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No matter your background or wounds, you have a place to belong. Pastor Barbie encourages you to let go of the stress of self-reliance and loneliness by learning to trust in God's fatherly care.
Honest stories and biblical teachings validate your struggles and offer practical steps toward hope, peace, and acceptance from a loving Father. Find practical guidance and ways to rest your heart, even amid chaos.
Key Insights
- Your value and belonging are rooted in God's love, not your performance or family background.
- When you trust God as Father, you break free from striving, isolation, and self-reliance.
- Feeling troubled is a sign to pause and reconnect with God's covering, not to push harder.
- Rest and peace are part of your inheritance as God’s child, available to everyone willing to trust.
- The progression toward growth starts with love, leading to hope, purification, and confident rest in God.
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Hey guys, how you doing?
Speaker:I'm a little loud. That's okay, I'll whisper.
Speaker:It'll be fine. Everybody got your Bibles? You're going to want a Bible
Speaker:tonight. Crickets,
Speaker:crickets. Um, I'm excited about where the
Speaker:Lord's taking us tonight. I love the journey
Speaker:through the Word with him, and I love how you can
Speaker:open up the Word and one sentence, I mean,
Speaker:just one sentence can floor you, and it can take you, the
Speaker:Holy Spirit with that one thing can take you down a path and on a
Speaker:journey that just is like, Lord, I just, I love
Speaker:the way he opens his Word. And so tonight we are going
Speaker:to take a little bit of a journey Um, talk about
Speaker:a fatherless mentality. Now,
Speaker:as the Lord began to open this one up to me, I wanted to say
Speaker:this right up front because I know the enemy and you know the
Speaker:enemy. So when we're talking about this tonight, I
Speaker:want single mamas, divorced families,
Speaker:everybody to go, I'm not directing this at you. I'm talking to
Speaker:every son and daughter of God in the room.
Speaker:Because the enemy loves to bring offense. When the Lord is trying to share
Speaker:something, or the Holy Spirit's trying to impart something, one of the
Speaker:easiest things for the enemy to do is to throw up a spirit of offense
Speaker:so that we don't receive what the Holy Spirit has for us.
Speaker:So I'm just putting that out there. This is not about you. It's about me,
Speaker:and it's about us. It's about all of us. And it is about the moments
Speaker:in our life when we forget that we have a
Speaker:good God. Good Father. And we begin to
Speaker:live with a mentality, an orphan mentality, a
Speaker:fatherless mentality that negates the fact that we have
Speaker:a Father God who is
Speaker:a good Father who loves us dearly.
Speaker:And this is what the Lord had on my heart this week, and so we're
Speaker:going to share it together because that's the way this works. So, uh,
Speaker:we'll open with the Word, And we're going to go into a couple of other
Speaker:passages after this, but if you do have your Word, turn to
Speaker:John 14, if you would.
Speaker:This may sound a little bit like a, a different kind of passage to begin
Speaker:with, but it says, "Do not let your hearts be troubled.
Speaker:You believe in God, believe also in me. My
Speaker:Father's house has many rooms. If that were not
Speaker:so, would I have What I have told you, that I'm going there
Speaker:to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for
Speaker:you, I will come back and take you to be with me,
Speaker:that you also may be where I am.
Speaker:And then it, um, let's see if I jump down here
Speaker:a little bit further in chapter 14. It says, I will not
Speaker:leave you as orphans. I will come to you. Before
Speaker:long, the world will not see me anymore, but you will see me.
