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How to Beat Inbox Overwhelm
Episode 26722nd April 2025 • You Are Not A Frog • Dr Rachel Morris
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In all our training on time management and overwhelm, one of the biggest

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things that people say causes them to feel stressed under pressure and

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overwhelmed is their inbox, the sheer volume of stuff that's in there.

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So I wanna do a quick dip today talking about just why we get so overwhelmed

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by our inbox and how we get out of it.

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I'd like you to imagine for a second that you are an emergency physician,

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you're an ED consultant, and you are in charge of the emergency department.

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Now, like any emergency department, anybody can turn up.

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Anybody can come in and seek help.

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But in your particular emergency department, what's happening is

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the patients are queuing up and they are landing in the waiting

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room in a particular order, and the order is when they arrived,

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and nothing's been shifted.

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So they're just there in the order that they arrived.

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You've only got one entrance and there's patients that have just come

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'cause they've stubbed their toe.

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They have patients that have got bleeding hands that need

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dealing with pretty quick.

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But there's also patients that are really significantly unwell,

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but they're standing in, in a line in the emergency department just

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waiting for somebody to see them.

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And they just keep coming and coming.

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As well as the patients who are genuinely ill in this queue,

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there are some patients that just come to tell you a few things.

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There are some people that just wanna make you aware of something.

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There are some patients that are being dealt with by other doctors, but

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they just thought you ought to know.

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There are also people that are trying to sell you some things.

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There are people that want to update you about what they're doing.

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There are some patients that just want to ask your advice.

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There are some patients that actually carry a very dangerous virus, and if

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you let them in and you talk to them for any length of time are gonna cause

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your whole hospital to shut down.

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There are some people in that queue that don't really know why they're

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there, but they thought it would just be a good idea to turn up.

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And there are some people in that, in that queue that really want

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you to do something, but actually it's nothing to do with you.

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You're the wrong person to help 'em anyway, they should be

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going to the physio department.

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There are some that want an urgent response by close of play.

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They need something now, but actually it's not really very important to you.

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But there are some things that actually you really want to see

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and you want to see them straight away that need to be flagged up.

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And what's more, you are aware of this emergency room, not just when you are

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there working through it, but when you are out at a restaurant, when you

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are walking in the park with your dog, when you're on the beach trying to

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relax and have a holiday, you're still aware that these patients are just

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coming in and the queue is building up.

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And you're starting to worry that you might miss something important, but

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there's just so many patients there.

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Now, you know there are some important things that need dealing

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with, but you have no idea where they are or where they've gone.

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And you think that just by holding them in the room, you'll be able to get to

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them at some point, but you just keep having to recheck and find out which

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patients which, because you haven't really got a system of working out which

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patient needs seeing now, which can be left and actually, which needs just to

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be sent away to go see somebody else.

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And what's more, when you're actually trying to do some different work,

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when you're in a clinic, these patients in the emergency room just

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keep tap tapping on the shoulder.

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Whenever they arrive, they're just tapping on the shoulder

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again saying, oh, by the way, I'm here just to let you know.

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And you feel really responsible for all of them.

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And when you're getting too busy, you are starting to feel guilty that

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you haven't got to see them, or even though you have dealt with some of the

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ones that are really, really urgent.

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And because the patients have turned up in your emergency department, you really

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feel a bit obliged to, to deal with them rather than sending them over to

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the other emergency department that you know would be more suitable for them.

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And eventually you think, I am so overwhelmed, I cannot

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cope with this anymore.

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I hope you're feeling really, really stressed.

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So this undifferentiated emergency department is like your inbox,

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When you allow things to build up and you've not got any systems for

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working out what's important, what needs doing now, what needs waiting

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for, you just feel overwhelmed.

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You end up putting stuff off.

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You can't see the wood from the trees, and you know that there's

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stuff you need to deal with, but you have no idea where it is.

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And so consequently you don't delete anything.

