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52. Learning to Love Yourself with Rachael Adams
Episode 52 • 17th December 2024 • How's All That Working For Ya? • Rachel D. Baker
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Rachael Adams joins us for a heartfelt conversation about the importance of love and how it intertwines with our self-worth and relationships with others. She emphasizes that understanding and accepting God's unconditional love is essential for us to truly love ourselves and extend that love to those around us. 

Listen in as we discuss love, self-care, and breathing room in life, along with insights from Rachael's new book on loving God, others, and yourself.

Episode Highlights

  • What “breathing room” looks and feels like for Rachael
  • Rachael shares why she thinks so many of us struggle to feel loved by God and others
  • Rachael explains why she believes learning to love ourselves is one of the keys to living out the Greatest Commandment 
  • Why creating breathing room to renew our spirits and connect with God is important for feeling loved and loving others
  • Tools and strategies Rachael has found to be most helpful to manage her time and allow for some breathing room
  • Rachael’s book recommendations

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Host:

Welcome back, everybody.

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I'm excited to have this conversation today with my friend Rachel Adams.

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We connected over a year ago at a retreat in Gatlinburg.

Rachel Adams:

You.

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If you've been listening for any length of time, you've heard from quite a few people that I met at a retreat in Gatlinburg.

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And it's just because so many amazing friendships were made during that time together.

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And I'm so thankful.

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But today we get to talk with Rachel Adams, and in case you don't know her quick introduction, she is the host of the Love Offering podcast.

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She is the author of A Little Goes a long way, 52 days to a Significant Life.

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Rachel hopes to help women realize God's love and their significance.

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She and her husband live in Kentucky with their two children.

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And her message is so relevant for us right now.

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You know, a lot of the things she's sharing.

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She's preaching my sermon.

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So you're gonna hear a lot of familiar things today, but I want you to hear from her, and we're going to talk about some new exciting things she's got coming out.

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Rachel, welcome.

Rachel Adams:

Hey, Rachel.

Rachel Adams:

Thanks so much for having me.

Rachel Adams:

And I'm in agreement.

Rachel Adams:

My favorite part of any of those retreats or conferences is the new connections that I get to make and.

Rachel Adams:

And then continue in friendship like we have.

Rachel Adams:

So.

Rachel Adams:

And thank you for having me today.

Host:

Yes, of course, I'm so.

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And yes, you get double Rachel today, which is always.

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You're always winning when you get double Rachel.

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So we're going to start off the question that everyone has to answer here, and that is what does breathing room look like or feel like for you?

Rachel Adams:

Sometimes we feel like we're gasping for breath, don't we?

Rachel Adams:

We actually, this summer, my church, we had a breathing room retreat actually, at.

Rachel Adams:

We went to the COVID in Asheville.

Rachel Adams:

It's the Billy Graham Center.

Rachel Adams:

It was so beautiful.

Rachel Adams:

It's in Asheville and like acres and acres of, I don't know how many acres, but thousands of acres of woods.

Rachel Adams:

And because I feel like we are all feeling just exhausted and weary because of our busy schedules.

Rachel Adams:

And even when we are actually physically think we're resting, like having watching Netflix or reading a book or even maybe taking a nap, it's like we still just feel this hurry.

Rachel Adams:

And I know that that is the case for all this listening and myself included.

Rachel Adams:

So I think breathing room for me means time with the Lord and kind of resting in his sovereignty, resting in his presence, resting in who he made me to be.

Rachel Adams:

And so I think it's just a more than an actual physical posture.

Rachel Adams:

It's more of a spiritual posture and a change in my perspective when I focus on him and his work in me rather than me trying to work for him.

Rachel Adams:

Yeah.

Host:

Ooh, that last bit.

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Listen, y'all better go back just a little bit.

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Write that down.

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That was good.

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I love that just the idea of resting in him instead of our own strength makes such a difference in how we can feel and move forward.