Speaker:Because I live, you also will live. On that day you
Speaker:will realize that I am in my Father, and you are in me,
Speaker:and I am in you. Whoever has my commands and
Speaker:keeps them is the one who loves me. The one who loves me will
Speaker:be loved by my Father, and I too will love them
Speaker:and show myself to them. Father God, I thank you so much
Speaker:for your word and your truth, and I thank you for the life, Lord,
Speaker:just the source of life in
Speaker:your word. And so, Father, I pray for every
Speaker:person in this room who just needs an
Speaker:infusion of life tonight to come
Speaker:under your word and your truth. I pray our hearts be open and pliable,
Speaker:and I pray that my stuff fall in your stand. In Jesus'
Speaker:name, amen, amen. Now before we move
Speaker:forward, if you've got your word, turn to Galatians 4
Speaker:because we're going to talk about, um, the fatherhood of
Speaker:God tonight. And if we're going to talk about the fatherhood
Speaker:of God, we need to talk just a little bit about sonship, right? And
Speaker:daughters. And it says right here in Galatians 4, beginning with verse
Speaker:3, so also when we were children, we were
Speaker:in slavery under the basic principles of the world.
Speaker:But when the time had The time had fully come. God sent his
Speaker:Son, born of a woman, born under the law,
Speaker:to redeem those under law, that we might receive
Speaker:the full rights of sons.
Speaker:Because you are sons, because you are
Speaker:sons, God sent the Spirit of his Son
Speaker:into our hearts, the Spirit who calls out, Abba,
Speaker:'Father.' So you are no longer a slave
Speaker:but a son. And since you are a son,
Speaker:God made you also an heir.
Speaker:Okay, have we settled in our spirits for the moment that
Speaker:you are a son? And because of the price that
Speaker:Jesus paid, you are a son of God and
Speaker:a daughter of God. Okay, then let's jump over to
Speaker:Ephesians Ephesians chapter 1, and we're
Speaker:going to start with verse 4, building on
Speaker:what we just read. For He chose us
Speaker:in Him before the creation of the world
Speaker:to be holy and blameless in His sight—
Speaker:I'm sorry, in His sight. In love, He
Speaker:predestined us to be adopted as His
Speaker:sons through Jesus Christ in accordance
Speaker:with His pleasure and will, to the praise of His glorious
Speaker:grace, which He has freely given us in the one
Speaker:that He loves. Guys, you are sons
Speaker:and daughters of the Most High God. You have
Speaker:a heavenly Father, a powerful
Speaker:heavenly Father who acts in every regard
Speaker:to protect you, to guard you, to keep you, to provide
Speaker:for you, to resource you, to make sure that you are
Speaker:covered, You have a Father, and
Speaker:you are His child. And that's really important
Speaker:for you to know as we start out tonight. See, when I read
Speaker:this particular passage of scripture, I am
Speaker:struck by just this one sentence. When
Speaker:Jesus, our brother, the firstborn of many
Speaker:brethren, is talking to us and He says, "Hey
Speaker:guys, In my Father's house, there are many
Speaker:mansions. Let's go King James. There are
Speaker:many rooms. And if it weren't true, I wouldn't have told you that. And I'm
Speaker:going to prepare a place for you so that I can come back and get
Speaker:you and take you home with me. And,
Speaker:you know, I used to have this friend in school all through junior high
Speaker:and high school, and she had like the nicest
Speaker:house. Of course, in comparison to my mobile home, there might have
Speaker:been a little bit of a discrepancy, but I loved her
Speaker:house.. And so when she would come, her name was Jan, and she would go,
Speaker:hey, do you want to come home with me today? And I would get so
Speaker:excited to go and spend time at her house because when I walked through
Speaker:those doors, it just felt right. It felt
Speaker:good that they were kind to me and they made me feel
Speaker:at home. But as much as I loved being at her house, and I
Speaker:practically lived there in junior high and high school,
Speaker:but as much as I loved being there, I knew that I was a
Speaker:visitor. And it was their home.
Speaker:But when I read this, I feel like I'm being
Speaker:invited to our home, and I don't feel like I'm going as a
Speaker:visitor. I feel like I'm going to be part of the
Speaker:family because we are His family. And so I just
Speaker:remember as a child this particular passage,
Speaker:I dreamed about this passage. I loved this
Speaker:passage so much because I could see it, and in my mind's
Speaker:eye as a child, I could, I just so
Speaker:related to him as, as father. And I had this feltboard
Speaker:image of Jesus. And I knew as a
Speaker:child that Jesus loved children.
