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The Power of Silence: When Not Speaking Speaks Volumes
Episode 1229th August 2024 • LaQuita’s Toolbox • LaQuita Monley
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We all wear masks, concealing parts of ourselves that feel too raw, too vulnerable to reveal. But what happens when that mask turns into a self-imposed prison, trapping you in an inauthentic existence?

TyShaundra Davis knows this struggle all too well, as she found herself rejecting the profound meaning woven into the very name bestowed upon her at birth.

In this soul-stirring episode, TyShaundra Davis peels back the layers of her transformative journey from denial to radical self-acceptance. With refreshing candor, she recounts how a divine encounter shattered her resistance, unveiling the empowering essence of her name

—TyShaundra: Strong, Godly Leader. This revelation became the catalyst for her to boldly claim her truth and step into her purpose.

Join us for a deep and powerful conversation that explores the significance of silence, the courage to embrace your true identity, and the transformative power of stepping into your God-given purpose.

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Welcome back. Welcome back. Welcome back

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to another amazing episode of Laquita's

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Toolbox. I am your host, Laquita Mandley,

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and it is a fantastic day in the Lord, you

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guys. I know. I'm excited today because I

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have an amazing guest in the studio with

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me today. I want to introduce her and have

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you guys give her a very warm welcome in

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the Laquita's toolbox community, none

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other than Miss Tysaundra. And Tysaundra

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is a tax accountant and podcast host, and

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the name of her show is who God says.

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We're going to talk about that a little

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bit more in this broadcast, but right now,

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Tuesday mornings at 05:00 a.m. central

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standard time. Miss Tysaundra, welcome to

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the show today. Ma'am. How are you? Hi,

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hi, hi. I am well. Good to hear you. You

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know what I'm doing. All right. I could

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complain about quite a few things, but we

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ain't gonna complain today. I'm gonna tell

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the Lord. Thank you. This is the day that

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you have made. I'm trying to rejoice and

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be glad in it. Thank you, Lord. Thank you.

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Amen. Amen. So, look, tell us more about

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who you are and what you do. Oh, who am I?

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I am Tyshondra in all my glory. Like,

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enough to. Right there? Yeah. Like, I

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tried to fight it for so long. I wanted to

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be everything else but Tyshondra. Oh, no,

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I did. I did. I didn't like my name. I

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didn't. I just didn't want to be

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tashonger. I was like, what is this mess?

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This is a whole mess right here. I wanted

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to be everything else. I wanted to be

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called anything else for that name. Yeah.

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God had to make sure he put that on.

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Explain to me what that was. Okay, why he

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gave me that name. I am the oldest of five

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that was raised by my dad. So I was the

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little mommy in the house then. I modeled

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after my father, like, with everything,

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how his mannerisms, his characteristics,

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everything. And I became the little man

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Mandev. And as I got older, had babies,

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got married, got divorced, started a

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business. I'm a tax accountant. I have a

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tax and booking practice called Emerald

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Services. So all of our services are

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online now. We're virtual due to the

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pandemic. All right, all right, all right.

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That's all right. And I opened other

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businesses as well. So when I was running

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from that name, God had to sit me down and

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show me there was a reason I gave you this

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name. Tysondra Strong, godly leader. There

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was a reason I gave you that name. Yes.

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Yes. That was the meaning. That's the

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meaning of my name. Come on now. Name set.

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Destiny. Come on now. Let's talk about it.

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But I ran from it. But hey, now that I

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know that we've, me and God has had this

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conversation and he made sure, you know, I

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couldn't pout about it anymore, I embrace

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it. I submit it to him. And I completely

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understand why, especially going through

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everything that I went through, I

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understand why I had to have that name

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spoken over me. That's amazing. That's

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amazing. Listen, guys, I'm going to leave

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you out there in the Laquita's toolbox.

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Audience have struggled with your name in

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some shape, form or capacity, whether it

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was your first name, your last name,

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slash, surname. For those of you that

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aren't american and or your, or your

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middle name, have any of you ever

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struggled with that part of who you are?

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Your name, because it's amazingly

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significant to understanding who we are in

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Christ and why we're here, what he created

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us to do. So if you have that struggle or

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you've had that struggle, what I'd like

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you to do, wherever you are listening to

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this broadcast, go ahead and reach out to

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us. And if you don't mind sharing, share

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about. Share with the community about your

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struggle with your name and what you've

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done to overcome it, or if you are still

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yet working through that, let's talk about

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that. And maybe someone in our community.