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That's so good.

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Um, okay.

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When I think of Rachel Adams, I think of.

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We're talking about love.

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And you write about this quite a bit.

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And I'd.

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You know your podcast, all of it, the love offering.

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Why do you think so many of us struggle to feel loved by God and by others?

Rachel Adams:

Because that's been our experience, honestly.

Rachel Adams:

You know, and it's.

Rachel Adams:

I'm even sad to even say that, but our human experience, love has been conditional.

Rachel Adams:

Love has failed us on more times than we probably would like to count.

Rachel Adams:

And I'm sure everyone listening can think of something really quickly.

Rachel Adams:

The times that we have been hurt by someone, the times we have felt unlovable.

Rachel Adams:

And unfortunately, that is just because we live in a simple, fallen world.

Rachel Adams:

And I think often we equate God's love with the human love that we have experienced, because God can feel very intangible.

Rachel Adams:

And so, you know, I'm thinking if, like, maybe if your earthly father didn't treat you in a loving way, then that's how you then associate your.

Rachel Adams:

Your heavenly father.

Rachel Adams:

But I am.

Rachel Adams:

And is this something that I'm continuing to grow in?

Rachel Adams:

Because I wasn't saved until I was in middle school, and I was saved, honestly, just because I was scared to go to hell.

Rachel Adams:

And so I believe that God became my savior.

Rachel Adams:

Jesus was my savior.

Rachel Adams:

And so I think my salvation was secure in that moment.

Rachel Adams:

But it's taken me a long time to learn of God's love, and that's happened as I've read scripture and as I have chosen to see him in the tangible love of other people.

Rachel Adams:

And so I think.

Rachel Adams:

I hope that answers your question.

Rachel Adams:

I think it's.

Rachel Adams:

It's complicated.

Rachel Adams:

We have a misunderstanding, maybe a skewed version of what love actually is because of Hallmark movies and fictional books and maybe just.

Rachel Adams:

Just what media and culture tells us what love is.

Rachel Adams:

But love scripturally is much different.

Rachel Adams:

You know, like, even I'm thinking we can say we love food, we love family, we love travel, we love to shop, and then we love God.

Rachel Adams:

You know, that's such a different the way we use even that term just var so drastically from person and thing and.

Rachel Adams:

But God's love is that agape love, that sacrificial, holier, pure love that only he can give us.

Host:

It is hilarious sometimes to think about how we use that word so flippantly and about every little thing that we encounter.

Host:

Anything that like, makes us kind of happy or feels good or tastes good, like, anything pleasant, like, we love it.

Host:

And so I think you're absolutely right to think about that in comparison to when we talk about how God loves us, like, even just to think about that, there's just zero comparison to think about how we use it versus how he feels about us.

Host:

So I love that distinction.

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That's so good.

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And I know we talk a lot.

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I mean, it's.

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There are books, there are podcasts, there are.

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It's everywhere about self love.

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Right?

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We talk about self love a lot.

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And it's gotten to where it's kind of controversial.

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It's a little bit to, you know, some people are like, should love yourself above all things.

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And other people, especially in the Christian space, I would say are, you know, no, no, you're last.

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You self love is selfish, you know, which we've had that conversation here about a hundred times.

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But I know that you believe learning to love ourselves is one of the key components of living out the greatest commandment.

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And so just in case for everybody who's listening, could you tell us, like, what is the greatest commandment?

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Because that's kind of a.

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A cliche term I think we use a lot in, in church speak, right?

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So what is the greatest commandment?

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And why is loving ourselves such an important?

Rachel Adams:

Part of that commandment is to love the Lord God with all of our heart, mind, soul and strength, and then to love our neighbor as ourself.

Rachel Adams:

And I know even like the mind, soul, strength, that all.

Rachel Adams:

It can kind of feel confusing too.

Rachel Adams:

So the way that I have made sense of that in my mind, it's your mental health, it's your emotional health, it's your spiritual health, and it's your physical health.

