In this episode, I introduce my best friend, and first ever co-host, Brandy! Buckle up as we discuss friendship, marriage, divorce - all things in between - as we sip prosecco and yap together on a Saturday night.

Alright everyone, good morning

and welcome back to I Can, he Can.

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This is episode eight and before I

jump into the episode that I recorded

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with a special, special person,

I wanted to preface this because.

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The most important part of this

conversation was not recorded.

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The mic started malfunctioning or ran

out of battery, whatever the case was.

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But I do believe sometimes that when there

is something that's very, very important,

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a message that you are trying to get

across, I know that the enemy is out there

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and they don't want it to happen, but.

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Nonetheless, with all the technical

difficulties that we did have, I really

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hope that you do enjoy this episode,

and it's really just two people that

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have a great friendship, having fun

talking and discussing things that

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are really, really dear to our hearts.

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So without further ado,

here's episode eight.

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Hi Brandy.

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Hello.

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Sad

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I have to put my like

normal voice because.

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Are we recording?

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Okay, Welcome back everyone.

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happy Monday.

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Welcome back to I Can.

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He Can.

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Today is a special,

special, special episode.

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I actually have a little

bit of Prosecco in my hand.

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Mm-hmm.

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And in front of me, I have my best

friend who is a treat for you guys.

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Hello.

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Hello.

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I also have Prosecco in my hand as well.

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This is not the usual podcast, everyone.

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So if you enjoy this one more

than the others, shame on you.

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But this is also, they're gonna

enjoy it because I'm here.

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Yes, yes, for sure.

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This was the original thought of the

podcast, to have both of us together.

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Well, I'm not gonna say the

other parts of the podcast.

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No.

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But we definitely always talked

about having a podcast together.

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And here we are.

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So, Brandy, do you wanna say something?

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Introduce yourself.

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Sure.

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Hi everybody.

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I am excited to be here.

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My name is Brandy.

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You're excited to be in your own house.

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Yeah, I am.

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I'm excited to be on The I can't He

Can podcast as a special guest with my

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best friend, Sai as we sit Prosecco.

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And we talk about our friendship

Her new fasting adventure.

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Oh, off of social media.

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Yes.

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We're gonna start that and how her cat may

or may not toss my laptop to the floor.

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She get out.

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So this, sorry if you hear me.

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This is definitely unscripted and going

to be very different, but I hope that

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you guys enjoy it at the end of the day.

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Like I say in all the other episodes,

it is still rooted in Christ and

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really what brought all us together.

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well, it wasn't just Christ,

but it was, I, I'll let Brandy

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explain what brought us together.

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Yes.

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What brought us together?

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Well, I do believe that

God did bring us together.

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Yeah.

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I feel that obviously he put us

in each other's past for a reason.

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I also feel that, Your illness

your multiple sclerosis

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also brought us together.

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because at the time, you know, um,

well my husband, ex-husband, I don't

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know what you wanna call him, soon

to be ex, soon to be ex-husband,

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unfortunately, was, diagnosed with

multiple sclerosis and he was struggling

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with that illness and I didn't have a

good understanding of what it was too.

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I guess live with somebody with that

disease or live with somebody who was

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struggling with multiple sclerosis and

I feel like, God put me in your life

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or you put you in my life, And, um.

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I remember our kids being in the dojo

and in karate school together And, When

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I was having a conversation with one of

the employees at the Dojo, I told her

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about the struggles that my husband was

going through with multiple sclerosis.

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She told me, I know another

mom here who also has.

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Multiple sclerosis.

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And I was like, who?

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She's like, Eli's mom, Sai.

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And I was like, what?

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And she, I'm like, who is that?

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And then she shows me a picture.

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when I saw that picture, I was

like, oh, I know who she is.

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I've seen her before.

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So I think one day I see you

walking in the parking lot and you

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just, I did like it was yesterday

and you just look so exhausted.

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You ambushed me.

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Yeah, I did.

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I did.

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I almost like tackled her like I

was like, it was a nice ambush.

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It really was.

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Yeah.

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It was a pleasant one.

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It was.

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As I saw her walking out of

the dojo, I went up to her and

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I was like, Hey, are you sad?

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Hi.

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You're Eli's mom, right?

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You have multiple sclerosis, right?

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Yeah.

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I was like, so.

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Excited, I introduced myself.

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I said, Hey, I am Jacob's mom and my

husband also has multiple sclerosis.

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Honestly, at the time though, like

I didn't really get to talk about it

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a lot unless it was on social media.

