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Why Fertility Treatment Is Broken (And What Needs to Change) | Tess Cosad on Building Béa Fertility
Episode 111th March 2026 • WHY DESIGN? • Chris Whyte | Kodu
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On this Episode of Why Design, Chris Whyte sits down with Tess Cosad CEO and co-founder of Béa Fertility to talk about what it actually takes to build clinical-grade fertility care that people can use at home.

We go deep on founding during lockdown, navigating a VC landscape where 2% of funding goes to female founders, designing a medical device that nobody thought was possible, and why Béa is already outperforming US revenue forecasts by nearly 100%.


This one’s raw, funny, and genuinely moving. Don’t miss it.


00:00 — Introduction


00:35 — The hospital bed phone call that changed everything


03:32 — Her baby boy is turning one this year


05:30 — From astrophysics to ad agencies: Tess’s founder origin story


10:18 — Founding Béa three days into COVID lockdown


12:07 — The fundraising reality: 283 investors, femtech bias


13:19 — Why Béa is actually a male-factor infertility solution


15:26 — Shame, male partners, and the angry support emails


18:18 — Brand voice, levity, and scrotal cooling puns


22:48 — Investor pushback: “Why are you the person to do this?”


27:26 — The wall of baby photos that doesn’t move the needle


28:07 — The pitch where she was asked about flight schedules


31:45 — The female illustrator who solved the IFU problem


34:17 — Pink it and shrink it: designing a world built for men


38:49 — The Béa product explained: care, device, and the missing pathway


44:08 — Staying lean: AI tools, contractors, and the US expansion


46:04 — Hard lessons: letting people go, the rejection firehose


49:30 — Coping strategies (the healthier ones)


51:38 — New York: outperforming forecast by nearly 100%


52:59 — NHS gatekeeping vs. US insurance: two broken systems


55:25 — What’s next: sperm bank partnership and US scale


57:05 — Quickfire round

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(Transcribed by TurboScribe. Go Unlimited to remove this message.) Imagine wanting a child and realizing the system

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wasn't built for you.

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Not the waiting, not the confusion, not the

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silence.

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They're frustrated, it's not working, they don't know

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what to do, they see their partner going

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to the ends of the earth and experiencing

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this emotional stress and trauma.

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What if fertility care didn't begin under fluorescent

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lights, but at home with clarity, guidance and

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control?

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This is Why Design, where we go behind

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the scenes of the products shaping our lives

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and the people brave enough to build them.

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I mean, to be honest, that first year

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was really principally just me trying to figure

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out, like, how do I grapple with what

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this idea is?

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What is the vision?

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What's the potential?

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Is it actually feasible?

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In this episode, I'm joined by Tess Cosad,

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CEO and co-founder of Bayer Fertility, a

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company building clinical-grade fertility treatment designed for

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the real world, outside the clinic and inside

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your life.

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But this story isn't about tech, it's about

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stakes.

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Because early on, one of their first users

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called from a hospital bed after an ectopic

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pregnancy.

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She had emergency surgery.

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She's down a fallopian tube that impacts your

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fertility.

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And yet, here she is saying, I'm going

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to try again.

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And I just thought, my goodness, we've really

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built something here.

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That moment changes what product means.

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It changes what design means.

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In this episode, we talk about designing in

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the hardest category there is, regulated medical hardware,

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patient trust, and the emotional reality no pitch

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deck can capture.

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I'm Chris White, and this is Why Design.

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And Tess, welcome to Why Design.

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Great to have you on the show.

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Great to be here, Chris.

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Yeah, wonderful.

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Well, we're going to dive in.

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So Tess, you're the CEO and co-founder

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of Bayer Fertility.

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You're building clinical-grade fertility treatment that people

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can use at home.

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You've raised venture funding, launched in the UK,

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and now you're doing it all again in

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the US.

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But before we get into your background, tell

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me about a moment where everything shifted.

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When did this move from, you know, interesting

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problem to, I'm willing to risk everything on

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this?

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Uh, hearing you use the mouthful of clinical

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-grade fertility care, even I had to remind

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myself what that is.

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So a moment that everything changed.

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It's interesting.

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It didn't actually all change for me until

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a little while into the journey of building

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Bayer.

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Obviously, one of the things that we do

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at Bayer is we make babies.

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We help people make their babies.