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And even in this conversation, we can

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bless you with some tips, tools or

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strategies that can help you grow past

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that struggle. And you can reach out to

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podcast acquittamonly.com. again, that's

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podcast acquittamonly.com. and let us know

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about. And share with us a bit about your

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story and your journey with understanding

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your name, accepting your name and being

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empowered by your name. Yeah. So you have

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that struggle with your name. The Lord

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took you through a process. He allowed you

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to go through a growth process where you

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can understand better, understand why your

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name had to be Tyshandra. And on the end

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of that, were you sitting in that space.

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Now, how much of that process, how much of

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you know, the things that you gleaned out

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of that process are you using for the

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success in your spiritual and natural

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life? All of it. Absolutely all of it. All

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of it. I've always been this no nonsense

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type person, and I think all of that came

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from my dad. And I'm actually learning

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that it's a masculine trait to see things

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black and white. And so I picked that up

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from my dad. It was like, either you're

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all in and you're all out. It's always

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been black and white. You do it this way

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or not at all. And that kind of. It

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traveled. It traveled. It went through my

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whole life with parenting, in marriage and

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relationships, in business, in pretty much

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everything. So just looking at who I was

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and who I'm supposed to be, it's like

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those traits, even though men sometimes,

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I'm gonna say sometimes, a lot of times,

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have problems with it, that was just the

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core of it. And I had to be refined. I had

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to be polished and molded, but that core

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of it was absolutely needed. I'm not timid

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about a lot of things that people are

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timid about. I'm not real good. I don't

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really have the kind of, and I'm going to

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say care. I don't care a lot about a lot

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of things that other people care about. It

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doesn't bother me. It's not, you know, I

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don't spend my time focusing on things

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that regular people focus on, what's on

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social media. I don't care whose baby

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daddy is, whose baby daddy. It's a lot.

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And so I know that I frustrate a lot of

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people, but that core had to be developed

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in me again. It had to be refined because

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I have a mouth. That mouth is piercing.

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Oh, my God. That mouth. Oh, my God. If God

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did not work on my mouth, I don't think I

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would be sitting here right now. And I

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just thought I was doing everyone a

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service of letting you know. I thought you

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needed to know, no matter how you felt

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about it. Now I feel like, yes, you should

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still be honest, and you should still tell

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people what they need to hear. But there's

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a way to express that. Yes. Yes. Wait.

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That's part of refining. Come on, now.

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Let's talk about that refinement process.

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How many of y'all need to be refined in

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Laquitus toolbox audience today of those

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that may be listening for the very first

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time? I can identify with you because, my

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God. Yeah, my mouth. My husband used to.

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And he'll tell me that today. So let me

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just be transparent. He'll tell me that

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today. So did you have to say that? And

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I'm thinking, do you know how many filters

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that went through before Ori came out?

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Lord have mercy. I might have to go back

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in my prayer closet for more filters. But

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you're right. You're right. It's, um. Even

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when I'm, even when I'm talking about that

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in, in the form of, you know, what is

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emotional intelligence or what is

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effective communication, I go back to

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what, what pops up in my mind as a theme

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from the Cosby show. And in this scene, it

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is when Vanessa brought Dabness home and

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wanted them to accept him. Dabnis was a

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great fellow. Vanessa, however, was shaky.

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And so as they got to know Vanessa, as

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they got to know Dabness, their irritation

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with Vanessa was like, tenfold. But they

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also knew she was going to drop Dabnis.

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But nevertheless, they're at the dinner

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table, and Cliff gives them a scenario. He

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told Dabnis, hey, think of your very

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favorite meal. Your very favorite meal.

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And Davness told him what that meal was. I

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can't remember what the meal is, but it

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was a great meal. And he said, now imagine

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me cooking that up to perfection just like

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you want it, and then taking my trash can

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lid, putting that food on the trash can

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lid, and then serving you that food. It's

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all about how you do it. Presentation,

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tone, everything. And so that seeing that

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as a kid and even as a young adult, it was

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just haha, funny. But, you know, as I

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matured, that scene makes so much sense.

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Yeah. And can be applied in every way. And

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that's what I, that's what I saw when I

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heard you talking about refinement. And

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even, you know, for those of you that

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might be saying, yeah, but you got to tell

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the truth. I ain't lie. You write, you

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trying to help them and bless them by

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telling them something because you

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recognizing something and you got a

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solution to the problem. How you

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delivering it matters. Yes, it didn't

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matter that that meal was perfect, what

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they wanted and what their body needed.

