ep11 clear: Baby

604

Dan Ep11 clear: my priority.

605

I think, how could you

have let that happen?

606

Tilly Ep11 clear: Yeah, yeah.

607

Versus,

608

Dan Ep11 clear: Had it happened,

had you done something like that

609

to me, I'd have been more likely to

find, sort of, softer Okay, well,

610

let's just not do it next time.

611

Tilly Ep11 clear: Yeah, absolutely.

612

So yeah, I think this is definitely

a good time to start couples therapy.

613

Just to be, I think, I think

it's having that third party,

614

that checking in point, isn't it?

615

Just be like, once a

fortnight, having that time.

616

And also, you know, it's not a date night,

but it is time that's focused on us.

617

Not Barbara.

618

Dan Ep11 clear: Yeah.

619

Tilly Ep11 clear: You know.

620

Dan Ep11 clear: I mean, we can always

make it part of Date Night, can't we?

621

Yeah.

622

Tilly Ep11 clear: it's time

that's focused on us, not her.

623

I mean, obviously, it comes into it

because I imagine a lot of things to work

624

with how she's impacted our relationship.

625

But I want to make that investment this

year because I think we're both very aware

626

of things that, you know, can go wrong.

627

And I don't feel like hardly shit's

going wrong, but I just, I think things

628

can slowly drift without you realising.

629

And then before you realise it.

630

I think

631

Dan Ep11 clear: Sorry, she

sounded like she'd vomited.

632

Tilly Ep11 clear: but she kept it in

her mouth, so I think she swallowed it.

633

She does it quite a lot.

634

Dan Ep11 clear: Vomiting on the

nipple but keeping it in your mouth.

635

Ah, it's glamorous this shit.

636

It's glamorous.

637

Tilly Ep11 clear: Oh,

talking about glamorous.

638

Shall we touch on

639

the

640

Dan Ep11 clear: how are we finished with?

641

Tilly Ep11 clear: do it?

642

Have you got more to say?

643

Carry on, say more.

644

Dan Ep11 clear: No, no, if we

finish that line of conversation,

645

I'm happy to be finished.

646

I just don't want to stim it because

it's, because we were talking, because

647

Tilly Ep11 clear: I mean, maybe we

do another podcast on our planning.

648

Maybe that's a whole

episode and it's enough.

649

Let us know, guys.

650

Do you want to hear about

how we plan our lives?

651

I think that says highly

successful people, but are we?

652

I don't know.

653

I think we're like,

relatively successful people.

654

Dan Ep11 clear: Yeah, people think

we've got our shit together and

655

then they come look at our house

and they're like, fuck it, I don't

656

Tilly Ep11 clear: Which way does that

house Do you still look in this room?

657

Dan Ep11 clear: Yeah, just

lock away the room that

658

Tilly Ep11 clear: boys.

659

Everyone's got a shit

room or a shit cupboard.

660

That's life.

661

If you don't, I don't

trust you quite frankly.

662

everyone's got a drawer

of crap in their kitchen.

663

Everyone.

664

And you really sort it out like

once every four years, maybe?

665

And you're like, oh look, there's

those 50 million lighters.

666

Birthday candles.

667

so this week, me and

Baby did life modelling.

668

Dan Ep11 clear: Oh, yeah.

669

Yeah.

670

So that was quite a big thing.

671

You know, cause obviously for you the

whole kind of your body post pregnancy

672

and, and go into terms with that.

673

Tilly Ep11 clear: Yeah.

674

Yeah.

675

So I think

676

Dan Ep11 clear: Very proud of you for

677

Tilly Ep11 clear: of myself actually.

678

Yeah.

679

So in the past I struggled

quite a lot with,

680

Dan Ep11 clear: What

681

Tilly Ep11 clear: body image and

sort of, I dunno whether I'd ever

682

fully gone into eating disorders, but

definitely disordered eating for, for,

683

for about 10 years of my life really.

684

I'm sort of 15 to 25, I would say.

685

Things got a lot better

once I started dating you.

686

So it definitely was tapering

off from sort of 21, 22.

687

Well, no, this is true though.

688

Having the love of a good

man, and a man who's not.

689

Aesthetically minded,

690

Dan Ep11 clear: Yeah.

691

Tilly Ep11 clear: What's

a massive factor in that?

692

And your confidence, I always loved it.

693

From the first moment I met you,

I loved how confident you were

694

just walking around in your pants.