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but like face to face with

people, I didn't really have

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anyone to talk to about that.

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So it was, it was weird.

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Like it was a weird like me.

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But it was also nice to have

something in common with someone

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else and be like, oh my God, yes.

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Like, yes, I understand

that a hundred percent.

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Mm-hmm.

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So that was.

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Was very hot that day.

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I remember too.

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I was like dying.

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I remember that too.

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And I think we were

talking for a while too.

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I don't know if I was in the

car, was I getting out of

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the car or I was in the car.

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I know that there was a few

times where I was in the car

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and like I was stopping you.

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It was like, oh my God, I was dying.

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It was, and I just felt like I had so many

questions and I really wanted to like.

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Get a good perspective because, I

was trying to understand my husband

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at the time but he didn't have a

good way of like expressing himself.

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And I didn't really know what his

struggles were, what he was going through.

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And I understand that everybody

struggles is different.

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Mm-hmm.

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But I felt like, you know what,

here's another woman who's going

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through this, who's a mom, who's

here picking up her kids like I am.

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And maybe she can give me a better

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Understanding.

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Yeah.

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You know, and honestly like I felt

like God was telling me for so

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long to be more patient with Mike.

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Mm-hmm.

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Which Mike is my soon to be ex.

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and I also felt like, I needed

to, to be more patient, but

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also be more understanding.

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Yeah.

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And I never really put the.

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The time in, researching that illness

when he first was diagnosed Mm-hmm.

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Well, My brother-in-law

was also diagnosed with ms.

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and which they say it's not

genetic, but it does happen

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to run in families, which is.

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Crazy that they say it's

not genetic, but a wano.

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It happens more in in

men from what I know.

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But yeah.

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And when he was first initially

diagnosed, which he was diagnosed about

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four years before my husband mm-hmm.

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Or my ex-husband, she

did a lot of research.

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But when I found out that

Mike was diagnosed, Yeah.

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I was just like, okay, come on.

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No, we don't have time for this.

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You gotta keep moving forward.

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Yeah.

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We don't have time to be sad or anything.

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You just gotta, Hey, keep going.

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Yeah.

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So when I did meet you and when we did

start to talk more, I felt like you

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gave me a better understanding mm-hmm.

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Of what that disease was

or, How to live with it.

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So I drew, I truly

believe that it was God.

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Yeah, God placed you in my life

for a reason, for you, for sure.

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In that sense, I think it

was helpful, but then in my

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perspective, looking back at it now.

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It was God talking through you to

me because all of the times that you

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kept, oh, just remember that Jesus,

this and Jesus sat and God loves you,

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and oh, I was cringing every time

that she would talk about God to me.

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And not because I didn't believe, but

because I wasn't ready to really listen.

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And then, finally I did.

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But that's why she Was put in my life.

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Mm-hmm.

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So it it, it worked out very well.

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it's funny that you say that.

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I mean, um, around this time we

had reconciled our marriage after

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being separated for seven months.

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Mm-hmm.

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So, I was trying to make everything right

again, trying to make things new again.

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And anytime that you express to me any

sort of like trials in your marriage.

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Mm-hmm.

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I always reverted back

to God can help you.

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You know, just focus.

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And I did notice the eye roll.

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And I do remember giving you

that uh, devotional which I

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always kept beside my bed.

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Yeah.

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But I still, I always had it beside my

bed from the day that she gave it to me.

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And I do remember inviting you to church

and, you know, sending you sermons that

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I know for a fact you didn't watch.

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I watched a few of them.

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Oh, okay.

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Thank you very much.

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Okay.

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I'm sorry.

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A few of them.

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the first few, probably not,

but definitely later on.

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Yes.

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Yeah.

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Well, I, I was so excited to

share those sermons because for

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those sermons on marriage mm-hmm.

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For me, they were so helpful

and they gave me so much hope in

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such a dark season in my life.

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So I was just excited to share

what God can do in your life.

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But for some reason, like

God, kept telling me, keep

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sharing it with that girl.

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Keep sharing it.

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Because most, I am not a patient person,

and I think that like by the second

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eye roll, I would've been like, okay.

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Beep, I'm leaving, but I just felt God

telling me like, don't give up on her.

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Don't give up on her.

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and yeah, so, and now I also have

a best friend, And not just a best

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friend, but a friend who is not

judgmental at all because I could quite

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literally tell you anything and I have

never had that kind of relationship.

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Ever.

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Yeah.

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I've had very good, you know,

friendships in the past.

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But how good were they?