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And we started the company in 2020.

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We closed our first round of funding sort

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of early 2021 and started to build the

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product.

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Sort of brought in a team, raised more

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funding.

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It was sort of the venture go-go

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days.

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So we raised a lot of funding and

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scaled up quite a big team.

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And we're sort of building this medical device

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and this treatment experience.

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And on some level, I understood that it

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was real.

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And none of it quite hit home until

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one of our users, one of our very

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first users, called us from the hospital because

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she'd conceived with her first Bayer device and

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had an ectopic pregnancy and was in hospital

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having had emergency surgery to remove the fallopian

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tube.

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And at that point, we'd actually already had

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reports of positive pregnancies from other users.

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And don't get me wrong, those were incredibly

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impactful moments.

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But this, I think, was the moment for

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me that it became so very real because

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we had someone who had a horrible experience

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and cared enough about what we were doing

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to call us from the hospital the day

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after her surgery and say to us, I

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want to try again though.

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I am going to try again with Bayer.

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And I just thought, my God.

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I think two things hit home for me

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in that moment was the gravity of the

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thing that we were doing.

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I always used to say, oh, we're changing

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lives.

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We're changing people's lives.

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And it feels like such an airy fairy

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and a sort of like blithe thing to

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say.

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And of course, you're helping people conceive.

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Yeah, their lives are changing.

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But in this moment, it had never felt

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more true to me that this woman, this

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brilliant, brilliant woman, ectopics are high risk, right?

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She had emergency surgery.

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She's down a fallopian tube.

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That impacts your fertility.

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And yet, here she is saying, I'm going

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to try again.

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And I just thought, my goodness, we've really

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built something here.

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Wow.

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Yeah.

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What a way to start the podcast.

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Did she keep in touch?

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Did she?

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She did.

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And she conceived again safely.

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Her baby boy is.

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Amazing.

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Oh, he's going to be turning.

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He's probably turning one this year, I think.

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That's amazing.

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It's pretty cool, huh?

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That is really cool.

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You know, you're right.

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We do throw this kind of changing lives

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around.

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I've literally said it to people that worked

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for me before in my profession.

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You know, we are, you know, what we

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do is changing lives in some sort.

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And I suppose you could say that about,

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you know, most kind of things and services

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that are impactful.

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But yeah, you really are there.

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And that's, you know, if you need a

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reason to come to work every morning.

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It's a pretty good one.

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Many more.

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Yeah.

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It's a pretty good one.

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And it's interesting.

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Anytime I'm dealing with a really big fire,

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the universe gifts us a positive pregnancy report

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just to remind us that like you're doing

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the right thing.

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Huge.

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Yeah.

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And it's, you know, we often get caught

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in that moment of kind of like, just

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before we started recording, you know, you said

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you're putting out a tiny fire, you know,

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and we're dealing with those day in, day

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out.

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They're all distractions from, and when you step

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back, you think about the impact that you're

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having, you know, and then to everyone that's

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listening, you know, you're having impact, whatever you're

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doing, whatever that moment you're in, you know,

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think about kind of trying to think about

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the bigger picture.

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And what a big picture you're having there.

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So that was amazing.

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Thank you.

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Thank you for sharing that.

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Of course.

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Let's dive back to the beginning then, because

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your journey, really your career, it started off

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marketing, if I'm correct, you know, and research

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at an astrophysics laboratory, you know, so a

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bit of a, you know, stratospheric jump.

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So how did you find yourself, you know,

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tell us about that journey from kind of,

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from marketing and research into, you know, devices

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and fertility, you know, and kind of being

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a founder of a hardware company?

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Yeah, it's, I wanted to be an astrophysicist

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a very long time ago.

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And I'm one of those wonderful cases where

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my mathematical abilities were not quite up to

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my career ambitions.

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So I tried, I tried really hard and

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then I went to business school.

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It's where some of us failed STEM people

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end up, I suppose.

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So that was sort of a very humbling

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moment that arrived fairly early on for me.

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So I went to the business school and

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sort of always said to myself, my dream

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early on was I wanted to have an

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office and a cubicle.

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And I wanted one of those little lanyard

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badges that clips pull out, tap in, you

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know, the kind of all those things felt

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very cool to me.

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And I went, totally, absolutely, sort of look

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back on it and laugh.

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But that felt very cool at the time.