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You gave me, you know, a $200 meal, a

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$3400 meal. However, you know, the value

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of that meal is, and you put it on a nasty

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trash can. I don't want that. Turn that

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down and let all that go in the can. Like,

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yeah, value is no longer there. It's no

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longer there. So listen, y'all, I hope

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y'all taking notes. Miss Tashandra has

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been blessing us. If you new to the

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toolbox, let me tell you how we operate

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and how we float. We get something to

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write with and to write on, so that when

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these tools are blessing our hearts and

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minds, we, you know, we write that down,

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because that won't forget. We forget as

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humans, we flaw. We forget. But when you

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write that stuff down, you notate it. It

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don't forget. And you can always go back

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and learn more. But even in addition to

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that, don't hit that save button. So you

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could come back, rewind this episode, and

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watch it as much as you need to or listen

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to it as much as you need to in order to

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absorb these tools and then learn how to

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implement them. Yeah. So, you know, you.

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You walking through that refinement

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process, you know, like those of us that

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are real, you know, if you spiritually

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deep in this place, she was, you know, she

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was going through a period. She had done

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been delivered. Now she walking in her

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deliverance. Right? She's working at her

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sanctification of her mouth. Yes. You

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think it's like David said, he had to put

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a gait about his lips. That mean his mouth

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too? I mean, come on now. It was fly.

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Yeah. It got to a point where my sister

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told me the only time she would call and

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ask for any advice or anything was when

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she knew there was nobody else to call.

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Oh, my. Come on. How did. How did that

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make you feel? I was like, you should have

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just been called me. What you mean nobody

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else to call? I still didn't get it. But,

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like, my cousin told me she was going

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through something with a guy. And then she

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said, I told her I don't even remember.

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She asked me a question, I gave her an

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answer. She was like, do you even have

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feelings? That one I remember. And so I

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was like, oh, I'm human. I have feelings.

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But, yeah, you know, maybe I shouldn't

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have said it like that. That wasn't. I

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don't think she's like that. That was a

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little clicking moment. That was when it

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was like, oh, the light bulb went off. I

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can imagine your face being like, you

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know, how you. How you look when you. In,

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like, a light bulb moment. What? I was

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like, okay, okay, okay. Maybe that wasn't

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the best way to go about that. Okay. And

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then it was crazy. After that, my pastor

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asked, well, his wife at the time, she

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asked me to, um, help with the praise

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dance at the church. And I filtered that

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answer had to be 72 times before. That's

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when I really started to filter. Like to

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sit and filter. At first, it was like you

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were talking to a mute. It's like, did you

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hear what I said? Second breath of how to

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respond. Give me a minute. Oh, my

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goodness. Is. Look, y'all, for those of

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you that don't go to church, you gotta

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understand. Let me give you some

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background. So. But, yeah, a lot of my

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followers are creatives. You know, whether

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you're in the music industry, whatever,

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you some type of creative. It ain't no

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different in church than it is outside of

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church. As creatives, we tend to be a

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little tender. Yeah. And a whole lot of. I

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won't say a whole lot of crazy, but a

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whole lot of different. Now you got a

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group of them. Yep. And she is a no

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nonsense person that has just learned. I

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just can't say everything the way I. You

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know, my first thought to say, I probably

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should think it twice. Yeah. And now she's

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being asked to work with a bunch of

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emotional people. Yes. Did your heart

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skip? And they were all teenagers. Oh, my

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God. Oh, my God. We were all teenagers.

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And I'm like, in this generation of, you

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know, well, this is my truth. You might

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have wanted to say something towards that

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little truth, what you do. Oh, my God. So

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I was like, okay. The first thing that

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came out was excuse. Cause I was like,

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well, I don't have any formal training to

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do. I'm not formal, you know, I don't know

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anything about. And she was like, oh, no.

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You know, it's just like, you're just

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expressing yourself and let the music hit

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you, and whatever God gives you, you just

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move that way. And I was like, but they

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can do that without me. You know, they

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don't need me to do that. And I'm like, in

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my head, what kept popping up was, oh, no,

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ma'am. You did cheer, you did gymnastics,

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you did dance in high school. And I'm

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sitting in the back of my head like, shut

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up. I don't have training, is what I hear.

