In this raw and insightful solo episode of Wildly Wealthy Life, Kat shares a pivotal moment from her experience at the Business by Design Live event. She reflects on the importance of aligning business with personal values rather than letting hustle culture dictate life choices. Kat opens up about her journey with coaching investments, the trap of chasing multiple goals, and the decision to prioritize relationships and self-care over relentless business growth. This powerful episode is a heartfelt reminder to realign, refocus, and redefine success.

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Today I'm going to share about working from a place of

alignment instead of hustling.

And for those of you who are listening to this on audio, I'm

holding a jacket up that says hustle.

Uh, it would align, uh, crossing the word hustle and align is right underneath it.

I definitely know a thing or two.

Or a hundred about hustling, but I am also learning a lot about alignment.

And today is day three, um, from the BBD live business by design conference.

And, um, I really experienced today what it means to be alignment.

Not that I haven't experienced it before, but even more so today.

Um, and he will understand why as I share this story.

In the last, I would say, gosh, eight years or so, I have spent

close to 150, 000 in coaching.

Um, and this is coaching literally from anything from really real

estate to music to, um, My business and for the most part, that's it.

Like the real estate music business licensing, learning how to be, you know,

certification program, all these things.

And yeah, close to 150, 000 in coaching alone.

And I'm not even talking.

I'm not even counting the amount of money that I've spent

on training my body, right?

So that's also coaching, but in a different way, I guess, but training

my body for movement, right?

Like when I went into overdrive and trained for stunts and I trained anything

from gun training to wire work to.

All sorts of different martial arts and the amount of money

that I spent that year, literally just on training stunts alone.

And then, of course, the years of training that I've put into aerial.

So that 150, 000 is literally just strictly on in the last

eight years of my growth in real estate and music and in business.

And Is it worth it?

Sometimes I don't know.

Um, sometimes I question myself too, but you know, like I spent 10, 000 on

a one year mastermind for real estate and I am very much an action taker.

I don't just when I.

Pay for something for a program.

I do not take it lightly and I do the work because I am a doer gosh I've been a doer

my entire life And i'm learning how to just be but you know, I spent ten thousand

dollars on a real estate mastermind and I I did out of that mastermind.

I learned how to invest in real estate and we we did purchase you know, um

three Additional rental properties because of the stuff that I learned.

I purchased another real estate program training.

I think it was 7, 500 on note investing and out of that note investing.

I did purchase a note and we actually in fact sold that note this year.

And, uh, did get profit out of that.

I did go into a private investing, not private investing.

It's, it was private funding.

You learn how to be a private funder for investors.

Um, that was, I believe also a 7, 000.

That one, I did not do anything about because, well,

we kind of ran out of funds.

We realized we can't be a private funder, a private lender.

It was a private, how to be a private lender.

We can't be a private lender if we don't have funds.

So, um, but actually, I still know.

How to go into private lending if I want to.

So later on, you know, hopefully as you know, my business grows,

then we'll have funds and I can actually be a private lender.

So that's down the line, but I did learn that, but gosh,

there's just so many things.

The amount of coaching that I have.

Paid for has been crazy and there's such a thing as hungry.

This is what I learned this and not that I don't know this, but just kind of hearing

it from another person, you know, kind of teaching it and also from a person that.

Her name is Natalie Ellis from Boss Babe.

Uh, she has built a freaking multimillion dollar business.

And she has an incredible story, incredible, incredible story that I

encourage you to look up if you don't know her already, but there is such a thing

as she was teaching about hungry versus empty, operating from a place of hunger

versus operating from a place of empty.

There's nothing wrong with being hungry.

There's nothing wrong with being hungry.

Having the drive, the hunger for more, the hunger to, to learn more,

to be more, to be better, right?

There's nothing necessarily wrong with that, but there's something wrong with

that if you are combining that with operating from a place of emptiness.

So, I think what I've realized as I look back in my experiences is

that I'm that person who's hungry to learn for more, who's hungry to,

to do more, who's hungry to grow.