Rachel Adams:

And so I know if my physical health is if I'm, you know, if I'm fatigued, if I haven't eaten well, if I haven't exercised and had plenty of water, and I'm not feeling good physically, then my emotions can start.

Rachel Adams:

I get less, less patient with my.

Rachel Adams:

I can react in anger, like, or have a lot more stress when situations don't go appropriately.

Rachel Adams:

And so I feel like all of those aspects are very Intertwined.

Rachel Adams:

And so I think moving forward.

Rachel Adams:

And so we love our neighbor as ourself.

Rachel Adams:

And so we have to love ourselves in all of those ways.

Rachel Adams:

You know, we would never let our neighbor go without food or water or shelter or clothing or rest.

Rachel Adams:

You know, or if they were ill, we would tell them to take care of themselves.

Rachel Adams:

If you're tired, go take a nap.

Rachel Adams:

If you are hungry, let me give you a meal.

Rachel Adams:

And so those are the ways that we have to care for ourselves.

Rachel Adams:

And if we aren't feeling well again in any of those ways, mentally or emotionally or spiritually, then we don't really have much to offer to anybody else.

Rachel Adams:

So we have to be our best self.

Rachel Adams:

I often will think about when you're on an airplane and say they always give the tutorial of the oxygen that's going to come down.

Rachel Adams:

Yeah, to put the oxygen on yourself first, make sure you're okay before you can help anybody else to get their oxygen on.

Rachel Adams:

And so I think it really is just first of all, knowing how beloved you are by Christ, who you are in him, and then taking care of yourself, stewarding your body.

Rachel Adams:

Well, you're.

Rachel Adams:

And.

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And your mind.

Rachel Adams:

Well, and what are you.

Rachel Adams:

What are you reading?

Rachel Adams:

Who are you talking to?

Rachel Adams:

What are you listening to?

Rachel Adams:

It really all comes, it weaves together so beautifully into the whole of who we are, a wholeness of our well being.

Host:

Yeah, that's so good.

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I love that.

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I was just having a conversation with a friend the other day and I, you know, I was having a rough time.

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I.

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And I was kind of down on myself about it, which I often, you know, I'm talking with other people who are having that, and I'm like, now don't.

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You don't want to say that.

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You know.

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But as I was talking, she was like, you better quit saying that.

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Like, you would never say that to me.

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You would never.

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Those things that you are saying about yourself, which I have said this to other people, but isn't it funny how, you know, we need to be looking in the mirror when we preach our sermons?

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Right.

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I can say this to you all day long, but I am gonna forget to take care of it.

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So a lot of times the things that I am encouraging other people to do, I'm not doing for myself.

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And I think that's so common, especially among Christian women, because we want to make sure everybody else is taken care of and we do want to take that family a meal and then.

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But maybe we're not doing those things, taking care of ourselves.

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So I love the thought, and I've.

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I've mentioned that before about you cannot love your neighbor if you are not love.

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You've got nothing to give or not of an empty cup.

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There's nothing coming out.

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Right.

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We do talk a lot here about needing to create that breathing room in our lives so that we can renew our spirits and connect with God.

Host:

That spiritual piece of it especially.

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So how important do you think that is in regards to feeling loved or loving others?

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How important do you think that creating breathing room is?

Rachel Adams:

You really do have to create it and almost schedule it in for yourself, you know, whether it is a walk or extra sleep or time in God's word or community, whatever.

Rachel Adams:

I think what, what often is breathing room for some people is not always breathing room for other people.

Rachel Adams:

Right.

Rachel Adams:

Depending on how God has made you.

Rachel Adams:

And so I think when you were talking about loving ourselves, one of the biggest lies from the enemy.

Rachel Adams:

I think he wants us to feel unlovable and he wants us to keep our eyes on ourself and maybe our eyes on other people.

Rachel Adams:

And so often, you know, we really see.