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That's what I hear. I'm like, shut up. I

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didn't go to Juilliard dance school. And

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none of this. I'm not doing this. I can't

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do this. She was like, her daughter. Oh,

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well, she does ballet and everything, so

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she can help you out. And I was like, but

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why don't she do it? And then you have

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someone else that, you know. It was a

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whole bunch of excuses. The excuses came

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out first, and then she was like, well,

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how about this? How about we just go to my

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house, we bring all the girls, and you

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just see what comes out. And I was like,

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okay. The whole time I sat there and I let

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her see what came out, like she was doing

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it, and. And I was like, yeah, that looks

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nice. Yep, yep, that looked nice. And I'm

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just going through my head, like, I want

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to say this, but I can't say that. I can't

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say that. No, I can't say that. Oh, she

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gonna put me out her house if I say that?

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It was just the whole time I sat in a

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chair and I watched, and I had to keep my

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mouth closed. That was hard. Hard. I

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understand. So hard. Like, it. It is. So,

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people, listeners, listen, we're not

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saying this is easy. As Tashandra just

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said, this part of your. Your growth. This

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part of your growth. Um, and this is

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important for every aspect of your life,

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uh, personally and professionally, your

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growth in knowing what to say, when to

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say, and how to say it in order to

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effectively communicate to your intended

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audience. Right? And so here with this,

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she had two intended audiences. One is the

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leader over it, ie supervisor, you know,

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ie customer, as it were, or. And she had

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the group of youth, which, again, could

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be, you know, end user of your product. If

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you have a b, two b product, your end

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user, what are. You know, what are they

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thinking? What are they saying? How are

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they feeling? Are they receiving what I'm,

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you know, really, truly receiving what it

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is I'm trying to say? Because this is all

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about, you know, our growth, and our

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growth involves learning how to

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effectively communicate, recognizing it's

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a problem and what we are willing to give

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and do in order to fix that problem and

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implement the things that we've learned.

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And so you got these audiences, and I, you

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know, I love your response better than

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mine. My. My daughter is a praise dancer,

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and I, you know, full transparency. I got

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two left feet, but my daughter does not.

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She's wonderful. She could do

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choreography, all that. Imagine the style

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and the designs of the garments,

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everything. And so we were in Germany, and

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she was over at the dance ministry, and I

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was the adult over her, and it was kids.

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So there arose the situation won't go into

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the situation. At the end of the day, what

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the situation ended up being was a parent

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was unhappy with my decision not to allow

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their child to perform that Sunday. And

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the reason was the child had not been to

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enough practices to know everything

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correctly. And so she went and told the

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pastor, and they called me to the office

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and asked me about it, and I told him my

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reason. He told me what she said. She was

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sitting there and I turned and said, you

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need to grow up. Where else at in the

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world can you participate in any activity

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and you have not been involved in a

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preparation for said activity? Make it

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make sense, because at this point, we're

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all professionals. Right? Like, we're all

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professionals. Got a lot of letters behind

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our names. I paid a lot of money for these

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degrees. Why are we having this

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conversation that didn't go well with

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nobody? Like, the look on. I don't care

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about the look on her face at all. I'm, I

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was still growing. Tashandra was still

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growing. Yep. And the look on the pastor's

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face and his wife was like, wow, you just

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said that like that. Mm hmm. I did. For.

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No, don't do that, y'all. Don't do that.

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Don't do that. Don't do that. Don't do

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that. Don't do what liquidity. Do what

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Tashandra did. Well, sometimes you have to

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learn that you, you don't always have to

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speak and then you just have to discern

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when. When is that time? When is it that

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time? When I, this is a time where I

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should actually hold my tongue. Do not say

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anything. I know a lot of times people

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might feel like they're not taking up for

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themselves or they're not speaking their

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truth or they're not. They're just letting

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somebody run over them. Sometimes it's

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wise to not say anything. Yeah, I agree.

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Which is thousand percent. It's hard,

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y'all. It's hard. But the payoff is great

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in the end. Yes, the payoff is great in

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the end. I mean, if we can honestly assess

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right now, and you guys, again, don't

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hesitate to reach out to us on your

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purpose of Laquita's toolbox is to provide

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you tools that are easily implementable,

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that you can use to help yourself grow

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personally and professionally. And

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Tashandra is blessing us today with some

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tools on maturity and improving and

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growing in the space of effective

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communication. And right now, what she

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said is sometimes the wisdom is just to

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shut up. Don't say nothing. Don't say

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nothing. And that's amazing. Like, let's

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and talk a little bit more about why being

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quiet in those times can be actually more

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beneficial. And how do we know when to be

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quiet? I can give you an example that

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actually happened with me on my job. I'm

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not going to say where I work because I'm

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about to talk about the people. That

