Our ‘what ifs’ tend to be based in the past or the future. What if I had done something different or what if something doesn’t go how I expect it to, how I want it to or how I hope it to. Let's find a new way of looking at 'What if...'
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Hello darling hearts, and welcome to this episode of the drink less live better podcast.
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This is the podcast that helps you to see that drinking less doesn't need to be stressful, lonely, or boring.
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I'm your host, Sarah Williamson, and I decided to have a year alcohol free as a little life experiment and haven't looked back.
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I share resources, wisdom, insights, and glimmers of hope and joy. I hope you enjoy today's episode. Let's get straight to it. What if? What if? What if?
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I've been working on a new project, and it has been a challenge.
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I've reached the edge of my comfort zone and got very uncomfortable.
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I'm putting new words and work out into the world and I know not everyone will like it, and that's okay.
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I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea and that's okay too, and like all human beings everywhere I do have a fear of not being liked. Don't worry. Drink less. Live better isn't going anywhere.
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Everything around here stays exactly the same. 1 to 1 coaching with my clients is absolutely my joy.
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Anyway, I was worrying and I was thinking thoughts like what if I say something that annoys someone?', what if they verbally attack me? What if I offend someone?
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What if they tell me I've offended them? What if? What if? What if? And on and on it went.
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Our thoughts are made up of so many what if erys and most of them are made up scenarios in the future that won't actually play out.
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Our what ifs tend to keep us a bit stuck.
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What if I had done something differently?
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Or what if something doesn't go how I expect it to, how I want it to, or how I hope it will?
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What ifs are a waste of time and energy?
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Because the truth is we cannot go back and make alterations nor can we see or control what happens beyond this very moment in front of us.
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What ifs hold the power of making us incapable of experiencing the beautiful parts of our immediate reality are right now
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and they rob us of being able to live the calm or fun life that we actually crave. What ifs steal our peace'.
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When the what if cycle starts the focus is very often on predicting what the outcomes will be, generally in a negative light. Let's give this a test drive.
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The thought might be I'm going to do a dry January and then what if I don't enjoy the wedding I've been invited to?
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What if my cousin asks why I'm not drinking? What if I get bored?
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Or the thought might be, I'm thinking of changing jobs.
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What if I cannot find a new job?
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What if I don't get an interview?
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What if the job doesn't turn out to be what I thought it was?
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Or the thought might be, I want to set some boundaries with a family member.
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But what if they ask why I'm being odd? What if it feels too awkward?
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What if I actually get more peace and calm?
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Ah, you see that's a different kind of what ifery isn't it?
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What if I actually get more peace and calm if I follow through with this?
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Let's do that one again I want to set some boundaries with a family member.
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What if I get more peace and calm if I do this?
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There we go, using the what if to question and move forward on a positive note, taking a moment to recognize that when used
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with a nice intention, what if can be helpful.
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We just need to catch it in the right moment.
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So about the edge of my comfort zone place I've been in, this week I've been asking myself, what if I put my new work out
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into the world and people love it?
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What if they see my honesty and admire it?
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What if they think pink hair goes perfectly in their normally slightly grey environment? What if they agree with me?
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Wild How beautifully things can change, how fabulously we can change things for ourselves.
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Drop me an email or a DM this weekend with your what ifery flip story.
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Where can you reign in the traditional negative what if and replace it with a wild and joyful one? Thank you for listening in today. Come back again next week. Check out the show notes.
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There's a link to a hidden podcast episode that will help you with your 5 PM cravings and details about my one to one life coaching and sober coaching programmes. And, PS, I believe in you.