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You are scared of managing it because it just feels so overwhelming.

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What if I told you though, it's not the emails that are the problem?

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So we often say this, we say, well, it's my emails that the problem, if only

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everybody would stop sending me emails.

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And then what happens is we spend all our time focusing on these

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emails and managing the emails.

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Like the emails are the work.

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We end up being a slave to our email, and really, really stressed

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because we have no control over the emails that land in our inbox, and

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when we're out of control, that's a very stressful place to be.

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And there could be unlimited demand.

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There can be unlimited emails that come into your box.

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You have no control over that.

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But what if we think about this differently?

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It is the undifferentiated tasks all landing at once in a completely random

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manner that's dependent on the person that sent them rather than dependent

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on the person that's received them.

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That is the problem.

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That's what causes overwhelm, and if we don't have a system to manage that,

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if we don't have a triage system, if we don't have different holding areas,

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and if we don't know exactly how we are gonna deal with those, then we're

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in problems, because our to-do list, our emails will never be finished.

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Now, the good thing that realizing that it's the undifferentiated tasks landing

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in an asynchronous manner that's the problem is that we can do something

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about that, we can control that rather than being cross and stressed and

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upset about the number of emails that are coming in in the first place.

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So in this quick dip, I'm going to talk to you about some quick

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strategies to manage your inbox.

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I'm gonna talk you through the things that I do to manage mine, just in

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case it's helpful, and I'm gonna talk about the mindset shift needed

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and the mistakes that we all make.

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So what strategies really, really work?

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Well, I've gleaned these from lots of different things, but I do just want

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to name check Graham Allcott here.

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He's got some absolutely brilliant advice in his

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book, the Productivity Ninja.

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He's been on the podcast before.

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He's speaking at FrogFest Virtual on May the seventh so do check that out.

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And I am just gonna also say another disclaimer, and I am not talking

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here about clinical emails, I'm not talking about patient management.'

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Cause in the UK I know that a lot of our patient management stuff isn't

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sent by email, it's sent in other systems, and that's as it should be.

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But you may have some clinical emails that you need to answer.

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I'm not giving advice about that, however, you can use specific

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folders for those clinical tasks that you know you need to have.

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And I would say the number one thing would be separating that from the melee

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of everything else that's in your inbox so that you know that you are definitely

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always on top of that clinical stuff, that clinical patient care stuff.

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I'm gonna mainly be talking about everything else though, because I

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don't give clinical advice here.

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And that's part of the problem, isn't it?

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That actually, if you are also having clinical queries dropping

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into your inbox, how do you tell, what's the clinical stuff that you

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really need to get to and answer?

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What's the stuff you don't need to answer?

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What's the other things?

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So the first thing you need to do is have some sort of system

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for triaging your emails.

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And when I say triage your emails, I'm not just talking about looking through

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them.' Cause anybody can do that.

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And the problem is a lot of it's just look through our emails at times

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where we can't do anything about it.

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So we check them, we read them, but they're sitting at the

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back of our mind 'cause we've not done anything with them.

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Can I suggest number one strategy is only check your emails when

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you can do something about them.

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So checking them while you're on a conference call, not a good idea.

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Checking them in the 20 seconds you have between patients, not a good idea.

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Wait till you've got a slot of time and I would say at least 10 minutes

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where you can actually either number one, deal with anything that's gonna

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take less than two minutes to deal with, so a quick reply with a bit

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of information that somebody needs.

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If it's gonna take you less than two minutes to reply or action

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it, then just do it on the spot.

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That means that do not check your emails if you have less than two minutes free.

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Secondly, you need to have somewhere to put the emails that need actioning.

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And one of the many mistakes I see people making is they just have too many

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different email folders and then their job seems to be filing their emails.

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And then the problem is when they come to try and find stuff, they never

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know quite where they filed them.

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I have got over this by having very few email folders, but actually the

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ones I have, I use all the time.

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This is what works for me.