Speaker:I mean, Jesus loves the little children, all
Speaker:the children of the world. Jesus loves me. I knew that
Speaker:Jesus loved children. And so as a child, when I would
Speaker:listen to or read this passage, of Scripture, I could
Speaker:envision it, and I could see Him sitting on that proverbial
Speaker:rock that we always see Him sitting on when He's surrounded by children, right?
Speaker:And I would imagine that, and I would think about that, and I would think,
Speaker:"I wonder if He'll notice when I get
Speaker:there because there's going to be so many—
Speaker:there's going to be so many other kids there." And I just remember
Speaker:thinking, Of course He'll notice. Of course
Speaker:He'll notice. Because I don't know about you guys, but as
Speaker:parents, the moment when your child
Speaker:walks into the room where you are is the most
Speaker:pivotal moment that you can face for a while. Because
Speaker:when they walk into the room and they see your face, they
Speaker:know whether you adore them, you're excited to
Speaker:see them, They are welcome. And so the
Speaker:way that you greet them just with your face
Speaker:is so important that they know how much you are
Speaker:welcoming them into the room. And I had that
Speaker:in this imagery with Jesus. It's like I could so
Speaker:see it. Okay, I had red curls and
Speaker:orange high tops on because that was always really important in the
Speaker:imagery. But I just remember I would always imagine
Speaker:him looking up and seeing me, and this
Speaker:smile spreading across his face. And then I just
Speaker:remember charging him, and just charging him, and
Speaker:toppling him off of the rock into the grass, because that's what I
Speaker:did. And it was just the most precious image
Speaker:to me, because I felt like he was waiting
Speaker:for me. And guys, I
Speaker:still feel like that today. I might not topple him off the
Speaker:rock, but there is that potential. Anyway, But I feel
Speaker:like He's still waiting on me. And
Speaker:He's still waiting on you.
Speaker:And when you enter into that place with Him, I promise
Speaker:you, a smile will light His face
Speaker:because He anticipates that day with you. And so
Speaker:that's the imagery I have. And, and I think about
Speaker:God as my Father, and Jesus as my brother,
Speaker:and the home that is being prepared for us. And when
Speaker:I live in that that space, when
Speaker:I live with that expectation,
Speaker:I am alive on the inside.
Speaker:I feel covered, and I feel blessed, and
Speaker:I feel provided for and cared for. The
Speaker:moment that I decide that is no longer where I'm
Speaker:going to live, everything in me shifts.
Speaker:Because we were designed to live with
Speaker:the hope of a Father. One
Speaker:of the things Jesus did on earth,
Speaker:He spoke continuously,
Speaker:continuously of the Fatherhood of
Speaker:God. The Fatherhood
Speaker:of God. And guys, in this world,
Speaker:we need to know about the Fatherhood of
Speaker:God. Did you know that in the entire Old
Speaker:Testament, God is mentioned as Father around
Speaker:15 times, but in the book of
Speaker:John alone, He's called Father over 100
Speaker:times because it was important to Jesus
Speaker:to begin to relate this idea of
Speaker:fatherhood. And so
Speaker:He shares it beautifully, and He makes it so personal.
Speaker:Everything He does, everything He shares, everything
Speaker:that He, Jesus walks through,
Speaker:paints this picture of this intimate Father
Speaker:and Son relationship. Every act, every purpose of
Speaker:the heart, every obedience had to do with
Speaker:God the Father. And that's the relationship, the connection in our
Speaker:own lives that truly does affect and change
Speaker:everything when we begin to see Him as that
Speaker:in our life. You are not
Speaker:orphans, and you are not fatherless children.
