So often, we tend to think of boundaries in a punitive way, a way to protect us after something has happened.  They often show up as consequences, even sometimes creating a continuous cycle of retaliation and defensiveness.  But what if there was a way of thinking about them as a protection that helps us understand how to be relational—A protective layer for your relationships to ensure needs are met while preventing resentment or hurt?  It’s not only possible, it’s so necessary.  

There’s a catch though:  As my latest guest, Sharon Martin. MSW, LCSW, will tell you, you need to know who you are and what you need, in order to put healthy boundaries into place.  And, since so many of us weren’t raised with healthy boundaries as children or maybe weren’t given age-appropriate space to discover who we are, this presents some messy boundary issues for us as adults.  Listen in as Sharon tells us why we all deserve healthy boundaries and how we can make small shifts that make a huge difference in our lives and relationships.

RESOURCES:

Learn more about Sharon Martin, MSW, LCSW and her work at Livewellwithsharonmartin.com

Pre-Order Sharon’s new book, The Better Boundaries Workbook, on Amazon, available 11/1/2021.

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