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And, and I tried to apply to all

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of the consulting firms and got rejected randomly

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from every single one of them.

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So another sort of humbling experience that taught

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me that perhaps my future was not in

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a cubicle, but I didn't quite know where

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my future was.

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And that was when I created my first

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startup actually.

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Sort of not in a typical arrangement, but

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I went to work for a bigger media

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company that were trying to create a venture

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studio.

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And they funded a project that I brought

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to them that we were working on.

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And at the time we built this incredible

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technology.

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I did not speak to a single user

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because I was too shy.

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So learned that lesson the hard way and

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launched this amazing technology only to realize that

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A, it was a little bit ahead of

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its time.

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And B, most of the people who we'd

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built it for were like, ha, that's really

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fun, but why do I need this?

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So of course, humbled yet again.

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And that is when I made the jump

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into marketing.

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So I was offered the opportunity to start

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in that agency as a part of a

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wider group.

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And I jumped on it.

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And I had the best time working with

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some phenomenally interesting companies, sort of really got

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deep into strategic branding, positioning, storytelling, sort of

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developed a bunch of skills that I think

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serve me now, although, you know, jury's out.

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But had a really great time building that.

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But I really was kind of itching to

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build something.

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I'd always wanted to build something.

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And there were two things that I was

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like phenomenally passionate about.

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One was creating something that did some good

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in the world and specifically solved an inequity

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that felt arbitrary and unfair to me.

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And two, I was very driven to create

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a company where people would just love to

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come to work.

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The idea of creating something where people loved

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coming to work felt so powerful and so

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fun to me.

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And right around, I'd sort of been running

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the ad agency for a few years, went

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freelance.

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And then I met an embryologist who was

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talking to me about this idea.

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I never actually saw myself in fertility.

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Honestly, it was not on my radar.

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Of course, you're in your 20s.

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Like, when is it ever?

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For some people, it is.

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For me, it wasn't.

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And so I sort of met an embryologist.

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We were talking about the space and the

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technology.

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And I think two things happened.

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One is I really started to see with

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my own eyes the inequities that exist in

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fertility in particular and how we've landed with

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a system that enables people with money to

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have babies, healthy babies, and people without money

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to just struggle alone and take chances.

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And that really, like, plucked at that.

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Well, hang on a second.

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That's not fair, that sort of desire.

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And then, yeah, creating a company where I

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was able to build a team and start

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creating that sort of culture.

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Yeah.

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And it was the early days were really,

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really fun.

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Really hard, but really fun.

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Yeah, because you started, well, according to LinkedIn,

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at least, started in 2020.

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You said you raised first fundraising in 21,

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I think you said earlier.

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So starting a business during a global pandemic,

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you know, how was that?

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Yeah.

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I incorporated the company literally three days after

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we went into lockdown, I think.

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So we're a real pandemic baby.

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It was interesting.

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I mean, to be honest, that first year

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was really principally just me trying to figure

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out, like, how do I grapple with what

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this idea is?

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What is the vision?

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What's the potential?

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Is it actually feasible?

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You know, what we're actually talking about here,

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the core technology that we built was a

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medical device that allows someone to perform a

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clinical insemination procedure on themselves at home.

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And so if I were to put that

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into sort of clearer language, we need to

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create something that allows someone to reliably find

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their cervix themselves.

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I know a lot of medical students that

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can't find cervix.

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And so there was like a real design

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challenge in the early days that was like,

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wow, is it actually feasible?

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And then, of course, the pivotal question is

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you need money to build regulated medical hardware.

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So can we raise money for it?

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The first sort of 12, 18 months of

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Bayes sort of 2020 into early 21 was

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a lot of grappling with like feasibility, building

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decks, trying to pitch, trying to figure it

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out and eating a lot of beans because,

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of course, you're not taking a check at

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that point because there's no money.

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The early days were a real grind, but,

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you know, we made it through.

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And yeah, how was that?

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How was that fundraising journey for you then?

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Because we met at the Fix, didn't we,

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last year in the Howard campus.

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And one of the themes there, especially from

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the investors and the women entrepreneurs was how

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the cards are definitely stacked against, you know,

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femtech and female engineers because the majority of

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the investment landscape is dominated by middle-aged

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white men who are, you know, they get

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queasy at best over kind of even the

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dimension of women's parts.

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Vaginas.