:5 says that He is a
:Father to the fatherless, a Defender of widows
:is God in His holy dwelling.
:It's who He is. It's who He
:is. He's not working it up. It's who He is.
:We are neither orphans nor fatherless children. And guys, the
:reason that I think this is so important is because
:when we come under that covering with God, when we
:recognize that authority and that peace and that covering,
:we change. We walk different in the earth. You know,
:when we have the awareness that we are loved, just like what Josh was
:sharing, on Sunday when you know
:that God loves you, and when you know that he is
:favored, and you know that you're not just trying to work it up.
:When I look at John 14, I see it through this,
:the eyes of someone who has a propensity to feel rejected,
:or shut out, or let go. And I ran
:across this. See, I didn't know, honestly, that this was a thing.
:I didn't know that it was a thing, but it's obviously a thing because when
:you look it up, it's a thing. And, and
:so I had looked up, I'm like, what does this even mean? And,
:and I want to read it to you. I want to read it to you
:correctly and tell me if this doesn't
:make sense. You can't make this stuff up. Well, I guess you can, but it
:just doesn't sound as good when you make it up. Anyway, an orphan
:mentality Often referred to as an orphan
:spirit, describes a deep-seated belief
:of being unloved or unlovable,
:abandoned and alone, leading to feelings of unworthiness,
:insecurity, and distrust, even when you are
:surrounded by support. This is
:characterized by self-reliance. You got to do it
:yourself. Can't count on anybody. Emotional
:suppression, fear of vulnerability, and believing that
:all love must be earned. If that hit where
:anybody else is sitting tonight, maybe it isn't. But it
:says the key characteristics are self-reliance
:masked by a need to always pretend you are happy and everything
:is fine, emotional distancing, viewing
:vulnerability as a weakness, conditional love,
:believing everything must be earned, distrust of authority, and isolation.
:I just think that's so interesting, the mentality
:that we can grab hold of, or the mentality we
:can fall into when we stop acknowledging
:the fatherhood of God, the sovereignty of God as our Father, our
:protector, our keeper, the one who is— that just is is
:doing all of this for us. And when we— you can know
:that you're entering into this mentality when you start feeling like, oh
:goodness, a whole lot of things.
:Let me give you this. A troubled heart is a
:symptom of an orphan mentality. A troubled heart.
:John 14, "Let not your heart be troubled." Let
:not your heart be troubled. Because when you begin to take on
:this place where you have to defend yourself, you have to do everything,
:you have to provide everything, you can't trust authority, you can't
:let anybody else, you can't depend on anybody else. It's
:exhausting. It's exhausting. And you think you have to
:fix it all when you have a Father. You have a
:Father who wants to step into that role, who wants to be
:that, who is that, if you will acknowledge that He is. He
:wants to be that in your life because you were not
:designed to carry that. You were not designed to
:be that. And so, you'll start finding
:when you begin to talk to the Lord and go, "Lord, is this me? Am
:I finding myself in a place where I am negating
:your strength and your authority and your fathering ability
:in my life? Is my heart starting to get troubled?"
:Am I starting to, am I starting to
:move in those places? We can know we
:have moved or are moving into
:this mentality when we begin to feel unloved,
:uncovered, unaccepted,
:and unworthy. All of the uns.
:Some of the characteristics of this mindset are self-reliance, fear, insecurity,
:emotional distancing, distrust, and purposeful isolation.
:Guys, I don't know why the Lord's having me share this tonight, but I trust
:that it's him. I
:believe with all of my heart that he is
:calling his sons and daughters to
:lean in under Him
:now and in this season as He
:attempts to draw us to a place where we walk
:in a familiarity, in an intimacy with Him.
:That this whole thing that Jesus did with Him when
:He walked in the earth with His Father and He did
:nothing that wasn't the will of His Father, and He
:went to quiet places and He sought the will of His Father,
:and He He communed with His Father. He was
:obedient to His Father. And
:that's what I believe the Lord is calling us to.
