While the holidays can be challenging for many folks for a variety of reasons (dealing with travel, having to spend time with extended family that you might not get along with, trying to stay on track with eating and spending money, etc.) it can be especially hard for couples who are additionally dealing with recovery from betrayal trauma. I'm talking specifically about the type of trauma when a spouse has been addicted to sex and/or porn. No matter what stage of recovery the betraying partner is in, or his wife who has been betrayed, the holidays can stir up some darkness. Folks who listened to episode 1 know that I know what recovery from betrayal is like. So, with this episode, I offer the partners who are trying their darndest to be in healthy recovery, a conversation with Heidi Kinsella in hopes that you can receive some validation for the work you have done and gain some tips for staying healthy and connected.

Heidi is the President and Clinical Director at Fourth Dimension Counseling & Coaching, a group practice in Washington State that serves Washington, Idaho, Alaska, Hawaii, Montana, Arizona, California, and New York.  Heidi specializes in working with people who have been affected by sex addiction, infidelity, pornography, and substance abuse, including betrayal trauma.  She works with individuals, couples, families, groups and runs workshops and intensives at her ranch Maple Valley, Washington, which includes Equine Assisted Therapy.

She holds a National Certification as a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist Supervisor, a Certified Partner Trauma Therapist Supervisor, and a Certified Multiple Addictions Therapist from the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals, and is a licensed Substance Use Disorder Professional for the state of Washington. She also is a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist through The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS). You can learn more about her extensive qualifications on her website: fourthdimensioncounseling.com

Purchase: I Am Reclaiming Me: A Betrayed Partner’s Daily Practice Journal for Women by Lorna Nakell or Coupleship: Activity Cards for Reestablishing Connection after Sexual Betrayal.

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