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Vagina, yeah.

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And there was a talk, one of the

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standout talks was basically the whole crowd just

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shouting vagina, you know, and it was liberating.

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But it was, you know, take the fun

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side of it, you know, it was a

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real problem.

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And, you know, you're kind of raising funds

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as a very complicated kind of problem to

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solve in a very complicated regulatory and funding

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landscape.

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How did you navigate that?

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It's interesting.

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There's a real irony to the question, which

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is we're sort of often lumped in femtech

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as femtech.

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But actually, if you look at the core

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function of the device that we've created, it

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is a sperm stack.

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It exists to solve for male factor infertility.

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Now, there are things around it that obviously

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solve for female factor infertility, you know, timing,

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ovulations, all of these are really helpful things.

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But on broad strokes, the core purpose of

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this device is it's a male factor infertility

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solution.

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And so it always makes me laugh when

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we're branded a femtech company, because actually, I

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say to my team, if we were mentech,

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we'd have raised a lot more money a

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lot more easily.

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Yeah, surely with the marketing background, you could

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play it into that.

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Well, and I should, right?

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But what's interesting is still today, women in

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heterosexual couples, women are the drivers of the

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buying decisions and timelines and pathways.

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And a lot of the labor that happens

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in an infertility context is, labor is probably

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not quite the right word, but a lot

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of the work that happens in infertility is

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on women.

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And so we brand ourselves to be bought

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by an appeal to women.

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I remember you saying it because you, I

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mean, it's funny, actually, when you mentioned that

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you were when you started your first business,

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you were so shy, and you wouldn't wouldn't

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speak to the customers.

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And yet, first, our first interaction was you

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were on stage talking about how times have

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changed.

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Yeah.

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And I think I remember you saying, yeah,

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it was, you know, it's yet the end

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user is the male problem, but it's the

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women that have to empower, it's them that

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you need to get on board to push

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it because leave men to their own devices.

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And we ain't doing anything.

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We're putting our head in the sand, you

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know, because it's, you know, it's demasculating, isn't

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it, to admit that you kind of have

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a problem down there.

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It is.

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And it's a real shame that it is,

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right?

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Because the more the more shame there is

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on the male side, the more that, like

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on the female side, they sort of pick

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up and do the work that the shame

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is preventing the male side from sort of

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sitting with grappling with and engaging with.

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And what was always really interesting to me

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is, you know, obviously, not everyone gets pregnant

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with our technology.

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That's just the name of the game, right?

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IVF is not a sure that either.

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But we would sometimes get complaints into customer

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support.

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And obviously you give someone a support email

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address and they think that anything they say

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is, you know, not going to be read

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by a human.

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But of course, the entire team would read

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all of these.

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And like, we feel it in our bones.

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Like, yeah.

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And pretty consistently, some of the worst emails

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we ever got were from the male partner,

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the husband.

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Really?

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And look, I have so much compassion for

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it.

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They're frustrated.

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It's not working.

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They don't know what to do.

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They see their partner going to the ends

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of the earth and experiencing this emotional stress

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and trauma.

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And they feel powerless.

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And the moment where they're not powerless is

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when they get to complain to someone and

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yell at someone.

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And boy, do they come out swinging.

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And it was always so predictable and so

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painful.

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And, you know, Chris, we have so much

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compassion for it.

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But it was, yeah, a really interesting thing

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that I learned along the way.

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I didn't think we'd have to grapple with

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that.

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But yeah, we did.

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Let me interrupt for 30 seconds with something

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most hardware founders learn the hard way.

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The skills that get you from prototype to

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product are not the same skills that get

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you from product to scale.

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That transition is where leadership matters.

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At Kodu, we help physical product companies hire

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senior leaders who can formalize roadmaps, build world

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-class teams, and align product with commercial strategy.

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Director, VP, C-suite.

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If you are entering a new category, raising

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capital or professionalizing your product function, this is

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not a hire to rush.

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So find me, Chris White, on LinkedIn.

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And let's talk before you make the call.

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There's so many layers to dig into, isn't

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there, from a psychological level.

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It's horrible but fascinating at the same time.

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And imagine when you kind of embarked on

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this.

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You would have been naive to these coming

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down the line.

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And, you know, but wow.

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It's super interesting.

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So we've kind of skipped around a little

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bit because I do this when there's a

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really interesting topic we can dive into.

