Hey folks, Earnest Mann here. In this episode, I tackle a bold and uncomfortable truth: a higher-paying job isn’t the answer to a better life. Sure, most people think a bigger house, a better partner, or more money will fix things. But I’m telling you from experience — it often makes things worse.
We often chase financial upgrades thinking they’ll solve our problems. But what people really need isn’t more income — it’s clarity, solitude, and self-realization. I tell the story of a high-functioning alcoholic who lost everything, not because he didn’t know better, but because he didn’t realize the consequences until it was too late. The difference between knowing and realizing is the difference between success and collapse.
Here’s the part most folks ignore — your environment matters. You can’t organize your finances at a bar on a Friday night, and you can’t get your life together surrounded by constant distraction. I talk about the power of peace, quiet, and solitude and how you can’t rebuild your mental and physical energy without it. If you’ve never had even a few days of total calm in your living space, you’ll be shocked at what it does for you.
I go a step further by challenging a widely accepted belief — that humans are inherently social creatures. We've been trained to believe this, but it's a narrative pushed by those who benefit from keeping you distracted. Communism, socialism, and even modern advertising all thrive on the myth that humans are built for collective living. But the truth? We're not wired that way — and I explain why.
I call out the credentialed gatekeepers — the academic elite who often get it wrong, even while holding tenured positions. I mention Jordan Peterson as an example of someone who’s sold word salad to the masses, proving once again that degrees don't equal truth.
Sometimes, you don’t need a weatherman to tell you which way the wind blows. You already know. The hard part is blocking out the noise long enough to hear it. That’s where the real transformation begins.
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[0:00] Hello folks, my name is Ernest. Thank
[0:02] you for being here. Now, I'm going to
[0:05] say some outrageous things here. All I
[0:08] ask is that you listen to the end. And
[0:11] if you think I'm full of [ __ ] reach out
[0:13] to me and say so.
[0:16] Let's be honest. Most people want and
[0:19] are working very hard to have a better
[0:21] life. And there's nothing wrong with
[0:24] that. But what exactly constitutes a
[0:27] better life? On the surface, it would
[0:30] seem entirely subjective. A better
[0:32] paying job, a better or bigger home, or
[0:36] perhaps even a better life partner.
[0:50] And most people believe that with a
[0:52] better paying job, just that alone would
[0:55] certainly make everything else much more
[0:58] possible.
[0:59] Fortunately for you, I'm not most
[1:03] people. And I'm here to tell you that
[1:06] actually the entire opposite is usually
[1:10] true.
[1:12] I'm going to share with you something
[1:14] that few people actually realize. Notice
[1:17] I didn't say no. I said realize because
[1:21] there's a very big difference between
[1:23] knowing something and realizing it. A
[1:27] perfect example of this is when life
[1:30] partners split up. I knew a couple once
[1:34] that on the surface people thought their
[1:36] relationship was rock solid, but the
[1:39] reality was the man was a high
[1:42] functioning alcoholic. And as these
[1:44] things typically go over the years, the
[1:48] alcohol wore him down physically and
[1:51] mentally. It was dramatically affecting
[1:54] his livelihood and relationships. And
[1:57] one by one, he lost those relationships,
[2:01] including what should have been the most
[2:03] important one, his wife. His wife had
[2:08] basically tried everything to get him to
[2:10] stop drinking and in desperation gave
[2:13] him an ultimatum, telling him that if he
[2:17] didn't stop drinking, she was going to
[2:19] leave him.
[2:21] When I talked about this to him a few
[2:23] years later, in retrospect, he said at
[2:26] the time, he knew that she was serious.
[2:30] But the truth was his selfish addiction
[2:33] became more important than anything else
[2:36] in his life, even her.
[2:39] But when he came home from a week-l long
[2:41] business trip to a house with all of her
[2:44] things gone and a letter on the kitchen
[2:47] counter was the only time he said he
[2:49] finally realized the gravity of his life
[2:53] choices. It was over. Fortunately, they
[2:57] didn't have any children.