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person is an active listener. She may feel

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differently. Well, you know, but I'm

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going. I'm only going to say the truth. So

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every year we have a yearly bonus, and

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there was three supervisors who kind of

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get with the department head and they talk

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about everybody and how they did and

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what's their interaction with, you know,

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what their interaction was with each

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employee underneath them, and, you know,

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just how do they feel? We did overall,

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there was one supervisor in particular who

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did not care for me, and I don't know her

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reasoning. I just know that I will say

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every time she said something in a meeting

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that I knew was incorrect, I would correct

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her. That would probably be the reason,

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but go ahead. Well, because you have a

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team of people and you're supposed to be

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the person that they look to say, hey, I

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got a question about this. And she's given

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an answer and the answer is incorrect.

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Yeah, I have to correct it because then

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somebody's going to do something

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incorrect. Correct. Correct. So I will say

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that every time she says something that

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was incorrect, I would correct her. So

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they had this meeting. It was basically

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going to determine what our bonus was. And

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apparently, yes, she took issue and I

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didn't qualify for my bonus that year. Oh,

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my. Right. Oh, my. And so when the

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department head, we had a. A personal one

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on one meeting, and we talked and they

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were like, well, there was one person in

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particular that really had an issue. And

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because we didn't interact with you as

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much during this quarter, we had her to go

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off of it based on that. And so I was

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like, oh, okay. So what I wanted to say

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was, can you pull up the transcripts of

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these meeting when she's telling these

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employees the wrong information about them

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doing their reviews and everything and

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where that information was corrected? Who

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was that information corrected by? Can you

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pull up the review forms where she's

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reviewed accounts that I've done and

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purposely put things into the review that

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was not there and who corrected? I did.

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Right. But again, it wasn't my job to

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correct it. It was the department's head

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to job to correct. Right, right. So even

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though she was doing things she was not

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supposed to, I was also doing things I was

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not supposed to. So during this one on

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one, I just let the department head talk,

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and I didn't say anything. I was like,

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okay. I was, oh, my God, steaming mad. But

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I was like, okay. So I got off that

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meeting, and I clocked out. I was like,

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I'm going. I'm done. I am done. And when I

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get into my venting stage, I go in my

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room, I fuss to myself, or I might go in

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my car and drive and fuss, and people

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think I'm listening to the radio, but I'm

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fussing and saying everything I needed to

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say. And the craziest thing was, I was on

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a pilot program where the job that she has

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was basically set up by me. All right,

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come on. I didn't say. I didn't say, you

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know what? If it wasn't for me, you

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wouldn't even have this job. I didn't say

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any of that. I just said, okay. I went on

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my little venting. I was driving in my

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car, said everything that I wanted to say.

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It was just me, God, and the radio. And so

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I took two days off of work, went back to

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work. I was in my little stage where I was

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like, you know what? I'm gonna do the bare

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minimum. I'm not doing. I'm doing what I'm

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getting paid for. When you tell me to

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clock in, that's it. I'm doing the bare

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minimum. Then the department head started

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seeing a decline in things that I would

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do, and she wanted to have another meeting

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with me. She had another meeting, and she

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was like, you know, I was going to put you

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up for a promotion. And I was like, oh,

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no, I don't think I want to do. I don't

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think I want to do that. She was like,

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okay, well, just let me know, you know,

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whenever you're ready, we'll put you on

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that path and we'll try to get. I was

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like, okay, no problem. Not even, let me

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see. I don't even think it was another pay

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period. The person who had an issue with

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me. Mm hmm. She couldn't work anymore.

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Mmm. Wow. She couldn't work anymore.

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Nobody knew what happened. There was no

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PSA or anything. They were just like, oh,

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she's gonna be out for a while. We don't

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know how long she's gonna be out. We need

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somebody to help fill our spot. Kiss. You

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said, who you doing one of these? You?

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Cause, not me. So during the time when I

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wanted to scream at the top of my lungs

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and say, she didn't do this. She did this

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wrong. She didn't do this. Check this. I

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didn't say anything. When things came full

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circle, I had the opportunity to actually

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be promoted past her position. I didn't

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take that. And now I work in her position.

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But if I went off and said everything I

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wanted to say, none of. Those

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opportunities came to you. Yeah. Because

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that is not attractive at all. It's not

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attractive to anyone in business. It is

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not. Now, having a paper trail, having a

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record for something that's detrimental to

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the business, that's attractive. Very much

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so. But if it's a tiff in between two

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employees, nobody wants to hear, well, she

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said this, and she did that, and she did

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this. You're not showing accountability.