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I kind of go off script.

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I love going off script.

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But really interesting because I sat in a

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few of the side sessions around branding and

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marketing and some of the guerrilla marketing as

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well around kind of speaking to men and

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always adding humor to, I can't remember the

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one that was at the end of the

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brand, but it was to do with fertility

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as well.

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But is there any, how are you tackling

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that, you know, in terms of that, you

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know, the shame and kind of maybe de

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-shaming it, you know, or kind of helping

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the men out?

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Yeah, it's a really great question.

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So I think there's like, I adjust humor

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a little bit depending on the stakeholder.

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Yeah.

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So when I'm talking to investors, I actually

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quite like to weave a lot of humor

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and I, you know, drop in the word

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vagina.

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If I want to go on level hard,

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I'll sometimes use the word vulva, like sperm,

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penis, erectile dysfunction, all of this is like

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the natural language of what we do.

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And I think kind of bringing it in

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with a little bit of levity, like, you

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know, play with it feels like wrong set

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of words to use.

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I'm having like this line of logic, but

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it's not, it doesn't have to be serious,

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right?

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Like you can leave a little bit of

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room for someone to kind of raise their

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eyebrows.

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And then just like handle that with levity

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and move on.

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I think the stakeholders where I'm careful is

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our users.

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Obviously people who are experiencing infertility.

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I, Chris, I would not wish that on

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anyone.

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It is the worst.

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And so grappling with it a little bit

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myself, it truly is just one of the

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worst experiences you decide that you would like

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to conceive and then you can't.

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And the medical system says, we'll go home

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and try harder.

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And the NICE guideline says have sex every

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two to three days for 12 to 24

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months.

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Imagine being told to go and have sex.

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Now for many people that, you know, music

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to my ears, how great, wonderful, yay.

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But it's just not practical advice.

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And like, you know, I don't know anyone

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in my circles who is like, absolutely, I'd

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happily have sex every two days for 24

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months.

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Why not?

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Like, you know, like it just doesn't fit

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with life sometimes.

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And it takes the romance out of it

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and the shine if it's just a to

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-do list.

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100%.

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It's a thing that you just have to

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get done.

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And so it tears people apart.

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And so one of the ways, I think

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we have a very specific tone of voice

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with users.

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And this is where I think as a

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founder, you have to be careful that it's

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not, I mean, in the early days, it

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obviously is your voice, right?

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It kind of has to be while you're

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shaping it.

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But in time, it has to become the

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brand voice.

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But really to hold people with compassion and

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really hear them and hold them in moments

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where they're just so vulnerable.

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And then in moments where, you know, you're

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either going to laugh or cry, right?

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Sometimes people just need to cry and they

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just need to be held and witnessed.

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And I think we do a really good

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job of that.

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And sometimes they just kind of also need

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to laugh because there's nothing else you can

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do.

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And I think we do a great job

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of that.

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You know, we play with it.

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I write a bulletin every two weeks.

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And goodness, the topics, you know, we've covered

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with great hilarity.

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We covered the trend of scrotal cooling.

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That was honestly, we've never had a better

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time with puns ever than writing that one.

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And, you know, the medical device we've created

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is obviously it looks big, right?

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Like, and it kind of looks intimidating.

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And one of the main questions we get

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is like, oh, my God, how big is

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it really?

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Is it really going to hurt?

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Like, where does it go?

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And so we had a really good time

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with that.

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I think we, you know, compared it to

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one of the sort of brooding characters in

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a romance novel and sort of really played

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with it.

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And I think sometimes that tone of voice

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and to come back to it, that kind

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of marketing and we are dealing with a

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space that is shame laden and it's full

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of taboo and I think just understanding when

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to use levity to just lighten it.

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Things are so heavy when you're on this

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journey.

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And I think learning how to build that

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voice and do that has been a really

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powerful journey.

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Yeah.

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Amazing.

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Because I imagine that, you know, all your

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years in marketing and venture building, you're not

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approaching anything as complex as this, all the

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different emotions.

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And yeah, but fascinating.

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Fascinating.

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So going back to the investors side, you

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know, in the early days, what did investors

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push back on hardest in those early days?

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You know, what was some of the challenges

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you had to overcome other than what we've

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already talked about, I guess?

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Gosh, I mean, what didn't they push back

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on?