And so I do feel that I've operated from that place, and I don't think it really

is from a place of emptiness for the most part for a while until actually in the

recent years that I realized that, um, the reason why I went into overdrive and.

Signing up for even more coaching and even more masterminds is because I'm starting

to kind of suddenly get scared because I'm signing up for all these things.

And yes, I am doing the work, but then I am not seeing the return in my investment.

And part of the reason why I'm not seeing the return of my investment

financially is because when you're signing up for so many coaches and

so many masterminds, then you have so many voices speaking into you so many

suggestions and coaching coming into you.

And now you're like, well, I will do them all.

Because that's me.

I'm the person who will like, you're, you're saying I'm doing this.

Yes, coach.

I'll do that.

And then this other coach tells me you're saying that you should do this.

Yes, coach.

I got, I got it.

I'll do it.

I'm, I'm the yes coach person.

So all of a sudden.

I'm seeing that I'm getting scared because I am, I'm signing

up for all these things and then spending so much money on coaching.

Meanwhile, you know, my business, if I'm not signing up for all of these crazy

coaching, my business is making money.

The problem is my business is not making any money because everything that flows

into the business is literally just put back into all these coaching that

I'm paying for and mind you, they're not, they're not cheap coaching.

Okay.

So, finally, I met this guy named James Wedmore.

I met him.

Well, this weekend today, personally, but I met him online.

He didn't meet me.

I met him.

I saw him online and I signed up for his course.

There we go again.

I signed up for his course earlier this year.

June of of 2004, and it was a 2997, uh, self study course.

There's some coaching.

Um, you know, there's some coaching with with his trained coaches, but

it's not like one on one coaching.

It's really up to you to watch everything and put everything into implementation.

But somehow.

And I always, I always kind of feel this.

It's like, there's going to be something good from this.

I promise this is it.

This is it.

I think this is it.

And this time, this is it.

This time, this is it.

If there's only one coaching I could choose, it would be this.

Because I have gone through so much coaching, and I'm a very coachable person.

I follow, and as I already said, I'm a yes coach person.

You tell me what to do, I will implement the heck out of what you tell me to do.

The difference with James course is that he really gives you a step by

step blueprint of what you need to do.

To actually earn money in your business, right?

Um, but, but it's not just the earning.

It's actually really being clear on who you serve, what you do, and how that fits

into the overall lifestyle of what you want to do as a business owner, because

business is an addition to your life.

It does not take over your life.

And I'll talk about that a little bit more later.

But the thing about James is that, um, He makes it so simple, business is

simple, you have an offer, you make an offer, and you make it to as many, you

make that offer to as many people as possible, that's it, so you have an offer,

that's your product or your service.

You make an offer, because if you don't make an offer, how are people

going to know to buy from you if you don't actually make that offer?

And number three, you get that offer in front of as many

people as possible, right?

As many people that are in alignment with who you're offering it to, right?

So obviously, um, I'm not going to make an offer to dentists if my product or

my service is not for dentists, right?

So I have to get in front of the, the people that I'm serving

and make that offer to them.

Get in front of them, make that offer to them.

And then, and then obviously, uh, offer them the service or the product.

And it's just that simple.

The more you offer, and the more you get in front of more people, the more

money you'll make in your business.

And, you know, as I said, it's not about money, right?

But today.

I witnessed right a room full of people today.

We close out the event today.

A lot of them are already successful entrepreneurs.

A lot of them are some of them are starting.

It was a mix of people in the room, right?

But there were a lot of entrepreneurs there who are like they had a

panel of seven figure entrepreneurs and they're just regular people.

Like me, like you, regular people who got a hold of their vision, they want to

serve people, uh, they put their business online so that they can serve more, right?

If your business is online, you obviously are able to reach more people

because you don't have that location brick and mortar, um, limitation.

And today I witnessed, um, The whole, the whole room today

raised about 250, 000, 251, 000.

Uh, we all gave money into the charity this week called Charity Water.

And, um, James said that it was the biggest, uh, money that has been

raised so far at this live event that we, that he holds once a year.