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There are six main folders that I use all the time.

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The first two folders are my action folders.

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I actually have two action folders because I was finding that just having

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one action folder meant everything went in there and I wasn't really

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sure where the urgent actions were.

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So I've got two folders.

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My very first folder now is urgent action.

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That is stuff that I know I must reply to an action.

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I really need to do that in the next 24, 48 hours.

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That's where I put things where I really don't want to miss them and

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I know I need to reply to them.

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So many of us leave the stuff that needs actioning in our inbox, but then

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that just builds up and up and up.

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And then we have got no visibility about what's urgent and what's not.

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So anything that needs an urgent action, I stick in my urgent action

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inbox and I use the number one, so it goes to the top of my folder list.

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Number two is action.

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So I put stuff that needs action in there.

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The stuff that I intend to take action on.

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Now, a bit of a confession.

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Sometimes I don't get to those actions.

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I know I'm never gonna get to the bottom of my to-do list, but I know

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that the emails that need actioning are there if I choose to do them.

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Quite often, by the time I get to them, it's already been sorted.

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Now, sometimes in my inbox, there's some stuff that I'm really interested in.

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I'd like to read.

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I'd like to save for a rainy day and read it, but I don't have time there.

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And then.

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Rather than leaving in my inbox, I put it in number three, bacon, good spam.

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I got that from Graham Allcott, so thank you, Graham.

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That's been a lifesaver.

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So interesting articles, things I'd like to read, I just put in there.

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You don't need to call it spam.

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You could just call it read, read someday.

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But I quite like the bacon thing, so I put it in there.

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Anything I think I might like to read at some point.

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Now there's a differentiation here.

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If you have some urgent alerts or things that you know you need

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to read, just put that in action.

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Don't put it in a read some day 'cause you will never read it

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some day, put it into action if you know you need to read that.

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Number four folder is confirmations and safe place.

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So this is where I put things like tickets, logins for things, things I

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know I am going to need to find at a later date, but they don't need action,

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so I just put them in confirmations.

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safe place.

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That's my fourth folder.

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Number five, finance.

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So anything to do with Finance, bills, invoicing, I just put in that folder.

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You might not need that, but this is where you might have another

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folder for something that is coming in a lot for you that you know

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you need to keep fairly separate.

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So that could be the clinical stuff that you need to have hold of and

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you need to have visibility for.

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And finally, I have my archive folder.

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So any emails that I want to keep but I don't need to reply.

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I don't need to read again, but I might need them at another time.

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I just stick them in archive.

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When I first sorted my inbox, I put everything from 2023 backwards in one

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archive folder, and my current archive folder, I've got 20, 24 onwards.

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So any emails that are dealt with, I just put there.

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Now I know some of you don't have that luxury of being

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able to keep endless emails.

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Some of you have limits on your inbox, so.

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If you just keep your archive folder maybe by date and then you can get rid

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of the ones that are really old that you're probably not gonna need, or maybe

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have an archive folder of important ones to keep, and then everything else,

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put in another archive folder of ones that can be deleted, but you'll keep

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them until you're inbox gets full.

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So that is six folders.

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Your urgent action folder, your action folder, your bacon good spam folder of

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stuff you you wanna read at some point your confirmation safe place folder,

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your finance and your archive folder.

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The reason why this works is that you can search.

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You do not need to file every single email that you have under a

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particular project because the most email servers, you can just search

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for something you just put in and it will come up or search by the

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person or the project or whatever.

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Actually takes much, much longer to think about where you need to file it.

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So this really works for me and I've got Graham Allcott to for that.

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So that is how I triage my stuff.

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If it's less than two minutes, I will reply straight away.

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If it needs urgent action in the next 24, 48 hours, I will put

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it in my urgent action folder.

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And if it needs action, I'll put it in my action folder.

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Now there are things you can do to even stop all these emails

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landing in you in the first place.