Rachel Adams:

I know people talk about seeing other people's highlight reels, and we see our behind the scenes.

Rachel Adams:

We know the sin in our heart.

Rachel Adams:

We know every mistake that we've made to feel guilty and shameful about.

Rachel Adams:

We know every thought that we have.

Rachel Adams:

And so then when you look at everybody else, you know, you don't see all those things because not everybody is always honest about all those things.

Host:

Right.

Rachel Adams:

And so it makes us almost feel even more unlovable when we are looking at other people in comparison.

Rachel Adams:

And so I think one of the keys is to see, really see, like, how does God see me?

Rachel Adams:

What, what, what are his words over me?

Rachel Adams:

Letting him affirm you and letting him tell you what your identity is and how much he's forgiven you and how he doesn't want you to live in shame.

Rachel Adams:

And so I think again, going back to this idea of, of breathing room, I think it is making room for Christ and recognizing him as he is.

Rachel Adams:

Your very breath he is who has given us life and life to the full.

Rachel Adams:

That's what he wants for us.

Rachel Adams:

And so I think it really goes back to.

Rachel Adams:

I feel like maybe I'm being a broken record a little bit, but spending time making room for him and then making room for yourself, scheduling that time is so essential before, like, put it in your calendar, just like you're putting everything else in your calendar.

Rachel Adams:

And then I, I don't know about you, but I.

Rachel Adams:

I actually pray that God would Give me more energy.

Rachel Adams:

Like, this is a super busy season in my life.

Rachel Adams:

And, like, I need to maybe say no to some things, but I'm not really sure what to say no to and what to say yes to.

Rachel Adams:

And so I'm just saying yes a lot.

Rachel Adams:

So I'm like, lord, please multiply my time.

Rachel Adams:

And I really, Rachel, believe that he has.

Rachel Adams:

There have been specific things on my calendar that I thought were going to take much longer, and I've been shocked.

Rachel Adams:

Like, I actually say out loud, like, oh, my God, that.

Rachel Adams:

That didn't take as much time as I thought it would.

Rachel Adams:

Now I can do this other thing.

Rachel Adams:

So I believe that God will answer our prayers for whatever it is that we need.

Rachel Adams:

Whatever you need breathing room from.

Host:

Yeah.

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And I love.

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I think a big piece of that is your awareness.

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You know, I think when we can stop and take a hot second and be aware of how much is being asked of us, how much is really needed, knowing that some things might need a no right now so that other things can be a yes.

Host:

But if we're going through life like we're running on a hamster wheel and we just keep going, going, going, and don't pause to think about that.

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Don't pause to sit with Jesus and have a little bit of breathing room.

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There is no awareness that those things are needed.

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So I think it's important to call out that you've been able to stop for a minute and say, lord, there's a lot.

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Please multiply my time.

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What are.

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You know, whatever that looks like.

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You know what that needs to look like.

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But this is where we're at, and this is what I'm doing.

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And, you know, what needs to happen and to kind of put that in his court and to see how that happens.

Host:

That's.

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There's a piece of awareness there that I don't think we always lean into, or if you're not used to doing it, it takes a while to get used to doing something like that.

Rachel Adams:

Add to that the awareness of our.

Rachel Adams:

Our motivation.

Rachel Adams:

Like, why are we doing what we're doing?

Rachel Adams:

My husband asked me that the other day.

Rachel Adams:

He's like, who are you actually doing that for?

Rachel Adams:

Has God asked you to do that?

Rachel Adams:

Like, is that something he's requiring you?

Rachel Adams:

Like, is that.

Rachel Adams:

Or is that something that you think you should do?

Rachel Adams:

Or you think it'll make you look better?

Rachel Adams:

Or you're trying to people, please somebody else, or you're trying to earn love and validation and affirmation from somebody else?

Rachel Adams:

We don't.

Rachel Adams:

The God already Loves us.