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Because now they're non-existent.

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So anyway.

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Yeah, and I would never judge you

'cause you're wearing like a God

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goddess love shirt holding a Prosecco.

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No.

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Now I'm wearing a Goddess Love shirt.

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I'll never imagine myself

while sipping on Prosecco.

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No, I'm just kidding.

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Yeah, we actually, okay you guys, let's be

honest right now, tomorrow's my birthday.

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So by the time that, yay, you

listen to this, I will already

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be in my mid thirties officially.

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Mm-hmm.

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but we just came from Flanagans.

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We had, how many.

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Well, I had one and a half.

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We both had one and a half.

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Yeah, we both, we shared, yeah, we,

we finished the second drink and

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together and, but we had a lot of food.

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It was delicious.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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We had some nachos, some

ribs, whatever it was.

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It was really good.

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And then now we're here but we're

not overdoing it, you know, we are

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just having a good time because

we never get to really hang out.

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Never.

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Not be Moms 24 7.

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Yeah.

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So this is a very nice change and

I'm so excited for your birthday.

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'cause I will say like I

am so grateful because.

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I have never had a friend

who's made me feel as special.

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Aw.

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As the way that you do, for

me and like my birthday.

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Oh my God.

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You went above and beyond and

you made me feel amazing and you

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just, you're typing me out, man.

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I know, but you really, you really are.

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It's funny because like I always

prayed for a friendship this way.

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Always.

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And I had, I've had close

friends in the past, but.

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I don't have those friendships anymore,

but I've never felt judged by you.

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I mean, I know we've gotten a

little annoyed at each other.

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One time only actually like 24 hours ago.

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But we are, we are, we're women

of Christ and we forgave each

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other and we love each other.

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And we moved on.

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But you said we forgave each other.

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I don't even think it warranted

forgiveness because, no, we did

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say, I'm sorry, to each other.

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Yes.

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Yes.

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Yes.

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And we did say we forgave each other.

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Yeah.

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'cause we said, I'm sorry, I didn't really

mean the apology, but I'm just kidding.

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I'm just kidding.

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No, no.

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But honestly, like, this has been

the friendship that I always prayed

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for and I don't feel judged at all.

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And like you have been the

one person who's been there

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by my side through everything,

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And anytime that I had,

I needed a shoulder.

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You were there and you're just so

selfless and I'm so grateful for you.

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And lemme tell you, you've been

through a really, really rough year.

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actually, if I had a dollar for every

time that you sent me a crying voice note.

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Should I keep this in the other?

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Yeah, you can.

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Of course, of course.

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If I had a dollar for every

crying voice note that you sent.

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I would probably be a billionaire.

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Oh my God.

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That's an exaggeration.

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However, this past year

you'd have a lot more money.

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this year I know, has

been really hard for you.

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But if you could see yourself through

the eyes of another person of me, of

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your best friend, and see how far you've

come, not just emotionally but even

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physically I wish I had the willpower

that you had right now to like, get up,

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go to the gym, do better in that aspect.

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and it's hard for me.

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And I, it's hard for a lot of

people and you're doing it all.

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You're being a mom, you're working full

time, you're taking care of yourself.

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Like you were telling me, you don't even

really want the company of another person

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right now because it's not in your heart.

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Mm-hmm.

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You know, you have yourself first finally,

like for the first time in a long time.

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Yeah.

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That's what God wants for you.

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Like he wants you to love you

before you can be ready to accept

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another person in your life.

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And I know for sure that's

gonna come for sure.

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Any anybody listening to

this podcast right now?

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I'm a single lady.

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I'm just kidding.

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No, but yeah.

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Okay.

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Going back to the serious talk.

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You guys did not hear what we were just

talking about because I cut it out.

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I could not play that for this episode.

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but in all seriousness, I know that I

know my best friend is gonna be just

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fine because she has God with her.

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And at the end of the day, she has

a better relationship with everyone

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around her because she is putting God

first in her life, probably for the

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first time, fully, fully, not putting

her marriage on a pedestal anymore.

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She's putting God and herself.

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Love it.

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All right.

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Shimo,

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she's about to attack.

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No, she's not.

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She's just, she's, I trust cats, bro.

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She's, she's not attack you.

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She's so sweet.

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It's possible.

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Anyway, when I'm moving on from our

friendship, because let's not bore people

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with, all the Sapp friendship stuff,

you keep fasting from social media.

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Mm-hmm.

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Yeah, I don't, I really

don't see the need for it.

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but tell me about why you need

to fast from social media, or are

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you fasting from anything else?

