In this episode, Julia takes on the well-worn advice to “be yourself”… and gives it a bit of a reality check.

Because while it sounds simple, most of us learnt a long time ago that being ourselves comes with conditions. Some parts of us are welcomed… and some very definitely aren’t.

Drawing on psychodynamic thinking (without disappearing into theory), Julia explores how we learn to edit ourselves in order to belong, and why those patterns don’t just disappear as we get older.

She also asks a slightly uncomfortable question: do people actually deserve access to your best self… or are we handing it over a bit too easily?

A grounded, honest look at identity, belonging, and the quiet ways we adapt, this episode will likely have you recognising yourself, and perhaps thinking twice the next time someone tells you to “just be yourself.”

Here are the highlights of this episode:

(2.05) What the Victorians believed

(3.54) Self abandonment

(4.41) Do people deserve the best versions of us?

(7.07) Where do you edit yourself?

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The Dynamics of Everyday Life explores the psychological patterns shaping how we think, work and relate to others; bringing psychodynamic thinking into coaching, leadership and everyday life.

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