Rachel Adams:

Like that's, that's.

Rachel Adams:

And that is so that's.

Rachel Adams:

There's such freedom and security in that.

Rachel Adams:

That truth alone gives me breathing room.

Rachel Adams:

Like there is no pressure on us.

Rachel Adams:

We are loved as we are.

Rachel Adams:

We don't have to do anything except receive his love.

Rachel Adams:

That's it.

Rachel Adams:

And to me that's like the biggest sigh of relief.

Host:

Yeah.

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Oh, for sure.

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I love that.

Host:

Okay.

Host:

In this whole conversation of love at the time that this is coming out into the world, you've got a brand new baby book that's coming out and we need to know about it.

Host:

So tell us.

Rachel Adams:

I'm so excited to share this message.

Rachel Adams:

It's called Everyday Prayers for Love.

Rachel Adams:

And it's the tagline is learning to love God, others and even ourselves.

Rachel Adams:

And so they, again, they are also closely linked to one another.

Rachel Adams:

But we really go through each devotion is what is biblical loves.

Rachel Adams:

And so we walk through First Corinthians 13, 4, 8.

Rachel Adams:

Love is patient, love is kind, love does not envy, love does not boast, etc and so how has God embodied those attributes and then how we can then go embody those characteristics to the world around us and then how does love actually behave and, and how can we live out that love and message?

Rachel Adams:

And I really believe that as women read it, they will start to feel God's love more and then they will extend it more.

Rachel Adams:

And then I really believe that the, the world can change.

Rachel Adams:

And I don't say that lightly.

Rachel Adams:

If we all really took heart that message, how beloved you are, and then treated other people as they are, God's beloved too.

Host:

Yes.

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I love that you are putting this out into the world and all the ladies listening.

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I definitely would recommend Rachel's just such a talented author, such a good writer and so go grab it.

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And if this conversation, if you're like I to know a little more about that, I, you know, I'm sure you.

Host:

I say, I'm sure several people will have heard 1 Corinthians 13amillion times.

Host:

Seems like, and others it might be new.

Host:

And wherever you're at, I think this study into it could be so beneficial just to have a better understanding on who God is and what his love actually is for us.

Host:

And like she said, we just, can we just love each other.

Host:

Please, everybody.

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I just like, can't we all just get along?

Host:

That's how I feel a lot when I look at what's going on in the world.

Host:

I do think you're right.

Host:

It's so timely, it's so needed, it's not new.

Host:

This is not a new thing to talk about love.

Host:

But I think to come at it this way and to really focus on what the priority is.

Host:

What Jesus said, this is the thing.

Host:

You know, they were saying, hey, Jesus, what's the thing?

Host:

We got all these commandments, and he's like, this is the thing.

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Do the thing to focus in on that.

Rachel Adams:

Well, and.

Rachel Adams:

And as believers, we have his Holy Spirit residing in us.

Rachel Adams:

And so the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, and.

Rachel Adams:

And all the others.

Rachel Adams:

And so when we feel like we can't love in our own strength, because there are some people that are very unlovable.

Rachel Adams:

I mean, I'm unlovable many times.

Rachel Adams:

And I want to be clear, I don't do this perfectly.

Rachel Adams:

I just want to give that.

Rachel Adams:

That disclaimer.

Rachel Adams:

But especially around the holiday season, you're gonna.

Rachel Adams:

It's okay.

Rachel Adams:

It's okay to love people even from a distance and to set boundaries for yourself.

Rachel Adams:

That's loving yourself too.

Rachel Adams:

So there are lots of ways to show that love.

Rachel Adams:

But God can empower you to love your enemies and to do good to them and pray for them.

Rachel Adams:

This is.

Rachel Adams:

This is the way Jesus lived.

Rachel Adams:

And he walked that out so beautifully in his life from the time he came as a baby until he did the ultimate act of love on the cross for us.

Rachel Adams:

So we do have His Spirit in us as believers to help us live out this call.

