Why does a simple text message, a difficult conversation, or a little bit of criticism sometimes feel so overwhelming?

The answer may surprise you.

In this episode of Tammy's Takes, Tammy introduces her powerful Trigger-to-Truth Method—a simple but transformative tool designed to help you identify emotional triggers, uncover the fears hiding beneath them, and recognize when your past is influencing your present.

As adult children of dysfunction, many of us learned survival strategies that once protected us but now create anxiety, people-pleasing, overthinking, perfectionism, and emotional reactivity.

The problem isn't always what's happening today.

The problem is often that an old wound is being activated.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How to identify the actual trigger

• Why your nervous system immediately creates meaning

• How to uncover the hidden fear underneath your reaction

• The most powerful question you can ask when you're emotionally activated

• How to separate what happened then from what's happening now

• Why healing isn't about fixing your feelings—it's about understanding them

If you've ever felt like your emotions take over before you have time to think, this episode will give you a practical tool you can start using immediately.

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Welcome back to another episode

of Tammy's Takes, where we take

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powerful conversations with our

guests and turn them into practical

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strategies you can use right now.

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So today we're talking about my

conversation with Sarah Hansen, and

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I kept thinking about one thing.

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Most people don't stay

stuck because they don't

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know what to do.

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I think I say it every

single day to someone.

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They stay stuck because they don't

know how to separate what's happening

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now from what happened then.

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As adult children of dysfunction, we often

react to life from old survival patterns.

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So what happens?

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So a text message gets ignored, a spouse

seems distant, a friend doesn't call

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back, and suddenly we're anxious, we're

overwhelmed, we're overthinking, we're

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people-pleasing, we're shutting down.

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We're literally preparing for disaster.

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The problem is what we're often

reacting to is an old wound

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instead of the current situation.

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So today, I wanna teach you a tool that

I use with my clients all the time.

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I call it the trigger to truth method.

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The next time you feel emotionally

activated, do these three steps.

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Three simple steps.

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You know I like to keep it simple, guys.

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Number one, name the trigger.

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Ask yourself, "What just happened?"

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Not the story, not the interpretation,

not any of what you're thinking

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you think, just the facts.

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For example, if your boss corrects

you, instead of d- going into the

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spiral of how much they don't like

you and how they always think you're

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wrong and everything else, just say to

yourself, "My boss corrected my report.

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My husband didn't text me back right away.

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My daughter sounded irritated."

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Not why, not the story, just the facts.

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Stick with the facts.

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Number two, name the fear.

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What does it bring up in you?

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Ask yourself, "What am

I afraid this means?"

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So this is where it gets a little

more interesting because most people

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will say, "They don't like me.

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I'm being rejected.

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I'm not important.

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I'm gonna get in trouble," whatever it is.

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Notice how quickly your

nervous system creates meaning.

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Just notice how quickly it does that.

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You have a story before you ever

even process what was going on

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or decided to look at the facts.

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So now, number three, I want you to ask

yourself the most powerful question:

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How old does this feeling feel?

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Not how old you are, not 57.

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I'm not saying this happened right

now, but how old does the feeling feel?

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Because many times what you're

going to discover is that your

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reaction isn't coming from this

57-year-old self, in my case.

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It's coming from my seven-year-old self

or my 12-year-old self, or the teenager

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who was constantly criticized and berated

every time they did something wrong.

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So once you recognize that, you

can say that makes sense," but

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that was then and this is now.

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And here's the magic in this.

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You don't have to fix the feeling.

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You just have to stop believing it.

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That's where the healing starts, not

by fighting your nervous system, not by

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shaming yourself, but by recognizing when

your past is trying to run your present.

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I see this every single day through

my coaching and biofrequency scans.

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I see these patterns

happening every single day.

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People think they're stuck

because they need more motivation,

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they need more awareness.

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I see this every single day through

my coaching and biofrequency scans.

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Every single day I see this.

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People think they're stuck

because they need more motivation.

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What they actually need is

more awareness of the patterns

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running underneath the surface.

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You hear me talk a lot about your

conscious mind, which is above the

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surface, and then that huge iceberg of

unconsciousness that is below the surface.

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So once you see, once you understand

that stuff underneath the surface

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is actually running the show,

you can begin to see the pattern.

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You can stop becoming

the pattern, my friends.

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You can, I promise you.

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So this…

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If this little exercise resonated with

you at all, I've created something

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specifically for people who are

tired of living in survival mode.

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It's called the Chaos to Calm

Nervous System Reset Guide.

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Inside, I'll walk you through practical

tools to calm your nervous system in the

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moment, understand your triggers, and

start creating safety from the inside out.

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Grab it in the notes below.

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I promise you it will make all

the difference in the world.

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Because healing isn't about becoming

someone new, it's about teaching your

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nervous system that the danger has passed.

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So until next time, remember,

your reaction makes sense,

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but it isn't always the truth.

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And sometimes the first step towards

freedom is just asking yourself,

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"How old does this feeling feel?"

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So guys, have a great one, and

I will see you back next time.

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Love you all.