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Here's a fact for you.
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About 10% of the people who make new year's resolutions successfully
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implement lasting change.
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The other 90% fail.
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So why do we keep doing this to ourselves year after year?
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Why do we tell ourselves that we need a resolution?
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Just because of the calendar moved up one more number.
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Welcome to episode 72 of this shit works.
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I'm your host, Julie Brown.
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And today I'm discussing why we need to abandon the practice of
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making new year's resolutions.
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I'm sorry to break it to you.
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But the 1st of January doesn't hold any mystical or magical power that will
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help you facilitate change in your life.
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It's just another day on the calendar.
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If there was something that you really wanted to change or do differently.
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And it was June.
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Would you wait until January 1st to do it?
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No.
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You do it in June.
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But somehow the beginning of a new trip around the sun always makes us feel like
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we have to come up with some big change.
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And that's the first problem of resolutions.
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They are usually way too big and not subdivided into
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manageable and achievable goals.
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This is why they fail because they are too big and undefined.
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I'm not the only one who says that.
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Psychotherapists Jonathan Alpert, author of be fearless.
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Change your life in 28 days broke down three of the biggest reasons
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people fail to complete their new year's resolutions each year.
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The first.
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Your resolution isn't specific enough.
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For example.
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I want to run a marathon.
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Okay.
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Great.
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Then.
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What marathon.
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What is the date?
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Now make and commit to a training schedule and moving back from that date.
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Bulls that are detailed and specific are harder to ignore
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than broad sweeping goals.
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Too.
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You weren't framing your resolutions positively.
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so much of how we talk to ourselves impacts our actions and our behaviors.
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Albert says, so try to frame the resolution in a positive way
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and not use negative language when describing your new goal.
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Three.
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Your resolution isn't actually for you.
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Your goal needs to be made by and for you.
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Not influenced by your friends or your family.
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And what they see or you see in society and on social media.
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What if we didn't make a resolution.
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But instead at the end of every year, took a moment to look back
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and acknowledge all the things that we accomplished the previous year.
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How much work we put into it.
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The really hard times to be got through the great things that, happened, and the
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happiness that we shared with others.
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That's what I'm going to do this year.
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Now don't get me wrong.
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I have goals for 20, 22, but none of them involve changing who I am or
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beating myself up for who I'm not.
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Well, this episode is short and sweet because we're already
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at the cocktail of the week.
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And it's the cure boreal.
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It's just creamed.
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Cassie's black, current liquor., and that goes with champagne, like
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tomatoes and basil and peaches and cream, peanut butter and jelly.
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Peas and carrots.
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So, all you're going to do is take a champagne flute.
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Put a little bit of Kira Royal on the bottom and then fill
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it with your favorite bubbles.
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And then you've got this sophisticated champagne cocktail.
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Perfect for celebrations of all kinds, especially like the kind where you say.
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I'm good.
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Just the way I am.
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All right friends.
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Happy new year.
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I'll see you in 2022.