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You can put rules on your inbox, so if it's sent from a certain person,

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you can put it into a certain folder.

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You can label stuff as junk.

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If there's stuff that you might need to refer to that's maybe coming from the

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local trust and you just need to keep in a folder, you can set up rules where

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it goes straight there, and then you can go into it whenever you need to.

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Make it work for you.

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The next strategy that I find incredibly helpful is to have automatic responses.

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There are three types of ways you can do this.

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So firstly, you could have an auto reply that just says when you're

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gonna check the emails and when people can expect a response from you.

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And if it's really urgent, here's another email that

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they should email instead.

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The other thing is I have hundreds of email signatures.

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I use Outlook, you can save a signature.

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So these are replies that I often give to people.

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One of them is, why don't you book a podcast?

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Here's my booking link, here's everything you need

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to do, here's how to get on.

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Here's the equipment that you need.

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So I'll send that to people so I'm not repeating myself all the time.

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So if there's something you say time and time again, then

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use your email signatures.

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If you don't have that facility, just get a Word document and put the

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usual responses that you use into a Word document or an Excel spreadsheet

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and cut and paste your replies.

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Honestly, it will save you so much time.

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So we've talked about triaging your inbox and setting up those folders.

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We've talked about using standard responses, signatures,

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cut and paste stuff.

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And then there's some stuff that you can do when you reply to people.

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I heard somewhere that every email that you send generates 1.3 emails back.

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So email can be exponential.

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And I've got this secret pet hate when people ask me to do something

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and I go, yeah, sure, I've done it.

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And then they'll go, thank you, and I'll think I've gotta go

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back going well, thank you, great, brilliant, see you soon.

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You know, and you've got this endless email trail.

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You can prevent this by just sending really short, brief emails.

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Put what you want in the subject line.

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Be very clear about what this email is for.

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Do you want somebody to do something?

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Do you want 'em to read something?

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Is it for your information only?

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So in the email, just put action this, FYI, this.

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If you are applying to someone and you want to CC them, but you don't

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wanna be CC'd on everything else, you could say, no need to CC me, or

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you can say to someone I'm moving you to BCC so that you're not included

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in the trail from now on 'cause I don't want to clog up your inbox.

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You can also use the phrase NNTR at the end of the message.

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No need to reply, which is really helpful because then you get away

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from this sort of circular thank you, no worries, I hope it's not

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too much trouble type conversation.

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You can also send an email with a request in the title with

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EOM, end of message, that's it.

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Could you do such and such?

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End of message.

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But beware that one, because one of the big mistakes we make is

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using our email as our task list.

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So of course we never want to delete any emails because it's

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there to remind us to do something.

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I can't stress this fully enough, you need to have a task list somewhere else.

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Whether it's just a paper list, that's totally fine.

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A paper diary, whether it's a project management tool like

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Asana or Trello or Slack.

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Many of you have clinical patient management tools.

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You've got places for tasks in there as well.

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Plus you've got, tasks that actually attach to the patient's records.

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So all the messages you get about that are actually attached

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to the project that you need.

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One of the biggest takeaways I found about how to get over email overwhelm

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is to keep most of our tasks off email.

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If you are working on a project with a team, with a group of people,

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then get everything off the email.

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Use a system where you communicate in another way.

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And that can just be as simple as a Google Doc and you put comments

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and queries and things on that doc.

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So when you're doing that task, you can look at it.

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And it's under your control when you check it, not about

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when the emails are coming in.

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So my team, whenever tasks come at me via email, I always say, can we

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just put this on Asana, which is our, our project management system.

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And then it's much easier to deal with.

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And you've got all the messages and all the subtasks and everything

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with that one project, rather than having to just look, look around

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in your inbox, say, well I saw an email about that somewhere.

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Or where was that document that I needed?

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So, you know, do investigate project management tools.

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Uh, we don't use them much in healthcare, but

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honestly they are brilliant.