695

You just didn't give a,

you didn't give a crap.

696

Like, the first time you came to my

mum's house, you came downstairs for

697

breakfast and was just in your pants.

698

And you know,

699

Dan Ep11 clear: like,

700

Tilly Ep11 clear: and my mum were

there, and my sister, and they were

701

like, oh!

702

Dan Ep11 clear: I don't

think I had breakfast in my

703

Tilly Ep11 clear: Oh no, you

wear pyjama bottoms but no top.

704

Is that how

705

Dan Ep11 clear: Is that how I ate

706

Tilly Ep11 clear: it?

707

Dan Ep11 clear: Ballsy, alrighty.

708

I thought I'd gone down to my

boxes to get something or go to the

709

toilet or whatever but I didn't.

710

Tilly Ep11 clear: definitely ate breakfast

toppings, but I think pyjama bottoms on.

711

It was a summer.

712

Dan Ep11 clear: Yeah, fair enough.

713

I just think that's a bit bit

rude really, but never mind.

714

ha.

715

Tilly Ep11 clear: I didn't mind.

716

I think my granny quite liked it.

717

Dan Ep11 clear: ha.

718

Tilly Ep11 clear: She liked your legs.

719

She did comment on your legs

when she was a bit drunk on kava.

720

Dan Ep11 clear: Yep.

721

Tilly Ep11 clear: But yeah, so

like my, I've, you know, struggled

722

with body image for a long time.

723

Gotten a lot better over

the last couple of years.

724

But then obviously like pregnancy is just

a whole nother ballgame when it comes,

725

because my body's changed completely.

726

It looks very, very different

to what it looked like before.

727

Dan Ep11 clear: Yeah, so

let's talk about waist size.

728

So what was your waist before?

729

Tilly Ep11 clear: had 26 waist,

730

generally

731

Dan Ep11 clear: Then what did it go to

when you were pregnant at one point?

732

Tilly Ep11 clear: wasn't four.

733

I didn't measure it or something.

734

Holiday.

735

And then I definitely grew after that.

736

Dan Ep11 clear: And then now what

do you think you roughly are?

737

Tilly Ep11 clear: I'll find out

in a minute, measure myself when

738

I reckon I'm over 30.

739

Dan Ep11 clear: it's quite high still.

740

I don't know.

741

I don't, I don't, you might be just over,

but I don't think you'll be much over.

742

Tilly Ep11 clear: a lot

bigger than used to.

743

Dan Ep11 clear: Yeah.

744

But when you first

745

Tilly Ep11 clear: So my ribcage

expands when you're pregnant.

746

So my

747

ribcage still hasn't come back.

748

Lots of things haven't moved,

won't be moved back yet.

749

So I wouldn't be

surprised if it's over 30.

750

Yeah, so before I had like, you

know, small waist and stomach,

751

that wasn't where I kept my weight.

752

I was sort of an hourglass shape.

753

And I still, you know, to some

degree, that's the shape I am.

754

But I never had a stomach

and things before.

755

So now I've got this, like, I'm bigger

everywhere, which is fair enough.

756

You know, I put on my Everest, I've got

bigger limbs and all that sort of stuff.

757

Bigger a big

758

bigger bum.

759

But I've also got

760

I've got

761

a bigger stomach, which

I've never had before.

762

And I'm like, what?

763

For one, I'm like, how the

fuck do you dress for that?

764

I don't know how to dress for it.

765

So it's sort of figuring

out a new body to dress for.

766

Obviously, my normal clothes don't fit

me, which doesn't make me feel great.

767

I've got

768

stretch marks all over my

lower belly, which I'm not,

769

I don't mind too much.

770

Dan Ep11 clear: first

771

Tilly Ep11 clear: the thing

I'm least bothered by.

772

but obviously it's all just

differences in your body shape.

773

And so, I

774

have good days, and bad days, you know.

775

I

776

fully believe that my body is amazing and

I'm very proud of what it's done and what

777

it's still doing by feeding our daughter.

778

But I don't necessarily feel attracted

in the body that I'm in currently.

779

And So we were thinking the other day

because, I'm now on, going down to

780

sort of my statutory maternity pay,

which as anyone who's been on maternity

781

would know is not very much at all.

782

Dan Ep11 clear: It did a bit of

783

Tilly Ep11 clear: And so money is tight

for the next few months and that's

784

fine, we knew that coming up to this.