[2:59] Now, very briefly before I continue, if
[3:02] you're enjoying this episode, please do
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[3:08] so you won't miss an episode because
[3:11] with the more subscriptions I get, the
[3:13] more people get to experience a very
[3:16] different perspective on subjects such
[3:19] as this. Now, back to the episode.
[3:23] So, getting back to the original, here's
[3:26] what I'm hoping you will realize.
[3:30] When you have to do something very
[3:32] important, such as your taxes or your
[3:34] finances, anything that requires clear
[3:37] thought and attention to detail, would
[3:40] you choose to do those things at a
[3:42] crowded bar on a Friday night or at a
[3:46] performance or perhaps a Sunday night
[3:49] football party? Of course not.
[3:53] Now, what if I told you that even
[3:56] so-called normal daily social
[3:59] interaction has the same or even greater
[4:02] negative effect on your mental stability
[4:06] as the situation I just finished
[4:08] describing.
[4:10] Just so you don't misunderstand,
[4:13] I'm not saying that you have to live
[4:15] most of your life like a [ __ ] monk in
[4:18] a monastery. I'm simply saying in order
[4:21] to really get your life together, you
[4:24] can't be scatterbrained and distracted.
[4:28] So, in order for that to happen, you
[4:30] need peace, quiet, and solitude. Just
[4:34] think, when was the last time in your
[4:37] own living space you had peace, quiet,
[4:40] and solitude for even just a few days?
[4:44] Or hell, even just a few hours? If you
[4:49] haven't, and if that's something you can
[4:52] make happen, I can tell you with
[4:54] absolute certainty that once you do and
[4:58] begin to experience improved physical
[5:00] and mental energy, it will be like a
[5:04] revelation. And I'm not saying that
[5:06] lightly.
[5:08] Now, I don't have the time to go into
[5:11] this in great detail, but what I'm about
[5:14] to tell you may shock you.
[5:17] First, it's been known for many years by
[5:21] not only power world leaders, but
[5:24] marketing criminals that masses of
[5:26] people are much easier to control and
[5:29] manipulate when they are distracted. And
[5:32] the louder and more distraction, the
[5:35] better. Hence the reason we are
[5:38] constantly bombarded with various forms
[5:42] of noise and distraction such as endless
[5:45] advertising.
[5:48] Secondly, despite what we've been told,
[5:52] and again I'm not going into a huge
[5:55] explanation of this, humans are not
[6:00] social creatures.
[6:02] At least not in the sense of the control
[6:05] mechanism narrative that has been
[6:07] endlessly hammered into our
[6:10] consciousness since childhood for the
[6:13] entirety of our lives. This is one of
[6:16] the primary reasons why
[6:18] communism/socialism
[6:20] hasn't worked because the very simple
[6:23] truth is that humans are not really
[6:26] wired for it. It is contrary to our
[6:30] nature.
[6:32] To put this as succinctly as possible,
[6:34] man's relationship to man can be
[6:37] summarized best by the late great Cohen.
[6:40] Quote, "I will help you if I can, kill
[6:44] you if I must." Now, I totally realize
[6:48] these two statements may seem
[6:50] outrageous,
[6:51] and I'm not going into lengthy
[6:54] scientific sociological studies. I don't
[6:57] claim to be a sociologist. I'll just
[7:00] state the facts. It's been proven many
[7:03] times that academic accreditation is no
[7:07] guarantee of objective truth. And
[7:10] countless times academics have been
[7:13] proven wrong. They are not gods. And
[7:18] sometimes they can be completely full of
[7:21] [ __ ] and even know it. yet continuing to
[7:25] write books, doing lecture tours, and/or
[7:28] having nice, cushy, well-paid tenur
[7:32] positions at universities.
[7:35] The word salad [ __ ] artist
[7:37] extraordinaire Jordan Peterson comes to
[7:40] mind. In conclusion, all I'm simply
[7:44] trying to say is that sometimes you
[7:47] really don't need a weatherman.
[7:50] Oh, sorry. They meant weather person
[7:54] don't want to offend anyone
[7:58] to tell you which way the wind blows.
[8:01] Until next time, this is Ernest. That's
[8:04] all I've got for today.