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Oh, I'll be honest.

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In the early days, one of the things

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I got most was, hang on a second.

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You're not a clinician.

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You're not infertile.

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You've never built hardware before.

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Why on earth are you the person to

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make this happen?

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Also, you're a female founder and 2%

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of VC dollars go to female-founded companies.

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So you're fighting for a smaller pool of

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capital to begin with, right?

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And then in that pool of capital, everyone's

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like, wait, hang on.

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And they're trying to do the math on

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the percentage chance that this is ever going

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to become anything at all.

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And so, of course, it's probably going to

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come as no surprise that to close my

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very first round of funding, I ended up

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speaking to something like 283 investors.

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And I think I closed 15 of them.

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And, you know, of course, like I was

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pretty naive at the time.

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I'm sort of a little bit more battle

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-hardened now, I suppose.

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But you sort of raised 500k.

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And with this 500k, I thought, my goodness,

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we're going to build the product and get

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through regs and get it to market and

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start generating stuff.

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It's all going to happen.

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Of course, that 500k lasted like five seconds

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to go back out and raise again.

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But I think certainly the pushback in the

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early days was, who the hell are you

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to think that you're going to create this?

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And I remember, you know, I had a

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co-founder, a male co-founder.

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And I remember I was in a call

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with an investor once.

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And I kind of didn't hit home that

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there was any kind of like structural issue

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at all until this call when he was

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being asked what his vision for the company

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was.

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And I was being asked how I would

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manage family and flight schedules between here in

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the U.S. when it came time to

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launch in the U.S. market.

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I was like, wow, shouldn't I get, like,

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I'm driving this whole thing.

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Like, I'm the one, right?

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Like, shouldn't I get asked what my vision

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is?

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I came out of that call and I

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really sat with that.

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And I thought, my goodness, that doesn't seem

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right.

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And so there was a lot of pushback

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in the early days.

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And, you know, sheer force of will.

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Even to this day, I think a sheer

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force of will.

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We're still coasting on sheer force of will

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that, you know, exists as a company because

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raising capital hasn't been easy.

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But, you know, why you?

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Why this?

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Why this technology?

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Will this company in the market fail?

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Why won't you fail?

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You're going to fail like them.

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What's different?

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Like, there's all of this pushback happens all

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of the time.

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And I think the core theme of everything

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that has come through is probably, like, we'll

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find a way because we always have.

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You know, I now have a five-year

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track record of, like, biting tooth and nail

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so that this thing is going to become

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a thing, right?

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Like, you know, going gray.

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I now have a chronic health condition as

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a result of stress.

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You know, I'm not the only founder that

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has one of those, right?

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And I'm kind of laughing as I say

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it.

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When I discovered this, it was obviously, like,

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wildly painful to grapple with.

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It's sort of health issues that ironically impact

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fertility, actually.

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So for me, there's sort of this.

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You've got an answer now.

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Exactly.

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It's like a universe.

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It's sort of an enormous fuck you moment.

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But to be honest, like, I turned it

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around into like, well, actually, hang on a

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second.

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Like, I've given so much up for this.

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I'm not going to quit now.

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Absolutely not.

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And so, yeah, like, we're kind of rolling

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in the U.S. Our first pregnancy reports

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are starting to come through from users in

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the U.S. And that's been really rewarding

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as well.

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But I think investor pushback continues to be,

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like, one of the dominating themes of Bayer,

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which means essentially the dominating themes of my

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life.

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And it's very much, why will this succeed

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when all that has come before has not?

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Mm hmm.

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I mean, you've got, like you say, you've

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got five years plus of data now of

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pregnancies, of successful births, you know, and.

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You know, that in itself is fantastic.

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It's awesome.

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How many?

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Do you know how many successful births that

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there have been?

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So births are kind of hard to track

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because obviously it's quite downstream of when we

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planned the whole proceeding.

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But I think in the U.K. that

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we know of, probably in the hundreds.

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That's incredible.

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We've got, yeah, those that actually come back

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nine months later and tell us and send

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photographs, like that's obviously far fewer.

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But it's incredible when they do.

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It's incredible when they do.

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Yeah, absolutely.

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I mean, you just need to show the

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investors that I'm sure you've got a wall

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of baby photos.

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Yeah, and it's remarkable how that doesn't move

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the needle at all.

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