Host:

So good.

Host:

And we will absolutely have a link to the book in the show notes.

Host:

So everybody check that out.

Host:

I've got just a couple more questions.

Host:

Well, this has been so good.

Host:

I'd love to know if there are any tools or strategies that you have found that have been really helpful for you to help manage your time more effectively or just allow for that breathing room.

Host:

You talked about scheduling.

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So I'd love to know.

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Know kind of where you're at with those things.

Rachel Adams:

I don't know that I have tools.

Rachel Adams:

I.

Rachel Adams:

I'm a big list maker.

Rachel Adams:

I'm still a paper and pencil kind of girl in this technology kind of world.

Rachel Adams:

I know that sounds crazy.

Rachel Adams:

No, I do have calendly.

Rachel Adams:

Calendly has really helped me to.

Rachel Adams:

Instead of like back and forth scheduling meetings, it's made sense of my calendar, which I know you use that as well.

Rachel Adams:

I do always make a to do list, you know, so I can have the validation of just crossing those things out.

Rachel Adams:

But just to really prioritize my time, something else that I have instituted is batching.

Rachel Adams:

I, you know, on Thursdays, I typically always do all of my podcast interviews and for my podcast and then I have Fridays that I try to record on other people's podcasts.

Rachel Adams:

And then Wednesdays are days that I try to do all my writing.

Rachel Adams:

And so I really try to just get in a zone so my mind isn't like ping ponging all over the place and you know, setting up all the technology and all the things and, or, and having to do my hair, makeup, you know, or whatever it may be, you know, just to try to save, save that time.

Rachel Adams:

And so batching has really helped me.

Rachel Adams:

Praying through God.

Rachel Adams:

What actually do you want me to do instead of what I feel like I need to do?

Rachel Adams:

The pressure to, you know, everybody says you need to do all of these things to be a successful woman in today's society and kind of just to let go of a few things.

Rachel Adams:

The pressures of like, okay, this doesn't really matter, you know, and I don't get to make my bed on a certain day or we have to go grab takeout on a certain day.

Rachel Adams:

I'm not a failure as a mom, you know, or if I don't go and get my 10,000 steps in, it's okay, you know, to kind of try to let go of some things.

Rachel Adams:

What are my priorities today?

Rachel Adams:

And so trying to learn a little bit of balance, not perfectionism.

Rachel Adams:

And so I don't know.

Rachel Adams:

I don't know.

Rachel Adams:

Is there anything groundbreaking?

Rachel Adams:

Probably not.

Host:

Those are awesome.

Host:

I don't know that we've had anybody mention calendly.

Host:

And I do know, you know, if you are someone who has to schedule with other people, it is a time saver.

Host:

It's just, you know, you connect it with your calendar and it knows when you're not available and people can only choose times that you are available.

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And so I do love it for that.

Host:

And batching.

Host:

Absolutely.

Host:

I've, it's, you know, we call it different things depending on who you're talking to.

Host:

You can batch your work where you do similar tasks.

Host:

But like, what you're talking about is really like themed days.

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Like today is just for this type of activity, you know, or today I'm doing a bunch of house cleaning.

Host:

Maybe I'm doing personal tasks on this and another day is when I do meal planning and grocery shopping, you know, depending on where you're at in life.

Host:

And I do think that's so helpful because when our brain can focus in one area instead of squirreling like mine likes to do.

Rachel Adams:

Well, I'm glad you said that because on Sundays, and I know that should be A Sabbath day.

Rachel Adams:

But I actually like, I clean on, on Sundays, but I also always will be listening to something as I'm cleaning.

Rachel Adams:

And that actually makes me feel better because my home is in order for the week and everybody has their laundry put.

Rachel Adams:

I know where we have the food that we need for the week.

Rachel Adams:

And so it actually, my mind is able to better rest because my space is, is organized.