Um, it's a three day event once, once a year.

And, um, Because it's a room full of entrepreneurs, entrepreneurs are usually

very, very giving people the reason why we do business and the reason why

we want to make the money that we want to make is because we want to be able

to have that capacity to serve and bless other people with our finances.

Um, gosh, like I, I have charities I want to support.

I have causes I want to support.

I have, I want my own, you know, later on, like a freaking cat cafe.

It has a dog park that has a, uh, Amphitheater for performances that

we can host for children that we have given scholarships to for

music and movement, and then they come over here and they learn about

music and movement and life skills.

And we have this whole production that I can just produce all on, all on my own,

like as far as financial goes, right.

Because I have those funds.

That's what I would love to do.

I would love to have a tree adventure park because of my love for adventure, or you

can hold like team building activities and it's your own adventure park.

Gosh, there's just so much that I want to do.

There's so much that money can do for you.

And if you have an amazing heart for people, gosh, that

money can go a long way.

Cause money is not the root of evil.

It's our, it's our greed.

It's our, it's our gosh, unstationable desire for money.

That's the root of evil, right?

But the money itself, it's, it's not evil.

It's just a tool.

So.

I witnessed that today and James, you know, he is a 20 million entrepreneur.

His, his, I don't even know really actually how much he's, you know,

his revenue is gross revenue a year, but he has this story where he

went from 2 million to 10 million.

And in one year, um, that is also an incredible story in and of itself.

He, his, his sleep was just a quantum leap in his business.

And it actually came from a very, very difficult time in his life.

The, there was a very difficult time.

Someone was suing him and he had this crazy fear that he was going

to lose everything and instead of.

Surrendering into that fear he stepped out faced that fear and his business

actually at the time that he got sued He was able to grow his business from

two million to ten million dollars in one year And that was years ago And I

know that he is way past ten million dollars now a year and I share all of

this because going back into verse hunger versus empty so I've been panicking

because basically I've been paying for all of these coaching things and nothing

is coming back because I am building way too many bridges when you have too

many voices in your head, you have too many coaches telling you what to do.

You tend, especially if you're a yes coach kind of person, you will follow

all of these directions and now you're building this bridge, and now you're

building this bridge, and then this bridge, and then this bridge, and then

this bridge, and then this bridge, and you're wanting to go from here to here,

and then, uh, And all of those bridges are never built all the way through.

So then my attention is, you know, trying to catch like five

different rabbits all at once.

And I end up not catching any rabbit.

And finally, with James, I just really understand now, and I've learned

this too from other people, right?

I've learned the concept of like, focus on one thing.

I've learned the concept of, um, um.

But, you know, being clear on who you serve, being clear on what you want to do.

I've, I've, I know all these things already, but I think the difference with

James is he really has a step by step by step by step, freaking the process, man.

The process is just ridiculous.

It is so clear that if you follow it.

It's not that it will happen like that, right, but it's that

your success is truly inevitable.

It's going to happen if you follow it.

And so I sat there today and today was the last day of, um, Enrolling

in the BBD next level that's business by design next level.

So what I enrolled in this June was his, uh, self study course, right?

With like a little bit of group coaching on the side.

And then the next level.

Above that is called next level and it's his mastermind for the people who now want

to go further Instead of the once a year event that I get to go to right like which

is this event that I've been in this the past Few days you get like four different

events and then More coaching from him and really more touch point with him

because he's been doing this for 17 years now, the, in the online business space,

and he's just incredibly successful.

So he's, and he's coached thousands of people and thousands of people have

literally followed his system and they have scaled this business to the moon.

And so here I am.

The enrollment for next level was due today by lunchtime.

And yesterday I kept asking, like, I literally kept asking God,

like, do I enroll in this thing?

Because I know, I know that I know that I know that if I enroll in this

thing, um, and especially because now I'm actually focused in a sense, not

that I wasn't focused in the growing my business before I was focused in

growing my business before, but I was.

Just focusing on way too many different directions because I had way too

many voices in my head, way too many coaches in my ecosystem of coaches.

