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Total independence or a relationship where someone really shows up for you.

I'm very independent. However, it's really lovely to have a partner or somebody to show up for you.

Peaceful and predictable or exciting, but a little unstable.

Exciting and unstable.

Just to have that little fire. Huh?

I feel the most sexiest in a white T shirt and sweatpants and my flip flops.

You can be stylish as fuck in a white T shirt and denim. I was so afraid of not being liked for so long, and now I'm.

Like, I don't need to prove myself to anybody.

This game is called you can only keep one. So I will give you a scenario and you tell me which one you would keep being deeply understood or being slightly mysterious.

Mysterious, I guess. I think, yeah, today I think I'd want to remain a little mysterious.

Why not? Why not? Total independence or a relationship where someone really shows up for you.

Hold on. Really? I gotta choose between the two?

These are gonna be hard, but I know you've got it.

But wait, Roxy, hold on. I mean, we're all about being independent. We're strong, powerful women. And I'm strong. Very independent.

However, it's really lovely to have a partner or somebody to show up for you, including my ex husband, as you can see. Like, I love that. His nickname. Cabana boy, you know? Shit, I gotta choose. Okay, I'm gonna say independence.

Independence. Yeah. Yeah, I know. We can't not. It's too hard.

And we have daughters. Like, I want them to be these strong, independent women that we do not need to lean. We.

We can accept and welcome help, which I love and is helpful, but we want to raise strong, independent women that they are capable of anything that comes their way and that they can change a light bulb.

You know what? When in doubt, we always blame it on our daughters.

Exactly. This is all for you. Yes.

Yeah, exactly.

Okay.

Peaceful and predictable or exciting. Exciting, but a little unstable.

Oh, exciting and unstable.

Right. Just to have that little fire, huh?

Right now, I am super fun, vibrant, exciting, excited. But, like, I'm also a bit. There's some instability with me right now between midlife hormones, the unknowns of building something, and transit.

But there's some instability. So, yeah, I'm gonna go with that.

Looking exactly how you want or feeling completely at home in your body.

Completely at home with my body.

Yeah. I would imagine for you especially, like, as a stylist.

People are always surprised to hear this and we can wrap up is people think I love. I mean, we all love getting dressed up. Of course. I love Getting dressed and going to an event.

But I feel the most sexiest in a white T shirt and sweatpants and my flip flops. That is me. I'm the most comfortable fresh face, like just. Or in jeans and a T shirt versus some of my. A killer little black dress and heels.

I know. I love a denim like that. That is my go to as well. And by the way, you can be stylish as fuck in a white T shirt and denim. Like, for sure.

More than like design. Like all the things. For sure.

And a red lip. The way that you rock a red lip.

Oh, thank you, honey. Okay, I won't keep you much longer. I just have one last one. People liking you or people respecting you?

Respect.

Respect is where it's at, right?

Honey, we're at the zero fuck state in our life. Like, if you don't like me. Look, I am not for everyone. People are going to be watching. Like, I'm not for you. And that's totally okay.

And it's taken me years to be okay with that. And it's okay that you don't like me. I really don't care. But you, you absolutely. I want respect. You don't like me, that's fine.

And there's a lot of people that don't like me, and that's totally okay.

And you know what? We will survive. Like, I was so afraid of not being liked for so long, and now.

I'm like, we all go through that for years and we want to be, you know, the fomo. We want to be included and all this stuff. And I think you just get to a point in your life. At least I did. I don't know, maybe eight, nine years ago.

I was like, shit, I don't care if you don't like me. I have my girl gang. I. I know who I am and all my quirks and, you know, insecurities and my, you know, weirdness, and that's totally fine.

You don't like me. That's totally cool. I don't need to prove myself to anybody.

Yes. There's something that midlife and like perimenopause and all these things, like, things open up in a different way and you're like that.

Exactly right. And you go through all these things, you're just like. And again, going back to. I'm going to lean into cancer for a second. Like, I can't.

Like, that does not. Like, I don't care. Like, it doesn't. Doesn't bother me. The zero Fox era. And I love that. Now who Penned that or started that.

But I am truly in the zero fox era. Like I don't even let things. It could be the hormones or two.

Now that I think about it, like the, the HRT that I'm on, like, I don't let things get to me like they used to.

I'm just like, all right, you let it roll off. You don't get as triggered.

Right.

There's something so lovely about that. That's a gift, like not getting triggered in the same way.

We need to teach our daughters that like sooner, later, because you know they're going to go through all these things wanting everyone to like them and it's, it's, it's hard.

Yeah, it is. It's really hard. It's really hard. But that's what we're here for. That's what we're doing and we're going to rock it.

Yep. This is so good. I love that I got a chance to talk to you again.

I love that now we have to be meet in real life so we can hang out again.

Closet. Yes.

Oh my God.

That would get back from my trip. Maybe this summer if you're around when you wear in the bats in the east coast, are you going to so.

Going to Nantucket and New York in the Hamptons. Just going to do a little sweep. Just a little sweep over there. I'm ready.

I love it. Yes, I'm ready.

There's something nice about going back to the east coast, you know, I mean, you're from there originally, right?

Yeah, I'm from a small town called South Jersey, but I went to school in New York as well. But yeah, it's east coast summers are amazing.

Yeah, it's a different vibe. It's a totally different vibe.

Right. East coast has a completely different vibe.

It's really nice to go back and like have a piece of that.

Do you have family there?

So my husband is from Boston originally, so we're going back actually one of his friend's daughters is getting married in Nantucket. So we're going to go there for the wedding and then we're going to go to the city and then do the Hamptons. So I'm like, good for you.

Enjoy it.

I thank you. Thank you. And you have an amazing trip coming up as well.

Portugal. I'm excited. It's actually my first vacation with him in like three plus years, just the two of us.

We've traveled quite a bit, but I always have my daughters in tow. And this is our belated five year anniversary gift. Like our celebration, so. But by the time we go, we're going to be together six years, so.

It's hilarious, but it's all good. I'm really looking forward to it.

You know what? Late is better than never, so. Totally down with it.

Exactly.