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Or is it just that?

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no, my, the focus was social media and

one of the reasons why I feel like I've

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needed to fast from social media was.

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Because I realized that I, I was spending

so much time just scrolling away.

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Mm-hmm.

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okay.

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In the Bible, one of the 10

Commandments is thou shall not covet.

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and I think I've told you this

before, that we may not even realize

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it, but sometimes on social media.

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You may be, scrolling and looking at other

people's lives and desiring that life that

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they're living or that relationship they

have based on just a story that they're

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posting or a picture that they're posting.

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you might not even realize that

you're desiring that feeling, but deep

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down you may be comparing your life.

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And I realized I was doing

that a lot why do these people

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have that beautiful marriage?

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And here I am, I wish I could be traveling

as often as these couples are with their

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kids, or look at the money that they

have or look at the house every time

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that I saw internalizing their lives.

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Yeah.

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Like, Why not me?

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Exactly.

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And I, and I, I felt that a lot

and I don't wanna thank myself as

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a person that envy, but I started

to feel that at some point.

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look at the house.

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How did they just buy a house?

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and I'm not a homeowner to Puerto

Rico for the third time this year.

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Exactly.

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Like, wow, look at, you know, they have

their summer trip and they have their

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winter trip and I started feeling that.

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And then, it was such a negative

feeling and when I look back.

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Huh?

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I love your tiktoks.

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Oh, well, I love TikTok.

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I do love sharing my inspirational,

TikTok posts, especially now but I

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like TikTok because a lot of the people

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That I know are not on TikTok.

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Exactly.

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And I don't follow a

lot of people on TikTok.

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I follow strangers on TikTok.

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But it was Instagram

that I had to disconnect.

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And then it got to a point where

there were people sliding in my dms.

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I shouldn't have been sliding in my dms,

and I felt like that was a distraction or

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like the devil was trying to pull me in

a different direction when I'm trying to.

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You know.

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Yeah.

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Stay focused.

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Yeah, stay focused.

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So, I don't know, there was

just a lot of negative things

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happening with social media.

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do you think it was like, keeping you

behind on certain things in your life?

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A hundred percent.

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Like, I found myself, like in the

morning, waking up and just immediately

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opening Instagram and scrolling.

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I was studying for the lieutenant's test.

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Mm-hmm.

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And I found myself, very distracted.

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I've passed two of the tests, but I

didn't score high enough to get promoted.

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Pause for a second.

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By the way, not only is, not only is

my best friend, an amazing mom and best

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friend, but she's also a cop, okay.

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Just so you wanna, okay.

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Back to what you were saying

about the lieutenants, but I also,

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that's what she's talking about.

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I also found my daily

screen time decreased.

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50%.

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I'm gonna need some more

Prosecco So 50% less, 50% less.

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I wonder

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So I, if I do it for one day, I would

have to see like how much of it would

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make, even though I don't find it to

be an issue for me though, like I stay

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pretty focused, if you think about it.

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Every time that we grab our phones,

I find myself opening up Instagram

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Mm-hmm.

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You know, like looking

at things like that.

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it's just more of a habit for me.

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It's not problematic, but it

would be interesting for me to

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see what the difference would be.

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And then I will.

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Say that another issue was that

I found myself, especially going

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through these issues of separation and

divorce, I found myself like really

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looking into my husband's profile and

digging for things that I felt were

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causing me more confusion and more

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Insecurities than I ever did before.

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So anytime he would post a story about

whatever it was, I'd try to relate

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it on what we were going through.

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I was reading too much into it.

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Immediately I was, is it 'cause of me?

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Yeah, exactly.

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but I've actually been reading my Bible

so much more, actually the difference

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between you and me, When I really came

to Christ, like I was more reading.

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And even though you had a like read

before and you were very into like the

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devotionals and the word and stuff like

that, you weren't much of a reader.

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You're a reader though.

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I'm, you're like a, she's

a little bit of a geek.

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She's a little nerd, but she's very

intelligent as you guys can see.

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But, but yeah, I, I don't

like to read at all.

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Well, I'm very proud of you for actually.

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Going back in there.

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I don't agree with the social

media fast because I am the type

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of friend that we need to have five

conversations at the same time.

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That's, that's how our friendship

really goes throughout the day.

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but now no more.

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Now I have to, I know when you log

in back to your Instagram, you're

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gonna have like 60 messages from me.

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I know, I know.

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But I, you know what, and another

thing about Instagram is just I

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feel like so many people were like.

