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Sometimes you have to just fight for yourself.
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The thing is, in life, there's a
lot of times that other people are
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trying to dictate what is best for
you, what you should be doing, how
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you should be living your life.
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It might be your family, it might
be your parents, it might be your
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boss or friends, just other people.
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A lot of people seem to have opinions
on what they think is best for you.
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And sometimes they're just completely
out of line, and sometimes they're
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doing it out of care and concern.
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But you always have to draw a
boundary, because at the end
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of the day, it's your life.
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So what is it that you want?
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Is it that you want to live for
other people, for their hopes
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and dreams and versions of you?
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Is it that you want to live for yourself?
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Because at the end of the day, they're
the ones who are going to be happy
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that you did what they wanted to do.
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But you're going to be resentful,
bitter, disappointed, frustrated,
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because you never got to pursue
your version of happiness.
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And so it's important to fight for
yourself and your version of happiness.
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What is it that you want out of life?
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What are the things that you want to do?
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How do you want to spend your time?
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Who do you want to spend it around?
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How do you want to feel
on a day to day basis?
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Right?
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These are things that
you have to ask yourself.
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And then once you figure it out,
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you create a plan to get there and a part
of creating that plan to get there is
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advocating for yourself and anticipating
any obstacles that are going to come
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along the way to deter you because you
have to be proactive and thinking about
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how can you overcome those barriers
so that you can still go forward and
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pursue what's going to make you happy
and bring you ultimate fulfillment.
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The other way that you might need to
fight for yourself is When you're in
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a situation that is not beneficial
to you, so you might be in a toxic
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relationship, maybe you are in a
negative work environment, maybe you
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are in a dysfunctional friendship,
whatever that situation is, You have
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to fight for yourself to get out of it.
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It's not like the other person is going
to say to you, Hey, you know what?
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I've noticed that there's been
some friction or I noticed
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everything's not good between us.
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Let's just fix this.
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Or I'm going to change my ways.
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I'm going to start respecting you.
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I'm going to start putting you first.
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Like we would love for that to happen
and I think a lot of times we wait just
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hoping that magically Situations would
fix themselves or that people would
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approach us and say the things we want
to hear give the apology Agree to move
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forward, but that's not how things are
So we have to take the reins in our hands
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and if you're in a situation that doesn't
align with your values doesn't align
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with that vision of happiness and How you
want to feel that you determined before?
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Then you need to fight for yourself
to get out of that situation.
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And sometimes it's easier said than done.
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Sometimes it's not just a clean walk away.
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Sometimes there's an untanglement
that needs to happen.
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And that could take a while and
that could be a process and it
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could be ugly and it could be messy.
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And so I think it's important
to prepare ourselves mentally.
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If you are going to exit a
negative situation, put some
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thought into it ahead of time.
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Think about what are the
worst case scenarios?
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What are the things that might
prevent me from getting out of this?
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What are the things that I can anticipate
are going to be messy and are going
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to be challenging and are going to be
roadblocked that you can put in place?
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What are the resources?
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What are the strategies?
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Who are the people around me
that can help me so that I
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can navigate these roadblocks?
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Because it doesn't mean it's impossible.
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It just means it requires
creativity, skill, and sometimes.
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Just sheer determination and willpower.
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But when you fight for yourself, you
really support your mental wellbeing
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because you're putting yourself first.
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So a lot of people they're doing,
you know, things to take care of
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their physical body, they're eating
right, they're sleeping, they're
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exercising, they're getting fresh air.
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But if your mindset is off, if your sense
of purpose and your sense of value, your
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sense of worth is off, you aren't whole.
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So try to treat yourself in a
holistic way, really prioritizing
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all aspects of your well being,
including your mental well being.
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And fight for yourself, because
you're worth it and nobody's going
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to fight for you as hard as you will.
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Until next time, continue to serve
yourself, your loved ones, and
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your communities from a full cup.