Right.

And so.

Now that I know that I know that this is the coach that's going to

take me further and I will no longer Enroll in any other coaches, right?

This is it.

I know that if I go to next level mastermind, which by the way is

about eleven thousand dollars a year

So this is love and that it would be an eleven thousand dollar payment, I

know that I would succeed No doubt.

I just know it.

I have no doubt in my ability to follow everything that he says, and

because I've seen it work for others, then I know it will work for me too.

Okay, because I have a vision of same thing, same as all these other people

that I saw there today who's standing in the panel and they are called seven

figure entrepreneurs because they have scaled their businesses to seven figures.

And so I am that person who I want to sit.

On their seats, you know, a year from now, two years from now, however long

it takes me, um, to be that seven figure entrepreneur with the service

that I do, and because I love what I do, and I believe in it so much.

And so here I am.

Really contemplating, do I spend another 11, 000 in this next

level mastermind coaching because he only offers it once a year.

The enrollment is only open once a year.

And yes, last night I've been praying.

I said, God, like, what do I do?

What do I do?

What do I do?

And then.

This morning I texted Lee, I said, babe, yes or no?

And of course he has no context, right?

He said, yes.

I said, okay.

And I said, do you believe in me?

And he said, yes, of course he believes in me.

Lee is super supportive, incredibly supportive in everything that I do and

encouraging and all good things, right?

Yes.

Yes.

Okay.

I guess I'm enrolling.

Of course he doesn't have the context of what I'm saying and what I'm asking.

I'm just asking for, you know, a sign.

I'm just desperately asking for a sign.

I said, God, please just, just, okay, I'm going to quiet myself.

So I was, I was listening to the speaker and I just, I just kept

quieting myself and I kept quieting myself and I realized the answer.

If I.

do this, I will still be operating from a place of emptiness.

And the reason for that is because all the other coaching programs I've

done up to the point in just the last recent years, I'm not saying

from the very beginning I've, I've operated from a place of hungry.

I want to grow.

I want to grow.

And not that.

I'm not in a place of hungry right now.

I'm still in a place of hungry.

I want to grow.

I want to learn more.

But there's a lot of emptiness in my operation, like in the way I operate

now, because of the fact that I am desperately wanting to make my money

back on all these coaching programs that I have been spending so much money on.

And because my business is not actually making the money that I wanted to make.

And so I sat there and I said, If I Do this, that means that it will require

me to step up even more because this is an 11, 000 product, which means that I

will work myself to the bone to literally do everything that they're asking me

to do so that I can grow my business.

Right.

And I know that's actually not what they're going to tell me to do,

because with the way James work.

The reason why the people that he coach are coaches are so successful is because

his whole thing is actually doing less.

If you do less, you will actually be a lot more successful.

And if you just do the most important things, get, get, get away with from,

from all the fluff, you know, trim off the fat, like whatever they want to call

it, like you'll actually earn a lot more, you'll actually be a lot more successful.

But I sat there and I knew that the next level is going to be great for

me, but I just knew that it wasn't the right time because I actually

really need to heal the, the operating from emptiness that's inside of me.

And then I evaluated my, my life for, for the last like two, three years or so.

I said earlier, business is an addition to your life.

It's not supposed to take over your life.

And what I've realized is that.

I have made my business, my God,

I have made my business.

The thing that I think about every waking moment, every second of my life.

I have made it the thing that goes before my husband.

I have made it the thing that goes before my prayer time.

I have made it the thing that goes before me.

taking care of my body and actually nurturing my body more and being

consistent with my practice and movement.

I've made it the thing that goes before me playing the piano, which every time I

play the piano, it gives me so much joy.

I have made it the thing that has kept me at home and working 16 hour

days, uh, and not even leaving the house for three, four days straight.

That's the reality of it.

And.

Lee would sometimes tell me, Babe, have you, have you gotten outside today?

You need to go outside.

And I would just be like, I would open the door and I would stick my head outside and

I'd be like, There you go, I went outside.

And I closed the door and I sit back on the couch and I start working again.