785

But we were sort of looking at the

way about, you know, what are some

786

easy ways we can make some money

now sort of, well actually I've

787

done, a bit of life on the past.

788

I could do that I generally put in

a little bit of money, and if I can

789

get sort of one of those every week or so,

790

Dan Ep11 clear: talk to for

791

Tilly Ep11 clear: that's like

another 50 quid or so coming in.

792

Dan Ep11 clear: And so I

793

Tilly Ep11 clear: of, sent some emails

around, and got a response really quickly

794

from a place round the corner from us,

795

Dan Ep11 clear: me, so that's what I

796

Tilly Ep11 clear: looking for someone,

and so, that's what I did last week, and I

797

did it with Bubba, so I got, you know, me

798

naked breastfeeding.

799

wow.

800

Dan Ep11 clear: don't think that'll

have been quite interesting, because

801

obviously they've got more people to draw.

802

Tilly Ep11 clear: Yeah, it

was interesting, they were all

803

very grateful for it, you know,

they were sort of, you know.

804

Thank you for being let into

something that's so intimate.

805

But what was funny, and what I

hadn't thought about, was that

806

sort of one of the we did a few

really short poses to begin with.

807

Dan Ep11 clear: one's up.

808

Yeah.

809

Tilly Ep11 clear: So sort of

one minute, two minute poses.

810

At the beginning I was sort of

standing up, holding, holding bubs,

811

and didn't think about the fact that.

812

obviously I was about to feed

her, so my boobs were quite full.

813

And then having that skin on skin contact

with her that my boobs just started

814

Dan Ep11 clear: It

815

Tilly Ep11 clear: So I was just standing

there and I could just feel all this milk

816

just running down my stomach and then down

my legs and it's going like in between.

817

It's like going into my crotch and I

was just like, this feels delightful.

818

You're trying to stand

still because there's people

819

Dan Ep11 clear: was

820

Tilly Ep11 clear: And I was like,

oh, and I'm holding Bubba next

821

to me and it's just all like,

822

and She's getting all wet.

823

Milk squirting down her

and So that was fun.

824

And then on one of the longer poses,

I was feeding her for a while.

825

And sometimes, you know, she'll do

a little bit of sick up, which is

826

not a massive amount, just a little

bit, when she's, like, breastfeeding

827

and, you know, milk will dribble

out of her mouth and stuff.

828

So as I'm feeding, her,

829

Dan Ep11 clear: feel it with

830

Tilly Ep11 clear: like, dribbly

wet stuff seeping down my puddle

831

and seeping through my bum.

832

So, yeah.

833

But

834

Dan Ep11 clear: I'm very proud of

you for doing it, because it was

835

confrontational, and she was great.

836

You know, she, she needed

a nappy change once, twice.

837

She fed when, well, she didn't feed

when she was meant to feed, but she did

838

some of the times, but she was silent.

839

She didn't kick off.

840

She didn't.

841

Yeah.

842

So I guess highs, lows, and funnies.

843

Tilly Ep11 clear: I think my high would

probably be the life drawing, actually.

844

Yeah?

845

Good.

846

So far I've already covered that, really.

847

Tick, tick.

848

Yeah.

849

just I think that was a good moment.

850

Like, I was,

851

Dan Ep11 clear: Yeah.

852

Tilly Ep11 clear: sort of signed up to

it and decided I just wouldn't think

853

about it much because I knew if I thought

about it too much I'd chicken out.

854

So I was like, ah, fuck it,

it's not really happening,

855

I'm just not going to think

856

Dan Ep11 clear: So I went with

you so that I could, you know, if,

857

if baby just really wasn't having

it, I could always take baby home.

858

Tilly Ep11 clear: would just do solo.

859

Dan Ep11 clear: Solo was solo

whilst he wouldn't have her.

860

And then I but, and so I just

kind of sat there working on the

861

laptop, perving away in the corner.

862

Tilly Ep11 clear: In the,

863

Dan Ep11 clear: I did not, that

would have been vastly inappropriate.

864

And.

865

Tilly Ep11 clear: but

866

Dan Ep11 clear: On the way into the

building, you suddenly went, Oh my

867

gosh, what have I got myself into?

868

Oh, can I really do this?

869

And I was like, yeah, yeah, go on.

870

Let's just get in the door.

871

Let's just get on with it.

872

Tilly Ep11 clear: yeah,

thankfully it was warm.

