In this solo episode, Meg opens with a candid confession about her early coaching tendency to rescue and solve, and she uses it as a springboard into one of the deepest conversations in her coaching philosophy: the discipline of restraint. Drawing on decades of coaching and mentoring more than 2,000 coaches, Meg explores what it truly means to stay in wonder rather than knowing, to harvest before you plant, and to hold every offering with open hands. This episode is an invitation to coaches at every stage to examine where they may be shortcutting client transformation—and how to stop.

Show Highlights:

• My confession about the Rescuer in me
• The coach who robs their client with their knowing: Learn what it looks like.
• The neuroscience behind the struggle to create meaning, ownership, and the Aha experience (The journey is where transformation lives.)
• What it means to stay in wonder rather than knowing (It’s the difference between a coach who’s waiting for their turn to speak and a coach who is genuinely present to what’s unfolding.)
• The art of coaching is the art of getting out of the way. (Being helpful is not the same as being transformative.)
• Questioning to create an invitation instead of presuming the answer
• A coach’s most powerful tool: helping the client examine what they believe to be true
• Understanding the coach’s role in dealing with blocks AND openings (Learn to expand the lens.)
• The “harvest before you plant” metaphor as it applies to coaching (The coach must fully receive before offering something.)
• A strong attachment to our offering harms the coaching process and makes it “all about us.”
• Understanding partnership as fundamental equality
• The differences between a coach-driven session and a client-driven session
• 5 practices to try:
• Notice your impulses to share.
• Ask one more open question before you offer anything.
• Harvest before every plant.
• Practice the language of non-attachment.
• Fall in love with the pause. (Silence is beautiful—not a failure.)
• Continue to cultivate the habit of wonder.

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