And so, I sat there today and I felt this surge of energy go through

me and it was such a clear no.

Going into this other coaching program is going to be amazing.

It's going to be no doubt amazing, and it's going to no doubt supercharge me

to the moon with my business goals.

However, it's not the right time because what I really need to do

is to actually put my energy and my finances back more into coaching.

Getting therapy for, for myself, getting therapy for Lee, getting

therapy for both of us in a marriage counseling setting, um, because we

both have a lot of trauma in our life.

Me, him, individually and us together.

We've gone through a lot.

Some heavy things in in the recent years and we really actually need to come

together and and Find that place again and not that we don't love each other.

We love each other very much I I love Lee and he loves me and he

supports me and everything that I do

But we need to find that connection again

And I feel like every time I talk to Lee, all I talk to him about is my business.

And I put my business in front of him every single time.

You know, I choose my business over him, over God, over

myself, over everything else.

Sometimes my dad calls me and I love my dad and sometimes I can't even

like talk to him because I'm like, dad, I'm really busy right now.

I gotta, I gotta finish this.

And that's not okay.

So instead of signing up for another coaching program, instead of, um,

overdriving, overwhelming, overworking myself, I've decided that this year,

I am just really going to put my relationship first and whatever gets

done, gets done in the business.

Whatever doesn't get done, doesn't get done.

I don't want to supercharge myself into overdrive to try to meet

those goals in a timeline that I want just because of my ego.

You know, yeah, I want to get to my, my, my first, you know,

million dollars revenue a year.

That's, that's what I would love, right?

And then from there, I want to keep going, right?

I want to, uh, just keep going and it's not even worth it.

You know, I mean, all of those people today that spoke in the panel who are the

seven figure entrepreneurs that started just like me, a lot of them shared their

story that they were like, Oh, yeah, they were just sitting in in my seat

and, you know, in this in the audience seat, like, just like us watching them.

They were there in our seats and and and watching.

The people in the panel and also started their business from zero from scratch

from hardships from from confusion from not knowing from from started their

businesses out of, you know, a divorce out of a death out of a loss out of

miscarriages out of Death out of just so many hardships and yet those people are

sitting there right now and are now seven figure entrepreneurs and yes, I want to

be like them, but every single one of them has also said that it will happen,

but you can't force your way through it.

Number one, and.

Number two, it actually happens the moment you put your values first.

And for me, my value is my relationship with God, my

relationship with Lee, my relationship with my friends and my family.

That's, that's my value, you know?

And, and yes, my relationship with my, my families that I work with, my

students, but they're still my clients.

You know, like, I love, and that's a problem with me because I work with kids.

I, I tend to really be attached to them.

Like, I love them so much.

I love, I love all my students so much.

And

I want to be that person for them that just knows that Miss Cat is there.

Miss Cat is going to be there for them.

You know?

And that's why I care for them so much.

That's why I do all the things that I do because I love them and I just

want to show them in my own little way Especially because it's online

and they don't I don't get to see them hold them hug them You know and just

really show them that I care for them.

I So I feel like sometimes I do overcompensate, I send them gifts, I send

them stuff, but it's just my way of just showing them that I think about them, you

know, and I think when, when, when you're working with, with kids, with families,

sometimes it's hard to like put a boundary and say, they're still your clients,

Kat, they're still your clients and your, your family still comes first, you know,

and it's hard because I, I, They're my clients, but I really do see them as part

of my family that I really genuinely see them as an extension of my family, even

if they don't see me that way to me.

I see them that way.

That's you know, and it's that's why it's hard for me to detach

myself sometimes from my business from all that I do because of.

You know, my attachment to their well being, to their growth.

Yeah.

And I guess that's a lesson that I also need to learn.

That I need to not hold on so much to that and detach myself from the results

of, you know, what they're getting.

And gosh, that's another lesson on its own.

But basically, what I've learned is I'm aligning my values.

Going back to the beginning of my story here is that I'm aligning my values.

I am aligning, aligning who I am and really and truly

what I value to my business.