873

So bit horrible If it was cold, but I had

like a plastic chair to sit on, I think

874

I might bring a cushion or something.

875

Next time it's a bit nicer to sit

on because I did feel like when

876

I caught it, it was like, you

know, sort of stuck to it slowly.

877

Dan Ep11 clear: What about Lowe's then?

878

Tilly Ep11 clear: Lows.

879

Ow.

880

Ooh, my horrible nipple thing

was pretty gross, wasn't it?

881

Dan Ep11 clear: Oh yeah,

that's something to talk about.

882

So what's

883

Tilly Ep11 clear: A big ol posse spot

884

Dan Ep11 clear: bleb.

885

It's like a big old pussy spot, innit?

886

Yeah.

887

Tilly Ep11 clear: and it sort of

like got bigger and bigger and was

888

getting soarer and soarer, wasn't it?

889

But I was always told not to pop them.

890

And then it sort of popped by itself.

891

Dan Ep11 clear: Well, she popped it.

892

Tilly Ep11 clear: Yeah.

893

Dan Ep11 clear: She was sucking

boobie and managed to suck

894

Tilly Ep11 clear: thankfully

didn't get anything.

895

Ooh, she just sicked up.

896

It's alright, I caught it on my jumper.

897

I'm just

898

This

899

Dan Ep11 clear: wimp.

900

What was I gonna

901

Tilly Ep11 clear: you get greedy.

902

Oh, sorry, Bubba.

903

One second, let me just clean you up.

904

Let's put this nice cardigan in the wash.

905

Right, there you go.

906

I was saying, yes it's all got

potty, so we need to clean it out.

907

But my god, so much,

908

sorry if you're all disgraced out so

much stuff came out of it didn't it?

909

Poor.

910

Dan Ep11 clear: pussing and pussing.

911

Tilly Ep11 clear: so

912

Dan Ep11 clear: then you had to try

and, you know, it kept getting sore

913

and kept having to be cleaned up.

914

Then it would get dirty again

because she would obviously

915

keep getting her mouth on it.

916

And

917

Tilly Ep11 clear: when she's having to

pull up her boob at the top, that top

918

bit of boob is being pulled out of her

mouth, so she's sucking more on the

919

Dan Ep11 clear: I guess if we clarified

where it was, because it's, it's just, it

920

was a pore effectively above your nipple.

921

Well, on your nipple, on your

areola, just above your nipple.

922

So it goes into, it went into

her mouth usually, didn't it?

923

Or is it?

924

And so it just meant that it was

quite, it was quite difficult

925

to get it to heal, wasn't it?

926

How is it doing now?

927

Tilly Ep11 clear: right now it's still

like, it's still healing, it's still, you

928

can still see it, but it's, it looks, it

looks pretty closed over and alright now.

929

There, that's probably my, no, it

wasn't like an awfully bad low, but

930

it was pretty sore, and not very nice.

931

Dan Ep11 clear: No, I can imagine.

932

Tilly Ep11 clear: I should have,

I knew I had to clean it out.

933

Ugh,

934

Dan Ep11 clear: Yeah.

935

Tilly Ep11 clear: I was either asking

anyone out, that's when you've got

936

to do something yourself, or you

won't push as hard, but it hurts

937

yourself because it's naturally

your body doesn't want you to do it.

938

But I knew it kind of needed a

bit of digging and cleaning out.

939

I'll go and get some

water and some cotton.

940

Dan Ep11 clear: Yeah,

941

Tilly Ep11 clear: Get it dug out.

942

And

943

Dan Ep11 clear: it a good, a good

944

Tilly Ep11 clear: that really helped

the failure of our relationship.

945

Okay, so that's my high and my low.

946

My funny, I guess.

947

Oh, I don't know.

948

She's done some really funny

sort of like little facial

949

expressions and things this week.

950

I did I end up being and fatty related.

951

So try and keep that for Oh, bless you.

952

I'm more enjoyed hearing about her now.

953

Grabbing your nipple hair,

954

Dan Ep11 clear: Yeah.

955

Tilly Ep11 clear: feel like

that's like, I'm like, yeah, good.

956

Your dad deserves to get some

nipple grabbing as well because

957

she loves to scratch and grab up

nipple with her sharp little talons.

958

So now I'm like, now you understand

959

this.

960

Dan Ep11 clear: I

961

I feel like it's like, I don't

want to say it's worse than

962

yours, because it's different.