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Constantly like looking at my

stories, liking my pictures, but

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then I'd see those same people at

work and they barely speak to me.

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Yeah.

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So like that I was just like, oh, I

don't, you know, like how many of these

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relationships are really like genuine or

Do they even really like care that much?

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Mm-hmm.

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I see that finger.

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You're pointing how,

let me point the finger.

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So I started noticing on my TikTok

algorithm, like obviously I would

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post a lot about Christianity

and Jesus and stuff, and the

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gym because I like to work out.

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But then I started getting all

of these really good looking men.

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Like on my algorithm, and

they're like weightlifting.

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They look amazing.

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Incredible.

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And they're all posting

about weightlifting in Jesus.

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But then I noticed like they have like

all these women Liking their pictures.

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And I'm like, how much of this is real?

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Exactly.

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Like how much of this is actually real?

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And then I started noticing.

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I hate to say this, but like if I had

a post that just revealed a little bit

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more cleavage than it should, Mm-hmm.

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I had a lot more views on that post.

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Mm-hmm.

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Than I did in the one of me, like sweaty

with my hair a mess and no makeup.

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The real one.

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Yeah.

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Shame on that.

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And I was like, what is this?

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So I was like, how many of these

men are actually about like the

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gym and Jesus, how Godly are you?

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Yeah, for real.

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So I'm like, are they really doing

that for like, the same thing goes for

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people on social media like me, people

will consider me now a baby Christian

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because I, I've always believed in God.

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I never understood Jesus.

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I'm a little ashamed to even say

that, but I never understood what.

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Who Jesus was, right?

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Mm-hmm.

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Until now.

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Now I consider myself Christian,

whatever, et cetera, et cetera.

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Anyway, long story short, people

that see me now, it's a complete 180.

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oh, but you're like this.

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No, I was like that.

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Yeah.

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I'm not like that anymore.

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Yeah.

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And I really am Christian, like I

do, like I wanna meet Jesus already.

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if the world ended tomorrow,

I would be like, take me Lord.

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Take me with you.

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And I never thought I would ever say that.

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But when you see these other people

and we are just judging them, kind

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of like, oh, how Godly are you?

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And it's really hard to distinguish

like, okay, how real are you?

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How real is your faith?

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But it's social media

song, you never know.

506

Brandy, you gotta slide energy.

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I, uh, well, I'll wait till I'm divorced.

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Prosec.

509

Oh yeah.

510

Guys, we're gonna pause for

a short pros cycle break.

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So we'll back in just a second.

512

Okay.

513

And we're back.

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We have cup and hand.

515

This was recording the

whole time, by the way.

516

No way.

517

Yeah, it was recording the whole time.

518

Oh my God.

519

How funny.

520

When all we got our refills,

good thing I didn't for it.

521

I'm just kidding.

522

You want me to use that?

523

No, actually, whoever

knows you well will know.

524

Yeah.

525

That's Brandy.

526

Okay.

527

I'm, I'm really gonna leave that now.

528

Okay, that's fine.

529

I'm just kidding.

530

We'll see.

531

Listen on Monday.

532

Yeah.

533

Okay.

534

Anyway, so we're back.

535

We have our little refills.

536

How are we feeling

with, with the Prosecco?

537

Good.

538

Feeling good?

539

Yeah.

540

Yeah.

541

No, no buzz, nothing.

542

I don't, I don't know.

543

Not really.

544

Not really.

545

I don't know if that's a good or a bad

thing, because remember we had that

546

one and a half drink of Flanigans.

547

That's true.

548

But I didn't, I felt more full than Butts.

549

Yeah.

550

Yeah.

551

Because you were wearing jeans.

552

I was, I'm wearing so stuck in my

stomach, nachos, ribs and wings.

553

Yeah.

554

You didn't really have wings though.

555

Did you try that one wing?

556

No, I didn't.

557

My God.

558

So good.

559

But the nachos were delicious.

560

I think I ate most of the nachos.

561

Yeah, you did.

562

I did because I, I didn't even

see you get I like three chips.

563

Yeah.

564

No, from the nachos.

565

Mm-hmm.

566

I like their nachos though.

567

It's just that I like

my ribs and wings more.

568

Oh, the rib.

569

It's okay.

570

The ribs.

571

It's, we're good.

572

Yeah, they're good.

573

Flanigan should pay us for this.

574

Guys.

575

Go to Flanagans.

576

Their Moscow mule was

not that great though.

577

Mm-hmm.

578

It tasted like a blend of Moscow mojito.