:Actually, I believe it's an invitation.
:It's an invitation to go,
:"Kaylyn, I want to Father you.
:I want to cover you.
:I want to provide for for you." you. I want
:to be this in your life.
:Is He God? Yes. Is He sovereign? Yes.
:Is He omnipotent, and omniscient, and omnipresent? Is
:He all of those things? Yes, He is. But the
:invitation that I feel in my spirit,
:starting just, just confirmation
:all day long with Sunday's message, if you weren't here, is the
:invitation of Abba, Father.
:Abba, Father.
:He will not leave us orphans.
:Okay, when I was 11 years old, I want to just tell you about
:the shift I think happens, and I believe this shift happens in
:the life of the believer when this begins to take
:place. As a kid, when Dad left, I loved him
:like crazy. But what happened is something in my 11-year-old
:mind went, oh, I've got to step it up. I got
:to take care of my mom now. I've got to learn to do this.
:And the sense of responsibility, not just for me, but for my
:sisters too. You have this sense of responsibility that you've got
:to step up and fill a role that you weren't designed to fill, but you
:feel that you should do that. So you do it. And what happens is, 8-year-olds
:and 9-year-olds and 10-year-olds start to feel the heaviness, the weightiness
:of trying to do what you cannot do.
:And what I found for me is
:I tried to be invisible. And I thought the less present
:I am, I'll go and I'll work and I'll do this and I'll learn to
:mow and I'll do these things. And then I will just like stay
:out of the house because I take up too much space in there.
:And this mentality, this thing, all these lies, these things,
:start to come up on a child
:who feels like they've got to step into the role that only a father
:can fill. And we
:do this as sons and daughters
:when we stop acknowledging, oh man,
:I just, I wish for every single person,
:my prayer would be, that 100 times a day
:you speak to your Father. Father. Father,
:Abba. That that would be incorporated into your
:speech, into your psyche, into your spirit, into
:your soul, into your emotions, everything. This
:awareness of our Father.
:Because I believe that that's what He wants
:Do not let your hearts be troubled. Do not let your
:hearts take on the weightiness and the
:heaviness of an orphan.
:It translates, do not give your hearts to the meditation
:of troubles. Do
:not ponder your trials.
:I'd written, "Do not play with your tribulations in the night
:watches. Stop laying awake
:at night troubled about what you're going to do
:tomorrow. Don't let your heart be
:troubled." How do you do that? How do you keep that from
:happening? How— if you are one of the people,
:like all of us, if you are one of the people that are going, you
:know, a lot of this sounds familiar. I have been trying to
:carry my own life. I have been trying to fix
:everything in my own life. I have been weighted and burdened,
:and I'm staying up at night worrying about these things that, that
:I can't fix, but I can't close my eyes and let them
:go. If you have
:shifted into that place, it takes another
:move to shift back. You can't just go,
:"Okay, well, now I'm going to call Him Father." There's a process
:to retraining our minds and our spirits
:back to that thought process, into that mindset
:of allowing Him, welcoming Him
:into those places. See, what happens is this:
:our hearts become troubled when we stop trusting in our Father's desire
:and ability to care for us.
:It's easy to believe that
:He has the ability, right? He's God,
:and it's based on Him. So it's so easy to go,
:we can trust in His ability to take care
:of us. But somehow the, the
:desire— when you shift into that
:other mindset, there's something in us that goes,
:"Surely He can't want to do this considering how I have been."
:And see, here's the dangerous thing: our understanding of the love of the Father is
:greatly diminished when we base it on our performance rather than His
:character.
:When we begin to base God's love for
:us on our performance,
:His love is diminished Because He didn't love us
:because we were good. He didn't choose us because we
:were perfect. He didn't predestine us because He knew how
:amazing we would be.