963

I'm not saying it is, let me clarify.

964

I think it's a different pain than

yours, because I get some of the

965

lower level of pain that you have

of the sort of scratchiness, because

966

she scratches, clenches, and pulls,

so when she clenches she gets loads

967

of the nipple hair, and then pulls.

968

Tilly Ep11 clear: I get that

969

Dan Ep11 clear: scratch that you get.

970

Then the clench and the pull.

971

Tilly Ep11 clear: pull

because she pulls my nipple.

972

Dan Ep11 clear: Yeah, I guess so.

973

So, like I said, I'm not

saying it's worse, I'm saying

974

I think it's a bit different.

975

Tilly Ep11 clear: You go, now yours.

976

Dan Ep11 clear: I think Hai, I've

enjoyed that she's started talking.

977

She now, like, chunts

978

Tilly Ep11 clear: obviously.

979

I like some genius baby.

980

She

981

doesn't like to jump to it when I speak.

982

Dan Ep11 clear: she's not talking.

983

She's chuntering.

984

Like, you can,

985

Tilly Ep11 clear: communicate.

986

Dan Ep11 clear: so

987

Tilly Ep11 clear: I would just say,

988

Dan Ep11 clear: Well, I'll

just sit there watching

989

Tilly Ep11 clear: we've met, she

990

Dan Ep11 clear: The Basketball

Last Chance You on Netflix.

991

She loves chuntering along while

Coach Mosley's screaming and

992

shouting at all his players.

993

She'll just be chuntering along.

994

And lo,

995

Tilly Ep11 clear: And

996

Dan Ep11 clear: I know,

There was a moment that I was

997

Tilly Ep11 clear: closed for a month.

998

We've

999

Dan Ep11 clear: fucked off of everything.

00:42:01,790 --> 00:42:05,080

Probably just trying to, loads

probably just setting up mics and stuff

00:42:05,130 --> 00:42:07,160

Ian: Three moments from

earlier in the episode

00:42:07,579 --> 00:42:08,560

Dan 1: your own life

00:42:08,800 --> 00:42:10,199

Tilly Ep11 clear: all

00:42:10,350 --> 00:42:11,460

Dan Ep11 clear: coming up blue over there.

00:42:11,960 --> 00:42:14,630

Alright then switch to the Pel mics track.

00:42:17,470 --> 00:42:18,585

Fucking hate this shit.

00:42:19,690 --> 00:42:21,260

Tilly Ep11 clear: Yeah, no, no, no.

00:42:23,760 --> 00:42:25,390

Popping off his lapel mic.

00:42:25,840 --> 00:42:27,760

Dan Ep11 clear: worried that

my lapel mic's not on now.

00:42:28,170 --> 00:42:28,900

Tilly Ep11 clear: Turn all your mics off.

00:42:29,400 --> 00:42:29,890

That'll be good.

00:42:30,390 --> 00:42:31,340

Dan Ep11 clear: Yeah, it has been off.

00:42:31,420 --> 00:42:33,010

I don't know for how long

it's a fucking episode.

00:42:33,135 --> 00:42:34,745

Tilly Ep11 clear: did

you post the mics off?

00:42:35,965 --> 00:42:37,835

Dan Ep11 clear: I definitely

had this one off for some of it.

00:42:39,930 --> 00:42:42,700

Tilly Ep11 clear: Well, we'll

find out in post production.

00:42:43,830 --> 00:42:44,920

This might be the letter of the week.

00:42:44,920 --> 00:42:47,999

I'm

00:42:48,485 --> 00:42:50,744

Dan Ep11 clear: most weeks

00:42:50,868 --> 00:42:50,968

I

00:42:51,075 --> 00:42:53,179

Tilly Ep11 clear: I'm

probably going to hold the mic

00:42:53,179 --> 00:42:54,682

now I'm going to slide

00:42:54,836 --> 00:42:57,232

Dan Ep11 clear: Honestly,

this is an impossibility.

00:42:57,387 --> 00:42:57,688

Tilly Ep11 clear: So

00:42:57,711 --> 00:43:00,586

Dan Ep11 clear: an absolute

miracle as any episode.

00:43:00,586 --> 00:43:04,899

Between me not being able

to fucking work mics.

00:43:07,099 --> 00:43:07,449

Yeah.