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And if anyone wants to find out more about some of them, I can

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show you around some of them.

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'cause they're really helpful.

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And finally, check your emails less.

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If you check them all the time, you'll just get this thing called

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task confetti, which just means that you've always got this stuff to do.

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It's always in your head, you're always thinking about

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it, but you're not necessarily actually getting the work done.

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Limit your email checking in, ideally less than once a day, but that might

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cause some of you to have palpitations.

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But you know, what about once a day?

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What about checking them after lunch?

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Dealing with anything urgent, and then setting aside time to actually

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go through the tasks that are there.

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Time block that time in for you.

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Then you're not constantly being disturbed by these

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different tasks coming in.

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You are in control over what you're checking.

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And make sure people understand that if they need you urgently, they need

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to contact you in a different way.

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Most of us when we get to work, the first thing we do is check our emails.

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For me, the most important productivity hack that I've

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ever learned is to do something else when I first start working.

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Obviously if you've got a clinic or a a list or a ward round, you just

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gotta get straight on with that.

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But if you can spend half an hour doing some deep work, thinking about a

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project that you've got to do, working on that rather than getting into the

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emails, rather than getting the outside world to disturb you all the time.

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And while we're at it, turn off all your email notifications.

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The amount of people I know that just have them pinging into the

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top of the screen the whole time.

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Interruptions are a total productivity killer.

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Most of the time you can't do anything about that email right

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there and then, 'cause you're in the middle of something else.

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So why have you got it pinging in?

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Only check your emails when you want to and do not have your

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notifications on the interrupt you.

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So what mistakes do we make in all of this?

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Well, there are quite a few, and we need a bit of a mindset shift around email.

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The first one is just having email as your task master.

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Email is a tool.

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Lots of people I know spend so much time managing their emails.

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Email is a tool where your tasks come in.

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It's a great tool for communication, but it's a very, very poor

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master, so you control it rather than the other way round.

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Secondly, good enough and done is better than perfect and pending.

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Often with emails, you just need to respond.

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Keep it brief, don't worry about it being perfect.

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It is not a handwritten letter, it is a reply.

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Having said that though, always be careful.

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So not just fire off emails without thinking.

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These are a written record, they can be retrieved.

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If something difficult comes at you and you just fire off a quick

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response, then 9 times outta 10 you'll regret what you said.

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And tone of voice is very, very difficult to get

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across well in an email.

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If it's something that feels tricky, send a email to yourself, leave it

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overnight, review it in the morning, and you'll be so pleased that you did.

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'cause you'll then probably change completely what you've written.

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And if it is a tricky subject or a tricky topic, then can I suggest

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you don't use email, you just get on the phone and have a conversation?

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Sentiment, feelings, tone of voice.

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Email's a really bad way to convey that.

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But talking to someone, you can say, look, this might sound

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harsh or whatever, but I just wanted to share this with you.

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I hope it's okay.

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So much more empathy in a conversation than in an email.

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So don't substitute emails for difficult conversations.

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Always have those face to face.

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And get used to sending short, and succinct emails

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that do not need to be perfect.

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I know one CEOI heard of refused to scroll, so if there was an

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email where he had to scroll, he would just not read it.

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So try and keep them short, brief, and to the point.

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The next mistake we make is getting obsessed with Inbox zero.

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Some people are so obsessed with it, they spend all their time

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just trying to get to inbox zero, and that's just a myth, isn't it?

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Because if you are measuring your success by the amount of emails

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in your inbox or how clear it is, then you are at other people's

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becking call the whole time.

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If someone just decides to send you 10 emails that will need

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actions, then you're gonna feel really stressed about that.

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So inbox zero is a bit of a myth.

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What you are aiming at is an inbox where, you know what everything is

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and where it is, there's no surprises.

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That's well organized and it doesn't need to be that there are no emails

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waiting for you in your inbox.

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The next mistake we make is thinking that we've got to

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reply as soon as they come in.