:He chose us before. Now, I
:want to show you this progression that I believe He
:has taken me through and may have been my— if you've got your Word, go
:to 1 John.
:1 John. Okay, I'm
:going to read. We'll start
:with verse 3, and then I'm going to skip down. Okay, verse
:3 says this. Go
:back over here. 1 John 3,
:it says, how great is the love the
:Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children
:of God. And that is what we are. The reason the
:world does not know us is that it did not know Him. Dear friends,
:now we are children of God, and
:what we will what will be— we be has not yet been made known. But
:we will know that when He appears, we shall be like Him,
:for we shall see Him as he is. Now listen
to this:everyone who has this hope in
to this:him purifies himself just as he is
to this:pure. And then let's jump down here to verse 19. Read
to this:the whole thing when you get home, read the whole thing. Jump down to verse
to this:19. It says, this then is how we know
to this:that we belong to the truth and how we set our hearts
to this:at rest in his presence. Us, whenever our hearts
to this:condemn us, for God is greater than our hearts, and He knows everything.
to this:Listen to this, it says, Dear
to this:friends, if our hearts do not condemn us, we
to this:have confidence before God and receive from Him anything
to this:we ask because we obey His commands and do what pleases
to this:Him. And this is His command, to
to this:believe. In the name of the Son, Jesus Christ,
to this:and to love one another as he commanded us. Those who obey
to this:his commands live in him, and he in them.
to this:And this is how we know he lives on in us: we know
to this:it by the Spirit he gave us.
to this:Okay, let's start here. The great love of
to this:the Father gives us the honor of being called his children.
to this:Our goodness or worthiness does not determine
to this:our sonship. It just doesn't.
to this:It doesn't
to this:determine our sonship. And so as I'm reading this
to this:passage of scripture, because if you go back to John
to this:14 when it says, "If you believe in God, believe also in
to this:me," the word used there is "pythos," and the word used there
to this:is trust, believe, to, to to
to this:truly trust that he is
to this:the Son of God, to believe in God, to believe in Jesus. And so
to this:we're seeing that same thing here. And what we,
to this:we see is this. Look here. Okay. If you
to this:look at this passage of scripture, if you go all the way up here to
to this:where we began, it says, "How great is the love
to this:the Father has lavished on us that we should be called the
to this:children of God." Understanding that it is the
to this:love of God that calls you a child of
to this:God. And so to begin to dwell on and
to this:ponder the love, the great love of the Father
to this:that would allow us the honor to be called sons and
to this:daughters. And then it goes down to here and it says this.
to this:I just want to stay with it. It says that we would be called
to this:the sons and the daughters of God. And then it goes on
to this:down here and it says, "He who has this hope,"
to this:purifies himself. And then it goes on to say that we
to this:begin to consecrate ourselves. And when
to this:that, that, that, that love leads to sonship, and sonship to hope,
to this:and hope to purification, and purification to
to this:consecration, and it takes us to a place of
to this:confidence in him. And then we have confidence in him,
to this:and that is how we set our hearts at rest. In His presence.
to this:There is a progression here, guys. This is the progression
to this:that I see in the Word. Love leads to sonship. His
to this:love leads to sonship. It has established our
to this:sonship. And once you have allowed that
to this:to be established in your life, His
to this:sonship that He has provided for us leads us
to this:to hope. To what hope? To the same hope that we
to this:read about in John 14. The hope of now The hope of
to this:an eternity, the hope of a home that He has
to this:prepared for us, that He has gone away, but He will come again.
to this:Let me get this off of here, this is making me crazy.
to this:That He has prepared this place for us,
to this:this sonship, that hope
to this:of this future, that hope that is in front of us, that same hope
to this:that John 14 talks about causes us, it
to this:says, When you have this hope, we begin to purify
to this:ourselves. We begin to allow the work of God in our life,
to this:and we stop doing all of the stuff that causes us to not feel like
to this:sons and heirs and daughters of God. And so that
to this:when we lay down at night— did you know that when you lay down at
to this:night, Scripture says part of your inheritance as His child is
to this:that when you lie down at night, your sleep will be sweet?