00:43:07,949 --> 00:43:15,639

And then, I guess my funny was I, so,

often when I'm kind of trying to calm her

00:43:15,639 --> 00:43:21,569

and get her to, to calm down, my standard

procedure is firstly, check her nappy.

00:43:22,229 --> 00:43:26,789

if that's not the case, kind of rock

her a bit and, and often I'll sort of

00:43:26,809 --> 00:43:30,309

hold her in front of me and look at

her and sometimes by doing some smiling

00:43:30,309 --> 00:43:33,639

and some looks you can kind of get

her to calm down and giving her, you

00:43:33,639 --> 00:43:37,019

know, it's holding her up, down, up,

down, sometimes she then comes down.

00:43:37,399 --> 00:43:39,299

And so I've got her

basically at eye level.

00:43:39,669 --> 00:43:43,179

And because I've got her in both my

hands, what I'll often do if she's

00:43:43,179 --> 00:43:46,789

still crying, is just put my nose in

her mouth to see if she then sucks

00:43:47,009 --> 00:43:48,069

that and therefore she's hungry.

00:43:48,069 --> 00:43:52,889

But I did it the other day, and

she had been crying so much.

00:43:52,949 --> 00:43:56,519

Well, no, sorry, her teeth is,

well, we think she's teething.

00:43:56,929 --> 00:43:57,259

So she

00:43:57,349 --> 00:43:59,145

Tilly Ep11 clear: I think

she's like at the precipice.

00:43:59,145 --> 00:44:00,182

At the precipice.

00:44:00,182 --> 00:44:01,219

So she goes,

00:44:01,439 --> 00:44:02,809

Dan Ep11 clear: so she

started drooling now.

00:44:03,189 --> 00:44:04,729

And so she has a lot

more drool in her mouth.

00:44:04,999 --> 00:44:06,889

So I went to do that

to check she's hungry.

00:44:07,279 --> 00:44:12,319

And she just kept crying and

just ended up filling my, well,

00:44:12,539 --> 00:44:13,879

she did then start sucking.

00:44:13,879 --> 00:44:17,819

So I ended up getting loads

of saliva from the nostrils.

00:44:18,159 --> 00:44:20,749

And having a really

weird, wet, runny nose.

00:44:21,209 --> 00:44:21,839

That was it.

00:44:21,859 --> 00:44:25,569

A very funny, weird funny, and

I was like, Oh, I've brought

00:44:25,789 --> 00:44:27,149

that completely upon myself.

00:44:27,659 --> 00:44:28,539

That is what that is.

00:44:28,665 --> 00:44:29,608

Tilly Ep11 clear: was I?

00:44:29,608 --> 00:44:32,434

What do you want to do?

00:44:32,434 --> 00:44:33,848

What do you

00:44:33,848 --> 00:44:36,674

want to do at the end?

00:44:36,674 --> 00:44:39,501

Ok, I think we've chopped off.

00:44:39,501 --> 00:44:39,972

When

00:44:39,972 --> 00:44:40,443

my

00:44:42,669 --> 00:44:45,319

Dan Ep11 clear: do, do you want

to do the intro, the scat chat?

00:44:45,470 --> 00:44:49,239

Tilly Ep11 clear: trying to

visit my Somewhere I want to

00:44:52,029 --> 00:44:55,959

Dan Ep11 clear: okay so here we go we've

got one so when my son was about nine

00:44:55,959 --> 00:45:03,239

months so this sorry this is from found

a article called romper this is I think

00:45:03,249 --> 00:45:07,859

the child's called you know when my son

was about nine months old I took him

00:45:07,859 --> 00:45:12,309

on a ride about 20 minutes To visit my

grandmother who lived in assisted living.

00:45:12,749 --> 00:45:15,619

Somewhere along the way,

he had a major blowout.

00:45:16,099 --> 00:45:20,319

It was all the way up to his

neck and all over his car seat.

00:45:20,365 --> 00:45:20,904

Tilly Ep11 clear: we

00:45:20,939 --> 00:45:24,249

Dan Ep11 clear: When we got to my

grandmother's parking lot, I laid

00:45:24,249 --> 00:45:27,199

him in the back seat of my car on

a blanket to try and clean him up.

00:45:27,539 --> 00:45:29,839

And he was tossing and

turning and thrashing,

00:45:29,991 --> 00:45:30,594

Tilly Ep11 clear: spreading everywhere.