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So email is asynchronous.

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It's up to the sender when they arrive in your inbox.

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Emails are sent at the sender's convenience, not

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the receiver's convenience.

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So you do not need to reply straight away.

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You need to prioritize them depending on how urgent they

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are and how important they are.

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And another mistake we can make with that is that just because an

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email has a snotty aggressive tone doesn't mean that it's urgent.

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Or just because it's sent by somebody very, very important.

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That doesn't mean it's urgent either.

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So judge the by its content, not by its tone or by who sent it.

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And if you can batch the emails up and do a certain email task

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that's come to you at the same time, that will be so much better.

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The next mistake we make is that thinking that if our inbox feels

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chaotic, our whole lives are chaotic.

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And yes, I get, I get that it's difficult if our front lobby was

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really, really cluttered, or that ED department feels really, really messy

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and that so many people are in, it doesn't mean that the rest of your

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life is, or the rest of your work is.

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It just means you've got a job to source out that little bit there.

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It doesn't mean that everything is bad, so clear it, declutter it just

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like you would a room in your house.

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But don't beat yourself up about it and don't give it

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too much room in your head.

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And the final mindset shift that we need around email is accept that you

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are not going to answer everything.

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Unsubscribe from as much as possible.

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And just because somebody has emailed you, just 'cause they turn up in

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your, in your ED or knock on your front door, doesn't mean that you

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are under any obligation to respond.

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Now, we do feel bad.

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We don't like ghosting people, but you know, really just because someone

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has decided that they want some advice from me, does that mean I'm

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obliged to give them that advice?

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No, I am not.

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Just because a task ends up in your inbox, are you obliged to do it?

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No.

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You can just as easily delegate that to somebody else or ignore it completely.

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I'm not saying you need to be rude or a bad person, it's just that I have

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noticed it in myself, obviously I get a lot of emails from people and I

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absolutely love hearing from listeners to the podcast and, and talking to

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people, but I sometimes feel really obliged that someone's asked me for

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advice on something that I ought to give it just because they sent me an email.

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Now, that's fine if I'm receiving like one request a week, but if I was

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receiving a hundred requests a week, I'm not, but if I was, does that mean

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I'm obliged to answer every single one just because they've sent it to me?

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No, of course not.

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I can't possibly do that.

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But we feel obliged, we feel guilty, and we feel like we've been a bad

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person if somehow it's unanswered.

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Now you've got a couple of options here.

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Number one, you can just ignore it and delete, and you know the

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delete button is your friend.

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If you're worried about deleting something, just move it into archive.

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You can always find it later if you need to.

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If you think you might reply, put it into action and you'll probably

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end up deleting it anyway later on.

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But you could just have an email signature saying I'm sorry I'm unable

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to do this 'cause I'm at capacity if you want to, or sorry I'm not the right

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person to ask, or I'm not interested in this, thank you for your email.

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There's all these standard replies that you can use.

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And we have created some Get Your Time Back, Say No email templates, which

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contain loads of email signatures which we use to limit our tasks from our inbox

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to say no to people, to renegotiate or delegate, or redirect tasks to people.

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And you can get hold of that say No email templates by either joining our

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FrogXtra Gold membership or by booking a place on our Urgency Trap masterclass.

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So let's start to get over some of the overwhelm, the shame, the

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fear and the guilt around emails.

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All they are is the way that tasks and information is coming at you.

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You can't control how many are sent or what arrives in your inbox.

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What you can control is how you manage them, how you deal with them, and like

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any other task, how you prioritize your work, the things you'll say yes

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to, and the things you'll say no to.

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I hope that was helpful.

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If you have any hot tips then can I suggest you post them in our You

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Are Not Frog Facebook group or get in touch on Instagram or email me at

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hello@youarenotafrog.com and we will share the best ones in a future podcast.

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I hope there's been something in there that's been useful to you and

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I'll see you for the next quick dip.

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