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Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis
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experience. I'm your host Aurora, life coach and companion
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on this beautiful journey called life. I'm so happy to be
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spending some time with you. Thank you so much for being
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here, I deeply appreciate you and wish you well, and hope I
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can bring you value and goodness, honesty and hope into
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your life. I was gonna say positivity. But positive is not
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only a positive thing. Sometimes we just got to allow our
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emotions to come out, we have to allow it to be honest. And
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that's not always positive. I'm more a fan of raw and authentic.
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So today, I want to talk about decision making my podcast
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wouldn't feel complete. If I was not to address this topic, it is
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so incredibly important to get to know yourself first. In order
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to know what you need and want in life, what kind of people do
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you want around you? What kind of job do you want, and what is
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the overall environment that is going to make you thrive and
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grow and blossom. Decision making plays a huge part in our
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lives. We have big decisions that we make. And we have small
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decisions that we make on a daily basis on an hourly basis.
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And they're equally important because the small decisions,
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they compound, right, they add up. And if you make lots of
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shady small decisions, well don't wander that the big
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outcome is also not going to be all too awesome. So there's two
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ways you can approach a decision. And I've learned that
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a couple of years ago, when I first got into learning about
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coaching, and it is the approach number one, deciding away from
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something. And number two, deciding making a decision to
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awards, something or someone. So if I can give you an example
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here, number one, making a decision away from something
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means, for instance, I will meet up with my friend this
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afternoon, because I'm sick and tired of being alone of feeling
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lonely. So I'm making this decision based on something I
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want to move away from. And I'm going to give you the counter
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example here and then you will see and feel already, if you
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haven't already in my tone and my voice that it is a huge
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difference. Both from the outside. Both decisions look
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like there's the same outcome, the same feeling the same
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notion, but it is very, very different. So example number two
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is going to be I'm going to meet up with my friend. Because with
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her, I always have a hell of a time. We have a great time. We
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have fun. I'm excited to see her. I'm excited to share my
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latest news with her. And it is just awesome to spend time with
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her. So again, decision number one was I'm deciding to meet up
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with my friend because I'm sick and tired of being alone. I'm
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moving away from my loneliness and meet up with my friend who's
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going to compensate for that. Example number two is I am
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desiring to meet up with my friend because As I know, we're
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going to have a great time.
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A second example would be that person that's called her
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Ireenie. Ireenie is moving abroad. She's moving the ad to
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England, from Canada, because she's sick and tired of politics
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and the weather and Canada. She has relatives in England and
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moves there. Example number B, or two would be, I have really
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desires to move back in with her mom, because she's sick and she
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feels she wants to take care of her. She wants to be close to
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her. And, yeah, she's going to move away from Canada, to
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England, because she feels she has a purpose in England. So I
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hope those examples were clear enough. I hope I got the point
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across that there's two different ways in approaching
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decision making. And please, if there is a third option, or
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fourth option coming up that I'm not addressing here, feel free
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to shoot me a message and we can certainly talk about it. But
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yeah, let's let's keep it to these two today. Moving away or
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moving towards something. Now, you can certainly imagine that
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if I move towards something I desire, I have an open heart,
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I'm excited. Then my energy, my engagement, my excitement, my
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you know aliveness is going to be way up there, instead of me,
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moving away from something. And don't get me wrong, this doesn't
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mean that one is better than the other it is, it is just
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incredibly interesting. To get to know your mind a little
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better. And to find out how you make decisions, I could
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certainly come up with more examples here. But I think you
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got the point. And it is just very interesting to find out how
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you make decisions, because it will help you in the future. To
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make decisions that are geared towards your highest intentions
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towards your dreams, your goals, because it is this way that you
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can then influence how fast or if at all, you are moving
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towards your dreams and goals. If we keep saying no to
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situations that would, you know, bring us closer to our goals. Or
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if we keep saying yes to situations that drive us away
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from our goals. It is very, very, very important to notice
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these things. And I want to give you a little bit of a homework
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here, I want you to let's say over the next week, maybe even
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over the next two weeks. Observe how you make decisions. Do you
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go to the fridge? And eat because you are hungry? And
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decide to eat? Or is it because you want to avoid low sugar? And
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yeah, we gotta eat on a daily basis and you don't really care
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what you're going to eat? Are you gonna make decisions in the
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future that you move away from or to awards to? And then go
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even further and observe the people around you and see how
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people make decisions. It is incredibly important to know how
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the people around you function in order to be there for them in
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order to connect deeply with them. And if you find that
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little bit about them, then that was weird English. If you find
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that a little bit about them. If you find out more about them,
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then they might be aware of themselves. It's just a fun,
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fun, engaging conversation that you can have with a person that
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you care about. So
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check in with you yourself once you switch to a different
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podcast, or maybe go about your life or maybe fall asleep and
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share with me, how do you make decisions? And yeah, that is it
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for today. I hope I hope you're good. I hope you're good. I hope
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that I can be a little bit of a stepping stone on your journey
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towards healing and that I'm able to give you provide you
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tools that help you to get closer to the person you want to
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be. You're supposed to be and closer to your dreams and your
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goals. Alright, I will be out there very soon again. I'm very
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excited to be launching my website here soon Aurora Eggert
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coaching.com where there will be a little quiz, fun and revealing
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at the start. And yeah, I'm just excited for you to explore and
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to find out more about my business that I've been working
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on for the last year. All right. I leave you on this note and
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yeah, take good care of yourself.