I'm not making my business align.

I'm not making my business dictate what I do.

I'm making my business be in alignment with my values.

And so I'm really proud of myself.

I am super proud of myself because I'm one of those people

where it's like, next level?

Yeah, sure.

Sign me up.

You can pretty much sell me anything when it comes to like personal growth

and mastery and all this stuff.

You can sell me anything.

I am all for it.

I will sign up for it and I will do the freaking work.

Because I enjoy working.

I'm one of those kids that actually enjoyed homework.

So, no surprise here that I will sign up for Mastermind so that

I can give myself more work.

Yep, that is no surprise.

So Yeah, I'm just so proud of myself today that I did not actually sat and

I let the answer come to me and I was seeking the answers like I feel like

I was asking God for the answers and I knew that the answer was going to come.

Um, but I was ready to sign up for it too.

I was ready.

The, the, the application form was already in my bag.

It was ready to go.

And, um, I was like at any moment now, God, if you say yes, I'm going,

I'm going, I'm signing up 11, 000.

Take my money.

Yeah.

Money that I don't have.

I'm just kidding.

But seriously, like, it's really crazy because I signed up for so many coaching.

But I'm proud of myself to have, first of all, actually sat down to

listen, taking some breath work and listen, and second, really being open

to the voice that's coming in and showing me so clearly, like, Kat, it

is a no and this is the reason why.

It's because if you say yes to that, you're going to be in overdrive again,

you're going to be operating from a place of emptiness, not hunger, but you're

just going to be doing this, right, because you're just so empty to try to

get yourself out of this hole that you've dug, and, uh, All that's going to do is

it's going to put your business again in front of everything else that you

value and everything else that you said that you're doing this business for.

Because to be honest, I'm doing this business because I want freedom, right?

I have this dream of like retiring leave from his work.

Like I want my business to make so much money.

He doesn't have to work that he gets to also do what he wants to

do because all these years he's been freaking supporting me.

My love for dance, he supported that, like my, my love for real estate, he

supported that, my, like, hey, here's a 10, 000 course that I want to take,

he's like, sure, go for it, you know, it's, it's crazy, so I want him to be

able to be free and do the things he wants to do too, and So the thing that

I say, Hey, I want my business to be successful so it can give me freedom to

have more time with my, with my family and, you know, and, and Lee and friends.

And here I am, it's taking me away from it.

So that ends, that ends today.

Tomorrow I'm going to go back and fly back to LA and it's a Sunday

and I have a ton of things to do.

And especially because of today of the last three days, I already got

a download of how I need to pivot my offer that I just launched.

Um, And all these things that I need to do to test and, and, and put out there.

Um, but tomorrow, I am not going to work.

I said it.

The moment it came out of my mouth, I'm like, Did I really just say that?

Did I really just say that?

Because that's the problem too, because I actually love to work.

That's the problem.

Problem because I'm a freaking workaholic and the problem about that

is realizing that it probably has come from some sort of trauma where I feel

like the need to always do something.

I can't just sit still and actually be okay and be at peace with myself.

I mean look at now it's literally It's really literally like almost 1am.

I have a flight at 7am here.

I am

talking about alignment with my values.

Apparently I don't value my health.

Oh my gosh, I'm such a walking contradiction sometimes.

But, but I just had to get this out today because I feel like I was in a flow.

I was recording an episode every single night when I got back into

my Airbnb after the full day event.

We've been there since 9am this morning.

8am actually for me, I got in early and got a little bit of coaching done, um,

this morning and it's now almost 1am.

I have a 6am flight and here I am still recording this episode, but it's

okay because tomorrow I ain't working.

I'm aligning my business to my value and I'm going to value,

I'm going to show the world.

It doesn't really matter.

I'm just saying like, I'm going to show, I'm just going to, I'm

just going to prove it to myself.

That's it.

That I can do this.

I can put myself first.

I can put my husband first.

I can put God first.

I can put my family first.

I can put my friends first before my business.

I can work from a place of alignment and not hustling.

I can do this.

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