to this:That's what his word says. So if you're wrestling, and you're
to this:turning over, and you're living in these places, begin to
to this:declare, no, my Father said that
to this:one of the things he left me in his will was sweet sleep.
to this:That's part of your inheritance. And guys, in case you don't know it,
to this:this is the last will and testament.
to this:This is the last will and testament. I mean, from my mama,
to this:I got the most amazing Bible and all of the quilts. My sister got
to this:a chandelier that was we all laughed at. And, you
to this:know, every single one of us, there was something our mother left us.
to this:But regardless of what it was, it was precious to us.
to this:We treasured it. And it was important that we
to this:do everything that her will asked us
to this:to do. She lived her life to leave things
to this:that were important to her. The most important thing that was in her
to this:will, she said, beyond any of this, she said, all
to this:I want "Is for you all to get along. I want you to get along,
to this:and I want you to love each other. In everything, love each other."
to this:That's what He says! That's what He says!
to this:Love each other! Get along! Understand that you're family! Understand that I'm the
to this:Father! Understand that His love led to
to this:your sonship, and His Son, that
to this:making you a son, imparts to you hope.
to this:It doesn't stop here. This is just the beginning. And that
to this:hope trips that place in your
to this:heart that, that makes you feel like an orphan,
to this:that makes you feel like you don't have a Father who cares.
to this:Love, sonship, hope,
to this:purification, confidence,
to this:Confidence to rest. That to me,
to this:that to me, when I'm faltering, and when
to this:I'm getting weighted, and I'm getting burdened, and I'm getting
to this:heavy, and I'm beginning to depend on my own
to this:resources, I have to go back and go, "Okay, God,
to this:Father, I know you love me, and I know that I am
to this:a of daughter of Yours. And God, I know that this is
to this:not the end. I know that You have the resources. You are the
to this:source of everything. You own the cattle on a thousand hills,
to this:and, and, and You have always taken care of me. And so,
to this:Father, I'm going to choose to put my trust and my hope in You, because
to this:that's what You've asked me to do. And Lord, when I release this to You,
to this:God, I'm going to check my own heart and see if I'm able to
to this:put it at rest in Your presence, Because if I'm not,
to this:I need to go back and look at this again. If my heart is condemning
to this:me at night, if I'm struggling and I'm tossing and turning, I need to go
to this:back to the love of God, the love
to this:of the Father that called me His daughter.
to this:Okay, this I thought was so cool.
to this:Well, the next one. One of our baseline checkpoints regarding a
to this:fatherless mentality, an orphan mentality, is whether or not
to this:we are able to set our hearts at rest in His
to this:presence. Can
to this:you do that? Can you do that?
to this:Set your heart at rest in His presence.
to this:Now listen, the word for rest here is called paithos,
to this:and it says it's a descriptive word, and it literally
to this:takes on all of the attributes of tranquilization.
to this:Okay, now I found that funny. We are,
to this:according to the definition, we are infused
to this:with tranquility. We are infused. This is not
to this:a New Age word. It belonged to God a long time before
to this:it was stolen. This tranquility, it says
to this:infused with peace, infused with trust,
to this:infused with rest. Free from
to this:agitation of mind or spirit, free from
to this:disturbance and turmoil, steady and stable
to this:and calm. Think about
to this:that, guys. That's the invitation. And most of us do
to this:not live there. Most of us don't even visit frequently. And—
to this:but we just don't. And we are living in a world that longs for
to this:this, whether through medications or drugs or whatever the
to this:case may be. Everybody's looking for peace.
to this:And God is going, this is where it is. It's in my
to this:presence. It's in my presence. Now listen,
to this:fear and anxiety paralyze, but the love of the
to this:Father tranquilizes,
to this:tranquilizes, tranquilizes,
to this:infuses you with peace.