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You're not showing that you're capable for

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any growth within the company. You're not

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showing that you could be responsible for

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anyone else in the company. So that's not

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attractive. I held my tongue, and, yeah.

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Wow. Yeah. So, look, y'all, that was so

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much blessings in that story. I'm gonna,

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you know, summarize it real quick. We can

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find ourselves in situations where we're

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doing our very best. Matter of fact, we're

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going above and beyond what we are

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assigned to do. And then, through no fault

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of our own, of what we can see, there is

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an attack, whether it's on our character,

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the quality of our work, our integrity.

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You know, we've just been passed and done

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wrong. Whatever the case may be, you may

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find yourself in that position. And the

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takeaway from what Tysonra just said and

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her growth moment, because this is the

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moment. This is the test. That was the

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test. And then we got a growth moment. We

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got to glean something from it. What did

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we learn in that moment? Her decision to

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say nothing resulted in two promotion

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opportunities. One promotional opportunity

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to sit in the seat of the person who was

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actually giving her the problem to be

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promoted above that person's position. And

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why did that happen? Because the quality

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of her work was always impeccable. But

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more importantly than the quality of her

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work, Doctor King said the content of her

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character came out in this conversation

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with the suit with the head supervisor in

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her. Just saying, okay, I'm going to, as

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we say, take this to the head. I'm just

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going, you know, let this ride. I'm absorb

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this blow right here. I'm not gonna say

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anything. I'm still going to do what it is

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you're paying me to do. Mm hmm. And let's

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see what happens in the, what happened is

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the two opportunities for promotion. So

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there are significant times to be quiet. I

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also heard in that story, keep a paper

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trail. Listen. Yeah. You are entrepreneur,

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whether you are a w two earner, c suite

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exec, whatever the case may be. Keep a

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paper trail. Keep a paper trail. Contrary

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clients, for our entrepreneurs, contrary

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clients, vendors, collaborative partners.

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Keep a paper trail. Yep. So that when

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these situations arise, it's not if, it's

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when. Because it's going to happen. These

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situations arise. You have the ability to

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protect yourself and defend yourself if

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needed. But the important part is the

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discern when I need to do that versus when

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I need to just say, okay, got you, and

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keep moving forward. And so that was an

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amazing, amazing story right there.

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Tashandra, let me, and also, y'all, let me

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take a minute. Don't y'all forget to hit

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them, like share and subscribe buttons.

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Let's get this podcast out to as many

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people as possible. Possible. Because

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these types of tools, these right here,

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what you just said in that, in that story,

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in the last few minutes, that can change

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some people's lives. Yeah. Right. Thank

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you. Because it's so simple. Not easy to

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do, not easy, not easy, but real simple.

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And you can reap some great rewards from

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the simplest things, right? Yep. Look,

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this is, this conversation is real good to

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me. So we've been diving into aspects of

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effective communication, knowing what to

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say, when to say, how to say it, most

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importantly, understanding when to say

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nothing at all and the benefits that we

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can get from that. And so when you, when

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you're looking at that, because, so let me

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ask you, at this point in your life, were

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you already excited about the meaning of

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your name? No. At that point, I was kind

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of saying why it was at that. During that

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time, God was saying, this is your name.

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Embrace it. There's a reason why I'm

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calling you by this name. And as a matter

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of fact, he called my name audibly three

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times. And every time, all I thought was

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Samuel. That's all I thought, come on,

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now. And I, um, he called my name three

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times. And I was just like, but why? But

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why? So I didn't, I understood that

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that's, it had, there's a meaning there.

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There was a reason why I still was not in

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the place where I'm like, okay, I'm going

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to accept everything that you've called,

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everything that you've said over me. I

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wasn't in acceptance right then. Okay,

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okay. No, come on, listen. But he called

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it anyway. He called it anyway. And you

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heard it? I heard it three times, and I

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was sleeping. So that's another reason I

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was like, are you calling Samuel? For

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sure, for sure. Look, y'all, if y'all

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don't know the story of Samuel, for those

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of you who may not know that, para just go

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to Google and type in story of Samuel. In

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the Bible, it's called pop up. And it's

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amazing because he called his name three

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times. He recognized the voice, not the

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owner of the voice. And then someone had

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to tell him the leader had to tell him the

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leader at that time is named for. And I'm

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summarizing this in a way that everybody

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can understand, right? The leader. The

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leader where Samuel was serving at the

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time, his name was Eli. So he went because

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he kept going to Eli to say, what's up?

