What do you do when anxiety shows up… right when something matters?

A networking event.

A room full of strangers.

A voice in your head saying:

“Your Spanish isn’t good enough.”

In this Quick Spoon, I share a very real moment from a networking event for psychologists in Seville—where social anxiety showed up… and so did the urge to run.

But instead of waiting to feel confident…

I tried something smaller.

Something more workable.

Speak to three people.

That was the goal.

Not confidence.

Not perfection.

Just one small, values-based action.

A practical reflection on anxiety, workable goals, and taking action—even when your mind is telling you otherwise.

People Soup: Real conversations about work, leadership, and being human — grounded in behavioural science, with practical ideas you can actually use.

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QS7. Speak to Three People

[00:00:11] and felt a great

[00:00:15] But I'd actually used your strategies and decided look, if I [00:00:20] speak to three people, that will be pretty big achievement for me.

[00:00:27] looking slightly wallflower [00:00:30] like and just staring at their phones.

[00:00:32] I approached one

[00:00:34] conversation and,

[00:00:40] They were very kind and we had a

[00:00:47] Hi there, and welcome to People Soup Quick [00:00:50] Spoon real conversations about work, leadership, and being human, grounded in behavioral science with practical ideas you can actually use. Ross [00:01:00] McIntosh and here's your quick spoon.

[00:01:25] That's your QUICK SPOON Until next time, take care.