to this:This is what God is offering us. Tonight.
to this:This is what He's calling us to as His sons and
to this:daughters, to be peaceful in the middle of
to this:chaos. The world
to this:is chaos. It just is. That's because
to this:the one they serve is chaotic. Our God is
to this:peaceful. Our God infuses peace.
to this:And you can look around and go, "Oh, the world is this, and this is
to this:happening, and this is happening, and this is happening." Or You
to this:can go back and go, "Because of the great
to this:love of God, I am a son
to this:or a daughter of the Most High God, and I have
to this:hope, and I have peace, and I
to this:have tranquility. When I go to bed at night,
to this:I sleep good because that's what my Father
to this:has provided for me."
to this:We move beyond an orphan mindset, a fearless— a fatherless mentality
to this:when we trust that we have a Father who loves us,
to this:wants the best for us, and has eternal
to this:plans for our good.
to this:Sons and daughters who know they are loved and covered and
to this:cared for and fathered live a different existence
to this:in the same world with everyone else. They can look at the exact
to this:same situation and see it differently because when we know
to this:that we are covered and that God loves us and that He is
to this:delighted in us, we find our place of
to this:peace and rest in Him. And it's not
to this:dependent upon anything going on around us.
to this:Not dependent on our hearts run toward
to this:him, and our hearts run toward home.
to this:Now, here's one small little caveat I want to give you
to this:guys.
to this:Having faith in God and trusting God
to this:are two different things. Faith is
to this:imparted
:3 says, "As God has allotted to each
:a measure of faith." We all
:have faith. We all have a measure of
:faith, but trust is built
:over time. Learning to trust the Lord
:requires a history with the Lord, you
:know, because we have had our trust broken
:so often that learning to trust and learning that we
:have a God who is actually going to do what He said He's going to
:do, a Father who's going to do what He said He's going to do,
:over time, the more you trust Him,
:the more you lean on Him, the greater the history,
:the deeper the trust when you learn that you can
:trust Him. Trust is built over time and requires a history
:of consistency,
:honesty, and communication.
:If you have never known consistency in
:your life, you need this God.
:You need this Father because He is
:consistent. He is faithful.
:He finishes every single thing He
:starts. He does what He says He's going to
:do. And the more time you spend with Him, and the more time you
:come under the shadow of His wing and walk with Him,
:you will find Him to be completely
:faithful, completely consistent,
:honest, He's not going to pull punches with
:His Word. He's not going to go, "Oh, well, that doesn't really apply to
:you," when He gives you a promise
:or nudges you toward an obedience that you might not want to do.
:Understand that God will be honest with you, and you
:need to be honest with Him because, trust me, we are
:not fooling Him. He knows exactly
:who we are, what we are, and how we are,
:and loves us anyway, chooses to He wants to love us.
:And communication. Guys, if you want to
:learn to trust the Lord, talk to Him.
:Walk with Him. Share with Him.
:Build a relationship built on consistency,
:honesty, and communication, and watch your trust
:levels of your Father begin to build.
:And as that builds, watch your stress
:begin to decrease. Watch, the more you trust Him,
:the less you have to take care of yourself, the less you have
:to rely on yourself, and eventually what you find
:is that you have a good,
:good Father who is
:caring for you in every corner, in every
:aspect of your life.
:And then when you read this,
:"Do not let your hearts be troubled.
:Trust in me. In my Father's house are
:many rooms. If it were not so, I wouldn't have told you.
:I will not leave you as orphans.
:I will come to you. He who loves me will be loved by my Father,
:and I too will will love Him and show
:myself to Him.
:May the God and Father of our Lord and Savior
:Jesus Christ, our Father,
:continue to breathe hope, life,
:love, truth, consistency,
:communication, into our lives.
:In Jesus' name, amen, amen.