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You keep calling me what you want. And Eli

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was like, it is not me that is calling

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you. It's the Lord. So this is what you do

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next time with a head, let your answer be

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different. Speak, lord. Yes. Speak, lord.

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Servant is listening. Yes, thy servant is

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listening. How many of y'all are feeling

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that right now? But you feel that the Lord

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is calling you to something greater. He's

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capturing your attention, is your answer.

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Speak, lord. Thy servant is listening. Are

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we still at a place where we looking

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around like, who you talking to? Where

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this coming from? Who this man? How? Focus

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me about my sleep. I'm resting. And you

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call somebody calling me. It also in that

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story shows the significance, because, you

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know, in the beginning of your story, your

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dad played a significant role in your

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life. And so at this time in your life,

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you probably either you still have someone

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in your life that is in that capacity.

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Let's call it mentorship, like that. That

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is mentoring you in. In your comparison,

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in here. It's always a great idea, this

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life that we walk. We can't walk it alone,

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right? We gotta walk it with someone else.

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Samuel went to Eli. Yeah. Who did you go

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to? Tashandra. But more importantly, those

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in the listening audience, who do you go

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to? And if your answer is nobody, you got

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find somebody and make sure they are the

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right somebody. Yes, yes, yes. Come on

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now. You know, the crazy thing is, the

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voice that I heard, it was my dad's voice,

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but my dad had passed, so I knew it was

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the familiar. The familiar part of that

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voice was like that sound like my dad. But

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again, he had passed. So I knew it wasn't

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my dad. And that's why my next reaction

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was, speak, lord, your servant is

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listening. Yeah. The person that I go to

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will be my pastor. And he has always said,

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you know, I love you like you're my

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daughter. Like you're my own daughter. And

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at first I was like, okay, yeah. Cause

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he's a pastor. He gotta, you gotta love

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all of us like that. Right, right. I do

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that, sir, you better do your job. But he

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has been such a resource with my growth

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and with my walk with God. I understand.

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He says, I love you like you're my

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daughter. I understand it now. Yes, yes.

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He has been so instrumental in helping me

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along. He's been interpreting my dreams.

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He's been, which is mind blowing because

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I'm on that. What? What? Um. And then he

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basically lets me know because I'm, I'm a

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checks and balances type girl and God

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knows I don't want to. I used to think I

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was being annoying with my prayer saying,

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okay, but do you want me to do this? But

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do you want me to do this? What do you

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want me to do? This? Is it like this? Is

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it like this? And so now I don't do that

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anymore, but I will. He knows that I need

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some type of confirmation. He knows I'm

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one of those kids that I have always

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wanted to know that I was doing the right

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thing. I was supposed to do it. Yeah. And

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having reassurance was always big for. Me,

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and that's good. My pastor, he has

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instrumentally used him as my reassurance.

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He lives in a whole nother state now and

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he will call me and say, you know, I'm so

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proud of you. You are definitely doing

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what God told you to do. He'll say

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something very specific. And I was just

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going, oh my God. Okay. Yeah, yeah. Okay.

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Yeah. Sometimes we need that confirmation.

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We do. I'm a person that I definitely have

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to have confirmation. I'm, I'm all in. But

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I need to know that I'm all in for the

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right thing. Yeah. Yeah. You don't have to

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question whether I'm in or I'm out. I'm

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in. I just need to know that I'm in for

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the right thing. For the right thing.

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Yeah. The right way. Yeah, yeah. Oh, I

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love that. I love that. All in. All in.

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Man, we can unbox so many different things

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today. Doctor Hunter, you want to come

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back in for like two, three episodes?

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Usually I ask people to come back for one

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more. I'm asking you to come back for two,

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three more because, listen, look, we are

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here trying to grow personally and

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professionally and unlocking the different

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components of effective communication,

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mentorship, having an ear to hear and

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receive. Yeah, right. It does you no good

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to have a mentor if you don't listen to

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them. None at all. None at all. It does

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you no good to just receive a boatload of

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information if we don't take the time to

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learn how to implement it and turn that

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information into wisdom. Turn that

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knowledge into wisdom and not, you know,

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knowledge applied equals wisdom. Wisdom

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means taking what I've learned and caused

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it to bear fruit in some way. Yeah, in

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some way, it has bear fruit for me and the

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people connected to me. And I want to make

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sure we respect your time. But I have said

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that we was gonna talk about who God says

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podcast. So that's why we got to come

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back, you know, two, three more times,

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because some other stuff. But before you

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do. Before we do wrap this up, go on to

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drop the plug for who God says podcast and

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let people know how they can connect with

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you. Okay, so I am the host of who God

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says podcast. It's basically we're all on

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our spiritual journey, but we're all real

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people, and life happens. So how do we get

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through that as christians, as people,

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period. Like, how do we get through that?

