Join Jackie as she interviews special guest, NYU Professor Christine Cocchiola, who shares her own abuse journey and her fight to pass Jennifer’s Law (coercive control legislation) in the US state of Connecticut.
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Guest Bio and Cool Quotes in the Episode:
Christine Cocchiola, LCSW
NYU, DSW-c, 2022
Coercive Control Advocate, Researcher, Educator & Survivor
www.christinecocchiola.com
coercivecontrolisipv on Instagram & FB and coercivecontrol on Twitter
“Victims are highly agreeable and conscientious. They are off the charts in those two areas.” - Christine Cocchiola on study of shared victim traits by Sandra Brown
“One of the key characteristics [of abusers] is charming.” - Christine Cocchiola
“700 children have died since 2008 at the hands of an abuser, because a judge allowed the abuser to share custody.” - Christine Cocchiola
“Not all narcissists are pedophiles, but all pedophiles are narcissists” - Christine Cocchiola
“Coercive control is the foundation of domestic abuse.” - Christine Cocchiola
“At the moment we start to disengage [from the abuser], they actually intensify.” Christine Cocchiola
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Recommendations in the Episode:
YouTube Vids:
Dr. Grande on psychopathy (paying attention to Psychopath Factor 1 and Factor 2)
Dr. Ramani on manipulation tactics of narcissists
Dr. Ramani on scapegoating
Sandra L. Brown on specific temperament traits of those who get trapped in relationships with and by psychopaths
Studies and Articles:
Christine Cocchiola’s study: COVID-19 and Sheltering in Place: The Experiences of Coercive Control for College Students Returning Home
Baker and Ben-Ami study on Parental Alienation
Meier study on how women lose custody in drastically greater percentages when they allege domestic violence against their partners
False accusations occur 4% of the time
The Saunders study and judicial responsibility
Traits of narcissists
Michael Flood on Involving Men in Efforts to End Violence Against Women
Sandra L. Brown’s Safe Relationships Magazine
It takes 7 times, on average, to leave an abusive relationship for good
Podcasts:
Jess Hill’s The Trap
Crime Analyst, hosted by Laura Richards, featuring special guest Dr. Jessica Taylor: Episode 29: Who Framed Britney Spears?
The Rise and Fall of Mars Hill by Christianity Today
Movies:
Spotlight
Books:
See What You Made Me Do: Power, Control and Domestic Abuse by Jess Hill
Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith Herman, M.D.
Talking to Strangers by Malcolm Gladwell
Not to People Like Us: Hidden Abuse In Upscale Marriages by Susan Weitzman
Dodging Energy Vampires: An Empath's Guide to Evading Relationships That Drain You and Restoring Your Health and Power by Christiane Northrup, M.D.
The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize It and How to Respond by Patricia Evans:
Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft
Coercive Control: How Men Entrap Women in Personal Life by Evan Stark
Social Media:
The Victim Advocacy Project
A Case For Ace
Peach Anjelica's TikTok Channel
Organizations:
Connecticut Protective Moms
VictimFocus, founded by Dr. Jessica Taylor
Custody Peace
Events:
The International Coercive Control Conference
Legislation:
Jennifer’s Law (the Connecticut legislation Christine Cocchiola helped pass)
Actress Evan Rachel Wood testifying to help pass Jennifer’s Law in Connecticut
The Safe Child Act
Kyra’s Law
Kayden’s Law
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