579

Yeah.

580

No, I didn't like it with, yeah.

581

Oh, my.

582

And I, I was at a retirement

party, so I had about three

583

drinks and they were, yeah.

584

But they were very small drinks.

585

They were like in tiny little cups.

586

Yeah.

587

And, but they were good.

588

They were, I was feeding it.

589

Wow.

590

Brandon, you've, you've

had quite a few today.

591

I did, but I feel, look right

now I am in my Walmart pajama,

592

kind.

593

This part.

594

Okay.

595

That's still funny.

596

Okay.

597

And Is it midnight yet?

598

Oh my God.

599

Is, is your birthday yet?

600

Oh my God.

601

That's right.

602

I completely forgot.

603

She's gonna be 35, 11, 24 right now.

604

Oh my gosh.

605

It's 1124 on Saturday,

606

bro.

607

It was off the whole time.

608

I think yours was off.

609

No, bro.

610

What a fail.

611

Testing, testing.

612

Okay.

613

Testing.

614

Oh,

615

this is not karaoke, brandy.

616

I'm sorry.

617

Okay.

618

Let me tell you guys what just happened.

619

We were having the best conversation

after we came back from our

620

little break and for some reason.

621

Technology is just not working with me.

622

So everything we spoke about was

gone, but it's okay because that just

623

means that she can come back again

for another episode and we can have

624

that same discussion all over again.

625

And it may be even better because

honestly, this has turned out

626

much better than I expected.

627

Me too, me too.

628

I thought it was gonna be a little

bit weird, but it's not weird.

629

What do you think?

630

I don't know.

631

Let me ask you, do you feel a

difference in your life with a

632

husband versus without a husband?

633

Like meaning the day to day

what you do, what's the biggest

634

difference that you feel now?

635

I I feel more peace.

636

Do I feel any different?

637

No.

638

'cause I was living a very lonely

marriage for a very long time.

639

Mm-hmm.

640

But.

641

Hmm.

642

That's a pretty good question.

643

Thank you.

644

God, you've got me there, buddy.

645

It's a hard question to answer too.

646

It really is because at the end of the

day, like whatever answer you give I think

647

is going to feel a little sad because.

648

whatever the response is gonna be.

649

You don't want that to be your

response because you would want

650

to still have your marriage.

651

And I know that you wanted to have

your marriage of course, because from

652

the moment I met you that you had

just gotten back together, you were

653

fighting tooth and nail to stay in it.

654

Which is admirable because some

people just give up easily.

655

Like I wanted to give up so

easily for the longest time.

656

Yeah.

657

but I feel like when two

people are not focused on God.

658

and if you don't build that firm

foundation or if you don't keep God in

659

the center of your marriage, I don't

believe the marriage is going to succeed.

660

So like you both have to have that goal.

661

Like you both have to have that vision.

662

You both have to have God in the

center of your marriage for it to work.

663

And unfortunately, There

is power in a praying wife.

664

I did pray a lot for my marriage, but I

realized that my prayers alone, we're not

665

going to save the marriage, you know, so

two people have to want to fight for that.

666

Know roles.

667

Yeah, there's a lot of stuff

that we still need to talk about.

668

however, when we came back from our

little break, My best friend had a little

669

surprise that she had been hiding from me.

670

Something that she's been working on.

671

but that's gonna be for another episode

when she's ready to discuss that.

672

'cause it's such a good thing.

673

It has purpose.

674

Mm-hmm.

675

So I can't wait for her to share that.

676

And I hope you guys really

enjoyed this episode.

677

It's definitely been the funnest one.

678

this better get the most listens

and downloads of all the other ones.

679

When I get back on social

media, I'm sharing this.

680

Oh yeah, when she, she better, she better.

681

Two weeks repost this two

weeks, man, that's a long time.

682

Not for Jesus, she said hurts the most.

683

She is, she is fasting from social

media for all the right reasons,

684

and maybe I should give that a try.

685

So, okay, now what?

686

Yeah, two weeks, the, the 28th.

687

I will be, done with my social media

fast on the 28th, but it's all for God.

688

That means that I'm not gonna be ignored

anymore when I slide into her dms.

689

Anyway.

690

I hope you guys have enjoyed this episode.

691

I hope that something that we've talked

about has given you some joy, some laughs.

692

I hope that you have been blessed

in some sort of way by this, and I

693

hope that you guys tune in for the

next episode where I may or may not

694

have her as my co-host and guest.

695

Anyway, have a great rest of your

day, you guys, and until next time.