00:45:30,594 --> 00:45:31,500

I was a

00:45:31,524 --> 00:45:32,174

Dan Ep11 clear: everywhere.

00:45:32,406 --> 00:45:32,708

Tilly Ep11 clear: town

00:45:32,804 --> 00:45:35,404

Dan Ep11 clear: was a frazzled

mess the entire time my

00:45:35,404 --> 00:45:37,124

grandmother was over my shoulder,

00:45:37,238 --> 00:45:37,841

Tilly Ep11 clear: the car.

00:45:37,841 --> 00:45:39,351

I just had to get

00:45:39,454 --> 00:45:42,764

Dan Ep11 clear: see the baby, she

wouldn't back off for five seconds.

00:45:42,764 --> 00:45:45,014

It was a disaster.

00:45:45,014 --> 00:45:47,394

So that's got a funny one.

00:45:47,934 --> 00:45:49,684

And then we've got another funny one here.

00:45:50,184 --> 00:45:51,864

So Terry Lynn.

00:45:52,154 --> 00:45:56,074

One night, not sure of the age of

Terry Lynn, One night, my daughter

00:45:56,204 --> 00:45:58,214

kept crying and crying and crying.

00:45:58,264 --> 00:46:01,344

But whenever I went to her, there was

nothing wrong as far as I could tell.

00:46:01,764 --> 00:46:03,904

She wasn't hungry or

wet, but she wanted up.

00:46:04,274 --> 00:46:06,734

Finally, her dad said, Just let her cry.

00:46:06,859 --> 00:46:07,204

Tilly Ep11 clear: go.

00:46:07,644 --> 00:46:08,754

Dan Ep11 clear: See if she goes back to

00:46:08,934 --> 00:46:09,420

Tilly Ep11 clear: to sleep.

00:46:09,420 --> 00:46:10,054

And she did.

00:46:10,724 --> 00:46:12,404

Dan Ep11 clear: slept the

whole rest of the night.

00:46:12,844 --> 00:46:17,394

When I went in to get her the next

morning, her shiny, smiling little self

00:46:17,394 --> 00:46:19,654

was covered in poop from head to toe,

00:46:19,862 --> 00:46:20,219

Tilly Ep11 clear: as

00:46:20,354 --> 00:46:23,624

Dan Ep11 clear: as well as

a sizable part of her crib,

00:46:23,658 --> 00:46:23,990

Tilly Ep11 clear: ha

00:46:24,064 --> 00:46:26,944

Dan Ep11 clear: because she'd smeared

it there like the little monkey she

00:46:26,972 --> 00:46:27,304

Tilly Ep11 clear: Yeah.

00:46:27,304 --> 00:46:30,286

Fuck you for letting

me all sleep all night.

00:46:30,286 --> 00:46:31,280

Here you go.

00:46:31,280 --> 00:46:31,943

Oh, goodness.

00:46:31,943 --> 00:46:33,932

Anyway, I think that's it for

00:46:34,114 --> 00:46:35,234

Dan Ep11 clear: Ah, madness.

00:46:35,334 --> 00:46:37,234

Anyway, I think that's it from us.

00:46:38,229 --> 00:46:41,319

Tilly Ep11 clear: week of you

going back to work and we've

00:46:41,319 --> 00:46:42,589

got Great Granny Katie first.

00:46:42,589 --> 00:46:43,406

Oh,

00:46:43,406 --> 00:46:44,224

indeed.

00:46:44,224 --> 00:46:45,859

That was,

00:46:46,699 --> 00:46:49,049

Dan Ep11 clear: That

was one hell of a show.

00:46:49,469 --> 00:46:51,109

All the interruptions as per usual.

00:46:51,609 --> 00:46:51,819

Toodaloo!

00:46:52,254 --> 00:46:54,196

Tilly Ep11 clear: Oh,

we're still recording, I

00:46:54,259 --> 00:46:55,389

Dan Ep11 clear: Yeah,

I'm tired of stopping.

00:46:55,389 --> 00:46:56,389

We usually sign off.

00:46:56,389 --> 00:46:57,069

There we go.

00:46:57,459 --> 00:46:57,809

Bye!

00:46:57,908 --> 00:46:58,650

Tilly Ep11 clear: Bye!

00:46:59,560 --> 00:47:00,060

Tilly: My lovelies.

00:47:00,060 --> 00:47:01,010

Thank you for listening.

00:47:01,010 --> 00:47:04,420

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