Rachel Adams:

And so, and I've been really trying to institute In Atomic Habits Heat, he talks about pairing something that you don't like with something you do like to make it more enjoyable.

Rachel Adams:

And so as I clean, I'm listening to something I enjoy.

Rachel Adams:

As I'm walking, trying to get my 10,000 steps in, I am trying to listen to something.

Rachel Adams:

So I'm trying to pair certain things and to maybe maximize my time a little bit better.

Rachel Adams:

And so I'm glad that you mentioned that because that is something else that I do.

Host:

Yeah, that's so good.

Host:

I love that.

Host:

Okay, last question, main question.

Host:

We've mentioned your book obviously and your podcast.

Host:

We're going to link all of that.

Host:

And you mentioned Atomic Habits, I also love that one.

Host:

But are there any other books or podcasts that you just would really love to recommend?

Host:

Want to make sure we know about it today?

Rachel Adams:

I'm not exactly sure when this is going to release, but as we speak right now, a friend of mine, Katie Reed, has written, it's a fiction book and it's called, called A Very Bavarian Christmas.

Rachel Adams:

And so.

Rachel Adams:

And it's actually going to be turned into a movie.

Rachel Adams:

And so I am reading that currently she's got a book club going on.

Rachel Adams:

And so it's just, it's.

Rachel Adams:

I, I love non fiction most of all.

Rachel Adams:

That's what I typically do and having kind of conversations like this.

Rachel Adams:

But occasionally it is nice to just read for some breathing room, just to completely just decompress and not think about anything but just fun and fiction.

Rachel Adams:

And so that would be my current recommendation.

Host:

Oh, that's fun.

Host:

I'm gonna have to find that one and we'll link it in the show notes too because that's.

Host:

I, I'm the same.

Host:

I read a lot of nonfiction, but once in a while I just.

Host:

Or if my kids.

Host:

I've always said, you know, if my kid brings me a book and it's like, mom, you've gotta read this.

Host:

It's like, okay, that's, it's one, it's a connection point with my kid, right?

Host:

They're excited about it.

Host:

I wanna be excited about it.

Host:

And so I try to do that.

Host:

And I've had a couple lately.

Host:

They're like, mom, this series is so.

Host:

I'm like, oh my gosh, a series.

Host:

When am I going to read a series?

Host:

You know?

Host:

But it's, it's good just to kind of step out and have that connection.

Rachel Adams:

I honestly, I can get a little bit neurotic and I can just constantly want to just work and be productive and I'm just wired that way.

Rachel Adams:

And so for me to just choose to just sit just for something, for an enjoyment is a gift and something I need to make more room for.

Host:

Yeah, it's.

Host:

Listen, we all have things we need to kind of be reminded of.

Host:

We need to step back and step into.

Host:

And so I hear that you are not alone, sister.

Host:

Well, this has been amazing and so many good resources.

Host:

Please tell all our listening ladies where they can find you and get more of your goodies.

Rachel Adams:

You can find me online at Rachel Adams, author.

Rachel Adams:

And then you can find me@rachelkadams.com There is a quiz.

Rachel Adams:

What makes you lovable?

Rachel Adams:

And then also what attribute, what loving attribute do you live out the best?

Rachel Adams:

Those are two quizzes that I have and there's a couple of downloads.

Rachel Adams:

There's some love notes that I have as well as a spread the love document that you can see.

Rachel Adams:

You know, 25 reminders of the way that, that God loves you.

Rachel Adams:

And so I'd love to encourage anybody with, with those resources.

Host:

What a blessing.

Host:

So many good things and we love a good quiz here.

Host:

I think quizzes are so fun.

Host:

So always encourage.

Host:

We'll link it all, check out the show notes, grab all the things.

Host:

Thank you so much, Rachel, for being here.

Host:

This has been such a good conversation.

Host:

I'm thankful for you.

Rachel Adams:

Thankful for you.

Rachel Adams:

Thank you so much for having me.

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