After nearly four decades of marriage, who are you when that marriage suddenly ends?
In this episode, Strategic Divorce Consultant Mardi Winder talks with Dr. Tamara Monosoff about the identity shift that can accompany gray divorce and the process of discovering what you want when you've spent decades caring for everyone else.
After her own 38-year marriage unexpectedly ended, Dr. Tamara found herself facing grief, shame, loneliness, and a question she couldn't answer: What do I want? Her healing eventually led her to create the kind of supportive community she wished she'd had during those difficult years after divorce.
Mardi and Dr. Tamara discuss why there is no timeline for healing and why rebuilding doesn't require enormous changes. Sometimes it starts by taking a class, pursuing an old interest, saying hello to someone new, or simply giving yourself permission to discover what makes you happy. Dr. Tamara shares how she pursued a lifelong dream, packed one suitcase, moved to Portugal, and began creating a completely different life.
They also explore the difference between being alone and being lonely, the importance of connection and community, and the freedom to decide for yourself what you want this next chapter to look like.
The discussion covers:
• Why gray divorce can create a profound identity shift
• Why there is no "correct" timeline for healing
• How to begin figuring out what you want again
• Why small new experiences can rebuild confidence and connection
• The difference between being alone and being lonely
• How community can support life after divorce
About the Guest:
Host & Founder: She’s Not Done Yet! (https://shesnotdoneyet.substack.com/)
I’m Dr. Tamara Monosoff. I have an MA in Marriage & Family Therapy and a Doctorate in Women in Leadership. Five years ago, my 38-year relationship ended in a way I never saw coming. I walked the path from debilitating grief to feeling clear, alive, and energized again; a healthier, stronger, and happier version of myself. Now I help women 50+ design lives on their own terms after Gray Divorce -- from heartbreak to badass!
To connect:
Website: https://shesnotdoneyet.substack.com/)
About the Host
Mardi Winder is a Strategic Divorce Consultant and High-Conflict Divorce Coach who helps high-achieving individuals navigate divorce with clarity, confidence, and control. Drawing on more than 30 years of experience in mediation, divorce coaching and conflict resolution, she supports clients in making smart decisions while reducing emotional and financial fallout, particularly in high-conflict, high-asset and complex divorces. Mardi is the founder of Positive Communication Systems, LLC, and the Strategic Divorce Directory, LLC.
For Mardi’s gift: The Resilience Building Blueprint: A 28-Day Journey To A Stronger You https://www.divorcecoach4women.com/rbb
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