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If you're not a christian, you still have

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standards. How do you live up to those

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standards and still go through everyday

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life? Still go through boyfriends and

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cheating, husbands and children acting

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crazy, and people getting on your nerves

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at the job, and you relate on your bills?

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How do we get through that and still stand

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on our principles? So that's what who God

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says is about. You can go to the

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website@whogosses.com you can see all of

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the past episodes. You can follow us on

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Instagram. What is it? It's x now, not

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Twitter. TikTok, Facebook. We're all over

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on all that stuff. Who got sis? And you

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can send me an email if you would like to

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be a part of the show or if there's

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anything that you feel like the church

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does not talk about that we should talk

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about, send me an email at who God

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saysmail.com. Oh, you gonna get a bunch of

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emails. That's one of my biggest things. I

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know a lot of times, church is too

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churchy, and they don't want to talk about

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real life. So I want to address

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everything. We just did a. Come on. We

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just did an episode about sex addiction.

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Nobody talks about that in church. Listen,

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come on, now. And one of the other things

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that they don't feel like that popped in

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my head and about that like sex addiction.

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But what the church also don't like to

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talk about a lot is women. We had a

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problem, too. A lot of us have been

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delivered from it, still going through it.

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But more importantly, because outdated was

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never right thinking that we don't have

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those desires in the first place. Yeah.

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Yeah, we do. Yep, we do. And we are here

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being predators. On the low. Yes, we have

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some of these poor, defenseless brothers.

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Ain't never see it comment and marriage.

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Don't fix it. That's not. It's not. It.

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Don't fix it. Look, I got it. I don't. I'm

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gonna listen to that one. And we don't

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talk about it. Look, who got says podcast.

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Y'all go out to who God says podcast?

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Calm, right? Who got says calm? Who got

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says.com? check out the podcast. Yours

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truly was a guest on the podcast. We have

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a great episode. You can find that episode

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actually on my YouTube channel as well. If

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you look under my guest appearances,

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you'll see my appearance on the who God

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says podcast. Y'all going out there, hit

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them, subscribe, and like buttons for who

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media. I assure you, you will be blessed

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by the content that you receive. So, you

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got anything coming up where we could

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connect support in any kind of way? Oh,

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the only thing I have coming up is more

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episodes. So, you guys, more episodes. I

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am stepping into a role that I don't want

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to say anything about, that I'm very

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nervous about. So I would accept your

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prayers. Amen. For strength and capacity

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to perform in Jesus name. Amen. And we

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would definitely be praying and covering

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you, woman of God, as you prepare to step

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into this role. I'm going ahead and say

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it. The Lord has already prepared you. You

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just got to accept it and walk in it,

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because let me just leave that right there

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for you. You are more than capable and

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more than ready. Yeah. Yeah. It's gonna be

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great. Look, for those of you also that

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are listening, coming up on July 11 and

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12th. And that's in less than two weeks,

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y'all. We have the tv media tour, and it

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will be right here in Killeen, Texas. Come

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one, come all. The tv media tour has been

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curated to be a blessing to micro and

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small business owners, where in this two

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days of workshops, not only will you

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understand the importance of community and

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collaboration, you will understand the

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importance and significance of digital

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media and digital effective digital media

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strategies. We will be having guests

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coming in from across the country teaching

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on an abundance of topics that is relevant

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to help you develop and grow your personal

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brand monetization and how to effectively

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enter into the digital marketing space

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with ads and having your your brand seen

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on tv. You don't want to miss it. July 11

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and 12th, right here in Killeen, Texas. Go

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out to tv www.tvmediatour.com. get

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registered. We want to see your amazing

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face in the place on those two days. And

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right now we are currently running a

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special for if you want to come and just

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enjoy the workshops, 150 to come in and

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enjoy the workshops. If you want to leave

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with a professionally written press

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release, professional photos, magazine

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articles, and tv interviews, gonna upgrade

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that to our regular package. And that

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package is $450, y'all. I'll see you all

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at the tv media tour in July. Until next

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time, I am your host, Laquita Manley. You

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guys be great and have an amazing rest of

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